Preferred terms and derogatory names during sex talk

[BritishCumdump]

** Trigger warning for offensive words here ** This is probably a controversial topic as everyone has different preferences but what words or names do people enjoy using during sex or when engaging in sex talk on apps? 

I've got an Irish master who loves to call me faggot constantly, like it's his default term for me and it turns me on so much being degraded by him in that thick irish accent and I've slowly become trained in getting turned on and opening up more whenever I hear it said. I also love my ass or hole being referred to as my pussy and I dunno why but I think it's cos the implication is that the only purpose of my hole is for fucking. 

Now I know that a lot of people hate these words, and I know guys that flinch at the F word or hearing the P word will totally take them out of the moment, so I thought I'd ask your preferences. Any words you love hearing or being called and any you really can't stand? How do you personally test the waters with new partners about what terms are acceptable? 

[norefusal]

yeah, this is not the type of stuff i can talk about openly w friends, but here? you're def among like minded folk 😈

this kind of rollplay is very tricky for me in the sense that no way when i was younger and struggling to overcome my own internalized homophobia in a more openly homophobic world would i have easily adapted to this. 

now that im older and more confident in my life i can let myself go and enjoy it as a bit of fun but i still gotta be careful to keep those boundaries. it's also kind ironic or even sad that i've accepted my sub side while also a bit past my prime, but whatever. it is what it is. 

i was hooking up w this sadistic dom top who only referred to me in derogatory speak. he'd randomly text me"get your bitch ass over here NOW you useless faggot" and i'd instantly get rock hard. 

but after a few too many lost weekends spun out serving Sir geared up in his playroom, i realized it was getting out of control. 

he considers me a flake who couldn't commit to the lifestyle and i guess he's right, but its hard to kept two lives going for long, one eventually seems to want to take over. 

[Room4ustwo]

These days I most prefer being called "whore".  I will suck any dick, eat any asshole, and offer up my own asshole to anyone.  Absolutely anyone. (And i don't charge anybody.... such a deal!)

[yoursinmine]

It's all hot to me, I love it. I think my ex rarely, if ever, used my actual name, even when introducing me to people. It was always something derogatory. The hornier he got and the closer to cumming he was, the more inflammatory he became. 

I'm not sure if it's related, but I find myself more attracted to conventionally unattractive men. This isn't about my preference for big bellied, older men, that is quite common. But I get rock hard thinking about being taken by what most would consider ugly. What's up with that, do you think?

[hntnhole]

I think the derogatory possibility is more in the way the (potentially) degrading statement is made.  

For instance:  Imagine you're in a fuckjoint where everyone's fucking everyone - or at a buddy's orgy, or anywhere guys are fucking. 

Saying "you're such a whore" can be delivered with a sneer, a snarl, furrowed brow, and it would be difficult to mis-interpret.  

Or, a guy can almost purr - like a cat - into a guy's ear, "you're such a whore" in a loving, caring, reinforcing way - and it will be taken as a very high compliment indeed.  

The first is utterly degrading, and definitely not conducive to a hot fuck.  The second can be whispered, quietly, lovingly, into the ear of a hot-Holed boy cumdrunk on Cock, Sperm, taking load after load, and it would be completely affirming of his Lusts for wanton sex.  

[norefusal]

context is everything. 

i'm FWBs w this couple and we often attend the same sex parties. one of them will regularly talk about me to other guests this way and given the context "this one's a real whore" is either derogatory or complimentary as we're all there for group sex after all. but if he said that about me in a public social situation where everyone is fully clothed? i doubt i would like it. 

[Room4ustwo]

18 minutes ago, hntnhole said:

I think the derogatory possibility is more in the way the (potentially) degrading statement is made.  

For instance:  Imagine you're in a fuckjoint where everyone's fucking everyone - or at a buddy's orgy, or anywhere guys are fucking. 

Saying "you're such a whore" can be delivered with a sneer, a snarl, furrowed brow, and it would be difficult to mis-interpret.  

Or, a guy can almost purr - like a cat - into a guy's ear, "you're such a whore" in a loving, caring, reinforcing way - and it will be taken as a very high compliment indeed.  

The first is utterly degrading, and definitely not conducive to a hot fuck.  The second can be whispered, quietly, lovingly, into the ear of a hot-Holed boy cumdrunk on Cock, Sperm, taking load after load, and it would be completely affirming of his Lusts for wanton sex.  

I much prefer he say it the first way.   In as derogatory way as possible.

[BlindRawFucker1]

As I have said many times, my hole isn’t a P or C.  I am not a woman.  And, besides, those words are degrading in any case whether male or female.

 

Also, I will “not” allow anyone to call me the F. Word either.

 

If you think I’m a prude, go right ahead.

[PozBearWI]

30 minutes ago, norefusal said:

context is everything. 

i'm FWBs w this couple and we often attend the same sex parties. one of them will regularly talk about me to other guests this way and given the context "this one's a real whore" is either derogatory or complimentary as we're all there for group sex after all. but if he said that about me in a public social situation where everyone is fully clothed? i doubt i would like it. 

Up arrow for sure, and yet I stumble over "is everything".  It is essential for sure, but obviously there are other facts.  

[hntnhole]

2 hours ago, Room4ustwo said:

I much prefer he say it the first way.   In as derogatory way as possible.

Well, to each their own, right?  We make our own beds and then we lie in them.  

[Room4ustwo]

54 minutes ago, hntnhole said:

Well, to each their own, right?  We make our own beds and then we lie in them.  

Of course!  And all of my hookups are anonymous so I don't face a scenario where I'm out in public and get called a whore there, only when I'm getting banged in some hotel room.

[Sfmike64]

8 hours ago, BlindRawFucker1 said:

As I have said many times, my hole isn’t a P or C.  I am not a woman.  And, besides, those words are degrading in any case whether male or female.

 

Also, I will “not” allow anyone to call me the F. Word either.

 

If you think I’m a prude, go right ahead.

You're not a prude, at all. Some people just don't get off on degradation. Others crave it. The trick is not to "yuck someone's yum." 

[Heir2012]

I recently read through some Telegram messages someone sent me in which he called me a faggot and a whole. He called my hole a cunt and talked about r@pp!ng it. 

Obviously r@pe is wrong. No argument there. But the meaning of being rough and owning the situation and me as he made me his faggot just gets me hard! 

It makes me feel dirty and wrong, and that's what I want! 

Now, this isn't for every relationship I have. Maybe it's for a quick fuck. Or my partner knows to use certain terms at certain times. But sometimes I want kind words and passion. 

[foryouruse]

13 hours ago, BlindRawFucker1 said:

As I have said many times, my hole isn’t a P or C.  I am not a woman.  And, besides, those words are degrading in any case whether male or female.

 

Also, I will “not” allow anyone to call me the F. Word either.

 

If you think I’m a prude, go right ahead.

I’m pretty much of the same mind on being a pretty good hole, but not being a woman. I’m also of the same mind on the F word, though I might have to admit to slut or kinky (on dates). I find I can’t call guys the N word, whether it is time I grew up, where I grew up, or mixed marriages in the family and I’ve apologized to guys who wanted me to use it to describe them or their dick. I have called quite a few guys of both races, Sir…

[Westlonlad]

I love dehumanising terminology when I'm in a session. For example, being called "it" or variations of really help me get into a pliable headspace.

Better still, if there are a few guys using me, then having them talk about me (as opposed to "to" me) really turns me on.