What a waste of a great cock

[Ozpig]

Last Sunday I saw an older top for the third times. We met of Grindr and the three times i have been to my place has been sensationally pleasurable. He has opened the door, naked, rock hard and he can fuck for a good 40 minutes before he comes. He has a perfectly proportioned thick as cut cock, loves changing positions and he certainly can fuck. As i was playing with his balls and cleaning his cock on Sunday night the thought entered my head that made me wonder just how many bottom men's mancunt he has thrilled with that great cock. I simply asked him while I was holding his manhood "I'll bet this has thrilled a lot of bottom boys over the years." He looked quite serious and said "not as many as you might think" I was married for 40 years and very rarely played around. "What a waste I thought".  I am more than willing to help him catch up for lost time.

[BlackDude]

He wasted his own prime pretending he was straight. No judging, because I did the same. Nothing like that ticking clock to give you a little courage.

 

Just saying, The older I get the less sympathy I feel for these guys. A lot of them have had plenty of time and chances to fool around, but like most gays, they are holding out for the perfect guy and opportunity.

Case in point, In my town we have some Married guy who has been cruising and going to the gay sauna is for years. He still playing that “I am still just a DL married guy trying to figure it out, I only wanna jack off, I still watch straight porn” schtick (unless of course  you’re a 25 year old jock) Dude if you’re cruising or in the sauna is five times a week you’re gay sorry. Don’t be “hotter than thou” straight guy for 30 years, then give some sob story.

 

Sorry, rant over!

 

[Guest]

On 3/30/2021 at 1:59 AM, BlackDude said:

 The older I get the less sympathy I feel for these guys

Admirable, and always sexy, to have sympathy and empathy for others. 

But they are reaping two times the benefits, when most in life get one benefit or the other, or neither sometimes.

They are...
- reaping the financial benefits of being in a relationship/marriage
- having sex with a partner, even if it's in a dark room with their eyes closed and fantasy images of their choice in their heads
- having sex on the DL with out the marriage partner   <--- This benefit is blatantly just greedy. 

They need no sympathy and they know it too.

[tallslenderguy]

i do not think this is simple or black and white, especially from the scant information we have about this guy. The guy is an individual, not a stereotype.  i don't get the impression from the OP that this guy was looking for sympathy, he might even consider it presumptuous and patronizing coming from people who do not know him.

Depending on his age, he may very well have grown up and developed during a time when being gay was still considered a mental disorder. He could have been raised in a fundamentalist religion that conditioned him to believe that "God" hated who and how he is. i know plenty of guys caught in that web, equating the self loathing they feel with "God." It can be enormously difficult to reconcile the reality of being gay with a deeply condoned notion of "God."  A lot of these guys are not pretending to be straight, or denying their attraction, that are trying to kill it because they have a fucked up emotional disposition that their 'God' hates gay.  

Or he could just be an asshole lol. We don't know.

 Some are old enough to have lived through a revolution where gay guys went from being entrapped, arrested and charged with a felony for asking a vice cop, posing as and cruising like a gay guy, if he wanted to have sex. Maybe his church tried to cast the demons out of him that he'd been conditioned from an early age to believe he had.  Maybe he went from that era, got married believing he was sick and sinful and needed to change, to an era where two guys can now get married and have  the same benefits (on paper) as straight people. 

 

 

 

[BlackDude]

5 hours ago, StickyWetHole said:

Admirable, and always sexy, to have sympathy and empathy for others. 

But they are reaping two times the benefits, when most in life get one benefit or the other, or neither sometimes.

They are...
- reaping the financial benefits of being in a relationship/marriage
- having sex with a partner, even if it's in a dark room with their eyes closed and fantasy images of their choice in their heads
- having sex on the DL with out the marriage partner   <--- This benefit is blatantly just greedy. 

They need no sympathy and they know it too.

I was just speaking for someone who is still not fully out and waiting along time to fully admit my sexuality. I get none of the full benefits of either lifestyle. I would be great two have double the income, but me myself, I just couldn’t do that to a woman (as biter as I am toward them haha) unless it was discussed and arranged ahead of time.

I missed out on a lot of fun times and hit guys because of my refusal to fully out. I don’t ask for any sympathy and I know no one feels sorry for me.