How and when did you start lowering your standards ?

[Cumfilledbottomboi]

34 minutes ago, Warmnsalty said:

As I've aged, when I was younger I was very selective now in my 50's less so.  Have sucked and been fucked by guys I would have turned down in my 30s. Realizing it's a young mans game and as I age I need to be more open to letting whoever needs to get off use my holes. 

I’ve been like this my whole sexlife. I’m just a cumdump for men to nut in. 

[IntoBBvisitor]

4 minutes ago, Warmnsalty said:

No, I had plenty of fun ... just now in more of a "use me" head space - wanna do an anon cum dump this year, bucket list item

Hit.

Let us know.

[ffWhole]

23 hours ago, extremsub337 said:

I am not sure I ever had any standards.  I always just wanted cock and really never cared about much else.  Many, many years ago, when I was just a teenager, I was getting fucked in an old roach infested flop house.  And the men fucking me weren't exactly the most reputable!

Same here...
First there were the cruising areas in nature...
Not much later the Adult shops with video booths and cinemas...
After that I was ass up for any hard cock in Gay Saunas. Some were extremely dirty and gotten fucked by unknown filthy men.
Nowadays, I rather get used by older men that don't look too good... maybe slightly wasted, so Poz is very likely.

[extremsub337]

1 hour ago, ffWhole said:

Same here...
First there were the cruising areas in nature...
Not much later the Adult shops with video booths and cinemas...
After that I was ass up for any hard cock in Gay Saunas. Some were extremely dirty and gotten fucked by unknown filthy men.
Nowadays, I rather get used by older men that don't look too good... maybe slightly wasted, so Poz is very likely.

Exactly.  Started in a park sucking cock.  Them an old porno theater sucking cock and being fucked.  Then going with bums from the theater to the flop house next door.  And my 1st gang bang in a room there.

[Bbbtmws]

In my 40’s started to go to the ABS and take any load through the hole. Always offered my ass too. One time after a particularly bad day at work, set up in the local ABS and took loads for a couple hours from guys getting off work. After I came out, the two shop owners asked if I was ok. I know I even took their loads while the other was on the lookout. Guess I was good for business. 
 

 

Now I love to be bent over and take any dick in my ass especially without looking back. Love when I feel those skinny warm/hot legs and lots of sweating, just sure that it’s a wasted fucker giving his nut.  

[NWUSHorny]

I was a little more selective on looks when I was younger, but it has always been more about sexual enthusiasm for me, so a total pig could generally fuck me or get me to fuck them regardless of what they looked like.

I did go through a brief phase when I 1st started bottoming where I would only get fucked by guys who were bigger than me, but quickly figured out if I wanted a lot of dick in my ass, that it was a stupid rule.

[blackrobe]

On 12/29/2025 at 8:30 AM, IntoBBvisitor said:

Tell us how, when and why you started lowering your standards.

I'm going to push back on the idea that everyone has "standards" or the presumption that they get lowered.

Instead, I think people can grow, learn, and change their behavior for lots of other reasons. I mean, even the idea that you "lower your standards" is really judgy and unpleasant to think about. Even that concept *way oversimplifies* how sexual attraction works, at least the way I experience it. 

I'm always looking to find chemistry and connection in the sex I have, whatever that might look like in the moment. That doesn't happen along age, racial, body type, etc. lines because I've had chemistry with so many different types of men.

When I say a blanket "no" to someone fucking me, its usually because they want to use a condom, I've seen them being unkind or an asshole to someone (I don't reward that with hole), or they trigger my self-preservation/safety spidey-senses, etc. 

My turning point came from realizing that awesome sex is purely a numbers game. The more guys you fuck, the more likely you'll find good, satisfying sex. It's just probability. I also realized that the more filtering criteria you have, the less candidates are available to provide that satisfying sex. There is this weird thing we've been trained to believe that we can magically decide who will float our boat just from some arbitrary criteria. Then once you've fucked some guys who are absolutely fantastic at sex that you and other guys have routinely overlooked, you start to realize how little the things we thought were important have to do with being sexually fulfilled and satisfied. 

When I let go of the ideas I had about what I *thought* would make me feel good, and instead just tried lots of kinds of men to see what actually *did* make me feel good, then things got interesting.

I don't think that was dropping my standards so much as letting go some impractical BS and taking a practical and pragmatic approach.

 

[descartes70817]

I really dropped all pretense of having standards after finding myself fucking an anonymous stranger bareback in an ABS video booth and cumming so much harder than when I selected bottoms by looks more than by fuckability or eagerness.

Neither knowing nor caring about HIV status was a huge part of the appeal and finding a community of like minded men made it even more appealing and looks have become almost the last thing I look for, while anyone with tattoos of scorpions or bio-hazard symbols always gets invited back.

[TightBott7]

1 hour ago, blackrobe said:

I'm going to push back on the idea that everyone has "standards" or the presumption that they get lowered.

Instead, I think people can grow, learn, and change their behavior for lots of other reasons. I mean, even the idea that you "lower your standards" is really judgy and unpleasant to think about. Even that concept *way oversimplifies* how sexual attraction works, at least the way I experience it. 

I'm always looking to find chemistry and connection in the sex I have, whatever that might look like in the moment. That doesn't happen along age, racial, body type, etc. lines because I've had chemistry with so many different types of men.

When I say a blanket "no" to someone fucking me, its usually because they want to use a condom, I've seen them being unkind or an asshole to someone (I don't reward that with hole), or they trigger my self-preservation/safety spidey-senses, etc. 

My turning point came from realizing that awesome sex is purely a numbers game. The more guys you fuck, the more likely you'll find good, satisfying sex. It's just probability. I also realized that the more filtering criteria you have, the less candidates are available to provide that satisfying sex. There is this weird thing we've been trained to believe that we can magically decide who will float our boat just from some arbitrary criteria. Then once you've fucked some guys who are absolutely fantastic at sex that you and other guys have routinely overlooked, you start to realize how little the things we thought were important have to do with being sexually fulfilled and satisfied. 

When I let go of the ideas I had about what I *thought* would make me feel good, and instead just tried lots of kinds of men to see what actually *did* make me feel good, then things got interesting.

I don't think that was dropping my standards so much as letting go some impractical BS and taking a practical and pragmatic approach.

 

I totally agree. In my case it was more like expanding the pool of potential partners as I gradually accepted my sub fag status and realized that reason to exist was to please real men.