Advice on sucking

[Pozme1981]

As yet I not sucked a dick I have sucked some dildos and read about it any other good advice on sucking a dick and make him cum please 

[justsexnowatl]

I think different guys prefer different techniques when they get head, but my preference is for SLOW SLOW cocksucking with a little bit of hand action thrown in and cupping or sucking of my nuts every now and then.  I have a cocksucker who "services" me, and we both love very long slow sessions.  I arrive at his place and we catch up a little while I take my clothes off and get comfortable on his bed with the massive TV screen showing the menu of porn (wish I knew how to set that up!!).  He's mid 30s with a sexy face.  He stays fully dressed and lays on his stomach between my legs and starts his SLOW sucking technique.  It's true SERVICE.  2 days ago he slow sucked me for a full hour while I browsed porn.  One hour in he asked if I'd feed him my load.  I figured he was getting tired of it.  Within a couple minutes I fed him.  He just kept sucking me with that same slow technique and kept me hard.  He didn't show any signs of stopping, so I let him keep going.  He's so sexy, another 20 minutes later I quit watching the porn and just watched his sexy face, occassionally him looking right back at me.  I blew another load - even more intense - and he just kept sucking.  This wasn't the first time he got 2 loads out of me.  He was gonna see if I could go a 3rd round, but I really didn't think it was gonna happen and started to get up about 10 minutes later.  He told me quite awhile ago, that some guys feel like they're being selfish - it's so completely one sided.  He never takes his clothes off or takes his dick out or even touches his cock.  I told him I do feel kinda selfish.  He told me not to - HE feels selfish because he loves sucking cock so much.  I don't get it, but I don't question it and consider it a win-win 🙂  I guess some guys prefer more jack rabbit fast hard deep gagging head.  I can get into that too, but I have a strong preference for slow edging type head if both parties have the time to spend - it definitely creates a way bigger load (or loads) on my end!!

[sub4oralcum]

This is a great question. I have tended to move into a faster version of cocksucking. I think this may be secondary to how many blowjobs I have given at the gloryhole. Perhaps in error, I have assumed men are looking for a quick suck so they can be about their day. However, I know from the relatively rare occasions I get sucked at the hole, that a slow intense methodology can be very persuasive to my nuts (convincing them to unload). I wonder what other men like the best in gloryhole head. Loud, fast and sloppy...or slow and intense?

[rock-cock-jock]

Some bits of BJ advice:

- No teeth!: Retract those molars and be conscious of your position and angle in relation to the cock you're sucking. The best position is directly head on,           🕺🧎and in a stable relaxed posture.

- Just relax!: Despite conventional wisdom being to "just suppress your gag reflex", the key to deepthroating well and in a sustained, prolonged manner is to relax your throat muscles. Don't stress, don't be nervous or tense or whatever. Breathe in through your nostrils and try to relax your whole body but with a focus on lengthening your throat muscles like a big lazy yawn. Yes, there is a gag reflex that happens alot when you're just starting and suppressing it is a very tense, contracting kind of motion. But dont stay in that mode and instead make an effort to relax after it's over.

- Master control over pacing!: I think for beginners there's a tendency from being too excited to hit the throttle without realizing and start  to suck as if they were a woody woodpecker! Not good at all. Using a slower, controlled and steady pace, especially at the beginning, will help him ramp up and get his flag to full mast and is great to return to if he loss chub mid way through (aside from obviously stopping whatever it is you were doing that didnt feel good). A quicker pacing though can feel great, especially with face fucking, given that u have enough throat and breath control to do that. There's a 'sweet spot' though with pacing and string enough suction on the return stroke that the 3 gay bears would say not too fast, not too slow, and that's juuust right👌it works on almost every guy and gets them started on the landing strip for takeoff. That's basically what you use when u want a guy to cum and get tf out of ur apartment. In my opinion, if you just go straight into that mode though and have them cumming too quickly, it's kind of a dick move to do. Edging is a part of pacing too and each time u kinda reset things it builds up and feels better when he does shoot. I think of waves for some reason. Motion of the ocean.

- A blowjob at its core is the use of your mouth and throat as a fleshlight for the top to jerk off with. All the extra crap you may have heard about like licking or nibbling or swirls or the grapefruit thing or whatever are in my opinion just gimmicks and shouldnt really be part of your main repertoire. BJ technique is a thing but these are a waste of time.

- So the way I see it, from my own experience, there's beginner mode where you cant take cock any further than your oral cavity, basically only taking the head and  a bit of the shaft really. Intermediate mode means you can slip the cock down your throat some without gagging but eventually runs into a wall of sorts limiting encapsulation to like 6 or 7 inches. Advanced mode means you can bypass that wall using certain angles to push past and having your throat stretched enough that you can get deeper past your throat. and once you master that stage,  you can graduate blowjob school and the world's your oyster my friend to swallow everything and anything into you

- The most important bit of advice that will help you get better at cocksucking is to love sucking cock. No, really, like lean into that frame of mind and you'll find you relax better, and more in tune with things. It's what I think separates gay guys from most straight females - the cock enjoyment is just straight up evident in the the quality of the bj

Edited December 2, 2022 by rock-cock-jock

[Daddysucker]

1 hour ago, rock-cock-jock said:

Some bits of BJ advice:

- No teeth!: Retract those molars and be conscious of your position and angle in relation to the cock you're sucking. The best position is directly head on,           🕺🧎and in a stable relaxed posture.

- Just relax!: Despite conventional wisdom being to "just suppress your gag reflex", the key to deepthroating well and in a sustained, prolonged manner is to relax your throat muscles. Don't stress, don't be nervous or tense or whatever. Breathe in through your nostrils and try to relax your whole body but with a focus on lengthening your throat muscles like a big lazy yawn. Yes, there is a gag reflex that happens alot when you're just starting and suppressing it is a very tense, contracting kind of motion. But dont stay in that mode and instead make an effort to relax after it's over.

- Master control over pacing!: I think for beginners there's a tendency from being too excited to hit the throttle without realizing and start  to suck as if they were a woody woodpecker! Not good at all. Using a slower, controlled and steady pace, especially at the beginning, will help him ramp up and get his flag to full mast and is great to return to if he loss chub mid way through (aside from obviously stopping whatever it is you were doing that didnt feel good). A quicker pacing though can feel great, especially with face fucking, given that u have enough throat and breath control to do that. There's a 'sweet spot' though with pacing and string enough suction on the return stroke that the 3 gay bears would say not too fast, not too slow, and that's juuust right👌it works on almost every guy and gets them started on the landing strip for takeoff. That's basically what you use when u want a guy to cum and get tf out of ur apartment. In my opinion, if you just go straight into that mode though and have them cumming too quickly, it's kind of a dick move to do. Edging is a part of pacing too and each time u kinda reset things it builds up and feels better when he does shoot. I think of waves for some reason. Motion of the ocean.

- A blowjob at its core is the use of your mouth and throat as a fleshlight for the top to jerk off with. All the extra crap you may have heard about like licking or nibbling or swirls or the grapefruit thing or whatever are in my opinion just gimmicks and shouldnt really be part of your main repertoire. BJ technique is a thing but these are a waste of time.

- So the way I see it, from my own experience, there's beginner mode where you cant take cock any further than your oral cavity, basically only taking the head and  a bit of the shaft really. Intermediate mode means you can slip the cock down your throat some without gagging but eventually runs into a wall of sorts limiting encapsulation to like 6 or 7 inches. Advanced mode means you can bypass that wall using certain angles to push past and having your throat stretched enough that you can get deeper past your throat. and once you master that stage,  you can graduate blowjob school and the world's your oyster my friend to swallow everything and anything into you

- The most important bit of advice that will help you get better at cocksucking is to love sucking cock. No, really, like lean into that frame of mind and you'll find you relax better, and more in tune with things. It's what I think separates gay guys from most straight females - the cock enjoyment is just straight up evident in the the quality of the bj

Exactly this.    Love the "woody woodpecker" reference.  Thats what i call the "hand/mouth jackhammer"   And like 8 out of 10 guys ruin a great bj by reverting to that and it just ruins it for me.   Ill be right about to cum and then that bs starts.    Thats actually why I may suck 20 dicks a week but i get mine sucked by only a couple of people.

Forget any fancy moves.   You have to love what you are doing and just remind yourself, you are there to suck the cum out.   Unless he takes control and fucks my mouth, or requests some hand, I just keep a slow, steady pace up and down and the only thing i vary is how deep i go.   Same pace and same suction.  Just the head.  Then an inch lower, and an inch lower each time until it touches the back of my throat.  I stop a minute there and then realllllly slowly take it all the way down my throat and hold it there as long as I can.   I repeat that until i want him to cum, and by then I have enough of a read on what he responds to, that I can make him cum exactly when I want him to.    I would say that 80% cum on the first or second deepthroat without me trying. 

I mentioned suction.  Don't suck like a shop vac.    Just create a little negative pressure in your mouth.  Just a slight but noticeable pull.   Just enough that if he were to start cumming you would draw the cum out.  

And actually the best thing is to just ask your feeder what he likes.    I have every new guy i meet describe to me the kind of blowjob that he watches in porn when hes all alone and nobody can see.    I hate when they say "anything" and I don't accept that.    They're just so excited to be getting sucked by a 19 yr old that they don't think about it.   When i press, ill often find that the guy who was cool with laid back service, actually fantasizes about throat fucking with no limits.    And Ill do that.  They just never would think to ask.

So that just my advice.  I realize im 19, but ive got a lot of experience going back a long time.

[Pozme1981]

Thanks all will have a go 

[Bokkierob]

All good advice. I'd ju7st add one more tip. Don't just use your lips to stimulate your feeder's cock. when you close your mouth around his shaft use your tongue to press the bottom of his cock against the roof of your mouth so he feels all of his shaft being stimulated. That will make him cum. Also, be ready to receive his load. You will sense when most men are about to cum - they may tense their muscles and their breathing will gat faster or they will just tell you "I'm gunna cum in your mouth" Just be ready to take his sperm and swallow. Because at the end - no matter how good a cocksucker you are you will leave your feeder unsatisfied if you fail to eagerly swallow his seed. And I mean every drop - do not take your mouth off his cock until he gives his permission.

[baldwin]

these are all excellent pointers.  Follow them and you will be an excellent cock sucker.  I might add that if you don't have a bread or mustache but be sure to be smoothly shaved.  being a good cocksucker you are going to rub the cock around your face occasionally so make sure you are not "rough".  I have made that mistake a couple of times and gotten a "hey watch it".  

[Njn0mc]

On 12/3/2022 at 10:37 AM, Bokkierob said:

All good advice. I'd ju7st add one more tip. Don't just use your lips to stimulate your feeder's cock. when you close your mouth around his shaft use your tongue to press the bottom of his cock against the roof of your mouth so he feels all of his shaft being stimulated. That will make him cum. Also, be ready to receive his load. You will sense when most men are about to cum - they may tense their muscles and their breathing will gat faster or they will just tell you "I'm gunna cum in your mouth" Just be ready to take his sperm and swallow. Because at the end - no matter how good a cocksucker you are you will leave your feeder unsatisfied if you fail to eagerly swallow his seed. And I mean every drop - do not take your mouth off his cock until he gives his permission.

Awesome!   I have had tops tell me to bite lightly on the head and bottom of the shaft.  One top I play with alot this drives him nuts and normally explodes when I do this. I dont bite to hurt but I'll feel the cock pulse when I do.

[msamuel83]

On 12/2/2022 at 9:34 AM, justsexnowatl said:

I think different guys prefer different techniques when they get head, but my preference is for SLOW SLOW cocksucking with a little bit of hand action thrown in and cupping or sucking of my nuts every now and then.  I have a cocksucker who "services" me, and we both love very long slow sessions.  I arrive at his place and we catch up a little while I take my clothes off and get comfortable on his bed with the massive TV screen showing the menu of porn (wish I knew how to set that up!!).  He's mid 30s with a sexy face.  He stays fully dressed and lays on his stomach between my legs and starts his SLOW sucking technique.  It's true SERVICE.  2 days ago he slow sucked me for a full hour while I browsed porn.  One hour in he asked if I'd feed him my load.  I figured he was getting tired of it.  Within a couple minutes I fed him.  He just kept sucking me with that same slow technique and kept me hard.  He didn't show any signs of stopping, so I let him keep going.  He's so sexy, another 20 minutes later I quit watching the porn and just watched his sexy face, occassionally him looking right back at me.  I blew another load - even more intense - and he just kept sucking.  This wasn't the first time he got 2 loads out of me.  He was gonna see if I could go a 3rd round, but I really didn't think it was gonna happen and started to get up about 10 minutes later.  He told me quite awhile ago, that some guys feel like they're being selfish - it's so completely one sided.  He never takes his clothes off or takes his dick out or even touches his cock.  I told him I do feel kinda selfish.  He told me not to - HE feels selfish because he loves sucking cock so much.  I don't get it, but I don't question it and consider it a win-win 🙂  I guess some guys prefer more jack rabbit fast hard deep gagging head.  I can get into that too, but I have a strong preference for slow edging type head if both parties have the time to spend - it definitely creates a way bigger load (or loads) on my end!!

 

I'm looking for a top that would let me come over and do what your bottom does once a week or so.  I'm also someone who cherishes the time working on a cock and am good staying down until he's ready for it to be over.

[rock-cock-jock]

The best blowjob I've ever had was  when I was 19 at a bathhouse in Toronto by a 50's leather daddy decked out with an epic Yosemite Sam-like 'stache protruding from his face. What made it the best bj ever were these two particular features that were just incredible. First,  his mouth was like a furnace, it wasn't just warm, it was hot! Dunno if it was because higher temperatures can stimulate blood flow but I was rock hard and throbbing because of how good it felt. Second, his movement wasn't so much a standard bob motion but more like a slow rippling massage with his throat and tongue with slight suctiion. It felt amazing, like everything was being stimulated. I still have no idea how he accomplished either of those features unfortunately but still something to think about. I've forgotten most of the guys that have given me head over the years but I still remember BJ grandmaster Yosemite Sam because of that bj.

Edited December 7, 2022 by rock-cock-jock

[Guest]

On 12/2/2022 at 11:43 AM, rock-cock-jock said:

Some bits of BJ advice:

- No teeth!: Retract those molars and be conscious of your position and angle in relation to the cock you're sucking. The best position is directly head on,           🕺🧎and in a stable relaxed posture.

- Just relax!: Despite conventional wisdom being to "just suppress your gag reflex", the key to deepthroating well and in a sustained, prolonged manner is to relax your throat muscles. Don't stress, don't be nervous or tense or whatever. Breathe in through your nostrils and try to relax your whole body but with a focus on lengthening your throat muscles like a big lazy yawn. Yes, there is a gag reflex that happens alot when you're just starting and suppressing it is a very tense, contracting kind of motion. But dont stay in that mode and instead make an effort to relax after it's over.

- Master control over pacing!: I think for beginners there's a tendency from being too excited to hit the throttle without realizing and start  to suck as if they were a woody woodpecker! Not good at all. Using a slower, controlled and steady pace, especially at the beginning, will help him ramp up and get his flag to full mast and is great to return to if he loss chub mid way through (aside from obviously stopping whatever it is you were doing that didnt feel good). A quicker pacing though can feel great, especially with face fucking, given that u have enough throat and breath control to do that. There's a 'sweet spot' though with pacing and string enough suction on the return stroke that the 3 gay bears would say not too fast, not too slow, and that's juuust right👌it works on almost every guy and gets them started on the landing strip for takeoff. That's basically what you use when u want a guy to cum and get tf out of ur apartment. In my opinion, if you just go straight into that mode though and have them cumming too quickly, it's kind of a dick move to do. Edging is a part of pacing too and each time u kinda reset things it builds up and feels better when he does shoot. I think of waves for some reason. Motion of the ocean.

- A blowjob at its core is the use of your mouth and throat as a fleshlight for the top to jerk off with. All the extra crap you may have heard about like licking or nibbling or swirls or the grapefruit thing or whatever are in my opinion just gimmicks and shouldnt really be part of your main repertoire. BJ technique is a thing but these are a waste of time.

- So the way I see it, from my own experience, there's beginner mode where you cant take cock any further than your oral cavity, basically only taking the head and  a bit of the shaft really. Intermediate mode means you can slip the cock down your throat some without gagging but eventually runs into a wall of sorts limiting encapsulation to like 6 or 7 inches. Advanced mode means you can bypass that wall using certain angles to push past and having your throat stretched enough that you can get deeper past your throat. and once you master that stage,  you can graduate blowjob school and the world's your oyster my friend to swallow everything and anything into you

- The most important bit of advice that will help you get better at cocksucking is to love sucking cock. No, really, like lean into that frame of mind and you'll find you relax better, and more in tune with things. It's what I think separates gay guys from most straight females - the cock enjoyment is just straight up evident in the the quality of the bj

Don't just grab it and start sucking.

Study his cock.

It's length.

It's girth.

It's shape.

Is it straight?

Does it curve a little.

Use what you've studied about his cock to give him a better blowjob.

Listen to the sounds he makes and his body language while you suck him.This will tell you if you're doing a good job or if he's not into something.

Just swallow.Let him cum in your mouth and just swallow it.It's the best part of giving a blowjob and it will make the experience more special.

[NHeat]

If we're in the right position, I like to rest a hand on the guy's stomach or chest. That way I can get a good idea from his breathing if what he enjoys. 

[topblkmale]

On 12/2/2022 at 7:41 AM, Pozme1981 said:

As yet I not sucked a dick I have sucked some dildos and read about it any other good advice on sucking a dick and make him cum please 

Find a top with a decent sized penis who is willing to train you. Don't wing it!

Otherwise you will pick up bad cocksucking habits that will stay with you the rest of your cocksucking life.

 

I have experienced MANY guys who have been sucking dick for decades and don't know what they're doing and some too old to be retrained correctly.

Edited December 8, 2022 by topblkmale
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[DavidCumSlut]

First off, watch the teeth.  And you need to practice a lot.  Suck as many different cocks as you can, especially the big ones, Suck dildoes to practice when you can't suck an actual penis.  Always swallow his cum, never spit.  Remember to lick his dick and suck on his balls as well, and I when possible also rim the guy, a real tongue fucking of his butthole.  Take your time while sucking and respond to his reactions.  Don't just push through to get him to cum as quickly as possible.  Yes, the goal is to swallow his sperm and pee ir you like that as I do, but you also want him to get almost there several times without cumming, before he finally cums in your mouth.  It seems to make him cum a bigger load, so more sperm for you to swallow, and more fun for him getting to cum in your mouth.  And if he does pull out and cum on your face, simply swipe it up with your fingers and lick it off and swallow it.

Again, NEVER spit, always swallow, nothing kills a top's mood when he wants you to swallow his cum, then watching you waste it by spitting.  Also, watch as many guys as possible suck cock.  Learn from the good examples.