Gay guy in small village

[NLbear]

There's a difference in 'touching' between the south of Europe and the more northern countries when it comes to straight men. I'm from the northwest and I do notice that in southern European countries straight men are more 'touchy'. Arms around the shoulders, kissing each other on the cheek, hugging and so on. In the northwest men are more standoffish and the wouldn't touch each other. They may hug when they are great friends but that's about it. I think. I'm not a straight man LOL!

[Marsian]

18 hours ago, NLbear said:

Arms around the shoulders, kissing each other on the cheek, hugging and so on. In the northwest men are more standoffish and the wouldn't touch each other. They may hug when they are great friends but that's about it. I think. I'm not a straight man LOL!

Before the pandemic people did that a lot. Now they are starting again. I met a couple of unknown cousins of mine (sometimes I think that untl the day I die I will keep on meeting people who say we are cousins). I was like oh god all these people will want to hug me and condolence me.

 

On 5/5/2023 at 9:47 PM, gingerdaddyG said:

You sound gorgeous. I have a gay friend (no sexual connection) who sounds very similar in colouring to you and I think he’s very attractive! 

Thank you, you are very kind. There are times that I picture myself with dakr hair, trying to think how I would look like. Usually they called (in village) a word meaning white guy (but with a slightly offensive manner). Something like pale and sick.

 

On 5/6/2023 at 10:10 PM, hntnhole said:

"slid" (I know, sometimes correct grammar makes no sense at all). 

wow didn't think it would be an irregular, thanks

On 5/6/2023 at 10:10 PM, hntnhole said:

How interesting that he not only allowed it, but smiled when you ran a finger through his hair.  That was a fairly clear message, and your reward was a smile !!  I think you've got his Cock's attention, especially since you text message almost daily, but go slowly - a brief smile isn't a direct invitation either.  Reel him in gently, obliquely, very gradually, and when it happens (sounds like it will at some point), we're waiting to hear the good news. 

I could feel my heart beating fast that moment. I felt like I had lost control and pushed things too far. Today we spent some time together. We had something that I'm not sure it exists in catholic religions, a day called remembrance day  following a funeral. We had that day today for our grandpa (we call grandpa any brother of our grandpa or of our great-grandpa). He was super busy serving us all, but after that he came to us for a visit. Him and my mother get along very well. We had dinner all of us and we went for walking the two of us with our dog. We were just the two of us in a forest area. Nothing romantic happen but some bonding did happen. However he said that we could go biking when the sun goes down because he worries that I get too much sun.

[BootmanLA]

On 5/6/2023 at 2:10 PM, hntnhole said:

Either is correct, except the past tense of "slide" is "slid" (I know, sometimes correct grammar makes no sense at all).

Imagine if we regularized English. The past tense of "slide" is "slid" and the past tense of "hide" is "hid" so the past tense of "glide" should be "glid", the past tense of "ride" should be "rid", and the past tense of "abide" should be "abid". Not to mention chide/chid and elide/elid, 

[ErosWired]

7 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

Imagine if we regularized English. The past tense of "slide" is "slid" and the past tense of "hide" is "hid" so the past tense of "glide" should be "glid", the past tense of "ride" should be "rid", and the past tense of "abide" should be "abid". Not to mention chide/chid and elide/elid, 

But if you’re going to regularize it, how do you know what the ‘regular’ form ought to be? The past tense of ‘ride’ being ‘rode’, then ‘hide’ could as easily be ‘hode’, ‘glide’ to ‘glode’, etc. Besides, it’s not as though regularizing would last - people ain’t gonna use proper language noway, amirite?

[hntnhole]

18 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

Imagine if we regularized English

As soon as we get the more pressing issues resolved (guns, dead kids, cretins in Congress / States), I think standardizing English is a splendid idea !!!  

 

10 hours ago, ErosWired said:

people ain’t gonna use proper language noway, amirite?

Ya, youse rite as rain 😉

[BootmanLA]

18 hours ago, ErosWired said:

But if you’re going to regularize it, how do you know what the ‘regular’ form ought to be? The past tense of ‘ride’ being ‘rode’, then ‘hide’ could as easily be ‘hode’, ‘glide’ to ‘glode’, etc. Besides, it’s not as though regularizing would last - people ain’t gonna use proper language noway, amirite?

Strictly speaking, if we were to go by the most common form as the "regular" one, both "slid" and "hid" would be chunked in favor of "slided" and "hided", and "rode" chunked in favor of "rided".

Because of the verbs that end in -ide, only those three have irregular forms.

These are the verbs ending in -ide in their present tense form (and the corresponding past tense version):

abide - abided
chide - chided
elide - elided
hide -hid
ride - rode
slide - slid
 

[Marsian]

Hey it's me again 🙂

The past few days I didn't have time at all to visit the cafe at all. He called me to ask something but I was at the hospital that day so we didn't talk at all.

Today we went for a walk. We went in a quiet place into the woods and we  sat down in the grass. He told me that sometimes he feels very stressed and that  he wants to get more independent. It was a nice moment, it felt like a  confession of his thoughts. I gave him some advice (despite the fact that I'm a closeted, virgin gay guy trapped in a village) about how to address his emotions. Some time later he said he had to go back to the cafe and he left. Before he left he gave me a kiss in the cheek, which was a first. I think that moment I was just dreaming alive. I'm still thinking about it. Yet I don't know what happens. Is he going slowly on me? Is he just like that? I'm his beloved cousin and he just cares too much? Is he playing games on me to embarrass  me? 

[hntnhole]

12 minutes ago, Marsian said:

Is he playing games on me to embarrass  me?

I am not familiar with the complexities of your culture, but I rather doubt it.  He may be wrestling with coming to terms with his own issues of sexuality, and that can be quite a process.  Just be there for him, in whatever way he seems to need you. 

A cheerful smile can do wonders for a man going through a difficult time; give him plenty of that.  Remember that the turtle won the race, not the hare .... 

[Marsian]

2 hours ago, hntnhole said:

I am not familiar with the complexities of your culture, but I rather doubt it.  He may be wrestling with coming to terms with his own issues of sexuality, and that can be quite a process.  Just be there for him, in whatever way he seems to need you. 

A cheerful smile can do wonders for a man going through a difficult time; give him plenty of that.  Remember that the turtle won the race, not the hare .... 

Maybe it's just me worrying too much. I try to have good faith. I have no reason to believe he would do such a thing. It's just that the mind, my mind, tries to find negative things for no reason.

I think he knows I'm there for him. And I'm also really greatful for this site because I have no one else to discuss that. I want another kiss.

[cheatingjock]

Nothing useful to add but doesn’t this remind you of Dafydd, the only gay in the village on Little Britain? 😁

[Marsian]

We did kiss two days ago. Lot's of kissing, all night long. We could have had sex but we were interrupted. My heart beats fast since then. I feel like a new person. So many things I don't know. I didn't know  what to say to him. Can't say I love you (although in my stupid mind I love all my relatives -he's a second cousin). I told him that I want him. I don't know what I should do about sex I don't feel confident to do anything and Idon't know what he expects from me. I don't  know if he's more experienced than me. I'm daydreaming. It's silly but it feels pink and sugarish in my mind. I had too much science and serious things in my mind, can't I  be a little careless?

[hntnhole]

1 hour ago, Marsian said:

We did kiss two days ago. Lot's of kissing, all night long

It's really great to feel like that, isn't it !!!

Sounds like you're on the right track though. Little by little, he seems to be increasingly aware not only of himself, but you as well.  I'm guessing that he's unsure of himself, careful not to "go too far", all of that.  Give him all the time he needs, and enjoy the bud that is beginning to open into full bloom.   Makes me smile ..... 

1 hour ago, Marsian said:

and Idon't know what he expects from me

I'm guessing he may not "know" either.  But that's part of the thrill - growing into your respective maturities sexually - and making that journey together.   Thanks for the update; you're both lucky guys. 

[storymix]

Maybe what I write now is no longer necessary: you are a doctor Here in Germany doctors are sworn to secrecy. You can tell your cousin about a young man. When you weren't in the place where you both live now, he told you he was gay. And then you can tell him everything about you as if this strange young man had told you that. The young man has now come into contact with you again. You can tell your cousin that you can understand the young man very well (maybe even: because you somehow feel the same way). But you don't know how to help the young man. Your cousin may know how to help the young man. Sorry, I do not speak English. The automatic translation is often incorrect.