ErosWired

Better to say that crabs are not necessarily an STI, but the principal route of transmission is still direct physical contact between hosts, and as these are pubic lice, that contact is usually has something to do with bumping uglies. What we can say is that crabs are not an infection, but rather an infestation. The stigma around lice, aside from them being a colossal pain in the ass, arises largely from their association with poor hygiene. While anyone can get lice, we tend to look upon people who allow insects to live on their bodies as unclean.

Crabs, or pubic lice (Pthirus pubis) are insects, but cannot be avoided in the manner of fleas. There is no such thing as louse repellent. They are passed from person to person by close physical contact, and humans are their only host. They lay eggs which they attach to the shaft of the pubic hair, and the adults feed on human blood. They can infest other areas of body hair, including eyebrows and lashes, but not the hair of the head (apparently they don’t want to encroach on the turf of head lice). Treatment involves the thorough application of creams or shampoos to kill lice and eggs, along with scrupulous cleaning of clothes and bedding to get rid of all lice not on the body. They will not go away on their own. Below is a link to the CDC sheet on treatment: [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/parasites/lice/pubic/treatment.html#:~:text=A lice-killing lotion containing,local drug store or pharmacy. I have never had them. How I have dodged that bullet, given as many groins as have ground themselves against my cunt, I cannot say.

I can’t imagine that you actually miss out on much - I suspect that committed adherents to the practice are few and far between aside from that small population in dedicated cages. And you’re not getting flooded with those loads, regardless.

I think this is a false distinction. A person who performs a sexual service for money is by definition a prostitute - the amount is irrelevant, and any “market rate” for any service of any kind will always be governed by the lowest price for which the service can be obtained. That is how a competitive open market of goods and services works. A ‘tip’ normally refers to a discretionary contribution by the recipient of a service, but in this context, the ‘tip’ is required, and without it, the service will not be performed - therefore it is not actually a tip, but a fee. A guy may say, “I’m not a prostitute, I just fuck for tips,” to which I would reply, “Honey, that just makes you a cheaper whore.” I never entertain such overtures from Tops for a second - the instant any suggestion of a transaction occurs, the conversation is over. Nobody offers to compensate me for the use of my body, and I wouldn’t accept it if they did, and I have no need whatever to pay to get a cock in my cunt when my entire purpose is to be free access for breeding.

I have to ask - you required a condom for anal sex - but you took the load orally? While the CDC says there is little to no risk of HIV transmission through unprotected oral sex, the same cannot be said for other STDs. He could have stayed wrapped just like you wanted in your ass, but if he then pulled out and gave you the load raw orally - and had gono - you’d still be in for a case of gono as surely as if he’d fucked your ass raw. If this is your safe sex practice, it isn’t practical - you’d be better off either getting on PrEP and risking the other STDs as an expected hazard, or committing yourself to the safe route and not taking raw cock in any hole.

It’s hard to determine by the self-reporting in the unscientific polls we usually run around here, plus you have to settle on a definition first. By ‘vers’ do you mean anyone who ever performs the opposite role, even if only on the rarest of occasions? Or do you mean truly flexible flip-fuckers who do both easily at will? There are lots of guys on here who will claim to be total bottoms, but will also talk about the circumstances under which they’ll fuck another bottom - meaning they’re not actually total bottoms. Polls here generally show about 24% self-reporting as ‘vers’, and 66% identifying as ‘bottom’, but it’s clear that a very substantial segment of those bottoms are not total bottoms and could be thrown into the ‘vers’ column if your definition is loose enough. My guess is that the number of bona fide total bottoms is likely equivalent to the number of bona fide total Tops, at around 10% each. That would suggest that, to some degree, 80% of gay guys will flip depending on the circumstance. But again, that depends entirely on how you frame the question.

I suspect that most who find it odd do so simply because they don’t understand what the women are hoping to find. Among fully gay men, the reaction to female secondary sexual characteristics tends to be either disinterest, or revulsion, sometimes strongly. In spaces that have been organized around homosexuality, the inclusion of the other gender can make the space feel less safe and welcoming, given that the gay experience of the hetero mainstream has largely been one of bias and prejudice. Ceding safe spaces to hetero folks is a hard sell. While it is possible for a woman to be attracted to or interested in gay men, for many gay men being targeted by such a person is a nightmare scenario. Of course, sexuality being a spectrum, the bisexual proclivities of any individual are subject to exploration, but the question is whether a bi guy is more likely to go to a gay site when he is in a gay frame of mind, and a hetero site when he’s looking for a woman. If so, it makes less sense for the woman to be on the gay site, offering attentions unlikely to be returned. Frankly, I have always just thought of lesbians as gay women, and wondered why we needed a separate word for them; it would make sense to me if lesbians also used Grindr to find one another.

I actually have found it quite difficult to interact with men immersed in pup-play, because when they’re into it, they’re into it. You either go along with the premise and treat them like a dog, or it doesn’t work. It’s even hard to associate with them on a submissive-to-submissive basis because their form of submission is so specialized and proscribed. But, to be fair, you have to be in a very special mindset to actually let another man walk you down the sidewalk on a collar and chain and hike your leg up and piss on something when he tells you to. I couldn’t do it.

I haven’t encountered it at all where I am, but Kentucky is typically about 20 years behind the curve, in terms of adopting new culture. It’s pitiful, really.

You guys spouting off all the bugchasing noise - this isn’t the Backroom. This is the HIV & Sexual Health part of the forum. Unless and until this thread gets moved there, you’re risking infractions posting that.

This isn’t new - there’s been a pup-play fetish in which guys perform submission as dogs for a long time, and they’ve been putting on dog masks/hoods and shoving plugs with tails attached up their asses the whole time, all an extension of being collared. What may be trending is the behavior becoming more mainstream and less alternative - or at least the gear aspect of it, with vanilla people trying on the “costume” to feel edgy without understanding the meaning or significance behind it, which I find annoying as fuck.

Caution - This is not the Backroom. This particular topic usually draws comments relating to bugchasing, which will incur infractions from the Moderators if posted here. The OP may wish to request that a Mod move this question to the backroom. Personally, I’ve always kind of felt sorry for all the guys who got a zodiac tattoo because they were born a Scorpio and now everyone thinks they’re HIV+.

I’ve never understood this, as it flies in the face of what I’ve always believed to be true of men - that, on the whole, they will get laid if given any opportunity. The reproductive instinct is very strong, and most men, statistically, think about sex in at least some fashion multiple times in a day. Yet we lead the horse to water and it doesn’t drink. Given the ecstatic pleasure to be had from intercourse that can be obtained no other way, I’m at a loss to explain why so many walk away from it like leaving a hundred-dollar bill lying on the sidewalk. I mean, I can understand a guy passing on me if he thinks I’m a five-dollar whore, but I would at least expect him to fuck somebody.

Your piercer is likely going to want to start you at 10g or 12g. You may be able to persuade him or her to start at 8, but they’re going to want to make the smallest initial wound possible. My piercer did ask me whether I intended to hang weights from it (!) because apparently that’s not advisable at lower gauges. I let her know that was not part of my plan. It’s going to take between 3 to 6 months for full healing, but you can get back into action once the initial swelling, crusting, and discomfort has passed - I would recommend a couple of weeks. Be scrupulous about your aftercare. That location is a steamy hothouse between two sources of potential bacteria, and you’ll need to make sure you keep it clean to avoid infection. I’ve had no trouble at all with mine, and have been pleased with my decision to get it, but in honesty, I haven’t found it all that stimulating. The biggest tickle I get from it is just knowing it’s there.

Can you identify any particular event, observation, or realization that brought about this change of perspective? I imagine there are many in a similar situation who might benefit from the insight. I congratulate you on your accomplishment.

So, basically what you’re saying is that you’re jealousy and aggressively possessive and territorial…over your own ass? 😜

Perhaps I should clarify that I think it unreasonable to expect from casual arrangements based solely on a sexual component. The long-term Leather lifestyle arrangements you’re referring to are true relationships, with bonds that form at multiple levels, the sexual component being only one of them, albeit a prominent one. In less committed, more transactional Dom/sub ‘ownership’ arrangements, based solely on the sexual dynamic, my experience and observation has been that there is seldom sustained follow-through, and most of these end up being of relatively short duration as a result. The Leather ethic is not, regrettably, as widely observed as one might wish.

Not his business to ask? I avoid threesomes with committed couples because I refuse to be a potential catalyst for discontent and possible failure of a relationship between two other people, especially if I’m nothing more than a piece of ass. Why? Because someone inserted himself into mine and I no longer have a family because of it. The Top who is going to fuck me in half this evening has a husband. This Top has been fucking me semi-regularly for over a year and a half and has probably bred about 20 loads into me. At the very start I made it my business to ask if his partner minded me servicing him, and whether my service to him would potentially cause a rift between them. He assured me that they play separately and it would not. I have an ethical obligation to ensure that my actions do not cause harm. I don’t ask every anonymous man who walks into my hotel or bathhouse room whether he has a relationship, but in the event that I come to know that a third party is involved, I have to be considerate if that other person in the same way that I hope someone would be considerate of me in like circumstance, and respectful of my relationships. We cannot dismiss this girlfriend’s interests simply because she’s a woman; indeed, the fact that she’s female likely predisposes her more to an emotional attachment even than our friend here, something to which he might have empathy. That this Top might be callously fucking men behind her back is also not grounds to dismiss her - the man being fucked would then be complicit in a knowing deception. Note that I didn’t suggest that our friend ask her - I only suggest that he ponder the question.

I was exclusively owned once, for six years, but his control over my sexuality was more in the nature of insisting that I take what I was told to take when I was told to take it, by whom I was told to take it - with his approval. There were a couple of instances where men wanted to use me and he did not permit it. While he made it clear that my purpose was for use, he also made it clear that it would be at his discretion. Frankly, I enjoyed the arrangement, though he could have taken much greater advantage of it than he did, or than I wished he had. He actually held a physical, paper deed to my body that outlined his ownership. It wouldn’t have stood up in a court, of course, but as far as I was concerned, it was as valid and binding as a deed to any car or house, and I had given it to him freely. After he ultimately returned it, I have given the Deed to my body to a very small, select number of men for limited periods, because they impress me with their exceptionalism as Tops and/or Dominants. The Deed now specifies, however, that the rights granted - and they are broad - are not exclusive. The main reason for this is that I have discovered that if you give a Top/Dominant unlimited power to use you sexually at will in any way that pleases him - he won’t take advantage of it. On the face of it, you’d think that if you give a man a sex slave and say, “No, really - you can do anything you want, as often as you want”, he’d start livin’ the dream. But no. And really, it’s an unreasonable expectation on the part of a bottom/submissive to look to another man to be responsible for keeping his sexual hunger (which may be voracious) constantly sated. A Top may have moments in which he feels like thoroughly using a bottom, but these are moods, and cannot be sustained on a constant basis. Plus, doing what is needed to keep a bottom satisfactorily fucked is a lot like work. Even if the arrangement is instead one of ensuring that a submissive is in a constant state of sexual denial, even that requires daily effort on the Top’s part. So the difficulty with Tops who begin to behave in an exclusively territorial way is that it’s almost impossible for them to actually responsibly meet the needs of the people that they’re claiming.

So how does she feel about this “time share”? Because it seems to me he’s not just sharing you with the other Tops who fuck you - by placing a value on his personal seed in relation to you, you are effectively time-sharing him with his girlfriend. She, however, might take a dim view of your feelings about his seed if she were aware of them, because they reflect the emotional connection to him that you cultivate in your sexual relationships and often write about here.

I do not get fucked by Big Black Cocks. I get fucked by Men. Some of them happen to have an abundance of melanin in their skin, and I have been bred by many, many such. Hundreds of them. Without having kept records it is now impossible to say, but Men of Color may make up a majority of the 1,000+ men who have enjoyed my cunt. They are as varied and individual as every other man, and defy stereotyping. If I have found commonalities among them, they are related to common cultural influences, rather than a genetic profile. On the whole, I have found them more sensual and less body-timid than their caucasian counterparts, and more inclined to energetic and lusty breeding. I tend to enjoy servicing them more because they seem to enjoy it more openly and thoroughly, and I attribute this all to cultural influences. While cock size among Men of Color is, of course, variable, my own experience of a great many has encountered a disproportionate trend in cocks of high-average or larger size. And, indeed, both the longest, and thickest, single cocks to ever fuck me have belonged to Black men. And those were, undeniably, very long and very thick. But at the same time, the Top who terrifies me the most when he walks through the door of my room at the bathhouse - because he takes utter, ruthless, merciless control of my cunt and leaves me gasping in a pool of sweat - is a Black man with a cock the length of a credit card. Possibly the most consummate, complete breeding I have ever had the privilege of receiving came at the grace of an older Black man with a cock on the high side of average, but the size was immaterial - what sticks in my memory was that his cock was the perfect fit for my cunt, as though it has been sculpted by hand to fit the contours of my intimate interior space. He would slowly thrust to his greatest depth in me, then just stay there, and the fusion was perfection. He took his time, and did his work with the skill of a master craftsman, with attention to every detail. When he had finally finished the breeding, he paid me one of the greatest compliments I have ever received: “That is good pussy,” he said. “Good pussy is hard to find.” So is cocksmanship of that calibre. That was a Man, not a ‘BBC’. Big Black Cocks don’t just float around disembodied in the air looking for asses to plunge into. Cocks are attached to people, and if your eyes were closed, you wouldn’t know the difference. Unfortunately, too many people’s eyes are closed even when they’re wide open. Men of Color are very welcome to the use of my body, and I state that explicitly every time I place a notice announcing that my ass is in service. It is my privilege and fortunate duty to serve them, not because they are Black, but because they are Men.

In that case I don’t think the ones in the carousel were also swiping, because Logan was sitting in his room, not in a slot. And as far as not being selected at our age…in Logan’s society that wasn’t an issue. As soon as anyone hit 30 they were culled from the population. The meat on the carousel was always fresh. But for purposes of the question, I’m assuming we all live to keep on fucking.

How would anyone here know whether you personally would or would not like something? You’re asking unanswerable questions here - should you do this? Will you like it? No one here can answer those questions. No one here can make the decision about what is right for you. That’s for you to do. If you find yourself too indecisive or timid to make that choice, we can’t help you. If you simply need more information, we may be of some assistance. Men have bareback sex because, in the opinion of many, the sensation of naked flesh against naked flesh in intercourse is superior to that in which a protective barrier is used. The reasons for this are fairly obvious, having to do with the properties of skin in direct contact with moisture, warmth, and the small electrical charges of the skin. The exchange of bodily fluid, and semen in particular, transfers a number of chemicals that stimulate the reward centers of the brain; a condom prevents this transfer. In short, most feel that bareback sex is an amplified sensual experience. Bareback sex is not safe, however, and it cannot be made entirely safe. There will always be an element of risk. Whether you are able to tolerate that risk at some level will determine the degree to which you can experience sex bareback. Specifically, you will be at risk of contracting any of several sexually transmitted diseases/infections (STD/STI). Among these are gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, hepatitis A, B, and C, human papilloma virus (HPV), herpes, monkeypox, and of course, HIV. Some of these are curable, some are not. Some are preventable (to a finite degree) with immunization or prophylactic medication, some are not. You cannot, for example, take a pill or shot to prevent you from getting gono. The prevention is fucking with a barrier, or not fucking the infected person. This is a site full of men who have opted to take the risk, and many of us have paid a price. Stories about coping with STDs are common. There are also narratives, like my own, on living with the worst outcomes. Barebacking isn’t a boy’s game, it’s a man’s option. Shit can get real in a hurry. Only you can decide whether the risk of disease is too high a price to pay for increased sensory pleasure. The risk can be significantly reduced, and you may decide that the odds become favorable enough that you’re willing to roll the dice. But don’t ask us if you should roll them. You’re a man. Make your own decisions about your own body.

By ‘territorial’, are you saying you think this Top feels that you’re ‘his’ ass to fuck because you’re in his neighborhood? Or could it be that he just doesn’t like sloppy seconds? Some don’t.

I said if. Obviously you can’t derive any statistically meaningful conclusion from a sample size this small, nor on the basis of a poll with nebulous parameters. Still, if the current set revealed any sort if real pattern, and a representative sample of respondents replied per poll category, we would be seeing that 40% of new infections occurred in the last 13 years, compared to the previous three decades combined. Which we know, clearly, is not the case. We then have to ask why there are so many respondents in the most recent category, with the number dropping sharply back into the 1990s and further back. There could be lots of reasons, not least the possibility that men old enough to get pozzed in the 80s are less inclined to be on websites like this due to their growing old-foginess (I myself resemble this remark somewhat, though I was barely old enough to have been at risk in the 80s). One possibility, however, is also the chance that many men who might have reported pozzing during the earlier categories are no longer with us to answer the question. That, too, is clearly, regrettably, sometimes the case.