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When I'm going bottom, which I admit I more often than I'd like, I do the best I can to turn it into a positive thing for all involved., Even if my dick doesn't want to play (diabetes), I've still got an arsehole, a mouth, your mouth, amongst other body body parts . If I'm in a top mood I can make you come where you are. As long as you're a good boy, from the other side of the room, just by telling you what to do next. But if you hurt your knees your mamage your leathers (if I've permtted to you leae them on), then that's your probem.
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I'm not put off by bleeding, I'm just not into it, but yeah, an amazing feeling standing at that point of decision where you could do real damage, but choose not to. Strangely enough, I gave a guy his first fist and a few years later he returned the favour...
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I've never got what a fuck rag was for edceot for those occasions when there was just too much shit to deal deal with. Otherwise it was part and parcel of sex. just one of those things that happened. Mightnit havee got off on it But it was a good story to recount over a round of drinks.
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I seroconverted long before the WWW changed our lives: nearest comparison would be Capital Gay (aka "The Bunty") which had just survived a scandal that it was allowing men with HIV to hook up in their personal columns by using "medical codes" - in fact stating ones HIV status as known at the time of writing... Said it before and I'll say it again: I don't believe negative HIV results: he could be in shock, it could be too soon for an accurate result, he could be lying. Only the guys who have seroconverted know for sure what their HIV status is... -
It's just good manners....
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You'll miss out BBeard - the better it is, either way round, the louder and more verbal I get.
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CD4 cells are a subset of the leucocytes. The following is from http://www.aidsmap.com/CD4-cell-counts/page/1327484/ which gives a basic, rather simplistic overview of CD4 counts: In addition to using a test to count the number of CD4 cells, doctors sometimes measure the proportion of all white blood cells that are CD4 cells. This is called a CD4 cell percentage. Although it’s not recommended that CD4 percentages are used as a general indicator of the health of an adult’s immune system, there can be situations where it is a useful measurement. For example, if your CD4 percentage is very different to your CD4 cell count, it might be a sign of another health problem. One circumstance when your doctor might measure your CD4 cell percentage could be if there is a big variation in your CD4 cell count between one test and the next. More attention is now being paid in the UK to the CD4 percentage than this snippet implies. For example a trend of a falling percentage might be an indicator that a change of medication is needed.
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I think that it's important to remember that the definition of aids varies from country to country (in the UK we tend to talk more about advanced HIV disease, for example). The <200 definition in the USA is a purely social definition as it gave a means of getting people who didn't otherwise have an aids diagnosis but were ill with some of the "lesser" opportunistic infections, or were going through malabsorption syndrome etc a means of receiving welfare benefits. Also, it's important to look at the CD4 percentage; regardless of the number of CD4 cells, under 20% (in the UK) is the point where doctors would start thinking that the meds need an overhaul. Despite being very ill this year due to extremely rare side effects of the meds, my CD4 remained over 500/30+% and my VL in the upper thirties (we tend to use 40 as the cut-off for undetectable here).
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POZ TOPS, do you always tell a bottom that you are poz ?
bearbandit replied to not_sure_bb's topic in General Discussion
I'm with HungLatinDom all the way, and not just because in certan parts of the UK transmission can mean jail time. It's my conscience. I've been +ve for over 25 years and have been extremely lucky in that time, but luck isn't an STD: the more you fuck around, the more you raise your chances of getting or transmitting HIV. These days it's not so much late diagnosis and an opportunist infection that will get you, the drugs are nowhere near perfect as I found out when I nearly died this summer. I'm upfront about having HIV, so there's no "I didn't know" excuse. I know what my CD4 (600) CD4% (30%) and viral load are (u/d) so I've got a pretty good idea of how infectious I am., which, according to what we know now is almost non-infectious. But almost non-infectious doesn't equal non-infectious. My rule is that the most cautious guy involved sets the rules. If I don't like them, I can just put my jeans back on, whereas at present HIV is a life-long infection. I'd sooner miss out on a potentially hot fuck than put him through a tenth of the crap I've been through. -
Did Bareback Porn Influence You To Bareback?
bearbandit replied to rawTOP's topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
No, BB porn was what I grew up watching and by the time HIV was discovered, many of us were of the opinion that we'd had our chance and lost. Reckon I probably got HIV in 1980. I think the big mistake was made in the early 80s when gay men and IV drugs users were identified as risk groups: with IV users a policy of harm limitation was established (needle exchanges and so on) whereas safer sex for us was on the verge of "just don't do it". I have one simple rule: the most cautious guy involved sets the rules. If I don't like them, hell, I can get dressed again, as can he. Since you didn't ask, I only BB with guys who know they're positive, or who are fully aware, in my opinion - his doesn't matter: it's my conscience- of the possible consequences. Honesty about VL and CD4 count (mine are U/D and 600), though there's no way to prove that, it is possible to spot a liar. And he's got to be horny as all hell - that way at least one of us will be going home dribbling cum out of our holes... -
Perfectly happy with being filmed or photo'ed. In fact that's how me and my last husband met: we were both working for the same photographer and he was less than discreet with his contact sheets. In the days of IRC he several times received his own photo back as "one of me - honest", while I was one of the models in SM Gays first edition of Rough Sex. We did a lot of private video too: my favourite one of me has me sitting on a guy's dick and the works "there's about a minutes tape left.... you gonna cum?" My favourite one of him was a cigar scene with his bit on the side at the time: "oh I can't watch, it's too disgusting" uttered on the fourth runthrough by a speaker who didn't know how to cover his eyes completely... Easy advice these days: copy the video to DVD and each have a copy.
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How bad was your fuck flu?
bearbandit replied to Fickloch's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
Serconverted in retrospect in 1980 (we didn't know there was a virus out there). Had what appeared to be the grandparents of all flu plus a rash. STD clinic didn't recognise the rash - I'd only gone because a housemate had serconverted and had secondary syph at the same time and was afraid it might be syph. If only. Seven years later had it confirmed, started meds in 89 and I'm still here. -
Why Does Anal Sex Cause Constipation?
bearbandit replied to hungry_hole's topic in General Discussion
If ever I've been a bit sloppy afterwards, it's because I like to use extra lube: extra cumloads would be better, but buggers can't always be choosers. -
Four words: "you ready for more?"
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I gave my first first (to a fellow virgin), and received my first fist (from the same guy who'd had a bit more practice since) with no more help than poppers, though I'm told my partner at the time had to run around the flat like he was caring for a hundred smoke alarms because I'd always been a noisy fuck. Mr Fist (top/bottom) managed with just a smug grin. My recommendation: cruise the guys with little hands (like mine) or musicians...
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First time I fucked with my husband was to Enigma... Now I can't hear the first disc of Orb's Adventures in the Underwords (the Little Fluffy Clouds disc) without getting hard...And, yeah, we had the fuck room in our flat...
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Regular testing for STDs is vital. If allowed to run their full course, some of them can be very nasty, besides it's impolite to pass something on to someone and not tell him. Even before HIV London Gay Switchboard was reccommending STD testing every three months. The doctor and her/his staff are working for YOU. You're the one paying them, either directly or through taxes. Medical ethics demand courtesy (on both sides). My new consultant would really rather I didn't drink: I've been diagnosed with an inflamed liver since '04 which means it was probably in that state for years before. I like my couple of cans or half bottle of wine every evening and don't plan on giving them up. That's something we're going to have to work around, as I refuse to give up quality of life for quantity of life. Doctors need to learn about each of their patients and their wishes. A comparison: my mother is dying from COPD: she's refused treatment as it requires about 16 hours per day oxygen just to delay the end. She's going for the shorter non-treatment route where she can still smoke. I expect she'll be dead well before the end of the year, but it will be on her terms and wishes. She has told the medical establishment what SHE wants. I hope I have her guts at the appropriate time.
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People used to think they were being clever when they asked if Stuart and I were identical twins or maybe just fraternal. Stuart's other partner (immigration law got in the way) looked sufficiently like us that smart arses decided that then the fertilised split and separated, Stuart and I were one cell and Tomas the other. As an adult he was near idetical to us except for the fact of being two sizes larger in almost every direction. The answer is obviously "yes"
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When the news broke about the licencing of Truvada (tenofovir/FTC) For PrEP, I was in hospital recovering from a bout of Tenovir poisoning that damn near killed me. I asked the HIV registrar her views on the breaking news and her reply was almost identical to rawTOP's: "lower efficacy and resistance". It's fascinating news because it proves that it can be done, it's just that its usefulness is really limited to highly motivated individuals, such as a sero-discordant straight couple wanting a baby. Best way to think of it is as a stepping stone to something better...
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Difficulty cumming in the morning - advice?
bearbandit replied to Darkness's topic in General Discussion
"You're gonna get this load this evening"... <optional> "IF you're a good boy" -
Need to find recently tested raw TOPS that are negative
bearbandit replied to not_sure_bb's topic in General Discussion
What dougr650 said... All a negative test result says is that at <time> on <date>, no antibodies to HIV were found in the client's blood sample. You can prove a positive, but you can't prove a negative, for which reason I divide men into the categories of "positive" and "unknown". -
Genital/anal herpes and yeast (thrush) infections aren't easily confused to the practiced eye. Get along to your HIV doctor and have the problem checked out. Neither is much fun to live with and both are easy to pass to others. Both clear up easily, though in the presence of HIV may take a little longer: in the early days of AZT I had herpes for six months without remission. Don't let that happen to you...
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You're right: even in 2000 the study of ageing and HIV was almost inconceivable. But now we've got the drugs to to the point where PwHIV are surviving longer and longer, such study is a matter of urgency. But we would never have got to this point if some of us hadn't taken the chance and swallowed megadoses of AZT, ritonavir etc. I'll likely carry unwanted effects from just those two to my grave, but they kept me going long enough for something better to come along. Others weren't as lucky as I was. Life and the HIV drugs prolonging my own life, are both a gamble.
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We may be looking at a genuine cure, in which case good luck to him, but from all I've read the cure costs in monetary terms more than a lifetime's supply of antiretrovirals, so I can't see health insurers or national health services straining at the bit to fund it. The good news here is not so much the the guy reckons that he has been cured, but, if a functional cure has been achieved, that it's been proven to be possible, so that the next step is to find a more cost-effective way of achieving the same ends. It's a bit like the US approving truvada for pre-exposure prophylaxis. FTC and tenofovir are pretty potent and toxic chemicals - I should know: tenofovir came within a few weeks of killing me. The danger of PREP lies in the people who think they can just pop a pill occasionally and then have their sex bare with no risk. Way to build up drug resistance if you do get HIV. Truvada has proved that PREP is possible, we now need to find a safer alternative.
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Just as there are poz tops whose idea of a nightmare is passing it on.