Does wanting to BB mean you have to take loads?

[ScaredAndShy]

I was just thinking a little while ago that if a person wanted to take a cock raw in the ass, must he then also take the load? I know it's frown upon but what about just enjoying the feeling of a raw dick without the load? How many of you do that or have done that?

[lecheroxxl]

I have met many bottoms who do that. If they aren't on PrEP, not taking the load minimizes the possibility of becoming positive. 

[UpstateNYexplorer]

I always thought of it as an unspoken rule - If you're gonna go BB, you're gonna take/give a load. I've never had a BB encounter that didn't end with someone getting a deep breeding.

[mblad99]

How does the bottom stop the top from cumming  in his ass?  I would think going on prep would be a better route.

[BootmanLA]

19 hours ago, lecheroxxl said:

I have met many bottoms who do that. If they aren't on PrEP, not taking the load minimizes the possibility of becoming positive. 

I'd quibble with the word "minimizes", suggesting perhaps "reduces" instead. Precum can contain HIV. And of course it assumes the top is capable of, and willing to, pull out in time - and who knows whether he's going to succeed, or if the first blast of his load ends up inside?

18 hours ago, UpstateNYexplorer said:

I always thought of it as an unspoken rule - If you're gonna go BB, you're gonna take/give a load. I've never had a BB encounter that didn't end with someone getting a deep breeding.

Someone needs to alert the porn industry, then, given the multitude of videos that show a guy pulling out and spraying the bottom's [choose one: ass, face, chest, back, airspace] with cum. 🙂 (Not saying people should or shouldn't pull out - just that it's clearly common enough that porn depicts it regularly.)

7 hours ago, mblad99 said:

How does the bottom stop the top from cumming  in his ass?  I would think going on prep would be a better route.

PrEP is definitely more effective. But as for "how" - generally I'd assume the top and bottom agree that's what the top will do when he gets close. Will it stop a top from lying in order to get in a guy bare, and then deliver the load anyway? Of course not. So it depends on whether the bottom puts faith in the top's word as to what he'll do. 

[verslut]

Some guys don't wan to clean up jizz out of their asses. Some guys only take loads from regular partners. Some guys want to marginally reduce STD contraction risk. The motivation depends on the guy.

I usually ask if a guy wants my load while I'm balls deep in him. But I won't ask if I already know my bottom likes to be bred by default.

[fskn]

Though advance negotiation is important, people who practice withdrawal, play "just the tip", etc. have less control over the outcome than they believe.

If a known partner agrees to pull out, he probably intends to and probably has the necessary self-awareness and self-control. Even so, you might make him feel so good that he will cum inside you by accident, or he might make you feel so good that you will beg him to breed you.

With a new partner, all bets are off. He might be a heavy precummer. He might blow the first spurt inside, either deliberately or due to limited self-awareness and self-control. Some guys practice not seizing up and not vocalizing when they nut, so he could deliberately blow his whole load inside before you even realize.

Another factor is that once they have crossed the barrier, two people are unlikely to revert to pulling out, next time they fuck. Just ask your straight friends — female as well as male!

Heterosexual sex offers a useful analogue. Withdrawal is an effective birth control method but the difference in effectiveness between "perfect use" and "typical use" is substantial, according to Planned Parenthood.

If HIV prevention is your goal, PrEP for you and/or your HIV-negative sex partners is highly effective, as is choosing HIV-positive partners with an undetectable viral load. Of these options, PrEP for you is the only one that you can verify first-hand.

[rockhard801]

As a bottom, I expect that if a top is fucking me bare, he is going to cum inside me.  If I don’t want a guy to unload in me, I don’t have sex with him.

[downtownswallow]

If I'm willing to allow a Top inside me bare, then I've told him that I  want him to breed me.  Allowing a man to enter me bare without the cum in my ass is like pouring a fine wine to just look at it in the glass.  

[BootmanLA]

On 5/31/2021 at 9:57 PM, rockhard801 said:

As a bottom, I expect that if a top is fucking me bare, he is going to cum inside me.  If I don’t want a guy to unload in me, I don’t have sex with him.

And it's certainly your right to allow that. That said, it's also the right of a bottom to decide (and make clear beforehand) that he's willing to be fucked but NOT willing to take the load. The top in such a situation can honorably agree to do so; he can honorably decline to have sex at all. What he can't do with honor is agree to the bottom's terms and then deliberately ignore them at the end.

[BootmanLA]

11 hours ago, downtownswallow said:

If I'm willing to allow a Top inside me bare, then I've told him that I  want him to breed me.  Allowing a man to enter me bare without the cum in my ass is like pouring a fine wine to just look at it in the glass.  

That, too, is fine, if that's what you make clear to your top. But your assumption that *you* have told him you want him to breed you does not hold for everyone else in the same circumstances. 

[Bokkierob]

As a (mainly) top I expect to pump my load up my bottom's ass. Of course I enjoy the fuck but I'm an animal after all and my body needs the release when my balls tense and I shoot my load in my bottom's ass. Any bottom that asks me not to cum when I'm fucking him will be ignored and will be seeded - you take my cock in your ass then you get my load.

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Bokkierob said:

As a (mainly) top I expect to pump my load up my bottom's ass. Of course I enjoy the fuck but I'm an animal after all and my body needs the release when my balls tense and I shoot my load in my bottom's ass. Any bottom that asks me not to cum when I'm fucking him will be ignored and will be seeded - you take my cock in your ass then you get my load.

As a total bottom, i have most men fuck me and cum on top of my ass, but  i have never told my top not to cum inside of my ass. in fact i have many times left my tops home with his cum running down my legs from inside of my hole. i like it and expect it. As well i too am an animal, but one of those animals that as cock and balls but feels more like a female then a male who wants a mans cock and wants a man handling my body and i like to seduce and feel a man get hard over my body and fuck me and i want his cum inside of me. As a submissive bottom i would say its the true way of saying i have seduced and pleasured a man completely because i made him hard and made him cum inside of me. i completely fulfill hs animal desires and my animal desires were also realized. his milk is my proof that i completely pleasured my man. as i also feel the pleasure of his cum running down my legs as it oozes out of my asshole.

[cman54]

I agree with the unspoken rule post. If I let a guy in my ass bare he can cum in my ass and I expect him to. Same if I am in a guys ass bare . I am going to cum in it.

[Trans4breed]

I can understand the different opinions from tops and bottoms.
However, for me, when guys are topping me the assumption is that they’ll unload in me, unless they decide otherwise and perhaps cum on my ass or go ass to mouth, etc. As others above have said, and speaking from experience, I’ve always found the animalistic urge kicks in and most tops like to keep going til they shoot their load nice and deep 😉