Fakin’ It

[ErosWired]

I’ve made this question a poll so you can answer truthfully without shame. Be honest. Have you ever faked it? Why?

[NWUSHorny]

My reason for faking both the orgasm and the sex sounds is to encourage the other party. The last thing we need where I live is to discourage guys from becoming sluts, and because there is so little casual sex a lot of them are pretty inexperienced.

[ErosWired]

I do wonder how many bottoms end up making moaning sounds they aren’t really feeling because they’ve come to think it’s what you ‘should’ be doing, or what you ‘should’ sound like on the basis of porn?

[LetsPOZBreed]

I've done it when I was on top once.  We'd been out and had a quite a bit of wine.  The sex was good, but the cum just wasn't coming...so I had to improvise. 

[VersGuyAnon]

From memory I think I only faked it once. I just wanted it to be over quickly.

[rawwhitebottom]

A fake orgasm is such a joke……does a top really think they pulled it off and an experienced bottom can’t tell or feel the difference?????

you’re not fooling anyone!!

fastest way to be shown the door or exit in my book.

[KylerIsTrash]

I don’t fake it. I don’t really get into sober sex anymore but when I’m sober I don’t make much sound. When I’m in an enhanced state there’s nothing for me to hide. I enjoy having dudes watch me fuck but I’m not putting on a show. 

[badjujuboy]

On 5/14/2023 at 6:57 PM, ErosWired said:

I do wonder how many bottoms end up making moaning sounds they aren’t really feeling because they’ve come to think it’s what you ‘should’ be doing, or what you ‘should’ sound like on the basis of porn?

I’ve faked the sex sounds before…  I been chatting up an older guy for a while and had spent time with him and his friends in social surroundings when he was in town for business. We finally arranged to have a night together just the two of us. He took me out to a very nice restaurant and we sat at one of the best tables. Afterwards, we went to back to his hotel room with a great view of the water. Well… we started at it but I wasn’t feeling it but figured he deserved my “enthusiasm” after having such a nice night. As a bottom, it was all about his orgasm so I didn’t have to fake that part. 

Edited May 17, 2023 by badjujuboy

[FelchingPisser]

I have faked one to get out of horrible hook ups.  Not often, but more than once.

Usually, the noises I make are strictly how I feel.  If I have ever been louder, it would have been to get things going at a sex party or to let guys know sex was happening in the dark room.

[SamCummyCunt]

I've never faked an orgasm even when I couldn't climax. Sometimes it really is about pleasing the top whose load you're trying to milk with your pussy.  As for that special mental state, Ive only reached it once and didn't realize it until I saw the pics and video afterwards.  It seems that I can get pretty rough and like it.  

[ErosWired]

This really is interesting. So far, though the sampling of respondents is still fairly small, about 60% have faked an orgasm. I did not expect the number to be that high among males, it being harder for men to do so successfully than for women.

Part of the reason I asked the question is that my orgasms when being fucked are almost exclusively anal or prostate orgasms, and I was trained to have them in series, which is not true of most men (and trust me, not something anybody really wants), and I sometimes wonder whether men think I’m faking. If a Top tells me he likes a long fuck, I’ll go ahead and warn him up front that I’m going to be cumming a lot, and that I can’t help it, so there’s no surprise, and no doubt, because it’s so ridiculously easy to make me orgasm that way. But if I was expected to ejaculate it would be another story. That would take some doing. It’s not impossible to make me shoot, but there’s no way I could fake a penile orgasm, even if I was inserted in someone, which of course doesn’t occur.

[jeff238]

I only did it once, but it wasn't through noise much, maybe a little moaning, but I made my cock pulse, just like a real orgasm. When I was in my 20's I could stroke to the point the cum would "flow", I guess into the tube between the cum storage and, I think, the PC muscle, and I could let it sit there for a bit, and shoot it on command. Some time in my 40's I lost that ability.

Anyway, the cute Asian boy thought he got my load, but I just wasn't ready to cum yet.

[YourNoLimitsBottom]

I can honestly say I faked it once. The guy fucking me was trying to do it in positions that were not logistically feasible because of a height difference. Turned out he was bi or straight, not sure which, and had been looking for a woman but then changed direction when that didn't pan out. He was looking to get his rocks off and unfortunately for us both ended up choosing a guy quite a bit taller so fucking me up against a wall and then bent over the back of the couch wasn't working out for him. After trying to do those positions semi-squatted down, I convinced him to try the tried-and-true positions of doggy and missionary and he finally got there.

I was encouraging him the entire time, but in the end I was glad to get done and gone. It was a learning experience. To this day I try to play only with gay men and I am very up front with my physical description.

[tallslenderguy]

While i answered "no" to all three questions,  getting to that place was a process of sorts for me.  From lots of introspection and experience, i've learned that the most vital part of sex for me is connecting and meeting mutual need/desire. That can only happen if those involved are willing and able to be open and vulnerable. 

But i think we live in a social setting where 'faking it' is often the standard, so much so that i think it happens unconsciously a lot of the time. Yeah, i'm talking about more than orgasms and sex sounds here, but i think they have the same roots.  Dating myself here, but remember the Canon advert several years ago where he declares: "Image is everything"?   Of course, it was a play on words, selling a camera, but the meme was borrowed for that purpose.

 It seems part of our cultural conditioning to put forth, not our best 'real' foot, but to project an image that is constructed to get a particular response, and again, i think this is often done automatically and unconsciously. 

i believe, when we do this, we are part of and participating in a grand illusion. i think a common thread, that runs through all of humanity, is the need to be wanted, loved. But to get that requires being seen, known, which is vulnerable.   

As an aside, i have wondered if our drive for frequent hook-ups is a sort of mechanism we use to get affirmation, to be acknowledged and desired, using an appetite/hunger most of us have?  That we've quantified our need/desire to be loved/wanted down to 'a load' or 'a hole?'  

As i see it, If we 'fake' who and how we are, the real us becomes invisible  and we are not truly connecting what is there, but an image, a projection of what we hope may get a response we want/need. But then, the response is not to the real us, so it cannot feed that real us, it only affirms the false image. 

[Piggyybttmm]

Very hard for me to take when getting fucked....most cock feels too good and intense for me to do so