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39 minutes ago, blackrobe said:

It's false, and looks like fairly transparent white grievance style racism to me.

I don't use fuckapps anymore, so I can only imagine how disappointing it's become. 

That said, I agree;  it's as transparently racist as it could be.  

On 1/23/2026 at 6:23 PM, yoursinmine said:

I want and love cum, but I'm not sure I'm addicted to it. I'm addicted to giving a man pleasure and all the complicated thoughts and emotions that come from being a play thing. 

The cum is certainly the goal and the climax, excuse the pun, but the physiological aspect is the real addiction

This hits the nail squarely on the head.   Beautifully (and perfectly) said.  

Hmmmmm .... the state of "affairs" in your neck of the woods is definitely substantially different than where I lived before (Chgo) and where I live now (Lauderdale).  Maybe it's always been that way; I don't know.  

That said, I'll keep my eyes peeled for places for sale around here.  One of my buddies in the next block sent me a text of a map of this neighborhood, with blue dots where a sex-offender lived.  There was more blue on that little map than white (the background).  You belong here - with the rest if us pigs - when you're ready.  Just now prices have skyrocketed in this neighborhood - and I can only surmise that even more guys are moving in around here.  

23 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

certain behaviors where consent can generally be implied

That phrase is the operative one, in that the host most likely cannot come up with every permutation of gay sex, and thus address each one prior to the event. 

Instead, parameters can be posted prior to the event regarding decent behavior towards others (meaning, respect for others, etc, etc,).  It could be sticky trying to get down in the weeds with explicit rules about this particular act or that.  The emphasis should be generalized, requiring respect for all, with the remedy being asked to leave.  I don't mean "formal" stuff -I mean basic human dignity.  Some guys just don't like X sexual act, and that's ok.  

I realize that not every guy has access to fuckjoints like Slammer - and hosts of group-sex events elsewhere are to be thanked heartily for their efforts.  But, talk is cheap - what counts is the behavioral limits being respected.  Just a handful of guys can wreck the whole endeavor for everyone else.  When the basic rules of human interaction are respected, let alone human sexual perversion, everyone wins.  Decency offered to strangers, the common "default" position at one time, seem to be in short supply in some places.  

Thus, the hosts - whether a fuckjoint or an individual or group pf fuckbuddies - need to convey the "limits" of the event, and get attendees to sign an "I agree" type of document before issuing the actual invitation (meaning, time/place, etc).   The operative phrase here, is "documented", as opposed to "implied".  

I don't recall the exact age, but it was in my 20's anyway.  

As is usual with a lot of guys, we tend to like that which we do not possess ourselves:  thus, I've always enjoyed hairy bottoms.  I won't wax poetic, but a heavily-haired spermhole is truly a treasure to me.  

My first time was in the fuckroom at the Chicago Eagle.  There was a front bar, a back bar, and finally the fuckroom at the back end of the building.  Often one had to wait in a long line just to get in there (it was almost tiny), but once I was fucking a guy and realized his hole was already well-filled with loads.  There was hardly room to turn around back there, but I was able to get on my knees finally, and stuck my tongue up that sweet lovely beautifully-loaded hole, and discovered an entirely new, (to me) thrilling sexual depravity.  That hole hadn't been fucked full by any means, but it had taken several loads.  It tasted so strongly of sperm, hole-sweat, and just pure lust.  I didn't stay long at that particular smorgasbord, but it was the first time I scooped an "appetizer" out of a well-bred hole.  Still love it to this very day.  Oddly though, I don't enjoy sucking off a cock nearly as much; I don't think I'm all that good at it.  

2 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

more than 30 seconds in a steam sauna before tapping out

Really !!!  I could do it for hours - and often did.  Often.  Maybe we own different "body-types"?  I wasn't "walk-through-a-harp" skinny, but not all that far off either. 

The odd thing was/still is though, I can eat for 3 at least, and when I'm home alone, often do.  😔

welllllll ....... when I'm out for sex, "wanking" isn't on the menu, but I suppose I'd prefer another guys load to use for lube than just saliva ......

13 hours ago, blackrobe said:

am I still welcome?

That's an interesting issue;  I would say "yes" to that question, even if you're not every other guy's "cup of coffee".  There's no other answer that checks all the boxes of acceptable behavior.  Only if somehow you got cornered into a brou-ha-ha started by some other dissatisfied (for whatever reason) guy.  

If it were a "hosted" event, clearly it would be up to that host to render the decision, but in a public-ish venue, we'd have to rely on the good manners of the concerned parties.  That could be iffy though.  I find that well-mannered guys generally come out on top when dealing with lesser-trained guys.  Just a guess, but I think you'd maintain yourself perfectly, the other guy wouldn't, and you'd be welcomed permanently.  

15 hours ago, blackrobe said:

The meta problem here isn't orgy etiquette, it's that gay men collectively suck at understanding and honoring consent.

100%.  Perfectly said.  Thanks !

One thing I learned is, there are all kinds of variations in our sexual lives, and each guy gets to live out his best life possible. 

Sure, there are obstacles  to virtually every facet of our lives, both big and small.  Dealing with them  is something everyone has to do, and the way we do it at least as important as the "how".  

Ditch the fear of the unknown.  Be concerned with that which we deal with almost every day.  Don't waste time or effort with all the "what-if's" - maybe the cow really will jump over the moon someday.  So what?  You could be breeding instead of worrying, which is far more productive in every way.  

17 hours ago, piggybackrider said:

All this is just to say that different people like different things and that's okay! 

Well said.  It's up to no one to judge others, decide what's right or wrong for others, and that's totally ok.  

31 minutes ago, NWUSHorny said:

starts producing its own natural lube, quite often in copious quantities

Yes, yes, yes ...... it's almost suppertime here ...... more like a late lunch for you though?  

To the OP though, it appears to me that misogyny, racism, "us-against-them-ism" has made a fast come-back across the board in the US.  Worse, it's not merely happenstance, it's deliberate. 

Cruising is just one more way that mess is rearing it's ugly vacant head.,  

On 2/21/2026 at 8:02 PM, blackholeson said:

I don't know how to respond with "likes" on here,

First, welcome, blackholeson, to BZ.  

The "responses" only start to work once you've replied to some of the posts/ideas of other members.  That will happen relatively quickly, assuming you offer your input on a number of threads (of conversation).  The idea is to reward guys that comment on other guy's thoughts, and also generate your own threads of discussion for other guys to comment on.  

It'll happen sooner than you think - if you keep reading, offering your thoughts, i.e. participating.  Cheers !!

6 hours ago, ScorpioMuscle said:

Fell onto this posting and now I am curious as to the final outcome ?

Welcome to BZ, ScorpioMuscle. 

This often happens here on BZ - a "thread" of conversation winds down, and gets shunted aside for a while (years, maybe) as other threads of conversations emerge.  The disused threads don't "go away" - they sit there until a guy like you re-energizes them, and sometimes they gain a fresh "run" of conversation.  

Thus, there is no "final outcome" - the thread has simply re-emerged, and we can resurrect it or not - according to how the replies/responses develop.  Again, welcome to BZ.  

On 3/10/2026 at 2:20 PM, hungry_hole said:

Some bottoms are really picky

I agree, but then it's their right - every guy has the ability to yea or nay.  

One way to get around that though, is to go to busy fuckjoints;  I know not every guy has access to places where every guy fucks every other guy, but when a certain amount of guys are in the same fuckjoint at the same time, every guy will wind up getting what he needs.  

15 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

to me the most profound connection we can have is that bonding of opposites.

Simply, beautifully, honestly and perfectly said.  

Well, actually I prefer loads off previous cocks, particularly if the hole is somewhat hairy (it helps hold the previous loads in), and it looks better, feels better, tastes better, etc etc.  

5 hours ago, muscmtl said:

Concordia university

Sounds like you and I share some facets of our earlier days;  I went to an LCA (Augustana Synod) undergrad school, and there was a ton of gay sex going on.  There was a "lower campus" (the original) and an "upper campus" (where they had expanded during the 1960's (I think), overlooking the Mississippi.  There were heavy-duty stairs built between the two, higher than the ground-level (which was a steep grade covered with weeds, wild shrubs, and obviously guys at night sucking/fucking in the wild growth all night long.  The mosquitos had a nightly banquet too.  But the real action took place in the basement of the Student Union every Saturday night, which was managed by a gay guy.  Oddly, I don't recall what time he opened the door to the basement (from outside the building), but there would be 40, 50 guys milling around outside, waiting for the door to open, and more guys showing up once the door was opened.  

It was absolute madness down there ..... 😁 

To the OP, no - I don't think that's ever happened to me.  That said, I do pay attention more to what I'm doing than goings-on around me. 

One of the plusses of taking care of that kind of business at the fuckjoints is, they don't allow phones, and if you try to sneak one in, you'll get banned. 

That would be akin to sexual death  😧

Welcome, new members !!!

We hope to hear from each of you often, sharing your thoughts, viewpoints on various discussions.  

I'm not saying I endorse serious injury to the guy taking the pics, but I'd understand if he gets beaten to within an inch .....  

Those days were heady ones for sure ... there was a bar in downtown Rock Island - can't recall the name - with a gh in the men's room that almost always had guys in the stalls sucking each other off.  Come to think of it, I think the name was Hunters?  Always "live" music, different genre's, great burgers, etc.   Whatever the name, that was my initiation to the "gloryhole experience". 

And no, I don't even remember who the guy was, but I sure remember the event !!!

On 3/18/2026 at 7:08 PM, blackrobe said:

I participate fully and play well in groups according to my nature

That's entirely enough for any guy - and no one gets to judge how we're wired.  

I don't mind mentioning that breeding a big-cocked bottom, on his back, with a really impressive Cock bouncing around on his belly is totally hot. 

Every guy gets to decide what's hot for him, and that's the end of the conversation.  Years ago, there were a handful of guys that thought I possessed a mildly-hot ass - and not one of them ever found out whether it was true or not.  My other half thought so - and he only got it on his birthday.  

15 hours ago, Guest On a BBC kick said:

It’s not so much a preference of color, lately I find my preference for BBC is more influenced by the sensuality of the black men I’ve been with

Agreed.  For some reason, Black guys seem to either not have been raised with a big bag of cultural bullshit, or have managed to shrug it off early in life. 

Lots of Black guys just exude a certain sexual magnetism or something ... and they know how to take care of business without any of the reticence many non-Black guys carry.