Submissives: when did you know?

[kinkysuBB]

From reading here, I know there’s a few guys equally submissive as me. I’m curious to know: when did you first realise you were a sub?

For me, when I was first accepting I was gay (or bi, as I called it then), around 16, I used to put “top” on my profiles online. Because that’s what men did, right?

But with my first boyfriend, all I wanted to do was suck his cock and have him fuck me. It didn’t work out, because he wanted to bottom too (funny enough he’s a total top now). With my second, I insisted on him fucking me, and that’s all we did for the best part of 8 years. Now, all I want to do is get fucked by real, dominant men.

Looking way back, there were signs of this when I was a kid. I had kidnap fantasies involving Captain Hook when I was about 5. I wanted to be a Lost Boy in Neverland and be made wear rags and go barefoot. Hilarious as that is, I honestly believe I was a sub at that young age. And if I were playing a video game, and had the choice to be a “weaker” female character (a notion I reject now, as an adult), I’d pick her. I wanted to be weaker and subservient to the men. This was all before I knew I had a sexuality.

Did you other bitches have similar thoughts as kids? I know a lot of you were abused and such. I wasn’t, but it still just happened naturally that I grew up as a sub.

[bbsam]

I probably knew for sure when I was at school, maybe about 14ish. When I jerked off, it was always to the thought of getting used and fucked by guys, never to the thought of me fucking others (guys or girls). I also used to fantasize so hard about sucking off all the guys in the locker room when we were getting changed.

[Pozguyinchi]

I always knew what my role was but didn’t know to label it until I was about 14. I saw some porn with to very masculine men having sex. They were both taking turns fucking each other and it was aggressive. I knew that was not the sex I was having and couldn’t relate.

[NBBTTM]

I was naked on my knees, his cock down my throat, fingers up my ass,  still a virgin...when he said "I think Its time I fucked this ass..."   I just spread for him...

 

[bberlinotter]

Retrospectively I could have known since I was young, as I always had the desire to service other men, to be fucked and to receive their cum. When I watched porno movies, I always envied the bottoms, and I always preferred those movies that showed dominant men and submissive sluts. But same as before PrEP I hardly dared to let others breed me, it was only then that I dared to live out my submissiveness and to stand for what I am. Before I called myself versatile and I did fuck others from time to time, but it never gave me any pleasure. Only since it's clear that I am the sub when meeting other guys and that it's my duty to do everything in order to satisfy them, I have found the real me.

[BicuriousScott]

I guess I knew when I found myself on my knees with my friend’s cock pointed straight at my mouth.

[Guest]

The first time I knew I was submissive is the day I found Cl online and I pulled up all these delicious cocks on my x wifes screen and read so many descriptions especially of the cock sucking subs, etc. that I put two two and two together . 

[kinkysuBB]

6 hours ago, Pozguyinchi said:

I always knew what my role was but didn’t know to label it until I was about 14. I saw some porn with to very masculine men having sex. They were both taking turns fucking each other and it was aggressive. I knew that was not the sex I was having and couldn’t relate.

Yes to this. My favourite type of porn is when there’s a real power dynamic and the bottom/sub is getting properly used. I hate flip fucking porn, regardless of how hot the guys are!

It’s actually awkward sometimes, because I’m into fisting and it seems sort of expected by most guys that you’re at least vers for that. I’ve taught myself to enjoy fisting a guy, because otherwise I was never going to get invited anywhere. But my ideal would be a big, dominant man who slaps me around, ties me up, gags me and then starts wrecking my cunt!

[Pozguyinchi]

18 hours ago, subBottomKink said:

Yes to this. My favourite type of porn is when there’s a real power dynamic and the bottom/sub is getting properly used. I hate flip fucking porn, regardless of how hot the guys are!

It’s actually awkward sometimes, because I’m into fisting and it seems sort of expected by most guys that you’re at least vers for that. I’ve taught myself to enjoy fisting a guy, because otherwise I was never going to get invited anywhere. But my ideal would be a big, dominant man who slaps me around, ties me up, gags me and then starts wrecking my cunt!

The relationships I have had that have been the most successful we’re where there was a big dynamic shift in sexuality. The man that pozed me (we are still close) was all man and our dynamic was perfect.

[blkboibtm]

prob always known I was gonna be a sub since I was young, got confirmed the first time I got flooded. Top right before he slid in told me he was gonna cum in me.  He made sure he put all his weight on me so I couldn't go anywhere.  I wasn't I had been so tempted take the plunge but hadn't had the courage yet.  He fucked me, flooded me, and pretty much told me to get out.  I couldn't stop thinking about it, how he took control and used me, I was hooked and was for sure I was a btm bitch

[Piggyybttmm]

When I was 13 I used to have dreams  and fantasies that I was in prison and I was someone's prison bitch, I used to be rock hard... knew I was gay at 16/17....but I used to think I was a top even tho I used to fantasize about getting fucked...it wasn't until I was in my mid 20s that I realized I'm supposed to be a bitch

[Biker18914]

i think i knew when i was 13. my friends and i would get men's magazines that had drawings and stories of women being abused. i dreamed i was them, sucking cocks and being fucked in the ass. then i was able to make it happen, a cock in my mouth and ass at the same time. i knew this was my place.

since then, i have been abused even more, making me want more.

[kinkysuBB]

10 hours ago, Barebackbottomm said:

When I was 13 I used to have dreams  and fantasies that I was in prison and I was someone's prison bitch, I used to be rock hard... knew I was gay at 16/17....but I used to think I was a top even tho I used to fantasize about getting fucked...it wasn't until I was in my mid 20s that I realized I'm supposed to be a bitch

Yes, this was basically me! Kidnap fantasies rather than prison, but they involved being tied up and tortured etc. They weren’t sexual as such, I just liked the idea of being restrained and having stuff done to me.

9 hours ago, Biker18914 said:

i think i knew when i was 13. my friends and i would get men's magazines that had drawings and stories of women being abused. i dreamed i was them, sucking cocks and being fucked in the ass. then i was able to make it happen, a cock in my mouth and ass at the same time. i knew this was my place.

since then, i have been abused even more, making me want more.

I had something like this to. The first time I saw a straight porn magazine, I wanted to be in it. I basically wanted to get my tits out for the lads. I had all sorts of fantasies about being a female porn star. I didn’t realise men could do it too. I think it was the start of me being an exhibitionist.

[fagclit87]

On 10/30/2020 at 9:13 PM, subBottomKink said:

From reading here, I know there’s a few guys equally submissive as me. I’m curious to know: when did you first realise you were a sub?

For me, when I was first accepting I was gay (or bi, as I called it then), around 16, I used to put “top” on my profiles online. Because that’s what men did, right?

But with my first boyfriend, all I wanted to do was suck his cock and have him fuck me. It didn’t work out, because he wanted to bottom too (funny enough he’s a total top now). With my second, I insisted on him fucking me, and that’s all we did for the best part of 8 years. Now, all I want to do is get fucked by real, dominant men.

Looking way back, there were signs of this when I was a kid. I had kidnap fantasies involving Captain Hook when I was about 5. I wanted to be a Lost Boy in Neverland and be made wear rags and go barefoot. Hilarious as that is, I honestly believe I was a sub at that young age. And if I were playing a video game, and had the choice to be a “weaker” female character (a notion I reject now, as an adult), I’d pick her. I wanted to be weaker and subservient to the men. This was all before I knew I had a sexuality.

Did you other bitches have similar thoughts as kids? I know a lot of you were abused and such. I wasn’t, but it still just happened naturally that I grew up as a sub.

Wow! I can relate to quite a few things here. I definitely knew as a kid - maybe around 10 or 11, I remember having fantasies of being kidnapped, adopted and used by older, dominant men. I definitely would select the female characters in video games (like Chun Li in Street Fighter or Princess Peach in Mario Kart) - this probably was me relating to the perception of women being more submissive or maybe just relating to women moreso than men. I also remember when watching straight porn, I would focus on the guy but I envision myself as the woman getting penetrated and being submissive to the Man and his cock.

[drscorpio]

I was in my mid 20s the first time I ever started hooking up with a dom top. He was a little younger than me but built and hung and totally in-charge. I really fought it at first, but he taught me what I really liked.