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If I hear "geezer", I automatically think that there's a Brit on the other side of that post since it's commonplace for them to use it. Folks in the US tend to put 'old' before it, but I've never heard of a young geezer. In a lot of places in Asia, "cock" means a male chicken (a.k.a. rooster). Probably the same in a lot of Latin countries where "cock fighting" is a thing (male chickens who battle each other with a razor sharp scythe attached to one leg), the loser is dinner. And cock flavored soup does not taste like semen (usually). 🤣 A Filipino friend of mine got a cock for me that he said he'd keep there to put it in fights, where it's legal and people bet on them. It grew nicely and he messaged me to say that "(I) had a handsome cock". I wish he knew what that might mean in the West. 🤣😂
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Poz Guys - Do You Like Being Poz?
SomewhereonNeptune replied to rawTOP's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
There are those, including medical professionals, who believe Metformin is a fairly solid and benign drug for treating Type-2 diabetes, or for those who are on the cusp. Now my disclaimer is that I'm not a doctor nor do I play one on TV. Last year, my A1C level tested slightly above range, so my ex-doctor (there's a reason why he's "ex", we're getting to that) put me on the lower dosage to see the effects. Of course my glucose readings came dead back into a decent range, but I could enumerate the list of possible side effects and I certainly had most of them. Advised my GP of the outcome and we agreed to chuck the remainder immediately. I also chucked him and went back to my former doctor who subsequently asked "why in Hell did he put you on Metformin?" (Because my former-now-current doctor wasn't taking my health plan, so I got the few who would take my sketchy coverage until I could change it). Moral of this story: Nothing is 100% 'benign'. Your mileage may vary. And be sure to check contraindications for any drug you're taking. -
Somehow, I've always looked at Zebras as just being a horse with prison stripes. 🤣
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You make really good points, but here is where I part with your premise. When I say 'emotional', I mean argumentation that is not based on purely factual reasoning. These are the "2 + 2 = 4's" of the world, things that we've proven with evidence. Like we know that base water is composed of 2 hydrogen molecules and 1 Oxygen molecule. Fairly standard information that we've come to know as factual. On your corporate culture points, I know it well since I've lived a life in IT project management. I could breakdown the cost-benefits and ROI or NPVs of a project only to get pushback from other executives who had personal agendas ('your project might be the best thing for the organization, but it will mean that my group will be marginalized and put at risk for losing my budget or their jobs, so I'll block you for various reasons, none of which have any basis in fact'.). I've seen it far too many times to mention to the point that I might get angered about something, but rarely get emotional or take it personally. I agree that emotions can run amok over rational, logical, and factual decision-making. The element you might be referring to could be the "gut instinct", which actually has a lot to do with our anatomy and our gut affecting our health. "Trust your gut" does have some relevance. It may be a sign of high EQ or emotional intelligence to have an ability (innate or learned) to compartmentalize the emotional elements of an action or situation against intellect or fact. None of us want to hear law enforcement making a decision to prosecute us based on 'just a feeling that he/she committed a crime' versus the actual evidence that leads to the conclusion. I'll let our friends from Britain opine on the famous stoicism or lack of emotional feeling or want to express any emotions. Just try to get them into therapy. 🤣🤣
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But it doesn't need to be. Where it goes sideways is when people let emotions dictate rather than facts. People can generally debate facts but you cannot argue emotions or feelings. If you tell me, "I hate you, you suck", that doesn't help me as feedback because it isn't supportable in an argument based on facts.
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I do moderation on another site (more locally oriented, not specific to LGBTQ+ topics) and there is a clear set of guidelines that all members are advised to follow in keeping with the site's purpose. It can be easily summarized as this: It's ok to disagree without being disagreeable. I think some folks tend to forget that. I remind people on this other very local site that the person they may be vitriolic toward could live right next door. Something to consider that there is a real human being behind the words. In diplomacy, it's not so much what you say but how it's said. There are persuasive ways to make an argument, then there are those that make the poster feel like they've been continually whacked over the head with a baseball bat. I know I'm perhaps the outnumbered minority here, but I believe firmly that both sides should have a voice without being shouted down. That's why I've avoided some of the topics here because there are those on the other side of the discussion that have made BZ less than welcoming to others. This. And I've avoided some folks -- and some topic areas -- since they've demonstrated lack of tolerance to any point of view that isn't in total agreement with theirs. I stopped using the red arrow and now just avoid them as being vexations to the soul. I think if there were greater acceptance of differences in views we'd all be a lot better off. And so would BZ. Be happy, life's too short. I wonder how many people voted with their feet and just walked away as I did years ago. Yes, I'm back but wiser now for who and what to now avoid.
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Gay Sex Bucket List - What's Your Score?
SomewhereonNeptune replied to a topic in General Discussion
85. Somehow, this feels like the gay purity test and I haven't done most of the craziest things on this list. Meaning I've led a more sheltered existence than most others. Need to live a little. My score would be a lot lower if you took the items out that only apply to guys. -
Kinda like saying there's been more men in you than half-price wing night at a Hooters? 🤣🤣
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Simply put, it's consent. Now that may involve CNC or a bit of coercion, but that's still consent because I talked you into it and you agreed. If you say "anything you want" however, you'd be leaving that open and some people might take that as "Well, you did say anything."
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Such a shame to waste that Poz load though.
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@ChainedBoy seems surprised by this, and I wonder why? The church has done very little to acknowledge and combat the issue, and I knew situations where the practice was to move the abusive priest to another parish, or further yet, another diocese. I knew one personally that abused a minor, was arrested, copped a plea deal and was sent to a 'rehabilitation facility' in Canada for a year, only to return to a different Archdiocese in an adjacent state to go on to diddle other kids. Once things go sideways with these guys, they reassign the problem elsewhere far enough from the prior parish hoping that it'll go better elsewhere. Now during that time, this priest taught religious education and there was a lot of side comments on how much he 'liked younger boys', something you would think the school would have realized and not put temptation right in front of him for 6 periods a day with freshman and sophomore students. [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.bishop-accountability.org/reports/2005_09_21_Philly_GrandJury/Philly_05_08_Connor.pdf Eventually he was finally defrocked. During the 90's, I attended a party with friends who invited a couple of seminarians, and they very clearly gay and also spoke in hushed tones about how much fun they could have once assigned a parish. You could see where that might end up. And with so few inclined to be celibate and join the priesthood, the church will take anyone they can get and probably continue to pay the price and settle damage claims from pedophile priests for the foreseeable future. I personally don't care if a priest is gay, but the hypocrisy over acceptance of gays (which they've tacitly done) while basically condoning molestation can be infuriating. Can we talk about Scout Leaders next? 🤣
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Tell Me Your Thoughts On Hookup Sites/Apps & Finding Sex
SomewhereonNeptune replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
A4A being Christian Mingle for gays? Really??? I figured that Portland would have a much more progressive stance on that sort of stuff. Here -- at least in Florida but also in other parts of the East Coast -- it's a hookup site, and not necessarily a great one for guys who actually want to get out from behind the keyboard. Your mileage may vary. Now that you put it that way though, I can see your point. For parTy stuff back here, it seems to be more NastyKinkPigs. Doublelist reminds me a lot of Craigslist, not always in a good way. Lots of ad bait postings for 3rd party sites, but I guess they need to make money somehow. -
Tell Me Your Thoughts On Hookup Sites/Apps & Finding Sex
SomewhereonNeptune replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
Noooooo!!! Say it isn't so! The Adonis is gone? Fuck, I've had so many good times there, loved the dark room and the cruisy nature of the place. Damn! Has anything else emerged to take its place, or are they trying to Disneyfy Center City and sanitizing it like they did Times Square. I recall the two in SW Philly, plus the places along Route 13 in Bristol and Levittown outside the city. No dark room, but they'd leave you alone to do what you wanted. -
Tell Me Your Thoughts On Hookup Sites/Apps & Finding Sex
SomewhereonNeptune replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
It's been a little over 6 years since I was in Philly, and the usual 13th Street district had changed completely to Millennial coffee shops that charge $9 for a cappuccino. Has the rest of Philly lost all of the good parts that it was known and loved for? -
Tell Me Your Thoughts On Hookup Sites/Apps & Finding Sex
SomewhereonNeptune replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
Hello my dear, I am a Nigerian Prince who is lonely and wants to meet someone for a long-term romantic relationship and to be my husband. 🤣🤣🤣 I've actually felt pretty checked out on Adam4Adam because the contacts that I get are generally the sort that are very verbose, ignore any sexual questions about them and (allegedly) want "a long-term romantic relationship that leads to marriage." On a hookup site?!? Really?? That's pretty sus if you ask me, so they get blocked or ignored. The other thing about A4A that gets annoying is that as much as you say No Pic=No Chat, you'll get a dude with a fairly blank profile and no pic. WTF? To send a smile, you need to read the profile, so I figure they're also bloody stupid or we aren't operating on the same side of the IQ bell-curve to put it nicely. At least on BBRT you get a more serious crowd who wants to fuck and isn't totally flakey for the most part. The owner might be a tool but I'm not there to fuck him.
