Do you feel masculine when you bottom?

[TightBott7]

6 minutes ago, topblkmale said:

Yes

Yes

Yes

Yes

 

Many tops, myself included, are completely turned-off when bottoms become overly masculine (dominant) while getting fucked.

You know, the growling, woofing, 'acting thuggish' or displaying machismo. Yes, it varies by culture/ethnic background.

 

I totally agree. While I’m otherwise masculine looking and acting, Alpha tops have made accept that it’s my role to give up the last shred of masculinity and manhood to enhance theirs, and that I am at my best when I exclusively give up my mind and body to please a real man who’ll ultimately use me and breed me as he pleases. And for this I’m grateful.

[stillbreedin]

not only should you feel masculine whatever the role you assume, but in a course i took on human sexuality the professor claimed that the bottom  (he may have used the word 'passive') is always the one in control.  interesting, though i think it will generate a lot of negative views.

[blackrobe]

19 hours ago, topblkmale said:

Many tops, myself included, are completely turned-off when bottoms become overly masculine (dominant) while getting fucked.

You know, the growling, woofing, 'acting thuggish' or displaying machismo. Yes, it varies by culture/ethnic background.

The top breeder sets the tone.

I'm a very submissive and compliant bottom so I'll vibe with where he is. I feel strong when I'm giving it all up to a breeder, even when he's calling me his girl or faggot, talking about impregnating my pussy or cunt, I'm still giving him back the intensity that says he doesn't have to hold back. One Dom black breeder wants me silent no matter what he does to me. His dick gets bigger and harder when he hurts me and he only breeds me when he's holding me down with his hands around my neck calling me his white faggot.

I feel strong and masculine in taking everything he needs to dish out and surrendering to him, but there's nothing about that which is performatively masculine as I think you describe. 

[Rawonly06]

When i'm bottom, i just want cocks inside my hole and good loads that i will keep inside as long as i can.

It doesn’t change my feeling. I'm still a piggy guy.

[Eagerindayton]

Sometimes when I bottom I am submissive and very appreciative for the cock(s) in my hole. Other times when I'm in a mood to get fucked, I am more verbal and sometimes even bossy. 

[Iker80]

On 8/30/2025 at 6:17 PM, topblkmale said:

Many tops, myself included, are completely turned-off when bottoms become overly masculine (dominant) while getting fucked.

You know, the growling, woofing, 'acting thuggish' or displaying machismo. Yes, it varies by culture/ethnic background.

Well, that would sometimes be me then! It's cool, can't be hot for every guy. But it's interesting because I think you've found a big thing I was asking about, because there are now a lot of men online locally who are fem and guys who are saying they are looking for them. I don't have the look or personality to work for them and I wonder what they're thinking and feeling.

I'm the opposite of what you said as top too, I like guys who stay more traditional masculine and find the opposite a turn off. Same for the guys I meet, most of them want to go back to familiar acting after we've done whatever we've been up to. One guy I meet with likes to fist bump after we've blown each other and tell me it's been fun. I feel confused if a guy switches around to be more fem. I know I just grew up in a very gender focused world. Lots of brothers, lots of sports, 100% expectations to be that type of guy. So I don't really leave that headspace ever, not really sure how I could or would.

[Pampix]

No I feel more feminine as being a total bottom, but however I like and have to be in control of the situation for some practical and safety reasons but try to do this in a subtle way . Yeah we can not get pregnant as a bottom but we have in my opinion a kind  of inevitable aspects that have been mostly concerns that woman have to deal with. So there is a kind of practical female aspect to it next to the emotional and sexual aspect that some bottoms experience or perceive as being female mainly because of society traditional roles... It does for me and I like it. The more "practical" female aspects are in my opinion the fact that you have to prepare yourself to be penetrated by cleaning and stretching your ass a little and lubricate it what with most woman is achieved mostly by foreplay. You also have to be careful and responsible towards your body, mostly also comparable for women, they have to be careful not to get pregnant more then their partner  that fucks them because it is their body that can get pregnant and not their lover and we as a bottom have to be careful not to get HIV. As we have almost 15 times more chance to HIV then a top we have to be more careful as women do. Taking every day PreP give me a bit the same ritual as woman that takes every day birth control pills. After so many years being a total bottom my sexuality shifted completely to receptive anal sex needing being penetrated to cum also as a woman. After sex I have to deal with the semen of my lover leaking out my as also as a woman has to deal with. Also the interaction of being led makes mee feel more feminine being mostly not the initiator in having sex. Being fingered, held strongly, pampered, turned over, led to suck my lover, etc. 

However after all the years my body feminised in my perception quite spontaneously by my sexuality shifting from being protrusive penis-centered to receptive centered as is standard in a biological way for woman. I feel also having spontaneously increasingly less male power and attitude the more I have been in the passive bottom role in the passing years without especially wanting to be (consciously) wanting to fit in that role. 

So no I feel not masculine as a bottom!