Was I in the wrong, and more importantly did I scare a young guy out of exploring his piggish side?

[NWUSHorny]

I managed to make an approximately 20 year old Asian guy jump up and suddenly leave a bathhouse after he interacted with me this weekend.

Here's the backstory, there were 3 youngish guys watching pretty intently as guys were fucking in the common play spaces, even though the local norm is to steer clear of the play areas if guys are fucking in them. They had watched me both fuck and get fucked several times, and this particular guy seemed to stand extremely close every time I was engaged in a fuck including standing in front of me encouraging me, with a raging towel covered hardon just out of reach while I was getting railed hard from behind. Not to much after that particular fuck the other 2 young guys disappeared, I'm assuming they left, and the guy in question came up and started rubbing his finger around my well fucked hole and practically put is towel covered cock in my hand for me to feel. After a few minutes of him massaging around the outside of my hole and me feeling up his towel covered dick, I start reaching through the towel to cop a feel of what felt like a very nice piece of meat without the impediment of the towel. Apparently that wasn't the thing to do, because he literally jumped, left the play area, and while I got up to take a piss, he was already dressed a leaving the bathhouse and wouldn't even look at me before I got back to the playroom. I'm almost sure he didn't cum, and was reacting out of pure fear.

I get an indignant earful or a lecture on the many "great" ways to have "sex" without fucking from guys who don't  who fuck when, when I start to hint that one of us needs to get a cock in their ass at the tubs here in Portland on a regular basis, but I've never had anyone react quite like this. He seemed to be into what was happening, until he wasn't and then instead of telling me no or just backing away he literally ran in terror.

[PozToxVersPig]

Absolutely nothing you described here should make you feel like you caused anything about this guy's reaction.  If he was high, he may have just had a reaction because of that.  If he wasn't, he may have been approaching some limit in his brain.  But you cannot be held responsible for this.

[onlyraw]

Or he was just a nervous guy … first time at the baths …. And you (or anyone) touching his cock skin on skin was too much for him

I remember when I was a young thing and went to a movie theater for the first time… and after a little while a guy came and sat down next to me and groped my cock 

I freaked and ran out …. I mean I knew that’s what went on there … that is why I went…. But the reality was too much 

it was probably at least a year before I went back …. And back …. And …..

So it was not you …, you were playing by the rules …. It was him. …. Maybe in a while you will see him back (maybe on his back…) 

but you don’t need to worry … if anything you helped his education…

[PozToxVersPig]

5 minutes ago, onlyraw said:

I freaked and ran out ….

My first was at Hollywood Boutique [think before following links] https://www.yelp.com/biz/hollywood-erotic-boutique-seattle?osq=Gay+Porn+Booths in North Seattle.  The accuracy of this doesn't really do it justice:  "The place is a joke. The video rooms in the basement have become extremely filthy to the point that whatever you touch is sticky with grime. A total health hazard. Of course, three creepers is what you find down there at any time. If you're lucky, you could find a fourth."

I managed to stay there until some dude wanted to fuck me and started to and then realized the was no flooring, and a woman was in the corner getting railed that looked passed out.

AND I RAN THE FUCK OUT WITHOUT EVEN HAVING MY PANTS FULLY UP.  I couldn't have gotten to my car fast enough! 🙂 And look what I've become! 🙂  @NWUSHorny for all you know, this guy could turn out to be someone like me --- 🙂

[NWUSHorny]

23 minutes ago, PozToxVersPig said:

My first was at Hollywood Boutique [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.yelp.com/biz/hollywood-erotic-boutique-seattle?osq=Gay+Porn+Booths in North Seattle.  The accuracy of this doesn't really do it justice:  "The place is a joke. The video rooms in the basement have become extremely filthy to the point that whatever you touch is sticky with grime. A total health hazard. Of course, three creepers is what you find down there at any time. If you're lucky, you could find a fourth."

I've been in a few situations where I felt like that and left, but nothing like what this guy did.

[NordicBtm]

21 minutes ago, PozToxVersPig said:

My first was at Hollywood Boutique [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.yelp.com/biz/hollywood-erotic-boutique-seattle?osq=Gay+Porn+Booths in North Seattle.  The accuracy of this doesn't really do it justice:  "The place is a joke. The video rooms in the basement have become extremely filthy to the point that whatever you touch is sticky with grime. A total health hazard. Of course, three creepers is what you find down there at any time. If you're lucky, you could find a fourth."

I managed to stay there until some dude wanted to fuck me and started to and then realized the was no flooring, and a woman was in the corner getting railed that looked passed out.

AND I RAN THE FUCK OUT WITHOUT EVEN HAVING MY PANTS FULLY UP.  I couldn't have gotten to my car fast enough! 🙂 And look what I've become! 🙂  @NWUSHorny for all you know, this guy could turn out to be someone like me --- 🙂

You definitely did nothing wrong. The guy obviously got off on what he saw but then some switch in his brain flipped and he freaked out. Completely normal also but nothing to do with you. He will jerk off to this memory until he goes back and slowly starts to dissemble those brain circuits of guilt that freak him out. As far as as I can tell you are doing gods work 😉.

[PozToxVersPig]

1 minute ago, NordicBtm said:

You definitely did nothing wrong. The guy obviously got off on what he saw but then some switch in his brain flipped and he freaked out. Completely normal also but nothing to do with you. He will jerk off to this memory until he goes back and slowly starts to dissemble those brain circuits of guilt that freak him out. As far as as I can tell you are doing gods work 😉.

LOL why am I getting quoted in this?  🙂 I don't think I did anything wrong, nor do I think @NWUSHorny did 🙂

[blackrobe]

1 hour ago, NWUSHorny said:

I managed to make an approximately 20 year old Asian guy jump up and suddenly leave a bathhouse after he interacted with me this weekend.

[...] He seemed to be into what was happening, until he wasn't and then instead of telling me no or just backing away he literally ran in terror.

Put me down as on Team "Not your problem/fault".

He was having a lot of skin contact on your hole and bolted when you reached to have skin contact with his dick. That seems to violate the simple rules of good manners. 

[NordicBtm]

11 minutes ago, PozToxVersPig said:

LOL why am I getting quoted in this?  🙂 I don't think I did anything wrong, nor do I think @NWUSHorny did 🙂

Lol wrong person quoted 🤪  ment to quote the OP

[NWUSHorny]

7 minutes ago, NordicBtm said:

You definitely did nothing wrong. The guy obviously got off on what he saw but then some switch in his brain flipped and he freaked out. Completely normal also but nothing to do with you. He will jerk off to this memory until he goes back and slowly starts to dissemble those brain circuits of guilt that freak him out. As far as as I can tell you are doing gods work 😉.

I try to be approachable, and have on occasion had young guys approach me to take their virginity, and few of them have gone on to become big sluts themselves. I am however about as far from the local norms as it gets, and piss a lot of guys off and have them attempt to slut shame me. What I saw this weekend was fear not the usual anger and contempt.

[gaypigbb]

This sounds perfectly normal to me. Some people are nervous,  maybe it was his first time? Some don't want to have sex, and are satisfied after getting a little touch. Maybe he was scared off and didn't like it. But anyway, NOTHING in your story seems wrong, in such a context, touching a hard cock is very okay, you even had seemingly consent as he was engaged with you through the towel. So let it go, go back and have fun with someone else!

[Pozguyinchi]

I do not feel you did anything wrong. In fact you are part of his journey. He will be back. Guaranteed. I am sure if you ask any of the employees of the bath house they will say it is common. My first few times I was uncomfortable and didn’t feel like I was in the right place. I am now the first one to jump in the sling for any and all cummers. Based off what you are telling us… he was probably the most likely to cum back because he stayed the longest. 

[extremsub337]

I agree with everyone else, you did nothing wrong.  His cock signaled what he wanted, but no doubt he was a newbie and just got scared.  He will be back again at some point.  Eventually the demands of his cock will win out over his fear.

[verbalBTTM]

You did nothing wrong, he just wasn't ready to be a part of what was going on. That's young guys for you, they don't have the experience to be comfortable with acting on their desires. 

[NWUSHorny]

I get the fact that it may have been his 1st time, I've definitely been there done that. However, it is both a very different time and place than the ones I learned the ropes in. My cruising style has been pissing off guys here for 19 years now (actually if you include visits before moving here it is more like 25 years).  This kid is mostly likely a native and doesn't yet know that their is a less inhibited world of casual gay sex out there, that he's never had an opportunity to witness.

I don't feel like I handled it correctly, but also don't know what I could have done differently.