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I'm a bottom. I don't enjoy the sensation of having my cock sucked. To me, it feels weird, and is often painful. It's also a major turn off to have a top interested in my dick. I like a top who is into my body, thinks I'm hot, all that, sure. I don't even mind him playing with my cock a bit/groping me. But when the play becomes centered on my cock, I go limp very quickly. I want a top who is wanting me to get on his cock, not some top/vers guy wanting to get on my cock.

Don't do things sexually you aren't comfortable with. If you don't want to swallow, don't swallow. If you don't want a guy to cum in your mouth, flat out tell him that up front. You should NEVER allow yourself to be pressured into sex you don't want.

A lot of my fuck buddies have became friends (some even close friends, but that is rare). I don't have any hangups about giving a friend a blowjob (doesn't matter if they were always a friend, or were a fuck buddy who became a friend). I have (mostly platonic) friends that will ask me for a blowjob if they haven't gotten laid in a while. I don't consider them fuck buddies; they're a friend, and even though it's a sexual favor, it's really not that different than loaning them $50 or driving them to a doctor's appointment or any of the usual stuff friends do to help each other out. What usually ends up causing problems is when one guy wants to try dating and the other one isn't interested. I've had a few friendships die that way, but that's not because of the sex.

Getting back together with an ex is almost never a good idea. So without knowing anything about him, I'd say "move on". After reading what you said about him? I'm wanting to scream "MOVE ON" at you. Hang out with your friends, fuck other guys, in a few weeks (when you are ready) go on a couple of dates. You're better off (short term, and long term) just saying good-bye for good and moving forward with your life.

Not every bottom is an extreme doormat/sub. Honestly, if a top is going to blacklist me because I said no to anal sex one time, I'm glad to be rid of him. There's fewer tops than bottoms, but it's not like tops are a rare commodity either.

I've never been in the "anal sex is the only real sex" camp, so I don't get why you cancel a date just because you don't feel like taking a cock up your ass. If I was in that position (not wanting to get fucked for whatever reason) I'd explain to the guy I'm not up for anal that night, and ask him if he still wants to fool around, get his cock sucked (or cuddle, rim, kiss, whatever; sex doesn't have to always be the "cock goes in ass" variety). If he says no, postpone/cancel the date. But if he says yes, then go and have fun. I don't see the issue here.

I have sucked cock in public bathrooms (Barnes and Noble, Wendy's, McDonalds, movie theaters...). I don't see why you couldn't fuck in one. Just be smart about where you do it, and be quiet during. You could (with planning and a little luck) find a guy willing to host the two of you in exchange for getting to watch. I've done that before when I wanted to suck a guy or get fucked and neither of us could host.

I think, long term (decades from now or perhaps even centuries) science will be able to use organ cloning, gene therapy, new medicines, and so on, to counter the effects of most (currently) dangerous STDs. I'm not saying they'll cure all of them, but things like (for example) Hep C wouldn't be as big a deal if you could just get an occasional injection of genetically modified stem-cells to repair your damaged liver. I'm not saying it'd be pleasant, but look at how people view HIV now that it can be (for the most part) managed with medication. And look at how people became a lot more sexually adventurous when formerly deadly STDs became curable with a shot of Penicillin. Ick factor aside, how many people worry about Herpes the way they do HIV or Hep C? People worry about it less because it's considered an embarrassment/inconvenience and not a "serious" illness. So I don't believe finding cures/vaccines is required to get a majority of people to start barebacking. It'll happen once the diseases become manageable, because almost 0% of people (male, female, or some mix of the two) actually enjoy using condoms.

I remember job hunting in south Florida a couple years ago. There was a job opening for a counselor for newly converted HIV+ persons. The job required applicants to be poz, not due to risk of transmission, but because (supposedly) someone who had already come to terms with being HIV+ would be better at counseling others through it.

I think there's more "take all loads cumdump" type bottoms than you realize, they just don't advertise it. Just like how a LOT of barebackers will say "safe only" on their profiles because they are afraid friends/coworkers might see it. You might try checking out glory-holes and bathhouses instead of just looking online. Personally, I will pretty much give my ass up to ANY bareback top that wants to fuck me if I am playing at a glory-hole/ABS. But, when cruising online? A bit pickier. When I'm at the glory-hole, lots of cocks, so I know if I "partner up" with a bad top (can't stay hard, has trouble cumming, whatever) I can just go find another cock to play with in a couple minutes. If I hooked up online and the top is lame? I'm out however much time it took me to chat with him, drive over to his house, drive home, etc (which often means not getting a chance at another cock that night). So yeah, when I'm investing more time in a fuck-partner, I'm gonna be more picky.

I played with a guy (at his place) a year or two ago (call him "Bob"). I very recently found out Bob was secretly recording some of the hookups he had. I don't know if Bob recorded me having sex with him (long story short, a buddy of mine messed around with Bob's boyfriend, and Bob's boyfriend showed my friend some of the videos, he didn't see me in any of them but only saw a few). I'm not an angry or violent person (I've literally had people spit in my face and just walked away without getting violent), but my first thought when I heard about this was "If I find out he recorded us having sex, especially if he showed that to anyone, I will literally torture him to death, cut up the body, and dispose of what's left at the local sewage plant". Ignoring the possible (read: VERY LIKELY) legal consequences that could result from this, you could end up getting the living SHIT beaten out of you, or flat out murdered. I'd strongly advise against it. There are PLENTY of guys who are into being filmed, go fuck them if that's your fetish.

I've played at glory holes inside adult bookstores, but have never successfully cruised a public bathroom. I'm curious, how do you show interest without being too obvious? How to signal other guys who might be interested that you're looking to play, without making it obvious to your typical "just here to take a piss" type straight guys? What signals/signs do you watch for to tell another guy is cruising you?

Pig Bottom, as I said before, yes, I agree the guy who infected the 15 year old should face some kind of consequences. But he shouldn't be nailed to the wall. As I posted before, and as Rawtop posted, you aren't really 100% an adult at 15 but you aren't a helpless child either. The man didn't hold him down and rape him. The teenager consented. This wasn't some 10 year old totally incapable of comprehending the realities of sex and therefore unable to consent. A 15 year old made not be as mature as a fully grown adult, but he is responsible for what ahppened to him to some degree. He's a victim yes, but if he's savvy enough to explore the world of gay sex (downloading Grindr, arranging a hookup, etc), he's old enough to know "barebacking is risky", and don't pretend he NEVER saw a pop-up or website warning taking about condoms. He isn't some Amish kid, he's an American kid with a smart-phone. There is no way in Hell he was ignorant of things like STDs/HIV and condoms. What happened to him is sad, but a least partly his own damn fault (how big a part is debatable, but to some extent it is his fault).

Pig Bottom I disagree with the "he's just a kid!!!" argument. In most states, teenagers start driving (permit but still) at that age, or YOUNGER if it's a motorcycle or farm vehicle license. At 15 you are considered old enough to legally work (I believe labor laws in most areas in the USA say "14 or older", even though most places won't hire below 16). So at his age, he is at the point we consider him mature enough to be put in charge of other people's safety (when you are driving you literally have other people's lives riding on your actions). It is not unfair to say "He's old enough to be responsible for his own health and safety; at least enough to request anyone fucking him in the ass to wear a condom".

The pregnancy and STD rates among teenagers in those areas are extremely high. Also, when you don't educate teens about this stuff, they'll turn to their peers (who 90% of the time have no fucking CLUE) for advice. So you end up with teenagers telling each other things like "If the guy pisses in her vagina after he cums, it'll kill the sperm and she won't get pregnant", or "If you brush your teeth within 30 minutes of giving oral sex you can't get an STD from it", or even (I swear, I heard one girl told this by another as a teen) "Guys have a chemical in their cum that kills other guys' sperm, so if you don't want to get pregnant, have sex with two or three guys in the same day". Anyone who claims "Abstinence Only" sex ed is anything other than a huge waste of time and resources is a fucking IDIOT. But even if he was in abstinence only classes, he should have known from other sources (TV, internet, etc) that STDs including HIV exist, and that condoms prevent them. So eh, I kind of agree with slapping the guy who fucked him with statutory rape charges, but the rest of the charges are bullshit.

You can find cock (or ass) in smaller towns or rural areas. You just have to do a couple of things (possibly in combination): 1: Plan ahead. Guys aren't going to be available 24/7 like they are in NYC or Fort Lauderdale. Even at 6pm, you might have trouble finding cock (or ass). Make plans a day or two ahead of time (pain in the ass, I know, but you'll get more action that way). If you have Friday night free and want to plow some ass, better start cruising online Wednesday or Thursday. 2: Be prepared to drive a bit. That hot bottom you're dying to breed? Might live 30 minutes away, might live 60 minutes away, or more. Especially if you're trying to be discrete, expect to travel out of your town, maybe even out of the surrounding area. 3: Lower your standards (to a realistic level). Gay/bi men make up what, about 10-20% of the population (going by most estimates)? So after cutting out women, children, and straight guys, you'll have about 50 gay guys for every 1000 people in your area. Now subtract the guys not looking to play (closeted, in a relationship, etc), the guys who are complete flakes/losers, and the guys not on the same sites as you (or just not into you). You'll maybe end up with a dozen or so guys to choose from. If you've only got a dozen guys to choose from, odds are NONE of them are going to be the fuck-buddy of your dreams. So either accept that and be willing to settle for a 6/10, or get used to jacking off. 4: Give up on trying to find new cock (or ass) all the time. Settle for having an on-going fuck buddy (or fuck buddies). Yeah, this might mean learning how to have a 5 minute conversation before or after sex. It might *gasp* mean learning the other guy's name. It doesn't mean you'll be getting married, so don't get worked up at the thought. And if you do get tired of fucking the same guy? You can always go back to jacking off alone. BTW, I'm not trying to be bitchy to the OP. I used to live in a small town (like, less than 1500 people small), and the attitudes and behavior of guys online in those areas pissed me a LOT of the time.

Couple more: -Tops who try to force their cock in my ass. LUBE UP, slide it in. If it doesn't go in after a couple pokes, stop for 2 seconds, use some more lube, and try again. I don't want your unlubed cock rammed up my asshole anymore than you want me to bite down as hard as I can when I'm giving you a blowjob. Don't fucking do it! -Tops who try to hold me down/force me to continue if I say "stop" or "no" during sex. I'm there to get fucked, not have my ass torn up so bad I have to go to the hospital. If I'm hurting enough that I say "pull out" or "stop", you better fucking believe you're in for a fight if you try to keep going. (I've had guys do this, I hit them/shove them off me, they mumble an apology and expect to resume fucking me. Not gonna happen, asshole.)

I got caught playing in the back of a car at around 2am one night. Cops ran our IDs, gave us a warning, told us to go home. I don't play in cars or open areas anymore, though I have sucked cock in public bathrooms since then, but am always careful about it (some bathrooms are set up better for it, more private, stalls with walls down to the floor, etc).

I think it varies from region to region. In the Fort Lauderdale/Miami area, most tops seemed to just expect bareback (condoms weren't discussed, it was just assumed we'd fuck bare), and I don't really remember any tops insisting on condoms (some tops wanted to see a recent Neg HIV test before going bareback though). Up here in MA, barebacking is more taboo, and a LOT of guys will run away screaming if you even ask them about fucking bare.

I think average length is about 5 to 6 inches (measuring along the top of your erect penis, from tip of the head to where your cock meets your body). So to me, anything above 7 inches is hung. Anything above 9 inches is "very hung" or "huge". And anything 9 inches or better that is also packing girth is "horse hung". A guy who is like 5 inches with a lot of girth, is just average with a lot of girth. That's just my take on it. Btw, I usually assume a guy is claiming an inch for every 3/4 of an inch he actually has. Sometimes you'll be surprised, but it's usually a pretty accurate way of telling how big a guy's cock is gonna be in person versus how big he *said* it was going to be.

Bad hygiene. Guys who claim to be tops but want to bottom once the clothes come off. Guys who try to lecture me about safe-sex when they find out I'm a barebacker. I respect their choice to play with condoms, reduce the risk, all that crap, but I'm looking for raw sex, so if that's not your thing, move along. A bitchy little speech about condoms (which don't make the risk 0% anyway, STOP FUCKING PRETENDING THEY DO!!!) isn't wanted, and it's not going to make me stop barebacking. So STFU and let's both just move on to other partners. Guys who aren't willing to discuss kink before we play. Either extreme is bad. I can't stand guys on hookup sites getting scared if you even mention something like watersports or a little spanking while chatting with them. If that's not your thing, say so (even if it's a MUST for me, I'll just move on and find someone who is into it, I'm not gonna freaking force my kinks on anyone). But there's no need to freak out, block me, etc, because I asked if you're into blind-folds. On the other hand, don't invite me over saying you want a blowjob, then after I get there, expect me to tie you up and shit on your chest. I don't expect you to tell me every little detail about what you're into before we meet (you can tell me you like your nipples played with after your cock is already in my mouth), but give me a heads up if you're into the hardcore kink.

Lately I've been experimenting more with group sex. I have a top who is really into fucking an ass, then having another bottom suck his cock. I have no issue sucking a cock that's been up MY ass (I know that I'm clean), but with another bottom, how do you know they're clean? (I don't judge people who are into it, but scat is a MAJOR turn off for me.) I'm just wondering how people feel about this (ass to other bottom's mouth, not just ass to mouth in general)? Would like to hear from anyone who's done it or wants to do it, whether tops or bottoms. Turn on, turn off? Advice? What do you all think?

It's probably in your mind. If you are average size, but have a big muscular body, your cock is going to seem smaller due to the ratio. I have a decent sized cock (between 7.5" and 8") but it looks smaller because I am very tall. You say you're average ("normal"), so I wouldn't worry about it. Guys I've hooked up with (even at adult bookstores or other cruisy places) are a mix of dick sizes. I've encountered guys with HUGE cocks (beer-can thick and 9"+ long), and guys with literally 2" at best (so small it's hard to blow them). As long as you're able to get hard, stay hard, and cum? Most cocksuckers will be happy. And for every size-queen who turns you down, there's a guy who's into average (or even small) cocks.

Adult bookstores (with gloryholes) tend to be mostly guys wanting to suck cock or get their cock sucked. Most guys that go there to fuck, are wanting bareback or are open to it. Of all the guys that fucked me in the ABS, only about 1 out of every 6 or 7 wanted to use a condom; and most of the time, they will go bare if you tell them you only take it raw.

I've played on webcam before. It can be really hot. You can always wear a mask (get them at most sex toy shops).