Meaning of wearing just a jock or assless underwear at fuck club/bathhouse/orgy

[hntnhole]

45 minutes ago, NWUSHorny said:

put a pair on do a circuit around the bathhouse, change and do it all over again for 3 or 4 hours.

This must be my "dense" day .... I don't get it ....  why would guys drag a bag of various jocks/underwear to a tubs, and just parade around in them?  The tubs are there for guys to fuck/get fucked ... not some parade of butch (or maybe not so much) panties.  WTF ....... 

Sounds more like a men's-only drag show than a fuckjoint where guys go to take/give loads.  

[AirmaxUK]

Personally, I have worn a rubber jock to the baths - works well in the wetter areas.  I hope it is an enticement to guys who might be looking for a place to dump a load, but it hasn't worked very well so far. Seems to scare off people - or maybe it's just the bottoms realising they won't get a load from me.  Wearing a butt plug seems to get better results. 

Where I frequent, the GenZ boys seem mostly oblivious to the message wearing a jock in a sauna conveys. The whole look-but-don't-touch-ask-permission-and-swap-instagrams-first  thing seems to be de-rigueur for them. Bit of a buzzkill in the darkroom, tbh. 

[NWUSHorny]

1 hour ago, hntnhole said:

This must be my "dense" day .... I don't get it ....  why would guys drag a bag of various jocks/underwear to a tubs, and just parade around in them?  The tubs are there for guys to fuck/get fucked ... not some parade of butch (or maybe not so much) panties.  WTF ....... 

Sounds more like a men's-only drag show than a fuckjoint where guys go to take/give loads.  

We see lots of fetish gear doing the blue ball no mating dance parade at the fuckjoints here. I've been here for many years and still don't get it. I do know I've pissed off more than a few guys by suggesting bathhouses are intended for a different purpose.

[NWUSHorny]

50 minutes ago, AirmaxUK said:

Where I frequent, the GenZ boys seem mostly oblivious to the message wearing a jock in a sauna conveys. The whole look-but-don't-touch-ask-permission-and-swap-instagrams-first  thing seems to be de-rigueur for them. Bit of a buzzkill in the darkroom, tbh. 

It's not limited to any particular generation here, it was common long before GenZ reached puberty.

We haven't had a darkroom here since COVID, but they used to loudly announce "I don't fuck" when entering the darkroom, which is a big enough buzzkill to put a stop to all activity for an hour or more. My generation, GenX and older were the worst culprits for making the announcement. I'm convinced that a lot of them get off on being a cock blocker.

[tattedBOTTOMdad]

On 4/30/2025 at 8:21 PM, GuelphGuy72 said:

I couldn’t have said it any better.  I wear a jock to let tops know my ass is available for their pleasure.

I second that! 
Yes fine I will admit that I am a total bottom (ok maybe 99.99999%, I have topped a whopping total of four times in my entire life 😉) and I love wearing a harness and a pair of shorty chaps w/cod piece up front covering my incredibly average sized cock when I go to a bathhouse. And I do my to keep it covered throughout the night, tend to not go in the hot tub or other wet environment anyway, so that’s not a problem. It’s perfect for the dark room or dungeon bent over  a bench, better yet my favorite strapped into a sling, legs spread wide and high exposing my welcoming hole to all to use and enjoy.   (I just bring the one though, I don’t pack for an extended stay, and definitely don’t do “wardrobe changes in between scenes” lol) And keeping in the spirit of total honesty, I did intend, and hoped, by wearing that, to clearly communicate directly to everyone that my hole is open to the public and ready for cock, while also ensuring that it’s understood mine isn’t available for use at this time. (I mean unless it’s an actual life or death emergency…you know to save a life like if someone chocking or something haha)  Funny, I’ve never seen this many guys saying that jocks or similar cock covering ass exposing garment send a message saying the wearer didn’t want to fuck and in turn wouldn’t give them the time of day. My response - good, I hoped a concealed cock would tell anyone and everyone that I don’t want ‘to fuck’, I want to ‘get fucked’ as clearly indicated by the large open area in back ensuring my ass remains well exposed and at the ready. I don’t even usually touch my cock until the end of the night, or more often wait till I get home to relieve the back pressure. 
I’m in my mid 50’s and have had always - as long as I can remember, had the impression that wearing that kind of gear has always sent that exact message. I’m just a little surprised how pronounced the split is between two distinct groups and how it’s “understood” by either party. They both hear “I don’t want to fuck” but they heard it differently - one side says great we’re here for the ass anyway, not caring about my cock since they’re likely top/vers top, while the other side say “fine then diva whatever we’ll ignore you”. There doesn’t seem to be an in between either. I’ll keep wearing the chaos or an jock and sending that message since it’s accurate.

Seriously though, if some guy ever comes up to me, gives me a hard time about it, telling me it sends the wrong message and I should take it off - well that’s when I’ out and tear into them. “Uh ok sweetie, you do know the message wasn’t for you right, Karen?  Don’t worry, you’ll get used to it, no one is going to wanna talk to you,