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The exception proves the rules ;-)
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You need to find an expert to show you... Choking/pressure is the theatre, what actually does the job is light pressure on the right vein. It's impossible (I'm told) to maintain enough pressure on the vein yourself: it's something only someone else can do for you. First time it was done to me was as a joke as I was clearing up after a party. I wasn't impressed. The second time was definitely sexual: he was about to leave and made me kneel on the edge of the bed with my back to him. He barely touched me and I was out. He hung around just long enough to make sure I was alright, which basically meant I caught a glimpse of him leaving the room before I heard the front door close.
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Honest discussion about poz health
bearbandit replied to makingwords's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
It's more a case that some meds are contraindicated with others: For a long time high dose ritonavir was going to be the ONE until people noticed that people realised that it was causing high cholesterol and diabetes. Then someone noticed that at a much lower dose it actually help other drugs of its class stay in the body longer, meaning these drugs could be prescribed at a lower dose. I've had to change drugs so frequently because of the side effects I've had from them. If one drug has already caused diabetes, it's a nonsense to take another drugs that causes further pancreatic damage. Even with good adherence it's possible for the virus to mutate; often the first realisation of this is that the viral load goes up high enough for a resistance test (resistance tests only work above 1000 or so VL). Sometimes it's the case if you become resistant to drugs from one family than you'll probably be resistant to other members of that drug family without having taken them. Sometimes it's changes within your own body that stop a drug working. At the same time tenofovir was doing a number on me atazanavir/Reyataz decided to join in and have a go at my liver. Why? I don't know, but they have plenty of my blood to play with. Don't forget that the study of HIV is a developing science: for example, no-one thought to study HIV gerontology because it was though that there'd be no need. Now a bunch of us are in our fifties , sixties and seventies wondering if that pain is caused by an HIV-related illness or "just" an illness of old age. -
Honest discussion about poz health
bearbandit replied to makingwords's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
I'm not a pharmacist, so it's difficult to say what would be a good starting point. I'm not keen on efavirenz because of the CNS effects which can hang on to the next day. Tenofovir is a damn good drug, but you really do need to keep up at least quarterly blood checks: what happened to me was literally one in 100,000. A good sources of information re startup combinations is http://www.aidsmap.com/ . Personally I feel it's time that efavirenz was taken off the market. "last round of meds" - Not the first time I've been here, and I doubt it'll be the last. Of what's currently available I'm making the best of a bad lot. They don't fit together well and I've got a greater chance of (yet more!) side effects, yet I've been lucky enough that I have had few combinations disrupt my life so little. After all this time it's got to be routine: I just have to keep going until something new comes along. Again, hope this helps... -
Honest discussion about poz health
bearbandit replied to makingwords's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
I promised myself I was going to stay out of this one after TigerMilner's excellent answer. Using today's knowledge to apply to then I seroconverted in 1980, was diagnosed poz in 87 and with aids in 91. I'm pretty much on my last round of meds until something new comes along, having been through all the conventional combinations (and a few unconventional ones) that don't include abacavir for which I've got the wrong genes. We're at a point now where I think "hit it early, hit it hard" is a reasonable strategy (though note that I live in the UK where the CD4 threshhold is 350 rather than 500 in the US). The bulk of my medical problems have come from being switched to drugs that were only just out of testing rather than from HIV itself. But that was how you changed drugs then, limping from one to another in the hope of the one that worked properly. Today's standard combinations amaze me when I look back at the days of AZT monotherapy and there are only two I would be cautious of. The first is efavirenz/Sustiva which can have pretty weird CNS effects like very trippy dreams: as a friend said "it's like free acid". The other is tenofovir/Viread which is one half of the drug used for PEP and PrEP. It can in rare cases affect the kidneys and bone strength considerably. Damn near killed me this summer (literally: if I'd refused to into hospital the police were waiting just round the corner to enforce my being sectioned for my own good - sorry don't know the American term). If you're thinking of starting medication, it's entirely your choice. I'm an advocate of hit it hard and fast, but 350 is, in my mind, time to start thinking about it. 250 I'd go for meds (I start getting minor opportunistics when I go below 300). This paragraph is not medical advice: in fact the whole message is just my personal opinion and experience. Hope you find it helpful... -
Three of us from three different countries agreeing one one simple fact. Personally I think the custom of usernames has led a substantial number of people into believing that they're totally anonymous online, and therefore can say what they want. I use perhaps four screennames in all and whichever screenname I'm using I try to write as though I was speaking to someone in the room. As thick said, you wouldn't act that way in a physical setting so why do it online?
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How else are you going to see the volume of piss? For myself, I like to dribble some down me (or him to dribble some down himself) before drinking the rest. I'm fairly smooth so it's just a question of getting it in my tache and beard, but if a guy's really hairy and I'm pissing, I like to get his fur pretty wet before I let him drink.
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It works by promoting the bowel to absorb more water, thus solidifying potential diarrhoea.
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Turning "straight guys" into bareback cum lovers
bearbandit replied to omboy24's topic in General Discussion
I was talking to a girlfriend who was complaining about her man sometimes taking too long to cum when she went down on him. I suggested easing a finger into his arse and hitting his prostate... "He'd go bloody berserk if I tried that!" The same bloke is physically demonstrative with me regardless of who might be around. Go figure... -
Cancel my entry at #2 as I've moved... Now: Age: 55 Location, City or County: Neath, Wales Sexual Orientation: Gay Sexual Role: Versatile - don't do anything as top that I haven't at least tried as bottom... Sexual Perversions: What are you offering? Show me something new! :-) Top: prefer torture over CP, but won't hesitate to use CP if necessary, piss, verbal, gob, don't go a whole load on bondage as it's your business to keep still for me: my command should be enough... Remind me of what I've forgotten. Bottom: your call, Sir Initial presentation: biker recovering from broken bones. Travel or Accom: accom is easier now that I'm limited to public transport Other profile: see BBRT bearbandit
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I'm happy to say that I don't even know what hummel figurines are...
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Is it possible to be undetectable without meds?
bearbandit replied to rawTOP's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
6 months is news to me. I would have taken Bareconfessions' numbers to be low viral loads rather than CD4 counts. Where the barrier is between detectable and undetectable depends on where you live and when the test was done. I remember when <500 was undetectable in the UK, now it's <40. As the sensitiveity of the VL test increases so will the undetectable line get lower. It's possible, but rare, for someone with HIV to be undetectable without meds, though I've never heard of it happening after treatment. There are two rare groups: elite controllers, who although they show HIV antibodies show no disease progression whatsoever (a friend of mine was diagnosed at around the same time as me, 26 years ago, and is an elite controller), though nothing is known about their infectivity as VL in semen is different to blood VL, which is the one measured. The other group is long-term non-progressors, who without meds show a minimum of viral activity, maybe up to a thousand or two VL (remember the scale is logarithmic) and near normal CD4 counts. -
When I top or when I bottom, I put my all into it. I live for me not some set of rules dreamed up by who knows who. Far better that than some sarky remark along the lines of "yeah, the only top to leave footprints on my ceiling" or the less heard "the only bottom that made me enjoy getting tortured and fucked", that latter because they've got an image to keep up. My top experiences don't stop me from exhibiting controlling bottom ideas: If I'm caught out manupilating for something, and I get me ass beaten for it, well as the English cop show say "it's a fair cop". I'd do pretty much the same if I was topping, except I just go heavier on the guy for noticing and commenting mis-scene. I had a long time celibate thanks to early HIV drugs, and then caring for a dying partner, therefore plenty of time to think about it: Why cut yourself off from 50% of sexual contacts with other men? With both my dying partners I had three(and more)some where I might be bottom I might be top. We just called it having a fuck. Or even (dare I say it) having a bit of fun....
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Seconded... Guys like him make me glad that I have HIV+ all over any profile I have (including Facebook). Can't remember the last time I met someone without online contact first so they all know.
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HIV, like other STIs carries stigma with, it. The poz guy, true, could have done a bit better job of disclosing. I keep lube and condoms at strategic places around the house, They're obvious if you look for them but don't expect a call-back. I think Thatt was his first mistake. The second is clamming up when challenged about HIV. The HIV- guy could have done a lot by keeping his cool, remembering his sexual health lessons, whether they were taught by his parents, his teachers or his previous fuck buddies. To throw a panic that involves going into areas of the Tops house where he has not been invited is at best rude, and possibly criminal I'm not from the US - I don't know how law works there). The matter should have been settled between the two of them without any of us having become involved. The Top would know that his pre-sex "you know what you''re getting into" talk was falling on deaf ears and the bottom might conceivably have learned a little common sense. They'd have discussed their respective limits and then made a more informed decision as to whether or not to go ahead witht their plans. If Yes - Great: have fun boys. If No - have the grace to shake hands to say it could have been fun... None of this need have happened had there been adequate (for both parties) discussion beforehand. In the meantime, I'm glad you're on the other side of the pond from me. It minimises the chance of running into either of you until you've leaned a little more..
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Hasn't the hankie code been flogged to death now? well, if not death at least retirement? Last copy I read of is you'd need a need a house painter's colour chart to define the diferrence in some of the colours. Even before that, if I wore all the hankies to cover what I might be up for, there wouldn't be any chance of sitting down. The hankie code, I believe, started out as a joke, then was taken seriously, and finally became a joke becuase of the guys who presumed you took you pantone colour cards to the bars with you. (and it never did take account of colourblindness which mostly affeects men... Why not just the biohazard tattoo? I hear someone's also making them as temporary <spit> tattoos. Nice, simple, horny solution...
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Not raised in any religion: made my own choice (paganism) when I was eighteen
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Your game idenity suddenly is start to change?
bearbandit replied to subblkbtm's topic in General Discussion
Been getting that since I was 35... great if I want to fuck, not so great if I want to get fucked -
To TOPS: what age bottoms do you like to fuck?
bearbandit replied to Belfast-Bottom's topic in General Discussion
I guess I go from 35 (though it feels like paedophilia) and upward., though my preference is for my own age group (55 - got it guys - I mean, this is an invitation)? -
Now that's hot! When my partner and I upgraded our PAs I had them sterilise the rings and use them to replace the rings I already had. My partner died five years but I still wear his first PA as a titring. I don't know which ring was his (they never told me), but i think the whole thing is kinda romantic...
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I never take out my PA, but hearing your story... fuck me (please) but that's hot!
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No question about it: Bike. Tradionally the gay man's jock, feels just right, utilitarian rather then fetishy, so it's good for all day wear (which delights those into smells) Buy, wear, enjoy.
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I have to admit that when I've been in a relationship, I've only fucked with other guys with my partner's consent. In fact there was one time my partner drove over to my "bit on the side's" house with my HIV drugs to save me the bother of riding back home to get them. Similarly, I've ended up as the figure in the background on a webcam saying "sure, come on over and fuck/get fucked by him". Now I'm single - John died some years ago - I'm cautious about the idea of sex with guys in relationships: it can get messy (and not in a good way)
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To TOPS: what age bottoms do you like to fuck?
bearbandit replied to Belfast-Bottom's topic in General Discussion
My "maximum age" or, for that matter "minimum age" has drifted over the years. While there's the fun of showing a younger guy how to do it, I'd almost always go for the older guy who knows what he's doing. I'm in the lucky position of being both: I can hear the mutter of "daddy" around the bar, yet still know that the guys older than me aren't going to ignore me. Frankly I don't give a flying fuck about age. Whether he's in his 20s (legality speaking) or <upper figure> I don't care: is he a good fuck? -
To me it's a no-brainer: I got this metal ring through my dick for my pleasure and for yours. The guys I've fucked with it in (ask me to take it out and I'll show you the door) have all enjoyed it, though my sampling method may not have been as scientific as it might have been. What I'm really looking forward to is getting fucked by a guy with a PA: the assumption always seems to be that if you have a PA then it's your dick in his asshole. Some of us are a bit more versatile than that...
