Wtf, no more orgies!!

[Cumfilledbottomboi]

10 hours ago, PervBugChaser said:

coz most gays are selfish bottoms now. They don't wanna share their cocks, or share tops with other bottoms.

I’m always in chastity, no way for my cock to be used. I don’t mind multiple bottom cumdump sessions if we set it up together.

[NWUSHorny]

I think another issue is no one wants to be versatile anymore. To have a good orgy with lots of action you really need at least 50% of the attendees to be versed.

[PozBearWI]

Which puzzles me....  Flip fucking is such a delightful pleasure.

[hntnhole]

23 hours ago, subyort said:

in the Chicago area

That remind me;  When I lived in Chicago and used the apps, there was an old motor-lodge type "no-tell-mo-tel" on the south side of Ridge Ave, just West of Clark St, in the 48th Ward.  I think it was the "Heart of Chicago" - dating from before the interstates were even built.  

There were always listings of bottoms being whored out by their Masters/lovers/boy-frends/whatevers, and we went over there quite regularly to fuck guys.  It wasn't all that far, I don't recall it costing anything, and there were usually plenty of guys milling around.  And, if the 'whored-out-boy' was <polite cough> "busy", you could fuck any other guy that didn't want to wait their turn either.  There always seemed to be more guys in there than the parking lot would suggest - maybe there was a "car-pool" arrangement - idk .... but it was always a lot of fun.  

[norefusal]

2 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

I think another issue is no one wants to be versatile anymore. To have a good orgy with lots of action you really need at least 50% of the attendees to be versed.

want?

sure, everyone's a bottom these days, but.... between depression, anti-depressants, high blood pressure meds, age, tina dick, anxiety, etc: gay crushing is experiencing an ED outbreak no one wants to talk about. 

then there is the increased de-socialization caused by social media, bars closing, etc that the apps feed into. 

my first month on the apps i foolishly agreed to top several unseen strangers, only to find out face 2 face  that something(s) was/were "off" and there was no way i could  deliver on my promises.

i then changed all my profiles. i may not be an exclusive bottom, but i play one on the apps. 😜

[hntnhole]

5 minutes ago, norefusal said:

i then changed all my profiles. i may not be an exclusive bottom, but i play one on the apps. 😜

HAHAHAHAHA ...... I wish ALL the problems we face these days were that easy to deal with .... 

[blackrobe]

I'm so weary of the fiction that *all* men can *decide* to be versatile. It smacks of "can't you just decide to be straight" to me.

There's a big difference between a guy who prefers to bottom vs. a guy who is wired as a bottom. The guy who prefers to bottom, but can top too, has other options and that's awesome (but he still gets to choose). That isn't me. I'm wired as a bottom so my dick isn't the center of my sexuality and penetrating someone doesn't turn me on very often. Trying to penetrate when I'm not into it... Does. Not. Work. The number of times I've been into penetrating someone in the last 30 years can be counted on one hand.

The narratives that bottoms are "selfish" and "withholding their dicks" are fallacious and reek of ignorance and unhealthy entitlement. Those narratives ignore or seek to invalidate the bottom's autonomy over their body. 

What *really* bugs me are the guys that ignore me saying "I don't top", back up on my dick when I can't move away, then get pissed at me when my boner evaporates or I push them off. Firstly, not my choice, not my fault. Second, "forced to penetrate" is a category of rape. 

I get it, I have a nice dick and plenty of guys want to suck it and have it up their ass. I'd have a lot more sex if I topped, believe me, but I'm just not wired that way. If I could just *decide* to top and it would happen, I would have fucked a lot more ass over the years.

I participate fully and play well in groups according to my nature. Asking me to do something I either can't do or don't enjoy because it you expect or want it is not cool with me.

 

[Sfmike64]

22 hours ago, Justaholeff said:

 

We all laughed and I winked at my new friend, that was blushing from the flirting from my friend of a gym greek gods body and my compliment...He responded as they went down the stairs with very confident "fucking right!"

You are my hero. Well played !

[NJRawDaddy]

9 hours ago, norefusal said:

everyone's a bottom these days, but.... between depression, anti-depressants, high blood pressure meds, age, tina dick, anxiety, etc: gay crushing is experiencing an ED outbreak no one wants to talk about. 
...
i then changed all my profiles. i may not be an exclusive bottom, but i play one on the apps.

I laughed so hard at this. I'm on anti-depressants and on blood pressure meds.    So so so true.

I changed my profiles too.  In truth I'm a versatile bottom.  I do top on occaison.  But I absolutely LOATHE being pressured to top.  I spend years as an escort with bottoms demanding I fuck them in XYZ position and cum on demand.  I hated it on a personal level, although I was fine with it professionally.  Now I fuck when the mood strikes me.  I only fuck bottoms I want to fuck, and I do it because I genuinely want to cum in them. 

I say I'm a bottom online though because when I said I'm a versatile bottom, other bottoms started harassing me wanting me to fuck them in the positions they wanted.  UGH.  No more.  Now I mostly top at sex parties when I can tell the bottom what position to get into.  And if he doesn't want to do it, then fine. I'm perfectly happy not topping or will find someone else who will comply.

I'm not demanding, I just don't enjoy being someone else's top piece of meat in a position that does nothing for me.  Especially since it's harder to stay erect than it used to be.

[NJRawDaddy]

It occurs to me that one reason there are less orgies is because no one wants to organize them.  I can't imagine that there's a lack of people who want to attend.

I have a friend that organizes orgies.  The problem is that he's running the show, meaning he doesn't get a lot of sex because he's busy opening the door, greeting people, answering messages, etc. etc.  Not to mention paying for privilege of doing this in the form of paying for the room.  So everyone but him as a great time while his needs are only partially met.

The solution to this is to go to a sex party in a large city.  Take LodgeNY, a group in NYC that throws 10-15 parties/week along a variety of schedules and themes.  They cost roughly $30 to enter, which includes clothes check, light refreshments, lube and condoms, cleanup efforts, advertising, staff costs, and location rental.  

I used to go to a 2-hour lunchtime event that was a much smaller version of this.  I thnk he charged $20.  Enough to pay for the room and give him a bit of spending money.    

So if you want an orgy, why not organize one yourself?  Your needs won't get met terribly well, but if you just wnat to play then be prepared to make a donation to the host or pay for entry to someone else's event.  Otherwise, you're just showing up and enjoying a service they're providing while they don't get a lot in return.