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I like your point about running, lifting weights, and (if you will permit me the word) flaunting your ass, @YourNoLimitsBottom! Clothing accessories can be a great way to spot other queer people, and for us to be spotted. A t-shirt, backpack or hat emblazoned with rainbows is too easy. I'm thinking of subtle items, such as pronoun pins, flag pins (especially less common flags, like the bisexual flag, the polyamory flag, or one of the trans flags, which will people aren't likely to recognize but will still be curious about), or perhaps a small bracelet. If you have an Apple Watch, the 2020 Pride Edition Nike Sport Band (rainbow colors around the holes) or the 2021 Pride Edition Braided Solo Loop (wide range of interwoven colors, not in the usual rainbow pattern), are subtle giveaways. Other Pride bands are more obvious.

A good, and unfortunate, point. Foodborne illness is probably more annoying than the typical STI, and given close contact, such as kissing and rimming or ATM, on a gay cruise, foodborne illness would be transmitted between sexual partners, too.

Very basic things like a smile or a wink, if the guy is bold. If the guy is shy, repeated, sustained eye contact. Practice keeping his eyes in your peripheral vision, because as soon as he sees you looking, his eyes will dart away. You might be able to spot VPL, visible penis line, i.e., the outline of his erection. This depends of course on whether he gets aroused, on his body type, and on the clothes he's wearing. Sometimes, even if nothing is apparent, a guy will fidget, put his hands in his pocket, or put a newspaper, book or jacket in front, out of self-consciousness. Be careful with people you work with, especially in today's climate. This is not meant to discourage cruising in general. It can be a lot of fun. The uncertainty and the spontaneity can be a tremendous rush, and can lead to sexual experiences that just aren't possible with a regular, known partner.

That's an excellent point.

That sounds like a frustrating encounter, @MikeDelRay — and a waste of your time. I definitely don't think you're at fault. You stopped when he asked you to, after only a few minutes of fucking. As for whether he's at fault, sometimes people get so horny, so lonely, or both, that they will arrange a meeting even if it goes beyond what they can handle sexually. If he needed lube, he should have it on-hand, or asked you to bring some. I'm uncut and fuck most guys with just spit. Lately, I've tried to minimize even that, and learn to enjoy the intensity of the pain/pleasure from a high-friction fuck. I don't blame you at all for not thinking it through; dry can be fun. He should also have posted or sent photos that honestly represented his age. I ignore Grindr profiles with no age, like the plague. It's such a basic detail. As for the unerotic atmosphere, that's tolerable if the guy is hot and/or a good fuck, but if he's not, it can be the straw that broke the camel's back. Props to you for being able to get hard and start fucking him in the first place!

@NWUSHorny, no matter what, I hope you won't be discouraged from taking your trip. Let's hope that there is much more information by July! Your question is a good one, and it's worth asking your medical professional. (For example, I asked my primary care provider whether she recommends that I get the smallpox vaccine. She replied a few days ago, before the latest CDC, California, and San Francisco public health alerts. Even with the limited information available a week ago, she said she'd have to consult with a specialist in infectious diseases. I mention all of this because some commentators dismiss the whole business as if it were simple, already settled, and just not worth worrying about. Professionals can't say yet.) The CDC has this to say: "Because monkeypox virus is closely related to the virus that causes smallpox, the smallpox vaccine can protect people from getting monkeypox. Past data from Africa suggests that the smallpox vaccine is at least 85% effective in preventing monkeypox. The effectiveness of JYNNEOS™ against monkeypox was concluded from a clinical study on the immunogenicity of JYNNEOS and efficacy data from animal studies." As I read this, the 85% effectiveness figure comes from a study of the older type of smallpox vaccine, which is like the product you received (scar and all), and is one of the two forms currently approved and available in the US. That study was done in Africa. I don't see a specific figure for the newer form, which is also approved and available in the US. It could be that its human and animal trials predicted the same 85% effectiveness, or some other high number, not mentioned. 85% is great efficacy and great effectiveness for a vaccine. That said, it would be important to read the three studies mentioned (and sadly, not cited on that CDC page) to understand whether they are relevant to your situation. For example, I'd want to know about differences between the African context and our own. I'd also want to know for how long the human participants (or the animal subjects, in the case of one of the studies) were monitored, and what other information exists about the duration of the protection from smallpox vaccine products. Most of all, I'd want to know whether my medical professional recommends vaccination, or revaccination, for a person like you who is lucky enough to have had a childhood smallpox vaccination and to be sure that he had it! I hope that this is of some help. Reference: [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/poxvirus/monkeypox/clinicians/smallpox-vaccine.html#anchor_1545415175541

I dislike cruises and other forms of organized, group travel, but that kind of cruise sounds like fun!

On the contrary, when the leading public health department in my area, and one of the leading public health departments in the world, when it comes to serving LGBTQ people, issues an alert, I can reliably conclude that people who know more about this than I do — and much more than random commentators on Internet forums might know — are worried.

Thank you for mentioning the CDC briefing, @hntnhole. As of this writing, the 2022 investigation link on the CDC's monkeypox page doesn't refer specifically to gay men, and in the CDC's online newsroom, the transcript of today's briefing isn't yet available. Hopefully we'll have something to point to soon. This is exactly how a public health response works. So far, one common thread is that many of the suspected infections are among gay men. More will be known about mode of transmission and about incidence (new cases) and prevalence (existing infections) in specific populations as more people are observed and as testing is completed. @NWUSHorny, I definitely don't want to be alarmist, but this situation is serious, if only because of what we don't know yet. People may remember a meningitis outbreak among gay men some years ago. It was the work of a local public health department, that time in Los Angeles, if memory serves, that led to a recommendation that gay men receive an already-available meningitis vaccine. I have no idea whether vaccination will be recommended in this situation, and if so, how broadly. But it is nearly impossible for the average US adult born before the age of electronic medical records to produce original records of childhood vaccinations. We can make assumptions based on vaccination recommendations or requirements that would have applied in the years when the person was growing up, but even that information can be hard to find. Different recommendations or requirements applied in different places and at different times. (For example, a vaccination that might merely have been recommended by a national government might have been required by a particular state, or in a particular school or university system.) When we are talking about smallpox, which was eradicated so long ago in most countries, it could be hard to sort those who are protected from those who are not. The San Francisco Department of Public Health released the following provider alert today, about a confirmed, non-travel-related case in California: [think before following links] https://www.sfcdcp.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/SFDPH-Health-Advisory-Monkeypox-US-without-travel-to-endemic-FINAL-2022.5.24.pdf @viking8x6, this document links to California Department of Public Health and US CDC alerts that do mention men who have sex with men (MSM) or gay men.

For some reason this reminded me of Goldilocks... "And the third load was just right..." Both of these tops were fools to pass up the chance to breed you. Hopefully you found better guys to take their place.

This is really good information for me as a promiscuous top who prefers promiscuous bottoms (and I use the adjective promiscuous in a purely descriptive sense). I am surprised that some tops expect "virginal" bottoms or, worse yet, make bottoms feel that they have to pretend to be virginal to be worthy of cock. Taking a guy's virginity can be a fun experience, but it's quite the opposite of simple, convenient, frequent fucking. A virgin might turn out to be a great bottom, but a bottom who has already taken 5 loads so far today is de facto a skilled bottom. How can I signal that I don't want the virgin image and do want the slut?

It's a joke, told a bottom, about what would happen if he got pregnant. 😉

Excellent reminder, and yes, the rules are clear and have been clarified and expanded over time. I meant that those complaining about censorship didn't say what exactly they felt was being censored, or censored unfairly. I got the impression that it was matters unrelated to sex. I don't "read Playboy for the articles"; I'm here for the sex!

Maybe, unlike in a conventional escape room, winning would mean staying in longer. That could apply both to bottoms and tops.

Nice! It drives me wild when a bottom I'm fucking is willing to tell me about the tops who came before me. (Some people are either reluctant to share, or don't get off on telling stories. The best sluts never saw the tops, but in that case they can tell me what their cocks felts like, whether they came quickly or lasted long, whether they were gentle or rough, and other details of the fucks.) Perhaps this triggers a competitive impulse. I ask the bottom which top he hopes will be the dad. Often, that reveals something about his fundamental likes and dislikes, about the kinds of tops he seeks out and those he merely allows to use his hole. Of course, I hope he chooses me. I want my sperm to win the "sperm war". I always reassure him that I'll be the best baby daddy.

Good to know. I created a FetLife account but didn't use it much. I guess I'll keep it on the shelf.

I had never heard of either one. What are your impressions of the two Web sites, @Vancityaladdin? What I found... Both are mobile Web sites, à la BBRT, rather than apps. This is to be expected given rules against overt, public sexual content in official app stores. Holehunter reminds me of cruisingforsex but with a modern, location-aware user interface. It lists public sex locations either near your cell phone (if you grant location access) or near an arbitrary location that you specify (a welcome, privacy-preserving alternative, plus a way to plan before leaving the house or before traveling). In my area, at least, every park restroom is included, even if there's no history of cruising, so I wonder whether some kind of park restroom list was used to seed the site. In my area, the information for cruising spots other than park restrooms is more specific, more detailed, and more interesting. The bestcumdumps home page reads like a fake site or like a page written for purposes of "search engine optimization" (SEO). The latter involves repeating key words in text, so that a Web page will rank higher when people search for those words on Google. The text suggests that the site provides advice to cumdumps, via a newsletter; it didn't seem directly relevant to those of us who are tops. I don't know for sure, though, because accessing site content and/or the newsletter requires giving a working e-mail address, to which a verification link or code will be sent. My advice to anyone who signs up for any adult service or site, and indeed, for any unfamiliar online service, is to use a non-identifying, single-purpose e-mail address. With a separate GMail or Outlook account, you can create such addresses by adding the + symbol and some random text after your account name and before the @ sign. For example, e-mail sent to mynamelessaccount+bestcumdumps@gmail would go to mynamelessaccount@gmail. Unfortunately, validation rules on some sites forbid +. You can get around some validation rules by putting %2B instead of + but some rules forbid % too, and in any case, encoding + as %2B was meant for a different purpose entirely. GMail ignores some punctuation in account names. For example, you can insert one or more . wherever you want, and move them around, to achieve what look to sites like different e-mail addresses. Mail sent to my.nameless.account@gmail would go to mynamelessaccount@gmail. The drawback is that it becomes difficult to remember which punctuation pattern you used for which site. Last but not least, people who pay a small monthly fee to subscribe to Apple iCloud can create random e-mail addresses using a recent feature called Hide My Email. Although iCloud isn't free, this privacy-preserving feature is worth its weight in gold. Unlike the free alternatives mentioned above, iCloud Hide My Email lets you track your random addresses so you know what sites they are for. It also lets you delete an address when you want to stop receiving messages from a particular site. (You'd have to use blocking or hiding rules in GMail or Outlook, and from the site's perspective, the e-mail address would still show as valid, inviting more e-mails.)

@Ieatcumholes, I've gotten this to work only if I move one page at a time through a thread, from the first page containing a message that I quote, through the last page containing a message I want to quote. When I stop on each successive page (including intermediate pages not containing any messages I want to quote), I have to tap inside the editor. This restores what was there on the prior page (and displays an informational message, with an option to clear the editor and start fresh — not what I want). This is in Safari on Apple iOS, with all content blockers and anti-tracking protections disabled. As Safari compatibility is rarely a priority for Web developers, I'm guessing this works in Chrome, too. Firefox and Edge compatibility also tend to be lower priorities, but one or both might also work. Disabling content blockers, anti-tracking protections, and extensions that do those things, is necessary. I do like your workaround. For situations where it would be a pain to rebuild a series of quotes, copying and pasting the message is safe.

This is a good point. Although I called this question a gay social formula, it's a question I ask while fucking, not when I meet someone. (And I might not have spoken with the guy at all before starting to fuck him.)

As you post more messages in different threads that interest you, you'll receive private message privileges. In the meantime, I hope that guys near you (I think your profile mentions Arizona?) will see this and message you. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area but I know that if we were nearby, I would not be able to resist your ass. (That's meant as a compliment, not to objectify you. My dick is in my profile pic here.)

A few people have commented that they feel parts of the site are too extreme, and one person commented that new posts were declining. Others allege censorship, without saying quite what is being censored (not clear if it's content about sex, which is the site's focus). To counter those negative observations, I'd like to mention some activity that is new, is increasing in volume, is not extreme in the least, and that bucks the trend of online censorship: photo albums. Lately we've seen several members make regular updates to porn photo galleries. The material is hot, it's varied, it's not extreme (the odd biohazard tattoo, threesome, or stream of piss is as edgy as it gets; most of the pictures are solo shots of muscular guys with big dicks). It's hosted openly here on Breeding Zone at a time when such material is actively censored/no longer allowed on Tumblr, or sits behind mandatory, application-based (i.e., fully trackable) registration if it's posted in Reddit communities. There's a lot of mainstream gay sexual content on Breeding Zone, and that's something to celebrate. As people have explained, you can toggle visibility of the backroom, you can choose which forum names and thread titles to open, and you can block users so that you don't see the content of their posts in threads you do choose to open. The tools to find what you like and ignore what you dislike are all here. Enjoy the site for what it is, instead of complaining!

Different answers to that question turn me on for different reasons. Often guys will confess that it has been too long — especially if they have a husband or a boyfriend — so I like to think I am helping them to end a dry spell. Conversely, if a guy has already taken loads that day, I want to add mine and encourage him to take more. When I ask that question it's sincere and not meant to gather information or to evaluate anyone. It's more of a gay social formula, equivalent to "How are you today?" if I'm meeting (and obviously not fucking) a straight friend. All answers are welcum.

You sound like someone with a really positive attitude. As has been said, sexy comes in all colors...and also all shapes and sizes! 😉

Oops, that was a typo, not wishful thinking. HPV vaccine

Thanks, @bareback-flipflop and@biobare. This US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) vaccine page is also a good resource: [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/poxvirus/monkeypox/clinicians/smallpox-vaccine.html Some questions I would ask: • Do I have a record of smallpox vaccination, or would smallpox vaccination have been required based on when and where I grew up? • How likely am I to be exposed to monkeypox? • What does my medical provider say? • If I am worried, can I find a medical provider who is willing to give me either of the vaccines approved in the US? The older smallpox vaccine is today recommended for occupational use, and the advisory committee hasn't yet made a recommendation about who should get newer smallpox/monkeypox vaccine.