I joined last fall. I am a 50 year old bottom. I live just west of Toronto. I have been my sexuality over the last few years. I am married to a woman.
Ten years ago I had a tumor removed from my spine between L2&4. This is where the nerves for the pelvic floor are. Between the tumor and the surgery to remove it, I have severe nerve damage that has left me basically impotent. I can get hard but I have no feeling in my cock and cannot orgasm from penis stimulation. I can only orgasm from prostate massage but there are no spasms and cum dribbles out.
My wife and I are still intimate with each other. I pleasure her orally, by hand or with toys. My wife has been very understanding of my problems but over time grew to miss being penetrated by a real cock that could cum in her. At the same time I grew frustrated that she was not into prostate stimulation. After much discussion we started hotwifing a few years ago. It has been great for my wife as her sexual needs are fully met and there isn’t as much pressure on me. Sometimes she plays solo sometimes I join in and we have also done some swinging.
At the same time, I started to explore sex with men as a way to get my prostate massaged. I had played with toys for a few years prior and discovered that I enjoyed the sensation of anal penetration and the orgasm I could achieve. My wife is supportive of me pursuing this. We are both on PrEP. My wife likes to play bare with her partners and I am exploring bare play as well.