NYBBGUY58

I guess I'm not the spontaneous sort. I usually set up encounters with plenty of lead time, disclose my HIV status upfront and my desire to take the load. And...I have a few friends with benefits. I remember the first time I barebacked years after learning I was HIV positive. We'd set it up, I'd told him the score. When he was about to fuck me (as in I was in position and he was about to enter), he asked "Do you want to take the load?" I answered "This is an option? SURE!!!!!!!!" From then on out, I just made it clear I wanted it bare. If people don't want to that, no hard feelings, I just move on. The moral of this story is, never run after a bus, a train, a cab or a man. There's always another one coming along.

I'm not a fan of al fresco sex, honestly. I'm a boy who likes to talk a bit while sipping tea or wine, needs a mattress and a lot of foreplay before taking the dick.

Sort of. A guy who was fucking me once said something like "I have girlfriends, they're pretty and I like fucking them, but they don't know to touch my ass the way you do." I was playing with his balls and stroking his asshole while he fucked me, and had rimmed him thoroughly before he mounted me...does that count? 🙃

Last load received a few weeks ago in the comfort of my own home, after worshipping him and working him up to the glorious explosion!

I don't think there's a single explanation. Part of it is a particular political moment with moves away from internationalism. It's like asking why did the citizens of the UK vote resoundingly to "Brexit" from the EU? Neither country will benefit economical from isolationist policies, but they make for great sound bytes. Some of it, I believe, is lingering fury over the 2006/2007 subprime mortgage debacle. Entire life savings evaporated, and yet some of the primary beneficiaries (e.g., Jamie Dimon) were never called to account. On top of it, the U.S. chose to use taxpayer money to bail out several industries. In many places, people embrace simplistic solutions because the institutions do not serve their interests. After either the 2008 or 2012 election in the US, an article ran in Vanity Fair(?) titled Government of the One Percent by the One Percent. The economic interests of the vast majority of citizens in the U.S. are not shared by their representatives, and it's not easy to get representatives who will represent us since incumbency is tantamount to permanent tenure, and there's much too much money infused by corporations. The Citizens United Supreme court decision essentially declared corporations and unions to have the free speech rights of individuals. That has left us with a bunch of self-interested "individuals" with outsized funds to funnel into getting candidates elected. Unions have been on the run since the Regan presidency of the 80s, so they don't have as much clout. All of this has translated into unfocused fury and a lack of real political alternatives. I personally think that too many are looking for the knight in shining armor (aka, presidential candidates) to rescue us, which doesn't really work. To create even the possibility of change, the broader mass of citizens of the US are going to have to figure out how to talk one another, and not get so organized the bipartisan organization of political life. Otherwise, our political dialogue will continue to be deadlocked.

I certainly have. Connections sometimes just occur and can feel all sorts of ways. Given the, uh, close quarters sex may feel extremely intimate.

I'll have to hire a photographer the next time I take a dick...😏

I looked at moving a bit. It can be tricky if you're HIV positive. Believe it or not, Canada does not want HIV+ immigrating there. I believe that if one wants to, tests are required. From what I recall, the EU has no regulations on HIV status; I can't remember about the UK. The Mideast is not hospitable, generally speaking, to people with HIV. Sorry I can't be more definite, I was unable to find the Website that had specific information.

I will always retain affection for this highly imperfect man, because when he stepped up in 2012 to endorse gay marriage, he paid a steep political price at the time. Obama's aides and staff were furious with him, he was shut out for quite some time. That allowed my nephew and his now husband to marry and adopt a daughter. There is no such thing as a perfect person or elected official. I rather liked his off-the-cuff style, even with his well-documented blunders.

This is an excellent question. I think it works after one load, in part because I use a lube injector in addition to lubing myself and the guy breeding me. My favorite friends with benefits like the feel of the injected lube - it makes my hole silky and easier to penetrate.

I learned the hard way that it's always best to be upfront. I also can't really relax and enjoy myself if I'm thinking about the lack of communication around HIV status and what others are comfortable with. That's what works best for me.

I've taken various sizes, and am not really a size queen. As others have commented, extremely large dicks can really hurt, depending on any number of factors. In the end (pun intended) it's about a lot more than volume or length or a guy with a particular build. I'm not really a monogamous sort of boy, but I like there to be a connection and meeting of minds in addition to the intersection of body parts! "Variety's the very spice of life, That gives it all its flavour." William Cowper, 1785 Or a slutty modern version: "So many men...so little time!" 🙃

You're welcome, thanks for creating this space and maintaining it! 😍

PLEASE NOTE: THESE OPINIONS ARE SOLELY MY OWN! There certainly have been protests and the media has reported on the more egregious violations. I think a lot of people are terribly confused about what can be done to respond. The opposition in the US has depended on tried and true tactics: protest marches, boycotts and letters/calls/emails to elected representatives. My personal take is that those tactics aren't terribly effective any longer. There's no real consequence for the powers that be when they're ignored. Part of that is the historic relationship of "progressive" movements with the Democratic Party. While I don't think the Democrats are in any way the same as the GOP/Republicans, in the end they largely have chosen to co-opt social motion to leaders that aren't willing to shake up the status quo of power arrangements. While there are things I didn't care for about Mr. Biden, he walked the walk in that he diversified the racial/gender makeup of his administration. I think it was best described by an article that came out years ago - 2008 or 2012 - in Vanity Fair. In the United States we are governed by the one percent FOR the one percent. My own feelings are mixed; while the Democratic Party put an end to discrimination in the military, Sam Nunn (former Democratic senator for the state of Georgia ) was adamantly opposed to allowing gays in the military and blocked it at every turn and Bill Clinton put into place the disastrous "don't ask, don't tell" policy. Joe Biden forced the Obama administration to push for marriage equality, yet Bill Clinton signed the Defense of Marriage Act. Pardon me if I still feel at best skeptical of the Democratic Party as an institution, though apologies have been offered. To put it bluntly, we in the US don't have a reliable vehicle to push to save reforms let alone enact them. I trace some of the anger to the absolute abandonment of any real programs to help with poverty, both in the inner cities and rural poverty (e.g., Appalachia and the so-called Rust Belt states). Add to that the real lack of consequences to the perpetrators of the sub-prime mortgage debacle of 2006/2007, and you have an enraged electorate that feels fucked over. With good reason. At this point, I feel much more sympathy to the progressives in pre-WW2 Europe. I used to wonder why didn't they do more, where was the left when the right was busily exterminating Jews, Roma, Catholics, and Socialists? I have a better answer to that now: like them, the progressive movement in the US was too timid and did not do more than call for marches which lead to nothing changing. Incumbents were unwilling to risk their comfortable government jobs and pensions to create stronger safeguards. So here we are, basically fucked. Personally, I am investing my time and money in immediate help for those affected and in creating electoral reform - things like open primaries - so that the current bipartisan policies of upholding the stranglehold of money and incumbency on our political process. PLEASE NOTE: THESE OPINIONS ARE SOLELY MY OWN!

"Wanted" with Al Parker and Jack Wrangler. My favorite scene wasn't hot, I found it funny: Jack Wrangler is a prison guard "supervising" a chain gang while fucking one of the inmates and shouting "I can still see you!" When he realizes that the inmates are making a break for it, he grabs for his gun, but his "playmate" pins him in place with his ass...