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I'm interested in knowing if there are any sites that rate sex partners, sort of like Yelp or Amazon for fucking. I would be particularly interested in a site where tops rate bottoms (with profile names from hookup sites) with stars and a written description. This would make it easier to "shop around" because there is a lot of false advertising on hookup sites. Obviously, I understand everyone has different perspectives on what a good partner is, and privacy rights would need to be respected. If anyone knows of such a site, or if you'd like to start a thread here for rating bottoms, let me know.

This highlights an issue few people discuss here. Some bottoms want bare cock, but not the load. This is especially true for neg bottoms or bottoms who are just exploring bareback. I think I speak for most tops here when I say it can be hard to figure out exactly where a bottom stands so sometimes out of an abundance of caution the top will pull out and unload outside the hole. I'm going to concur with the bottoms who have already suggested being very explicit. Try to be verbal throughout. Better yet, look up directly into your top's face while you're getting fucked, establish eyecontact, and try to find the words to express how much you crave his load up your hole. Tap the hunger within and let your top sense that hunger in a visceral way. Get to a point where the understanding isn't just verbal but there is an emotional shared acknowledgement that OF COURSE your top is going to drain his balls inside you - because spilling even a drop would be a waste. If you can find a way to convey how much you want that load, chances are you won't just be getting that load where it belongs - you'll extract a much bigger load than if you took things for granted.

I have quite limited experience with chastity (that is, using a chastity device on a bottom - I'm a top, as my moniker indicates). However, recently I had an experience that turned me on to chastity, to the point where it's become a fetish for me. I did a hookup with a visitor in his hotel room here in NYC. He was wearing a chastity device throughout. I can't begin to describe how good he was as a bottom - extremely hungry, attentive, affectionate. He was very verbal and horny to the point where he seemed, at least for that moment, to live for cock. At the same time, he was very affectionate in a way that I love (kissed me a lot, caressed my balls while I fucked him, tenderly cleaned my cock after I'd dumped my load). I wanted to fuck him again but he flew out the next morning. I don't have his contact information, but I've been thinking about him all the time. For some reason, it was such a turnon to me that he would use a chastity device to give himself so completely to me. Of course, I have nothing to compare with, so I don't know if it was just that he was such a beautiful guy and great sex partner but I know the chastity device enhanced the experience for me at a mental level at least. For a while I I've tried to find bottoms who are specifically into chastity but they seem surprisingly rare. So my question for bottoms here is: if a top asked you to strap on a chastity device before sex, would you refuse him, would you reluctantly go along with it, or is this something that could enhance the experience for you as well?

Could this be related somehow to the fact that there are so many more bottoms than tops (at least on hookup sites)? I mean, do bottoms who insist on safe get fucked at all these days?

Thoughts on how to handle this? I had this happen twice and both times I just went on fucking - one time the guy clearly loved it, but the other guy was obviously not happy. This was in a dom/sub setting where it was obviously NOT ok to cum before me (if at all). I just find that most bottoms really tighten up and lose interest after they cum so I don't enjoy it when a bottom cums while getting fucked - I find it distracts from his purpose, which is to make the top cum (at least in the dom/sub setting I personally prefer). Please no judgments, just want to hear different viewpoints on this.

I agree with the others here. If you're focused on cumming while bottoming, your mind is in the wrong place. Judging by your ass pic, any top is going to FLOOD your hole - isn't that enough?

Hairless. Either naturally or shaved. Especially for rimming. I love when I see a fuckboy who takes the time to groom his pussy for his top. Extra pointers!

I'm a total top. Just never liked the idea of having anything up my ass. Besides, I get into the power dynamic and love sub pussy bottoms for that reason.

I love to piss fuck and I'd like to just sink in and flood a fuckhole with piss without asking. Something about asking sort of kills it for me, yet I'm a bit apprehensive about just pissing away without asking. Thoughts?

Top+bottom. Top+top+bottom. Top+top+top+bottom. Top+top+top+top+bottom. And so on, you get the picture.

Smooth boyhole all the way. I'm turned off by hairy holes.

I've been fucking a bottom boy here in NYC for a few months now, every few weeks, for a total of four times, I think. From my perspective and with my particular taste, he's pretty much perfect. Physically: 22 years old, Asian, beautiful face, lean and fit body, totally smooth, juicy nipples, round buns and a spectacular hole that even TASTES sweet. Attitudinally: total bottom, submissive, hungry, eager, verbal, creative, always eager for more cock but passionately devoted to the top who's fucking him right now. Like I've said before here, I'm blown away by young bottom boys these days. I'm twice his age and he has amazing oral skills and maybe the best anal control I've ever experienced. No matter how long I want to fuck, no matter how rough I need to fuck when I'm turned on, I know the glide will be perfect on every stroke and his sphincter response in perfect synchrony with my cock. No wonder then that I've had mind-bending orgasms with this boy. Up until this week I haven't been able to check if my loads somehow reflect how intense my orgasms have been. Except for the first time, I've fucked the boy bare and dumped the load deep inside. While he's been very good about eating the load after he leaks it out, it's just hard to say how big the load was. So this week we decided to mix it up a bit. I gave him an extremely intense fuck that lasted for more than three hours, with a nap in between. When I was about to cum, I pulled out of his boyhole, pointed my cock at his face and got ready to jizz. What happened next left both of us stunned. Not only did the orgasm itself seem to last longer than normal, with more spasms than usual. But every spasm was intense and accompanied by massive ejaculation. I could see huge balls of cum spit out of my cockhead, fly through the air and splatter over his face. By the time I was done, his face was coated in cum, layers deep and to the point where he had a hard time opening up his eyes. I took a picture of it and I will try to post it here later: if you saw it, you'd think three or four guys had shot in this boy's face. I hadn't cum in three days, so that probably helped, but the main reason for the massive load was just how incredibly hot this bottom boy is. I don't really have anyone to tell this to, so I thought I'd share here. Curious about something and I'll leave you to contemplate this: Does the volume of the top's load matter to you bottom boys and do you take pride when you extract a huge load? Can you even tell the difference? I know this boy did

Yes exactly. I would add "extremely hungry" but maybe that's implied.

Living in NYC, I've encountered my share of gay sex addicts. In a city where getting cock is as easy as getting a cup of coffee, cock really does become the focal point for some, especially slutty bottoms. I've encountered guys who spend every weekend with their apartment door ajar, blindfolded and anonymously taking cock after cock after cock. Which is all fine, of course - I love slut bottoms, and I'm not complaining. But I've been curious about how sex addicts themselves feel about the lifestyle - is giving up control and giving in to your deepest compulsions something you feel OK about, or are there times when you feel that your career, your health and even your happiness have been sacrificed on the altar of cock and cum? Curious to hear your perspectives.

1. Refuse entreatments to wrap on a condom by saying you just want to play a bit first. 2. Work up the bottom with lots of oral, nip play, ass eating and light fingering 3. Jerk your cock to the point where you ooze plenty of precum. 4. Popper up the bottom if possible.P 5. Place your cockhead below the bottom's balls and slide it slowly up and down the perineum, leaving a trail of precum. 6. Move your cockhead about 3 inches from the entry point and start circling your piss slit around the hole. 7. Continue this motion until the skin folds around the entry point are soaked in precum and move closer and closer on each circular motion. 8. Pinch the nips and get verbal as you place the piss slit directly on the anus. 9. Gently nudge the outer skin folds and start putting pressure on the sphincter without entering. 10. Switch from circular motions to penetrative motions, but only to the point where you hit the sphincter and moisten it with your piss slit. 11. When the bottom begs you to enter raw, say "Are you sure?" 12. Drive the full length of your shaft inside.

I usually just dump and leave. I don't think it's my job to make the bottom cum. If he wants to, he can rewind in his mind and jerk off after I'm gone but I don't like the distraction of having to think about the bottom boy cumming and don't see that as my responsibility. But perhaps I'm unusual here?

Loose for sure. Never really understood all the bottoms advertising their tight assholes. Loose, even sloppy, feels much better for the top. To put a finer point on it, there is a place for tight holes but only in the context of an extremely skilled bottom who has excellent rectal control. In this context, I would say a bottom should ideally loosen the sphincter on the instrokes and GENTLY tighten the grip on the cock on the outstrokes. But this is really difficult to achieve, especially with rapid pacing, and it requires the bottom and the top to be in perfect sync with steady pacing. Speaking in mentronomic terms, I doubt any bottoms could adapt their sphincter motions at any pace higher than about 20 strokes a minute. I've met one or two slut bottoms who could do this and the sex was amazing. Not to mention the special connection you feel with a bottom boy when his ring wraps around your cock at the primal beat of your cock strokes.

Good question. Overall I would say the mental side of sex is just as important as the physical side to me. I'm very turned on by dichotomies and I find it very arousing to know that I'm with a bottom who dedicates himself to the role completely and who is willing to go all out for his top. I've found that generally total bottoms - meaning not just those who can stay in bottom mode for a single session, but those who are true total bottoms - are incredibly skilled and gratifying sexually. But, as I said, I think in the end it's more about the mental side - the fetish of knowing that I'm with someone who has made a willful decision to subjugate his own penile gratification to those of other men.

Absolutely. Total bottoms are incredibly sexy - a beautiful gift to the world.

Top here. Of course I want to unload in ass. Better yet, ass to mouth. Experienced that once and the boy somehow dislodged more cum after I thought I'd shot it all up his hot hole. Loved the feeling of having used both holes and cum so incredibly hard. Had to think about it when I came home and jerked off and discovered there was almost no cum left.

Curious about how others feel about this. I know that for many guys versatility is a turn-on, and it certainly makes for more variety of configurations. However, for whatever reason, versatility is a turn-off for me. I'm really turned on by total bottoms, and when I chat with someone online I always find myself making sure that both of us expect a situation with purely opposite roles. I don't even care if the bottom boy gets hard or cum, as long as he totally and unambiguously loves getting fucked and I see that in his face with every stroke. I'm not into pain or sadism or anything like that - I just want hungry slut bottoms who love cock and dare show it. Which brings me to my question: Am I atypical in feeling this way? Are you more turned on by versatility or by contrasts? Interested in hearing from both sides.

Speaking as a top, it's a big red flag for me when a bottom boy wants to unload during sex. I think we tend to adopt a lot of practices and expectations from sexual norms through socialization. One of those norms is that both partners should get off during sex. Part of the growing-up experience, however, is to shed some of those expectations and look at the sexual experience with fresh eyes. With that mindset, it's clear that the singular purpose of gay sex is to get the top off and that the bottom's orgasm is, on the face of it, totally irrelevant. Worse yet: the bottom's orgasm is actually counterproductive, in that it inhibits the top's ability to use him to the last drop. In that sense, the bottom's orgasm takes on a new purpose: it's the prolonged absence of orgasm that extends and builds the boy's ability to draw big loads from his top. Any top who's had the pleasure of engaging a bottom in extended sessions while withholding orgasms can attest to this: the boy's hunger grows exponentially, and with the unsatiated hunger comes the willingness to shed inhibitions to go just a little bit further for cock, to the point where - at least on those rarified moments when you have the pleasure of experiencing a bottom at his peak - the boy's very existence is reduced to just the singular purpose of bottoming. Depending on the situation, there are times when I may allow a boy to stroke and play with his dick, but under normal circumstances I want to see the bottom's dick limp and I certainly would never want him to cum during sex.

you're obviously one very lucky guy, bblktop4u. i noticed that on some pics he has a tatt and in others he doesn't seem to have it, so i'm guessing that was a fairly recent addition. don't know if you recall the tatt when you fucked him, but it really works well on this ass and frames the fuckhole in a very sexy way without distracting (though i suppose when you have this boy on all fours, there isn't really anything that could distract you from that hole)