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Knowing that I'm going first is also hot. If I'm encouraging a BF or other person I care about to take multiple loads, I claim first and last dibs. Gives my swimmers two good shots at winning the "sperm war" — and the pleasure of sinking into that used hole at the end of the night is really something special.

Hot! How did it the load taste? Did you get it while it was still warm?

Adherence is the main reason for the difference. This kind of research takes two large groups of people, gives one group real Truvada and fake Cabotegravir (now branded as Apretude), gives the other group fake Truvada and real Cabotegravir, and compares the percentage of people who get HIV in the first group with the percentage infected in the second group. The group sizes and the length of the study are set with the expected number of infections in mind. (If too few infections occur, it's not possible to draw any conclusions.) Adherence is a problem with oral PrEP, but it can also be a problem with injectable PrEP. There is an excellent chart for the US study (HPTN 083) that plots time of infection against times of Cabotegravir injections. Almost all HIV infections among people in the real Cabotegravir group occurred either before the first injection (unfortunately, within the window period of the HIV screening test used locally by a study site) or after a person had missed an injection. I'll try to dig up that chart and other useful materials in the next few days. (In most oral PrEP studies, similar data about individual adherence are collected for a random subsample of participants, who provide hair or dried blood spots. Drug concentrations corresponding to taking at least 4 Truvada pills in a week are usually set as the threshold for adequate minimum adherence, for receptive anal sex. Patients may also complete sex diaries, so that researchers can gauge risk levels. A PrEP study among celibate priests, for example, would not be useful, whereas a PrEP study among sex workers would be extremely informative. But individual adherence is a digression. Given a medically effective intervention like Truvada for PrEP, low adherence across the whole group shows up in a high rate of HIV infections in the group.) What I don't want is for people to get lost in the statistics. It was established that injectable Cabotegravir for PrEP was not only "non-inferior" but also superior to daily oral Truvada for PrEP. Injectable PrEP has many advantages, but also a few disadvantages. It is available free to most Americans who want it and are willing to press their medical providers and their insurers and, if need be, to enroll in one of the manufacturer's two patient assistance programs. But the decision about injectable PrEP is one to make in consultation with a medical provider.

To avoid unnecessary worry on the part of people considering injectable PrEP, I want to note that the CDC guidelines do not call for liver or kidney testing for injectable PrEP users. (A medical professional is always the right person to make this call for an individual patient, but the guidelines don't recommend such testing in general.) It's worth noting that oral PrEP — the Truvada and now Descovy pills that people are used to — requires more safety testing than injectable PrEP.

It's quite possible that your dorm-mates' film project was of better quality than the material in the no-cost Amazon Prime Video collection. People literally won't pay money to watch that stuff. 😂

Yes, yes, yes! I cannot resist fucking a preloaded hole. First, it's a sign that you're a hot bottom, sought after by others. Second, I love the thought of mixing my sperm with the sperm of the tops who have come before me. In heterosexual sex there is the concept of a sperm war (see the book by Dr. Robyn Baker). Even though you can't pregnant, it's quite possible that sperm from different tops compete inside you. Third, the smooth, silky, warm feeling of a preloaded hole is better than what can be achieved with any kind of artificial lube.

Some expert cocksuckers have brought me over the edge by grazing my balls with their hands at just the right moment. My ex-husband preferred not to get cum in his mouth (fuck that, I'm going to cum where I want!), so he would sometimes switch to jerking me with a slick, wet hand when he thought I was about to cum. I would then promptly use my hands to grip the back of his head and get his mouth back on my cock.

@Ieatcumholes, you win the prize for quoting the most people in a single post, and in so doing, creating a digest of the thread. 🙂 We agree that citing race as a reason when turning someone down is not constructive. Questions of race aside, in online interactions, I favor a speedy block (and I request in my profile that others block me if they're not interested) over telling someone I'm not attracted to them. I'm happy to do that if it's what someone requests in their profile, but otherwise, such an exchange serves to comfort the person doing the rejecting rather than the person being rejected. Blocking to reject is like expert surgery: quick, clinical and painless. It leaves no time for the person being rejected to worry about it. Giving any reason for the rejection — and especially a race-based reason — is destructive. Eventually, the person being rejected internalizes a completely false message: "If only I were whiter/thinner/more masculine/more muscular/better-hung/cut/not bald/younger/..., people would like me." There is nothing wrong with the person being rejected. They should waste no time considering the set of traits that the person doing the rejecting finds attractive; that set of traits matters only to the person doing the rejecting. (I think you might be saying the same thing in your "not everything is about ME" paragraph.) (This isn't meant to contradict rock-cock-jock's excellent point about general self-improvement.) Well said. When I'm in that mode, if the hole feels good, who cares about anything else?

I observe people intently, and I have a lively imagination, so people I know often do figure in my sexual fantasies. Years ago I was attracted to a guy I volunteered with. I said to a friend in the organization, "I wonder what sex with ____ is like." My friend, who was older and wiser, assessed the guy's personality and answered wryly, "Missionary." It's fun to spin sexual fantasies around people we know. The reality is probably far less exciting than what we imagine. That thought can be a comfort when the person is off-limits. I don't feel guilty when I have sexual fantasies about people I know. I believe that fantasies are completely harmless, as long as they remain fantasies.

Super-constructive and pragmatic, @rock-cock-jock! I always say, when people complain about Grindr, that it is what we make of it. Beyond physical attractiveness, a positive attitude matters too, and I'm reading that as a subtext of your message. @Qilly55, that picture is also constructive. What better way to show understanding between people of different races? 😏😈

Nice! You and your straight buddy were both lucky guys, @barefootboy. Some of the hottest sex I've ever had as a top involved establishing (from experimentation on the fly) that my boyfriend at the time, and I, were both into spit play. I had permission to spit into his mouth and on his face, and he had permission to spit back. The intensity of that encounter rivaled the intensity of our bare, mixed-status, pre-U=U, fucks.

Indeed, loading is more important. In the case of intermittent or "2-1-1" Truvada dosing, though, a two-day, one pill per day tail after the last sexual encounter is required for protection from that sexual encounter. For the new PrEP injectable, the tail is also significant, but in a different sense. Although long-acting Cabotegravir remains in the body for many months, concentrations drop below (not precisely known) therapeutic levels after about two months, meaning that switching to oral PrEP is essential if people want to be protected when they have sex more than 2 months after stopping injections.

For a good example of race play, look up the role-play scene between Coffy, a sensitive but tough Black female character who becomes a self-appointed anti-drug crusader, and Vitroni, a white drug kingpin, in the film Coffy. As I pointed out, race play may reverse conventional roles. On the surface, this scene appears to uphold conventional roles, but a discriminating (in the sense of discernment, not of racial discrimination!) viewer might ask, "Why is Vitroni, with all his power, drawn to women, and to Black women, in particular? Does he really view women and Black people as inferior, if he feels a need to have sex with them?" Coffy recognizes his fetish and, in the end, exploits it rather successfully, reversing conventional power roles. There is a gay-themed race play scene in the film East Side Story (formerly in the Netflix collection, but now on the last step before oblivion, in the no-cost Amazon Prime Video collection). That scene is totally stereotypical, and serves only to cast aspersions on an ex-boyfriend character. Other race-related exchanges in the movie do amount to social commentary. Aside, about dominance and submission: If we remove the elements of race and gender, the Coffy/Vitroni scene matches a setup in Luis Buñuel's classic film Belle de Jour, in which a bored middle-class French housewife played by Catherine Deneuve becomes a prostitute. One male client pays her to play the role of an exacting and dominant doyenne, while he plays the role of a timid and negligent French maid. Psychologically speaking, it's not a big stretch from dom/sub role play to race play.

The real issue, for which there is some empirical evidence, is that it takes different amounts of time for drugs to concentrate in different body tissues. For example, we know that it takes many extra days of daily Truvada use for peak tenofovir levels to be reached in the vagina than in the rectum. (We still have incomplete data about concentration in penile tissues.) But despite knowing how long it takes to achieve peak concentration in a given part of the body, we still don't know exactly what minimum concentration is needed for protection, in humans. A minimum therapeutic concentration is a best guess. It's probably less than peak concentration. Otherwise, when experiments with intermittent or "2-1-1" Truvada PrEP were conducted in large groups of gay men, a 2-pill loading dose taken as late as 2 hours before sex would not have prevented HIV infections. This is why research is done on large groups of people, under more-or-less realistic conditions in the field, and why final-phase trials focus on calculating rates of infection/illness in a group, not solely on measuring drug concentrations in body parts.

Well said. As soon as people become individually responsible, the health consequences of an exposure (sexual partner lies about PrEP or TasP, lies about status, has undisclosed sex with someone else and gets an STI for which there is a vaccine, etc.) are eliminated or minimized, and the two people are free to focus on ethical or emotional issues. It's also worth noting that some exposures are unintentional rather than willful. An HIV-positive person might not know, between 6-month tests, that they are dealing with resistance and that their viral load is rising. A PrEP user, especially on a sensitive regimen like "2-1-1", might forget to take a necessary pill. A newly-infected person might not yet know that they are HIV-positive. A couple who no longer have sex, such that undisclosed outside encounters do not create a transmission risk between the partners, might spontaneously resume having sex.

Thanks for taking the risk of being open about this. Race play between consenting people can be hot. As a person of color, I think race play provides a way to respond to, and in some cases, reverse, inequality. I have a running race-play text message exchange with a white guy who likes being dominated (not just physically, but also psychologically, which is the aspect that turns me on) by Black men. The emphasis is on consent. It's important to realize that many people have suffered terrible consequences due to race. Some — the optimists — might not even be conscious of the effects. A person of color has to trust a sexual partner's fundamental beliefs and basic intentions before being willing to try race play. As for preferences, I hope people realize that they can still accept and reject sexual partners based on whatever criteria they like, but without doing harm, by not stating race-based dislikes (or likes, which, when inverted, amount to dislikes). It's fine not to find a particular person attractive. It would not be fine to tell the person, "I don't find you attractive because you are Asian" or, worse yet, and totally false, "You are not attractive because you are Asian." (I chose the label "Asian" for these examples because it was until a year or two ago permissible, socially acceptable, and common for jerks to put "No Asians" in their Grindr profiles. The logic applies to any racial category, and it applies just as well when people, today, put a list of races they like, making the omission of some groups quite conspicuous.)

Agreed. CL was a lifeline for me in the final years of my marriage, when my ex-husband stopped putting out and we were living in a relative backwater with few gay social and/or sexual spaces. So many blowjobs given and received, and so many loads dumped in bottoms, many of whom lived or worked right nearby! I even met a guy I could have fallen in love with, though I kept my activities strictly physical.

Now and then, SketchySex or FraternityX or one of those imprints will cast some slightly older, usually "edgy" looking men, perhaps to complement the college-aged bottoms and challenge the college-aged fellow tops. The older men tend to demonstrate greater affinity for the bottoms. They may touch more, offer some encouraging (rather than only demeaning) comments, and show preference for a particular bottom. Maybe the story line is that the older men are still straight (how ridiculous!) but that they're more secure in their sexual identity than the fraternity brothers (who might, viewers are led to believe, "turn gay" at any moment if they risk showing any tenderness or affection for the bottoms they're breeding). As always, @hntnhole, your comments invite me to think about things that I might otherwise take for granted.

I share your disappointment. I've never subscribed but I thoroughly enjoy the 5-minute SketchySex promotional clips that show up on the major porn sites...until the cutaway and the explosion of fake cum. On the other hand, the creators of SketchySex must know what sells.

Congrats, and I hope it was just the first of many random used condom loads to cum! 🙂

@Japbtm, maybe it's different for tops than for bottoms, but as a top I am definitely also into novelty. I read some research a few years ago about animals that form durable pairs. Pair bonding happens due to release of hormones after sex. When scientists blocked those hormones, the animals became promiscuous and kept on seeking new partners. I wonder whether this applies to humans, too, and whether there's a genetic explanation for my own preference of fucking many new guys instead of fucking regulars many times. In his younger years, my father (who was straight) had many sexual partners. My sister has also had more sexual partners than is typical for a married straight woman. I don't come close to some of the numbers we see on Breeding Zone (I am in awe of some of you!) but I do keep my numbers up. I am excited by the mystery of a new guy, by fucking in an unfamiliar place (whether in public or at his place), by learning new sexual techniques, and by pushing a new guy's boundaries to see how depraved he is willing to get. Sex with regulars is fun, too, but no matter how deep a connection I form with a regular sex partner, I am still driven to seek out new bottoms.

Thanks for this remarkable idea. Might be worth investing in, for when a bottom is coming over to my place right after work or in some other situation where he wasn't able to clean out beforehand.

Exactly. No pretense, and some would say no emotion and no love, but I'd say that when I dump my load in an anonymous guy's hole in a dark room, there is a pretty intense connection. It doesn't have to last long for it to be deeply felt.

The US CDC guidelines lay out research-based PrEP regimens and say which patients they are suitable for. An intermittent or "2-1-1" Truvada regimen, in patients for whom research supports its use, reduces to daily use if the person is having sex every day. However, the tail of that regimen remains one pill every day up to and including 2 days after the last sexual encounter — not 7 or 30 days. [See pp. 55–56.] The CDC guidelines have this to say (about straightforward daily Truvada or Descovy; "2-1-1" Truvada is a separate matter): "Protection from HIV infection will wane over 7–10 days after ceasing daily PrEP use." [p. 46] Concentrations of PrEP drugs (note that Truvada and Descovy, the most common PrEP products, each contain two drugs) vary in different parts of the body. More is know about rectal tissue, and more is known about Truvada than about Descovy or Apretude (the new 2-month injectable for PrEP). "The time from initiation of daily PrEP use to maximal protection against HIV infection is unknown. It has been shown that the pharmacokinetics of TDF and FTC [FTC is the drug common to Truvada and Descovy] vary by tissue but there is not scientific consensus on what tissue-specific intracellular concentrations are protective [...] "Data from exploratory F/TDF [the distinct drug in Truvada] pharmacokinetic studies suggest that maximum intracellular concentrations of TFV-DP, the active form of tenofovir, are reached in blood PMBCs after approximately 7 days of daily oral dosing, in rectal tissue at approximately 7 days, and in cervicovaginal tissues at approximately 20 days. "F/TAF [the distinct drug in Descovy] pharmacokinetic study data related to potential time to tissue-specific maximum concentrations are not yet available, so the time from initiation of daily F/TAF for PrEP to maximal tissue protection from HIV infection is not known. "Data is not available for either F/TDF or F/TAF PrEP in penile tissues susceptible to HIV infection to inform considerations of time to protection for male insertive sex partners." [pp. 42–43] And for the new injectable: "No data are yet available from clinical trials in men or women to estimate the time from initiation of CAB injections to maximal protection against HIV acquisition." [p. 54] [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/pdf/risk/prep/cdc-hiv-prep-guidelines-2021.pdf Each patient should discuss with a medical professional, especially if there is a variance from the CDC guidelines.

Worth the wait, no doubt! 🙂