Cheating

[bottomboib]

2 hours ago, 120DaysofSodom said:

I can sustain one for many years, but it either needs to be open, or there will be a lot of infidelity and I wont apologize for it.

Stick with the infidelity. Much more satisfying 

[BootmanLA]

On 10/23/2023 at 8:32 PM, bottomboib said:

Stick with the infidelity. Much more satisfying 

That's like saying "stick with stealing money from your boyfriend's wallet instead of working. Much more satisfying." 

[Breedthisslut]

I can’t be monogamous and I’m upfront with that. It might explain why I don’t have a serious boyfriend…lol

[subbottomguy]

9 minutes ago, Breedthisslut said:

I can’t be monogamous and I’m upfront with that. It might explain why I don’t have a serious boyfriend…lol

I’m the same, I just need variety in my life. I did have an ex that was cool with it and even liked watching 

[BootmanLA]

On 10/26/2023 at 10:53 AM, Breedthisslut said:

I can’t be monogamous and I’m upfront with that. It might explain why I don’t have a serious boyfriend…lol

and

On 10/26/2023 at 11:03 AM, subbottomguy said:

I’m the same, I just need variety in my life. I did have an ex that was cool with it and even liked watching 

There's nothing wrong with that! If monogamy isn't for you, by all means, avoid it like the plague. I'm in an open relationship myself and monogamy isn't an issue for either of us.

But that's just it - neither of us is pretending to be monogamous to the other while cheating on the side. I say this often but I'll say it again: cheating is not "sex with someone other than your partner". Cheating is breaking the rules that you and your partner agree to, implicitly or explicitly, in your relationship.

Find a partner who will agree to rules you can both accept (or who has no rules). Or stay single and play the field. Just don't be a cheat. It's low-character.

[120DaysofSodom]

On 10/23/2023 at 7:07 PM, Godliath said:

Ever cuck your bf?

All my boyfriends are cucks lol

[120DaysofSodom]

On 10/23/2023 at 9:32 PM, bottomboib said:

Stick with the infidelity. Much more satisfying 

Believe me: Ill always take cock and wont care about whether im cheating on somebody or not lol.

[HornyTyler]

1 minute ago, 120DaysofSodom said:

Believe me: Ill always take cock and wont care about whether im cheating on somebody or not lol.

The best world is one where no one cares in what holes you stick your cock in or how often.

[fisterm8]

On 10/19/2023 at 3:35 AM, Cumslutbottomm said:

Just curious for those of us in relationships of any kind, whether just dating or married, how many cheat and how do you not feel bad about it? my current partner has cheated on the past but has been to my knowledge faithful. (i unknowingly go through his phone. ) yesterday however, i was on sniffies out of pure curiosity and ended up letting some college kid cum in my hole understall on campus. i feel horrible but i also want to do it again. any tips for having the best of both worlds? 

you should NOT be going through his phone without him saying its ok beforehand.

[Piggyybttmm]

On 10/19/2023 at 3:56 AM, MuscledHorse said:

"Cheating", like sexual monogamy, is a concept manufactured by religions like Christianity, Islam and Mormonism. It has zero basis in reality or nature. The sooner males embrace this and live by it, the better their relationships will flourish without a cloud of jealousy that hangs over most monogamous relationships. Sex is the ultimate male Pleasure sport in my view. My other half and I both play and he not only encourages my promiscuity, he is often the camera guy on my porn shoots. There's none of those toxic behaviors of  going through each other's phones when the other isn't looking and so forth. It's just sex. We can focus on our commitment to each other without having to worry if the other might be "cheating" sexually with someone else because the concept is rendered null. 

Completely agree. I truly believe monogamy, like most things is a social construct. 

[rogerray65]

As far as I know… my husband and I have been monogamous for the whole nine years of our relationship. Now that he is getting older (76 yo) and we have sex much less than I would like/need. I find myself looking outside of our marriage to satisfy my sexual needs. No, I haven’t been unfaithful yet, but everyday it gets closer to my stepping outside of our marriage. Then of course I start fantasizing about taking a bareback Poz cock. I don’t know where this will end up, but it has me thinking about cheating to satisfy my desires. Kisses!

[BBSwimmerBoy]

I will always take cock and fuck ass and I don't care if i am cheating or not.  It is just sex.

[BootmanLA]

17 hours ago, rogerray65 said:

As far as I know… my husband and I have been monogamous for the whole nine years of our relationship. Now that he is getting older (76 yo) and we have sex much less than I would like/need. I find myself looking outside of our marriage to satisfy my sexual needs. No, I haven’t been unfaithful yet, but everyday it gets closer to my stepping outside of our marriage. Then of course I start fantasizing about taking a bareback Poz cock. I don’t know where this will end up, but it has me thinking about cheating to satisfy my desires. Kisses!

A few points:

1. You say "he is getting older" but as far as I know, given linear time, that means you're getting older too, right? I get that you're a lot younger, but still.

2. Regardless, it's certainly a thing that some people lose libido earlier and faster than others, and it's unsurprising (if not guaranteed) that your husband would be farther along that path than you are, given the age gap.

3. Have you thought about asking him what he thinks y'all should do about it?

[PozBearWI]

Indeed @BootmanLA, we might observe given the opportunity, but one's relationship is between the two (sometimes more) individuals and this seems to be an inside the relationship topic.  

[BootmanLA]

22 minutes ago, JimInWisc said:

Indeed @BootmanLA, we might observe given the opportunity, but one's relationship is between the two (sometimes more) individuals and this seems to be an inside the relationship topic.  

 Cheating, by definition, always is, because it concerns breaking the rules the two people have set up for themselves. It's not a legal case, where you can go to the statutes and look up what constitutes cheating and what doesn't.

Which is why I'm asking if he's discussed what his husband thinks. It may be that his fears of cheating are unfounded because his husband would give his blessing to outside play. It may be that they're well founded because his partner expects strict monogamy. But he won't know where, if anywhere, they fall along the spectrum between those two positions without communication.