Relationship vs just sex

[tallslenderguy]

Anyone else wish there were ways to meet men for actual relationship vs just hooking up for sex? BZ has come closest (for me) as being an online place to meet and have ongoing discussion and relationship, though it isn't really a dating site. i've was on OKCupid for years, but it has turned into a bot paradise and is pretty useless for meeting guys for more than sex.

i watch these romantic gay movies where guys meet and fall in love, or they have a group of gay friends and i wonder if there is such a thing and how it happens? 

[evilqueerpig]

I was in an open relationship with my ex, but after he broke my trust, I tossed him out on his ass....still gunshy.

[ScorpionFF]

Being a big romantic at heart I do find the idea of a relationship very appealing. 

However, with several relationships spanning a few decades now behind me, my vast experience has taught me that man really is unable to be monogamous. And I say that with the view of not just my own experiences, but taking into consideration the experience of others too.

And of course, it is in our genetic blueprint to procreate. One cannot help but feel that monogamy is something that has been pushed onto society for some insane reason.

That primal primitive beast is within us all, whether he wants to rut, or get rutted. Let him play out in the wild, for there will always be that cosy den for him to return to.

Do I think sex with others outside of a solid loving relationship built on trust can co exist? Absolutely!

And if the situation of a loving trusting open relationship presented itself to me with 'Mr Right', as opposed to 'Mr Right Away', then hey, why not.

💕 Love is Love -- Sex is Sex 💦

Edited December 23, 2019 by S6AT6A6N
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[Guest takingdeepanal]

1 hour ago, S6AT6A6N said:

Being a big romantic at heart I do find the idea of a relationship very appealing. 

However, with several relationships spanning a few decades now behind me, my vast experience has taught me that man really is unable to be monogamous. And I say that with the view of not just my own experiences, but taking into consideration the experience of others too.

And of course, it is in our genetic blueprint to procreate. One cannot help but feel that monogamy is something that has been pushed onto society for some insane reason.

That primal primitive beast is within us all, whether he wants to rut, or get rutted. Let him play out in the wild, for there will always be that cosy den for him to return to.

Do I think sex with others outside of a solid loving relationship built on trust can co exist? Absolutely!

And if the situation of a loving trusting open relationship presented itself to me with 'Mr Right', as opposed to 'Mr Right Away', then hey, why not.

💕 Love is Love -- Sex is Sex 💦

Hope you voted for the same one as me (option #3) ❤️ BTW, I am VERY single (hint, hint!) ...

Edited December 23, 2019 by takingdeepanal

[BiAggieGuy]

Never really had any interest in a relationship with another guy.  Friends with Benefits/Fuck Buddy are great, but dating or love with another just has never appealed to me.  Not to say it couldn't happen, maybe I'll meet a guy and it will just click, just it hasn't and I don't really expect it to.

[funpozbottom]

The best long term relationships I've had have been bed buddies. They've relaxed, fun, and stress free. All of mine ended when the other guy moved out of town (with a couple encores). You share a portion of your life, and move on.

[leatherpunk16]

I loved my first boyfriend, and he loved me. The sex was okay - not great, but enough that we kept doing it. His skill as a top was nil. At least I didn't have to suffer long when he tried, and he tried SO HARD. When I stopped being the porn star who was also his boyfriend, he seemed to lose interest. Our sex became less frequent, and I felt like a weekend boyfriend, or a friend with a benefit. Eventually I had to get pegged by someone else. I had an itch that my boyfriend couldn't scratch because his dick was too small. When I told him, we broke up exactly as I expected. After my husband's death, we got back together for a couple months, but it was the same old shit. The sex was better than ever, but that's all it ever was. I couldn't love him, not after he disrespected my dead husband. 

If ever I fall in love again, it won't be because of great sex. That's just a bonus. I'm more attuned to the soul and having a lifelong pal who indulges what I need.

[ScorpionFF]

Well @takingdeepanal, option #3 would certainly fit in with my belief system 👅

[Guest takingdeepanal]

9 minutes ago, S6AT6A6N said:

Well @takingdeepanal, option #3 would certainly fit in with my belief system 👅

PM'd you btw

[NLbear]

I am not good at relationships. In fact I only had one LTR when I was in my late 20s when I was just starting my career. The sex wasn't good. He thought that once a month was sufficient while I was bursting with hormones and couldn't get enough (still the case). And he was a lousy top. So it didn't take long for me find sex somewhere else. Not fair to him, admitted. Some time in the relationship he wanted me to give up my career and be a "housewife". He was making enough money for the both of us was his argument and he wanted me to stay at home. Hell no! His upper class family didn't help either (I come from a blue collar background and the first of my family to go to university). There were social clashes (the smugness, looking down on everyone without a degree). So that ended and I stayed single ever since. Looking back I still wonder why it lasted that long.

Having been single for so long has made me independent and it would be hard to give that up. Sharing everything, including a place to live, would be something I don't think I could manage or want. But it would be great to have a circle of good gay friends and if we hit the sack now and then that would be fine with me. So given the choices above I opted for 'friends with benefits'.

[ssoranaid]

2 hours ago, S6AT6A6N said:

Being a big romantic at heart I do find the idea of a relationship very appealing. 

However, with several relationships spanning a few decades now behind me, my vast experience has taught me that man really is unable to be monogamous. And I say that with the view of not just my own experiences, but taking into consideration the experience of others too.

And of course, it is in our genetic blueprint to procreate. One cannot help but feel that monogamy is something that has been pushed onto society for some insane reason.

That primal primitive beast is within us all, whether he wants to rut, or get rutted. Let him play out in the wild, for there will always be that cosy den for him to return to.

Do I think sex with others outside of a solid loving relationship built on trust can co exist? Absolutely!

And if the situation of a loving trusting open relationship presented itself to me with 'Mr Right', as opposed to 'Mr Right Away', then hey, why not.

💕 Love is Love -- Sex is Sex 💦

I could not agree more

All that we are in this sites are highly sexual and promiscuous, and we should embrace that in our partners

I would love my partner to share his seed as wide as much as he want, as he would be proud and promote me getting as much seed as possible

[Guest]

I've never been in a gay relationship. I just don't see a top being able to be ok with me being such a cum dump for anyone.

[tallslenderguy]

10 minutes ago, SBB1984 said:

I've never been in a gay relationship. I just don't see a top being able to be ok with me being such a cum dump for anyone.

i'm sure that's true about some Tops, but not universally?  There are guys who are Tops on this site who would not only be okay with that, but would pimp you out.  i think a cool thing about discussions like this is we start to identify ideas that are traditional in the straight community that we just have assumed as 'normal' or the way it is. Instead, why not 'know thyself' and know how to express that... like you just did.  Being a cum dump for anyone isn't something you'll see many in the straight world admitting too, even if they are.

 There are indeed Tops out there who would be okay with you being such a cum dump for anyone and would love you for it. But there's more to that in a gay relationship, so i think the challenge has a lot more details, but that's a start 😉

[tallslenderguy]

3 hours ago, S6AT6A6N said:

Being a big romantic at heart I do find the idea of a relationship very appealing. 

💕 Love is Love -- Sex is Sex 💦

Well, yeah, but they aren't mutually exclusive. They're pretty awesome when they mix or overlap.  i'm a bottom who loves a Top who also is into mind fuck. Every now and then our paths will cross in hook up sex and we are both feeling it deeply. He reads me and knows His power over me, and loves the opportunity to exercise Who He is. Breeding me deep, and then knowingly kissing my neck or whispering something that collars me into my ear, my back arches involunarily sending Him deeper into me while i bite my mattress to keep from declaring my love for Him.  hehe, it happens, and it's sweet.

[ScorpionFF]

30 minutes ago, SBB1984 said:

I've never been in a gay relationship. I just don't see a top being able to be ok with me being such a cum dump for anyone.

There are 'Tops' out there that would be okay with you being a complete slut of a cum dump ... daaah daaah 😉

If I was in a relationship, and my boy came home opened up, and full of cum, well, more fun to be had! 🐽