topblkmale

51 minutes ago, blackrobe said:

I'd be considering all of these places, but I don't speak Spanish. It feels disrespectful to go and live in a place where you don't speak the language passably well. At the same time, there's a lot to like about places like Ecuador and parts of Mexico. Indigenous and transplanted cultures add to the interest there with First Peoples and Afro-Mexicans. Oaxaca seems very interesting at first glance. It makes me wonder how they'd cope with a fair skinned Australian living amongst them. I'm interested in all kinds of men from all cultures, but wonder if I'd be an outlier and not their cup of tea.

Oaxaca is amazing and the men are beautiful. There is not much issue with skin color there unless you make it. I'm very dark-skinned black American as you can see. Zero issues. But yes, not speaking Spanish will be a slight issue.

On 9/14/2023 at 1:11 PM, tallmascbottom said:

Since the Pennsylvania Hotel was suc an institution, I thought I would eventually party there.

Wonder if there are any cumdump spots in the Bronx. Never get to really enjoy that borough’s ample meat.

I always remember the Bronx having fuck parties in one of those basement apartments where the super lives. 🤣They still happen I imagine.

15 minutes ago, meetme said:

I live here for years now.  My work schedule doesn’t give me enough time to enjoy sex and it’s really changed over the years. Lately I like to get myself ready and then say yes to all I can get. It’s getting better at the ESC but it’s uneven. There ought to be situations where men would enjoy using an available bottom in the boroughs, I’m still looking.  I only bareback and never refuse a load

Got it. Thought you might have been just visiting the area for the first time. Since you're local, you already know the situation in NYC. There are not many places left. When Paddles shut down, I stopped going out and now rely on Grindr or established fuck-buddies.

On 9/24/2023 at 2:19 PM, dickluva said:

Anybody ever been to S&M club in Mexico City La Casita CDMX? How  is Cumunion party at Babylon? Please tell me about SoDoMe? I would visit Mexico City by myself. Any help is appreciated. Gracias

If you speak Spanish, check out [think before following links] https://www.cruising.com.mx/ 

• SoDoMe
• Cine Savoy
• Cabinas Funny
• Hotel Mazatlan
• Alameda Central
• Caja Feliz

I would also suggest you search YouTube - search terms above (if you speak Spanish) - as there are gay YT'ers in CDMX who review all these places with detailed directions, footage, and other guidance. 

12 minutes ago, meetme said:

Is your buddy a bottom?  I’d like to know where I could get your dick inside me and the guys you play with.  I’m in Manhattan and don’t know my way around the other borrows but I’d be happy to learn where to get some outer borough loads in me

My buddy is a cum-dump bottom who uses all the motels I previously mentioned. He sends me videos of guys using his hole at these locations. I can tell he's popular at the Imperial Hotel in Brooklyn.

I have a number of regulars buddies between Queens and Brooklyn. You might also want to get up to the Bronx or out to Jersey if you're REALLY feeling adventurous. Otherwise Manhattan has the bathhouse, the ABS on Eighth Ave in Chelsea and the private parties going on.

Are you a tourist, visitor or transplant? Your location is not listed.

10 hours ago, meetme said:

This sounds like valuable information. Topblkmale, could you recommend the best place for a white middle aged guy to get a room and get up on all fours?  Most important is a place with easy access to subway lines or a neighborhood where dl men would enjoy pumping a load or loads into a bottom who really loves cum and satisfying strangers.  All bare cock would be welcomed until the last cock is satisfied. I’ve never been bred until I didn’t want more or was too sore to feel another big prick slide into me. Help me offer this pleasure

I have a buddy who uses Imperial Hotel in East New York, Brooklyn as a cum-dump motel. The J/Z subway station is a block away. I have never been so I don't know how it is. You might want to research it first because many NYC hotels now house migrants - which may be a good thing since that attracts alot of foot traffic (possibly dl men) to the area.

On 1/20/2023 at 11:15 PM, ffWhole said:

What about Costa Rica, El Salvador or even Mexico...?
Or on the other side of the pond; Algarve, Portugal or Madeira, or even South of Spain...
The Spanish Gay community is very active and hot.

El Salvador is so beautiful. The cities in central and southern Mexico have a nice mix of culture, climate and affordability. Right now my top choice for retirement is somewhere between Oaxaca, CDMX or PVR.

But most Anglo North Americans have no concept of these areas outside of mainstream media.

I've stopped trying to convince my gay friends here in the NYC area to visit Mexico City as its AWESOME! Even the ones who are fluent spanish speakers won't visit. 

But yes, the community there is WAY more active and hot!

Woodside Motel is seedy. Flushing Motel is too but with better access to the subway. I've bred cumdumps in both. I would prefer Flushing Motel as its a true hourly motel. Woodside Motel attracts gen-pop tourists also.

On 7/31/2023 at 7:38 AM, Teeslad70 said:

Similar story in some respects. Not gay, but my first sexual experience was sucking cock. Late starter on pussy. The urge for cock came back when older and became a secret thrill that keeps getging stronger.

Wait, what? 🤯

Social media influencers are gonna influence...which is what this Edwin Hung did.

2 hours ago, partying.hard said:

@topblkmale … a friend of mine in New York, just mentioned that it had become dismal there as well. He lives close to the UES club.  And the movie theater still is open.  So he said he and some buddies have gone up to Providence several times and it’s not as bad as you would expect!
 

@willslc well it sounds like you hit a grand slam there. I only doubled and came home gono.

Covid then monkey pox took its toll on the NYC gay sex scene. Until recently - 2023 - ESC required proof of vaccine for entry and some sex parties required proof of monkey pox vax. Paddles required both plus boosters for entry. I predicted it would close. And it did. The building got sold.

10 hours ago, Flared said:

I don't wanna sound too stupid but exactly do you do in a bath house? Is it a place full with steam that horny guys get laid? And why baths in particular? Arent' there "too many bottoms" and "too few tops" to have a balance?

Its the feeling of just DROPPING YOUR TOWEL inside a room or where ever you are inside the bath and start fucking.

Can't do that in an ABS, theater, park, rest room nor Grindr.

On 8/30/2023 at 10:38 PM, Spanky8000 said:

Hitting up Lakewood CO on sept 6. Is there any signs to tell if anyone wants a BJ?  Down low gestures or anything?

Usually hotels near airports are fair game. Hop on Sniffies. I love to open my Grindr app and drive past the airport. I get so many hits and have met guys on overnight layovers heading to Europe or flight attendants.

I kind of gay fairy wish there was some kind of online repository/archive (a forum, Reddit or similar to Wikipedia maybe) for bathhouse history.

2 hours ago, partying.hard said:

@AlwaysOpen … reading your last paragraph, I was going to add to that a reference to Chuck and man’s country. And then I saw your last sentence. I have mourned the demise of that facility every week for the last several years. That was without doubt, at least, for me, the best space in the entire world. and I have played on all seven continents. 

I enjoyed the seediness of Man's Country with the those dimly lit hallways, dark room and those specialty rooms.

3 hours ago, AlwaysOpen said:

As has been posted here, Ft Lauderdale FL has the unique benefit of 2  true bathhouses,  The Club which tends to be a younger group, and is appointed more like a higher end day spa, and ClubHouse II with more of a crowd of men over 45; and sleazier/kinkier.  And the there is the sex club 321 (Slammer)  where it is really just a building for cruising and sex. And with a membership it is also a "bottle club" type of thing where you can bring a bottle in and they hold it for the 3 months of your membership, serving you drinks from your bottle.

 

Fort Lauderdale is tied with Providence, Rhode Island for the East Coast city with the most bathhouses with two each now that Philadelphia will have less Brotherly Love.

But soon Providence will take the title as the premier bathhouse city - who could have guessed that?

FLL-Clubhouse II is on its last leg. On my last visit the roof was leaking, showers were inoperable, glory holes removed and the jacuzzi had not been cleaned. The dry sauna was also OOO. There were about seven or eight guys stirring about on a prime time weekend night.

Otherwise 321 Slammer was packed.

Could we add inflation to the list? I paid close to $50 bucks to get a locker at Club FLL on a holiday weekend. The younger generation won't pay that when you could get three months of ad-free Grindr for $39.

Grindr did to bathhouses what Netflix did to DVDs.

Which brings me to my point of could bathhouses do a subscription service model to attract new patrons?

Add 2022 monkey pox outbreak.

I recall one bathhouse in the US shutdown during MP but never reopened.

I'm curious what did he look like exactly that made him unattractive.

In my experience, very handsome attractive guys are NOT good cocksuckers (or good bottoms) in general. Just eye candy fucks.

1 hour ago, meetme said:

And what was the second one to close in NY? West Side Club was a great loss but don’t know the other.

Northern Sauna in Queens closed when the lockdown was announced in March of 2020.

I was there days and the night before it shutdown. I remember it distinctly. The bathhouse was totally empty with everyone fearing Covid.

1 hour ago, meetme said:

Which do you think will close in Phila?  I’ve always found Sansom too vast to be a good meeting place, so I am almost never 5here, but i$ l8ke to know what you foresee 

Sansom Street Gym most likely will be shutdown. Its currently temporarily closed. Don't know why.

NYC lost two bathhouses to Covid. One I suspect would have closed anyway due to neighborhood gentrification. I think that is what happened to Chicago's two Clark Street bathhouses.

Along the east coast, the stronghold is Providence, Rhode Island with two bathhouses. Also South Florida which still has three. The other cities along the east coast barely have one remaining open. I'm certain Philadelphia is next to close one of its two remaining bathhouses sadly.

On 8/2/2023 at 5:04 PM, Subjames69 said:

Would you rather be fucked by one guy for 30 minutes and get a load or 6 guys for 5 minutes each and get 5 loads. I would do the 6 all day but want to see how others feel.

Those bottoms who chose one guy for 30 minutes + load please feel free to contact me.

I can throw in an added 30 minutes as a bonus.

That amount of sodium intake all at once can't be good for one's body.

But as a top who ONLY fucks clean well-douched holes, I say GO FOR IT! 😀☑️

👍👍

2 hours ago, fucknfeedme said:

I remember last time I was in the city there was a bar a Christopher Street that was frequented by a lot of black dudes.  Is that one gone too?

When was that?

I don't frequent bars so I am really out of the loop on that scene.

But I highly doubt any local would go down to the Village in search of black guys. Some friends have told me that - that area is mainly tourists and gentrified now.

Pro tip: Check out Prospect Park - Open the Grindr app to browse the local talent.