SomewhereonNeptune

The more you know. Thanks for clarifying. I'd have thought the combination of a more liberal climate and a decent gay scene would have made a fertile field (pardon the pun) for bathhouses that are not fuck free zones. I mean do you all ask pronouns and whether I can touch you? (Kidding but not entirely) Again...wow! If those were the questions you asked out there, they'd be the same questions I asked on the East Coast and never had any issues. Are people that uptight? And do they put on their profiles that they like candlelight dinners and long walks on the beach? 🤣 East Coast, there's a lot of activity on Sniffies and most people looking also host with more bare backers by me than not. BBRT can be flakey (no one hosts, few real responses), and that leaves NastyKinkPigs for the hardcore stuff. Disclaimer: If you don't live in or near Lauderdale, It's a crap shoot (I'm on the Gulf south of Tampa, aka God's Waiting Room), average age tends to be...well, don't make me go there. 🤣

I'd hope our UK brethren here could weigh in on this, using the examples of Tory, Labour and Liberals. The labels of conservative and liberal are relative. Maybe even Canadians offering their views. Do we even have UK or Canadian conservatives here? Anyone from Alberta? 😉

I wish him well, and it seems like the conclave coalesced around a new Pope in nearly record time. As a New Yorker, I'd hoped for Dolan as he's more charismatic and pragmatic in nature, but having a Pope from the US is a pretty big step for an institution that has almost never gone outside Europe for a choice. For those unaware, the Methodist Church came through a schism that basically split the church into factions that supported full inclusion of LGBTQIA++ persons, and those who took a harder line. And there are a lot fewer Methodist churches as a result (an Aunt's church recently split into a non-denominational aligned with old Methodism). What I hope is that the pendulum doesn't swing so far as to create another schism in the Catholic Church. A number of commentators are suggesting that his views align with Francis who really edged the church toward being more liberal (Catholicism doesn't change quickly or radically, so don't expect married Catholic clergy or gay weddings in our lifetimes), so guess we'll see how it plays out.

And who could ever forget, "Corn pop was a bad dude" or "I have hairy legs". (ahem) [think before following links] https://youtu.be/oqiOeiG4VNo?si=-z6IhhZDIb8iLqFV I wish I had an answer to why he seemed to always be sniffing people's hair, but on so many occasions he simply seemed lost. I have a non-verbal autistic relative who associates by smell. When I'd visit him, he'd walk up to people to smell them and if he recognized them by that, he'd be ok with you being there. While that is likely not the case with Biden, you have to wonder about whether that is something psychological at play. And too, too many things were chalked off as "Joe being Joe", such as his racist comments (the one about "if you aren't voting for me, you aren't black" on Charlemagne the God's radio show, or 'in order to walk into a convenience store you need to have a slight Indian accent'), but let's be honest, the treatment of those by the media we know would be completely different if President Trump were to say the same thing.

For the benefit of our UK listeners, Biden recently did an interview on Radio 4 in which he said about walking away, "it was a difficult decision". Your picture shows it was difficult for him to walk anywhere. The media tried to brush that off, but it all unraveled when it came to his debate performance. After being gaslit for years that Biden's "the best Biden we've ever seen" (credit: Joe Scarborough), we all saw it. Stevie Wonder could have seen it. And used to their profit later in first lying to us, then capitalizing on it by writing tell-alls to the effect of 'How I knew Biden's mental faculties were slipping and kept quiet so I could profit by writing a book, but you can trust me'. 😉 This is what people fail to realize. "Trans for Palestine". Do they understand that Muslims will actually throw queer people off roofs? I'm not meaning this to sound Islamophobic, but that Biden was ineffective in resolving the Israel/Palestine conflict and wavered in thinking should cause many to give pause. The prior administration spent like crazy, but when you look to find various items that were the outcome of the spending, they're difficult to find. $1.2 Trillion on an infrastructure bill. Buttegieg didn't do much with it when you consider that only 8 electric vehicle charging ports were ever built, and no investment was made into the very aging air traffic control system that people now blame on the administration that had been in power a short time when the DCA airport crash occurred. Buttegieg had 4 years, but does anyone go back and say "why didn't you address..."? We have short memories and want a throat to choke that's currently in power. That's human nature. I actually found an infrastructure bill project in the Orlando area last year: It was recurbing a corner for ADA compliance. The sign for it looked to be the largest cost to that project. And by saying that I'm not making light of the physically challenged, but to tout a $1.2 trillion spending act to small things like this when we needed very major overhauls? It's like worrying about a small pothole when the entire bridge ahead has collapsed. There was a lot of emphasis placed on identity politics, subjects like "minor attracted persons", trans athletes in women's sports, and a variety of other causes that weren't meaningful to Americans who were struggling under massive inflation and a sagging job market. As another Democrat, Bill Clinton, once said, "it's the economy, stupid". Americans just want to know we're not spending into a chasm and transparency on where our taxes go would be a bonus. People may not like everything that Trump does. I'm no exception. I even liked Bill Clinton. But I agree with @harrysmith25 that people will probably downvote these posts and suggest that we're all watching Fox News or wearing tinfoil hats (we aren't). But Americans would rather swallow hard and endure some trolling to focus on important things that matter to us than four more years of what I'll kindly call 'elder abuse'. I wish him reasonable health AND a pleasant retirement.

Are you saying there's not much of a gay scene in Portland?!? Now that's surprising. Not talking about saunas because they're quickly becoming a rarity, but just the apps and local cruising spots. You've all gotta stop using Christian Mingle for your hookups. 🤣😂 Seriously, if I go on A4A and see more about wanting a romantic relationship than what he's into sexually, it feels suspect and I avoid it. No clue how I seem to be a magnet for that on there. Sounds about right. I'm in the God's-Waiting-Room side of Florida, and even there I find a significant number of guys who are up for bareback. More if you go closer to Tampa or the Giant Rat.

Oh here we go... Not necessarily a sauna perspective, but more a "bi" one. Women complain about the irritation of those things as well, so the vast majority of those with whom I've been neither ask for them nor want them. Ask yourself how you think friction burn would feel and you probably have your answer. "Are you clean?" Dude, I showered right before I came here, so I could say 'yes' and not really be lying about an STI panel. Seriously? Want me to wear cologne for the ambient effect too? I have the really expensive scents so it can be more romantic for ya. 🤣 Amen bro. If you're looking for ass in a sauna, you're probably in the wrong place to be asking that question. Worried about a 'safe' hookup? Go to Grindr or Sniffies and check the dudes who want 'Condoms Only'. 😂 In a sauna? If the bottom isn't asking, you might want to examine why you are.

Cut. Took me some time to have even seen something uncut. Feel like I missed out.

I feel like I had a topic similar somewhere. 😉 As they say, it takes 2 to tango, and if the other person isn't asking and taking raw loads or willing to fuck you without the question coming up, how do people suddenly inflict the burden on the other person? Oh, that's right, we have a whole section of society that insists on other people taking accountability for their actions. They tell you to shove your dick in them and fuck the hell out of them with no conversation. Then, they complain if you haven't warned them about anything transmittable because they didn't ask. In the previous scene, they were in total bliss being fucked into the next county and telling you not to pull out or cum deep inside them. They didn't ask. They didn't medicate with PrEP. They didn't insist on a condom. They aren't leaving with a year's supply of Turtle Wax or a copy of the home game just for playing. But somehow it's your fault!? I'd stop self-guilting if it were me. So...the presumption is what? You're open to taking on anything including HIV, or would you revisit your insistence on them staying in? I'd assume on your statement that you're "going for the gusto". 😉

Join the line forming behind us, mate. There's more than a few people who have lost reputation score (FWIW) because of very candid posts. I'm sure if I keep posting here, I'll end up with so many downvotes that I'll probably be the first who has a reputation score in negative digits. 😂🤣🤣 "Identity politics". In this country (USA), I can cite the same positions taken by our current President and a number of past Presidents where said positions are identical. The sole difference is who is now taking the position, and how hypocritical the stance can be. Now that's a broad brush stroke, but the cutting of wasteful government expenditures has been a cause championed by a number of prior leaders (the Internet is forever, citation is the many videos of Sen. Schumer, Rep Pelosi, Pres. Obama and VP Biden, generally available on Youtube or C-SPAN), but the current administration is suddenly admonished for doing the same thing and using a data centric approach to identify the specific spending. Point is that we haven't gotten truthful information from the media for some time, stories are being omitted or not covered, and what we're forced into is a gaslit idea of political correctness, much of which doesn't pass a simple logic test. Case-in-point: The media told us that Joe Biden was as sharp as a knife, only to be shown that was wrong when we saw with our own eyes, and then for those same people to write tell-all books the minute that he was out of office (nothing like lying until you can profit more from the truth). I'm not counting on Political Correctness or Identity Politics or gaslighting to go away anytime soon. Because those who utter the truth will no doubt be shut down. Like asking your spouse if they look fat in something, only for them to respond "Absolutely!" It might be true, but that's not what they want to hear.

Unfortunate, but apropos. We've raised an entire generation of people who cannot accept criticism and are precious little snowflakes who've never heard honesty, brutal as it may seem, in their lives. I'll qualify my perspective: I'm Gen X. We came of age in a recession, were criticized for being slackers when we weren't, and we didn't have helicopter parents (ours made us play outside with other kids, meaning that you generally had to be physical). We'd argue with our mates, say unkind words and insults, then run along and do something else as if nothing happened, so we had a thicker skin. I recall being a manager and hiring my first millennial. He could not accept critiques of his work from a boss, no matter how truthful or constructively phrased, and only wanted to cherry-pick the work he liked. In short, he sucked. And I had to put him on a performance plan before eventually sacking him. I tried the nice approach, and also asked him whether the blunt and meaner approach did more to drive the message. He preferred neither and honestly just wanted to be told how great he was, so for him I could have called him lazy, unprofessional, and lacking any drive -- and I did -- and it didn't matter. I didn't have to work with Gen Z'ers, so cannot comment on that. See my above: For many, you can try either and it'll make no difference because it isn't something they want to hear. In managing people, I've often had to be direct and constructive, and they still didn't want to hear it. Logical arguments? Ha! You can forget those, they're no different in their view, and I've had people resort to just lobbing insults your way (for instance, "You're racist" when race was never at issue) versus being able to politely disagree or concede an argument. So for them, you could put lipstick on it and drown it in perfume, but they'll still interpret your intentions as 'mean'. I can't control how someone else accepts feedback. In my view, one is 'constructive' and one is just 'harsh with little redeeming value besides being candid'. It's not about being 'nice'. I'll relate a quick story: I once interviewed with a Hedge Fund (won't say which) where people were very direct and blunt with criticisms. If someone criticized your work, they had to be specific in examples although it could be painful. If they just said "you suck", you could easily respond with "Well that doesn't give me anything actionable, so until you can make your argument, fuck off." One was constructive, one was insulting without actionable guidance. I'll debate the constructive one if you can cite proper arguments to substantiate your point all day, everyday.

And it'll still feel like I'm putting on a rain slicker and wading boots to take a shower.

Thought you were 'asking for a friend'. 🤣😉

But what are the chances of condom use in that foreign prison? Guess his mind could change very quickly.

I guess I also need to ask why it can't be both? If you're horny, a random fuck can be really hot if the chemistry is there or you're both in tune to each other to get off. And a regular allows the (relative) safety to explore new things in a comfortable atmosphere. Like others here, I can't limit myself to just one or the other, and there's no rule saying we need to. The only potential advantage for a chaser is the lack of knowing whether he's getting a poz load, where normally with a regular he's probably already told you or shared the news if he converted. With fucking randoms, I've never had the question asked and the risk can make things white hot.