Multiple people living as a family Fantasy

[luisrojas]

I have the fantasy of having a "family" where we all assume a permanent role (the dad, grandpa, uncle, the sons, brother, etc), and we all live together at the same home (full-time, not just casually), as well.
I'm taking about adults, of course.
Probably my wish will never come true, sadly, but I'm wondering, is this is a thing? Are there people living this way or this only happens in porn?
I know sometimes an older guy lives with a younger guy and call each other daddy and son, but I'm actually referring to multiple members.
And for people who have this experience, I'd love to hear about your household, the dynamics of the relationship, or just some hot anecdote
😏

[BootmanLA]

9 hours ago, luisrojas said:

I have the fantasy of having a "family" where we all assume a permanent role (the dad, grandpa, uncle, the sons, brother, etc), and we all live together at the same home (full-time, not just casually), as well.
I'm taking about adults, of course.
Probably my wish will never come true, sadly, but I'm wondering, is this is a thing? Are there people living this way or this only happens in porn?
I know sometimes an older guy lives with a younger guy and call each other daddy and son, but I'm actually referring to multiple members.
And for people who have this experience, I'd love to hear about your household, the dynamics of the relationship, or just some hot anecdote
😏

They exist, but for each additional family member added, the number of such "families" drops by an order of magnitude. By which I mean, if there are 100,000 same-sex male couples living together as "daddy" and "son", there may only be 10,000 triads where there's a dad and two sons, or dad, son, and uncle. Getting up to four members reduces the numbers even more sharply. And that's for two reasons.

First, it's just harder to find four guys of the proper balance - an oldest guy who likes younger, a somewhat younger guy who likes both older and younger himself, an even younger guy who likes everyone else to be older than him, and a fourth who somehow fits among all the others.

Second, there's an exponential factor to relationships as you add additional members. If there are two, then there's simply A's relationship to B and B's relationship to A (which may be different - ie a dad sees his son differently than a son sees his dad. Add in C, and you have A's relationship to B, A's relationship to C, B's relationship to A, B's relationship to C, C's relationship to A, and C's relationship to B - as well as how A views the relationship between B and C, how B views that between A and C, and how C views that between A and B.

Add in D, and the complexity quickly grows to difficult levels. Just look at actual blood-related, non-sexual families, and see how hard those are to keep close with the complex dynamics between members - and that's with tens of thousands of years of practice at family relationships handed down as collective wisdom (how wise, of course, varies). Adding in sexual attraction and activity to the mix can make things exceptionally complex to navigate. Not surprising that few such relationships exist - and with societal disapproval of non-monogamous relationships in general, and polyamory specifically, and I'm surprised we know of any (I do, but they aren't common).

[LetsPOZBreed]

I've had the idea of starting a small role play "family" similar to this, but never put much actual effort into making it happen.  There are a number of reasons why that's the case, in addition to what Bootman has listed above.  Bottom line, this gets overly complicated in a hurry and can easily go off the rails and lead to animosity if not handled properly.

-  Not going to rehash Bootman's comments, but yeah.  The bigger your family gets, the sheer number of dynamics becomes unsustainable.  At a certain number, (I'd say anything past 5), you should expect a larger family to split into smaller ones as we all want our share of consistent action.  This could also lead to hurt feelings between the original family before the breakaway, thinking that they are somehow not "good enough", "hot enough", etc.  You can't be expected to leave feelings totally out of it, even in a purely sexual context.

-  Honestly, it's hard to set up a group of 3 guys or more already, even if it's just a plain vanilla threesome.  Add in a specific fetish role play such as this one on top of that, and this becomes next to impossible unless you know exactly where to look for other guys into this sort of thing.

-  Also, you'd need to be careful in adding new members to your family.  It's like inducting someone into a club...you want to be reasonably sure their intent is genuine.  Specifically, you don't want to just add one person to a family of three, when that newbie is really just after one other member - (see first point about hurt feelings).  

-  If you were fortunate enough to find others interested in doing this, the most important factor in getting this going is having a core solid group.  Some level of attraction has to exist between the members; ideally each family member would actively want to play with each other member one-on-one or together.  And you have to negotiate some ground rules as well.  These rules can include what actions are/aren't allowed outside of the family, such as the ability to play outside of the unit (think "open relationship" but on a bigger scale).  And also has to set out if there is the potential for adding new family members later on, and what criteria and process you'd follow before accepting someone new.

[hntnhole]

On 12/14/2021 at 8:23 AM, luisrojas said:

I have the fantasy of having a "family" where we all assume a permanent role (the dad, grandpa, uncle, the sons, brother, etc), and we all live together at the same home (full-time, not just casually), as well.

Yes, there are a handful of "Families" left, particularly within the context of the LeatherLife.  However, this tradition of Leathermen bonding together enough to form "families" has been fading for many years, as has the tradition of the "Old Guard" LeatherLife.  I only have knowledge of this particular type of gay "families", having known several years ago. 

I have no information regarding what you're describing as "porn" families, but obviously there are Dominant men that "take" a sub they particularly enjoy into their homes in a submissive role. I wouldn't describe this as what you're alluding to though.  The OG families were well-structured, including non-sexual responsibilities, etc. 

[BootmanLA]

1 minute ago, hntnhole said:

Yes, there are a handful of "Families" left, particularly within the context of the LeatherLife.  However, this tradition of Leathermen bonding together enough to form "families" has been fading for many years, as has the tradition of the "Old Guard" LeatherLife.  I only have knowledge of this particular type of gay "families", having known several years ago. 

I have no information regarding what you're describing as "porn" families, but obviously there are Dominant men that "take" a sub they particularly enjoy into their homes in a submissive role. I wouldn't describe this as what you're alluding to though.  The OG families were well-structured, including non-sexual responsibilities, etc. 

In addition, many of the OG families weren't "live-in" in the sense that the OP is describing. You might have eight or ten members of a family, but (at least in the ones I know) only a core two or three lived together, and the rest (uncles, cousins, whatever) were visitors on a more or less frequent basis. I think that sort of thing is perhaps more sustainable than a large family living together.

[hntnhole]

Of course.  The more participants (as described in the poster's opening sentence) the more cumbersome the arrangement. 

I think that it's far more common these days to have a network (smallish, perhaps 5,6,7 guys) of breed-buddies that live separately, but enjoy each other sexually, and have regular group-sex together.  It's hardly similar to what I was describing above (i.e. structured families), but it's still a lot of fun.  Plus, sometimes guys in the group bring everyone else a little "present" - fresh meat !!!