Bottoms, how do you convince tops to go bareback?

[sneakybare]

1 hour ago, leakyhole said:

I just sit on their bare cocks and either they protest or they don't.

They don't.

This has worked with two very married daddy types, one im still seeing now. Gave one of them a BJ and next time offered him my ass when he was hard and horny.  Told him I wanted him to fuck me and I would do anything and keep it our secret.  Hard to say no when your neglected dick is in a hot willing ass.

 

 

[SomewhereonNeptune]

On 2/25/2023 at 11:28 AM, FelchingPisser said:

This feels like a topic from 2008.  I haven't seen condom use for a very long time and I play a lot in public spaces. 

But I'm not a cumdump....so maybe I just don't see it.

I was thinking the same thing. 

I had a condom nazi for a bottom exactly one time in the last 15 or so years. I tried, really did, but it wasn't happening so I told him to find someone else, not interested in something so boner-killing. I've never had to be asked and even discussion of status now doesn't happen that often.

Only in online hookups is it ever a conversation because it's stated on a profile.

5 hours ago, leakyhole said:

I just sit on their bare cocks and either they protest or they don't.

They don't.

Likewise from a top perspective. When someone tries to make conversation about 'safe' or 'condoms', it goes no further. Want to impale yourself on me raw? You won't hear me complaining.

[Cutedelicategay]

I put as much details as possible in my profile on hookup apps for the top to understand that I am a total bareback bottom. Despite that if they ask for condoms I respectfully refuse the hookup. Bathhouse or cruising areas are a total different game. No question asked or no answers given. Most tops love a wet hole. I have refused dream cocks just because they insisted on condoms and I have walked out on tops who put condom on despite me refusing a condom entering my body.

[Harder2Resist]

First time I topped raw, I was in college. We had fucked before but only safe so I thought we’d be doing the same that night…

Already naked and done with the foreplay, I had him in missionary with his legs wrapped around my hips. I was grinding him pretty hard and, when I reached over to his nightstand drawer to grab a rubber, he pulled me back, kissed me deep, and went back to rubbing my dick against his tight hole. Since I’m uncut, I was dripping precum like wild. He looked at me, licked his lips, and I knew exactly what he wanted.

I let my precum be the lube, slipped my dick in, and it didn’t come back out until he was flooded with my load.

So, to answer the original question, just like that 😉

[TownTravellerMan]

I used to do this a lot in my younger days. I think some tops or guys actually wanted bareback but didn't want to admit it. I remember a guy once I went to his place and he had a condom on his night stand and we never used it. I remember some guys would be like "I really want to fuck you bare" and I'd be like ok sure. A lot of tactics I used to do was kind rub my ass against their raw dick and tease their raw cock with my hole. This would work most of the time and they'd realize they want their raw dick in my hole over a dumb condom. Did not always work. Sometimes some guys or tops were commited to the condom. I would generally intentionally be extra tight or give resistance. If they asked why I'd just say I'm not used to condoms or the latex kinda bothers me. And either they would keep trying a few times but then just give up and be like "Fuck it" and just fuck me raw. 

At places like sex clubs or similar places guys were usually pretty quick to drop the condom if either I let them know I wanted it raw. Sometimes I would take the condom off the guy before he fucked me. He would know I was doing this of course but I wonder if it kinda turned them on knowing that I was dismissing the condom and giving them full control to decide to fuck me raw and bareback me. I did have a guy or two who did not like that though and would either call it off completely or just take out a new condom but that was pretty rare. This was all YEARS ago before Prep PEP or any of like that was really on the market.

I want to say "most" guys now probably are more likely to fuck bare. But I have seen on apps and websites guys list condoms or or say side which makes me think they might be more serious about condoms. Fortunately I haven't really ran into this aside from side guys. I did have a guy recently though who was hesitant to fuck without a condom until I told him i'm undetectable then he really had no issues after that. And since then he has only fucked me bareback and raw. It's kinda comical to think that I had to barter with him almost on not wearing a condom when we first got together. 

I don't think I would intentionally or try to get together with a guy on an app or website that says they use condoms unless there was a serious attraction or connection between us both. Then I'd probably have to think if I could convince them or not. 

Edited Thursday at 10:00 PM by TownTravellerMan

[BBBxCumDumpster]

In the past 10 years, I've had three guys bring up a condom, this out of hundreds and hundreds of guys.  I keep a handful of condoms on hand to be makeshift cock rings. Otherwise, it's just understood that he's gonna dump loads in me.  They never ask.  They just spit on my hole and stuff it up me and unload. 

[curiouslooker]

13 hours ago, Harder2Resist said:

First time I topped raw, I was in college. We had fucked before but only safe so I thought we’d be doing the same that night…

Already naked and done with the foreplay, I had him in missionary with his legs wrapped around my hips. I was grinding him pretty hard and, when I reached over to his nightstand drawer to grab a rubber, he pulled me back, kissed me deep, and went back to rubbing my dick against his tight hole. Since I’m uncut, I was dripping precum like wild. He looked at me, licked his lips, and I knew exactly what he wanted.

I let my precum be the lube, slipped my dick in, and it didn’t come back out until he was flooded with my load.

So, to answer the original question, just like that 😉

That’s a hot story, and similar to my first experience.

[hntnhole]

On 2/25/2023 at 11:28 AM, FelchingPisser said:

This feels like a topic from 2008.  I haven't seen condom use for a very long time and I play a lot in public spaces.

Agreed 100%.

[NordicBtm]

1 hour ago, hntnhole said:

Agreed 100%.

I have 7 local fuckbuddies. All are bare and always breed me except one. I keep trying to coerce him to stop using a condom but he always refuses. The only reason I keep him around is his amazing dick 😇😂

[jvlcumdump]

All of my hook up profiles make it clear that I take it bareback only and expect no pulling out. Any interested party already knows the expectations I have and almost all who message me are looking for a raw cumdump bottom like me anyway. 

[hntnhole]

On 9/26/2025 at 3:06 PM, NordicBtm said:

The only reason I keep him around is his amazing dick 😇😂

Well, sometimes we can try, and they just won't.  However, keep on trying ...

Maybe if you arrange a little group-action, and he's the only one who won't fuck raw, he'll watch ..... and watch ...... and finally figure out that it's simply the hottest way to fuck there is.  If you do, be sure to clue the other guys in, making sure they mention how fantastic the raw hole feels, how hot it is to fuck in other cocks loads, all of that.  But be sure to clue the other guys in on the goal, so they can help - telling the bottoms how hotttt their raw holes feel, all of that.  

One of these days, he'll want in on the action, and you'll get a verrrrrrrry nice surprise when he comes over 😁

[NordicBtm]

19 minutes ago, hntnhole said:

Well, sometimes we can try, and they just won't.  However, keep on trying ...

Maybe if you arrange a little group-action, and he's the only one who won't fuck raw, he'll watch ..... and watch ...... and finally figure out that it's simply the hottest way to fuck there is.  If you do, be sure to clue the other guys in, making sure they mention how fantastic the raw hole feels, how hot it is to fuck in other cocks loads, all of that.  But be sure to clue the other guys in on the goal, so they can help - telling the bottoms how hotttt their raw holes feel, all of that.  

One of these days, he'll want in on the action, and you'll get a verrrrrrrry nice surprise when he comes over 😁

He’s sometimes organized 3somes with me. Last time a guy came into my ass as he and the guy were dp-ing me. Was super hot. Still he kept that damn condom on 😹

[hntnhole]

Just now, NordicBtm said:

Still he kept that damn condom on 😹

Does he say why?  Does he know there are medications that can prevent (or greatly lower) the chances of catching something undesirable?  There are guys that haven't worn a condom since hiv surfaced - and I'm one of them - and I've only come down with one of the lesser bugs occasionally.  There are also medications available that (when taken for 3 days after raw sex) prevent the common bugs that have been around forever.  

That said, maybe he's just halsstarrig ..... 

[onlyraw]

Well you can always stealth them by putting a good smeer of Vaseline up your ass before he comes over … and that should “shock shock” break the condom mid fuck … and you can see if he notices 

but that is not really fair to the top

if you want to convince him that if will feel a LOT better…. try giving him a blow job - first with a condom on his cock …. then take it off and suck him some more …..

and explain that the fuck will also feel exponentially better raw than wrapped 

but …. Some guys - maybe because they are cheating (and so can’t go on prep)  - or maybe ( if they are older) they were badly emotionally scarred from the 80s

of what ever reason….. then you just have to decide if they are hot enough… and you have enough lube …. You let them fuck you wrapped (but as a condition… make sure the give you the condom. … so you can at least drink their cum)

[verbalBTTM]

I never had that issue, infact I had the reverse issue. Was hard to convince a bottom for me to fick them with a condom on. They always hated the feeling and for some reason there was never enough lube in the world.

 

I haven't worn one since after about age 35 or so, just don't see the point. Anything id catch as a top is easily treatable and I only bottom for a very select few.