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There are always exceptions to every rule, of course, but vision loss-level neurosyphilis is frequently the result of an untreated long-ago infection, not a recent one. Theoretically, if you were infected in April, that June panel should have picked it up (it's certainly enough time for the infection to be detectable). Luckily, treatments have improved in recent years, though as you note, you may not have a full recovery. Hopefully it will be complete enough to let you live a relatively standard life. -
That's actually a very good thing - not 100% of the time, obviously, because there are times when you're going to need to get things out, and HE will need to listen - but active listening is a good skill to practice. That does sound like something that needs to be worked on - but I think the fact you're aware means you're probably smart enough to deal with that, and if it's not solvable, to end things amicably (or decide to accept what it is for what it is). The only thing I'd suggest you consider is this: might you be seeking random loads because you know if he finds out, he'll lump that in with "leaving him for someone else"? In other words, are you looking to trigger him to accuse you of cheating to find someone else, and engineer a breakup, so you can leave while telling yourself "I'm innocent, I didn't try to find someone else, it was just sex"? Not saying this is the case - I'm just always curious when someone who's in a relationship with issues would be playing with gasoline close to a fire.
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All good points - but to clarify, he's saying that all people have some staph, but not all is resistant (in fact most is NOT), and even among those who do have some resistant staph, not all of them are themselves infected. As you know it's still a serious concern, not something "everyone" has.
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This paragraph does raise some interesting questions, though. Do you agree with him that he "knows how" to compartmentalize and that you don't? Maybe a rule like the one you created for that one instance - no more than a couple of hookups with one guy, and no other socializing with a hookup, even if the sex is great? That might guard against developing feelings for someone else, and show him you can separate the two. If you love anonymous cock and not knowing the dude, would he be more comfortable if you limited your play to places where it would be hard to know whose cock it was - ie backrooms, glory holes, adult bookstores, baths, etc.? (Those may not all be available where you live, of course, but it's the concept - always anonymous - that might help him cope.)
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Insofar as the rules of this site permit it, you're always free to re-use anything I post 🙂
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Genetics do play a role, of course. Since a FTM person typically has XX chromosomes, one of those came from his father. So if he transitions and is on testosterone, and his father was a hairy man, it might well trigger the "hairy" gene to express itself more than if his father had been relatively smooth. So not every trans man is going to have a hairy chest no matter how much testosterone he's prescribed. If you're a cis man, however, you have a Y chromosome from your father, which itself may be coded for "not so hairy" (particularly if your dad wasn't hairy). That doesn't mean higher testosterone levels wouldn't help you, but the effects might be more limited. On the other hand, if (as austin picked up on) your testosterone levels are somewhat low, just getting them up to average or higher might make a dramatic difference.
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But you may be forgetting - a significant number of the guys on such sites aren't there to actually hook up - they're looking for a "connection" with someone for long enough online to craft a quick fap-fap session script for, and then ditch for the actual fap-fap. So they tell guys they're 8 thick inches or whatever and get a narrative going about how the guy likes it and gets some pics of the guy to use for visual stimulation and then - phone off - they can go to fappyland.
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I feel very attracted towards someone I barely know
BootmanLA replied to Gingerguy's topic in General Discussion
Two additional thoughts. Hospitals (or at least parts of them) are often filled with drama - not the petty high school how-dare-she-talk-to-him kind, but the "guy in the next bed in the ER is coding" kind. Spend enough time in that, and either you become inured to it, or you stay on a constantly heightened state of alertness and reaction, with feelings coursing below the surface. And possibly because of that, there are lots of TV medical dramas, about ER workers and EMTs and risky trauma surgeons and the like, and they're full of people in the workplace fighting off attractions to each other and having affairs and what not. Maybe enough of that kind of stuff in the culture makes that stuff manifest itself, almost as though it's expected? -
The problem with this approach is that "evident inhibition properties" is not the same thing as "does something of substance towards killing MRSA". "Inhibiting" could simply mean that with FGE, the cultures grew slower - still expanding, still a problem, just not growing as fast. In other words, it makes the environment a little less hospitable to grow. If they'd found it actually killed any MRSA cells, they would undoubtedly have so stated.
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There's a few problems with this. First, this is a public discussion board, not a meet-up site or even a "connect two people" kind of place. And second, to that end, new members don't have any way to carry on a private conversation with another member on here. With enough participation in the *public* parts of the forum - and you REALLY ought to read the pinned posts at the start of each main forum - you'll gradually advance from being a "new member" to one who gains additional abilities on the site, such as the ability to send private messages (and a lot more). But until you reach that point - again, via PUBLIC participation - you won't have any options to do what you want to do here. Until then, you can make a limited number of posts each day, you can't "react" to other postings, and so forth. Limits are gradually relaxed (ie more posts allowed in a day) as your "experience" here increases (and I use that word because it's not just about how long you've been a member; it's how much you've contributed).
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This is not only false, but dangerously false. Roughly 2% of people are *carriers* of MRSA - which is hardly "everyone", a word that you might consider looking up - but not even all of those 2% are infected with it. I realize that virtually none of us here are doctors (and very few others are other medical personnel), but throwing out bullshit information like this in a health forum is downright irresponsible - especially when even a CURSORY google search like "How many people have MRSA" yields the correct answer repeatedly in the top results, including from the CDC (for the technical minded) and WebMD (for the average user). [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/mrsa/healthcare/index.html [think before following links] https://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/understanding-mrsa
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I have never been to Australia, so I can't speak to how social interactions there work. But in the U.S., at least, and certainly in many other western cultures, there are racial undertones to all kinds of things that you wouldn't necessarily think. I would have THOUGHT that Australia's long and shameful history of how it treated its indigenous peoples would have, maybe, provided an example to you about how race used to (and often still does) interact with personal conduct, even if you are, in a very literal sense, "open to all".
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I think it's probably helpful for regular contributors here to be reminded of a nice feature on this site. If you look over to the left of any post, there's a bit of info about the person who posted it. There's a photo, or a silhouette figure if the member hasn't posted it; below that is the member's level-status, or whatever it's called, ranging from "New Member" up to "Senior Member" (and maybe beyond, but I'm not sure if I want to know what happens to us after we're seniors). And below THAT is a little "word balloon" signifying "posts" - with a number, that number being the number of posts the user has made. You can also click on that person's name, or their photo/silhouette, and pull up their membership page on this site, seeing when they joined, as well as a history of much of their activity on the site. If they've filled in information it will also show things like location, HIV status, and a whole lot more. So when looking at someone who's a brand-new member, who joined within the last week, only has four posts (all in the forum you're in), all of which are substantially more right-wing than even the median member of this site, the odds are, shall we say, greater than average that he's a garden-variety shit-posting Trumpanzee troll, seeking attention the only way he knows how - by shitting on everything until someone calls him on it.
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How long for your HIV to progress?
BootmanLA replied to pozsewerpig's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
Members are reminded here: Discussions about choosing to progress to AIDS are not just barred in the health forum; they're prohibited on the entire site. -
Speaking as a (somewhat) prolific user, I'd say that if the profile is "live", send a message or post on his page, in the event that he may not visit often but could have notifications on. He might respond even if he's not regularly on. If no response is received, my (completely unofficial) rule of thumb would be "if he hasn't logged on in 5 years, he's probably never coming back." I've seen people go a year, two years, without posting anything, and then show back up, but I'd think 5 is safe. Maybe less than that, if the moderators think so.
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How long for your HIV to progress?
BootmanLA replied to pozsewerpig's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
I couldn't have said it better myself. And no, no condemnation - most of us have done stupid things in our life, especially while young, nor am I trying to reassure you per se. But again, thank you for saying those ten words that everyone here needs to take to heart. -
I'll also add: while Louisiana is a very, very conservative state, there are liberal enclaves in New Orleans and Baton Rouge and Shreveport, and within those, there are religious institutions that are much more accepting than most others. The First United Methodist Church here in BR is one of them, as is the Reform Jewish temple and the Unitarian Universalist Church. Their leaders are very supportive of the LGBT community.
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FWIW, quite a number of us around the Louisiana capitol had a similar impression of Mike Johnson - that he was a man fighting hard against his true self. I hadn't considered that his wife might be "in on the joke" so to speak, but yeah, it's very possible she is there primarily to shore up her husband's bona fides as a heterosexual. FWIAW, I'd always had the same vibe from Tony Perkins, who was in the state legislature here with Johnson for a while before Johnson (different geographic area represented, and a different temperament - definitely more of a snake). As many of you may know Perkins is now the president of the Family Research Council. That "he seems a little swishy" vibe seems to pervade all sorts of organizations on the right in this state. The head of one of Louisiana's biggest anti-abortion groups is another one. I once made a passing comment at the Capitol that he would clearly be against abortion because any fetus created by sexual congress with him would have to be desperately, desperately wanted by both parties, given what he'd have to convince himself to do to make it happen.
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You have, as always - and I hope it's clear(er) that I wasn't questioning YOUR views on BDSM, merely trying to find whether any situation might justify that kind of "tear-down/build-up" language. One point I was trying to make was that it would probably rarely be appropriate, and only in the context of a fully committed relationship that also had Dom/Sub/BDSM as an element. If that wasn't clear, I'm certainly sorry for not being clearer.
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Yes, you pretty much can (though you're likely to pick up all sorts of other bugs, which if untreated can also kill you and/or make your life miserable). Of course if you'd gotten on PrEP before this, you could still be a "piggy slutty power bottom" and not have to deal with all the side issues of being HIV+.
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Yes. A prayer call is like any other "conference" call - the kind so common in corporate america, where most people are muted but a handful of people have enabled microphones. The great unwashed can dial in and listen to a minister preach hell and damnation, plus get a dose of right-wing politics.
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If you say so. Your rhetoric is very familiar-sounding and I know a few people who've expressed similar "opinions" who've gotten banned for other infractions.
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Not saying this is always or even usually the case, but people often don't know how to list "positions" in a profile. I see people all the time on the apps who say they're "top, bottom, versatile" - and I want to strangle each and every one of them and beat some sense into them: They are versatile, because they do both. There's some leeway for "top/versatile" and "bottom/versatile" because those suggest a degree of versatility with some preference for one over the other. But all three? That's horsehit. Now, saying you're LOOKING FOR "top, bottom, or versatile" is fine - it implies you're open to any of the three for a partner (either for an hour or a lifetime or anything in between). What you might be seeing, though, is this: sometimes a profile is shared by a couple, and one may be X and the other Y. It obviously should be spelled out that both are represented in the profile, of course, even if it's primarily used by one. But a top partnered with a side might explain some of those people - he's looking to fuck, which he doesn't get at home, so....
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Ewwwww
