Do you feel masculine when you bottom?

[TightBott7]

6 minutes ago, topblkmale said:

Yes

Yes

Yes

Yes

 

Many tops, myself included, are completely turned-off when bottoms become overly masculine (dominant) while getting fucked.

You know, the growling, woofing, 'acting thuggish' or displaying machismo. Yes, it varies by culture/ethnic background.

 

I totally agree. While I’m otherwise masculine looking and acting, Alpha tops have made accept that it’s my role to give up the last shred of masculinity and manhood to enhance theirs, and that I am at my best when I exclusively give up my mind and body to please a real man who’ll ultimately use me and breed me as he pleases. And for this I’m grateful.

[stillbreedin]

not only should you feel masculine whatever the role you assume, but in a course i took on human sexuality the professor claimed that the bottom  (he may have used the word 'passive') is always the one in control.  interesting, though i think it will generate a lot of negative views.

[blackrobe]

19 hours ago, topblkmale said:

Many tops, myself included, are completely turned-off when bottoms become overly masculine (dominant) while getting fucked.

You know, the growling, woofing, 'acting thuggish' or displaying machismo. Yes, it varies by culture/ethnic background.

The top breeder sets the tone.

I'm a very submissive and compliant bottom so I'll vibe with where he is. I feel strong when I'm giving it all up to a breeder, even when he's calling me his girl or faggot, talking about impregnating my pussy or cunt, I'm still giving him back the intensity that says he doesn't have to hold back. One Dom black breeder wants me silent no matter what he does to me. His dick gets bigger and harder when he hurts me and he only breeds me when he's holding me down with his hands around my neck calling me his white faggot.

I feel strong and masculine in taking everything he needs to dish out and surrendering to him, but there's nothing about that which is performatively masculine as I think you describe. 

[Rawonly06]

When i'm bottom, i just want cocks inside my hole and good loads that i will keep inside as long as i can.

It doesn’t change my feeling. I'm still a piggy guy.

[Eagerindayton]

Sometimes when I bottom I am submissive and very appreciative for the cock(s) in my hole. Other times when I'm in a mood to get fucked, I am more verbal and sometimes even bossy. 

[Iker80]

On 8/30/2025 at 6:17 PM, topblkmale said:

Many tops, myself included, are completely turned-off when bottoms become overly masculine (dominant) while getting fucked.

You know, the growling, woofing, 'acting thuggish' or displaying machismo. Yes, it varies by culture/ethnic background.

Well, that would sometimes be me then! It's cool, can't be hot for every guy. But it's interesting because I think you've found a big thing I was asking about, because there are now a lot of men online locally who are fem and guys who are saying they are looking for them. I don't have the look or personality to work for them and I wonder what they're thinking and feeling.

I'm the opposite of what you said as top too, I like guys who stay more traditional masculine and find the opposite a turn off. Same for the guys I meet, most of them want to go back to familiar acting after we've done whatever we've been up to. One guy I meet with likes to fist bump after we've blown each other and tell me it's been fun. I feel confused if a guy switches around to be more fem. I know I just grew up in a very gender focused world. Lots of brothers, lots of sports, 100% expectations to be that type of guy. So I don't really leave that headspace ever, not really sure how I could or would.