I have been in an open non-monogamous relationship for three years with my current partner. It is the first open relationship I’ve ever had. The experience has been the most loving, respectful, satisfying and joyous relationship I’ve ever had. We have three major tenets that we follow: no jealousy, no judgements, and no secrets. Open communication is truly important to making it work. Like some others, I have walked in on my partner in full fuck mode with someone I may or may not know. (He has done the same). Generally there are two options to choose from, either drop my clothes and join in as a welcome addition or take a sideline role and cheer them on, happy to see them pleasure each other. We both enjoy voyeurism and revel in seeing the other in full sexual arousal. It is also helpful that we enjoy a mostly naked lifestyle in our home, encouraging our guests to lose their clothes at the door. We often play together alone or with 1 to 4 additional guests as well as apart and encourage each other to find additional sexual partners to make sure we can achieve a level of satisfaction and stimulation matching our libidos. And while both of us enjoy the variety and frequency of couplings with others, we fell hard for each other the first night we met, and have a deep and abiding love and respect for each other that has not lessened since day one and in fact continues to grow and deepen all the time. I am so lucky to have this man in my life. As a reference I am 69 and he is 46 and we are full equal partners in our relationship. I meet many people who cannot get their head around how my relationship works but I know it’s not for everyone and wouldn’t expect it to be.
I was married to a woman for many years and the expectations of monogamy and a lack of male friends and contacts she wanted me to observe were totally stifling. Thanks for letting me share this.