How Do I Learn To Bottom?

[newbimale]

I'm very much into being fucked but often have a hard time getting my hole to cooperate with my mind.  With any luck some of you more experienced bottoms will be able to help me take a man like a pro

 

Being new to this and having very few friends to discuss it with, I'm not sure what it's "normally" like to take a cock.  Should I always expect an incredibly acute burning sensation as the man presses into me?  I've had to stop guys sometimes due to the pain, and have only been able to take a couple loads (which I love to do)- other times I've had to stop my top prematurely.  

 

How can I train my ass or brain to better accept a man?

[Guest PozGoat]

When I was a teen(now 44) i had a tight pucker that thought it owned me. I thought taking cock would be painful forever.

 

Then while still young I discovered dildos, or carrots, or cucumbers or anything shaped like a cock.

 

I began working my hole with those objects to stretch that tight little pucker hole into the stretched out abused pighole that it is today.

 

I'd go buy a few dildos, small diameter, medium, big , bigger to slowly start opening and stretching your hole, trust me, your hole will change.

 

My FFist prep dildo is the size of one of those huge Fosters beer cans. I feel like my soul is getting stretched out when Mr Thickness is inserted.

 

Start slow, gentle, and small on the dildo size. Use a good lube, slowly insert small dildo and let your ass get used to it. Just let the dildo sit at first without moving it. NO MOVEMENT AT FIRST. Your hole will get used to it. Move up to a slightly larger diameter dildo once your hole is used to the smaller one. Once you hole feels used to the dildo, you can move it in and out and work your hole as hard as you want. Just saying, when first inserted, your hole may need a minute to adjust to the dildo. So, best to let it sit still til any ass pain subsides and you start to feel enjoyment from the dildo. Then you can work your hole hard with the dildo.

 

Poppers help too. I live in Colorado and weed is an awesome bottom aid. Weed + poppers = bottom heaven that help open up your hole.

 

Condition that tight little pucker hole with a series of small, medium, and large dildos.

 

I used dildoes to condition my hole for FFing. Ive taken a guys arm in my ass to his armpit. His ENTIRE arm was in my guts. Thats how well dildos work to open up even the tightest of holes.

Edited May 10, 2015 by PozGoat

[cuntspunker]

First of a dildo makes sense, so you can become more used to be opened up. Best way to do this is put on the floor (maybe by the bed), lube yourself up, and lower yourself onto it at your own pace. If by the bed, put your elbows on the bed to support yourself. 

 

Lkewise, best way when with a guy is to lower yourself onto his cock. That allows you to stay in control and do it at your own pace. Once you have him in you, get used to the size/feeling and after that other positions will be easier. The whole point is to enjoy it.

[travelingbutthole]

Training your ass is an easy one.

 

Buy a butt plug or two, both a small and a medium with a narrow neck.

For lube I would start with a thick water based one but consider a silicone later on as it lasts longer.

A quick clean out in the shower then lube both yourself and the smaller plug up then see how long you can keep it in you until you feel the need to remove it.

Breath deeply and try to relax but you don't need to push yourself beyond 30 minutes.

This holds your sphincter in a slightly open position and eventually you will be able to get to that level of openness at will.

 

The brain is trickier as it goes to the core of why you are getting fucked.

 

The muscles you are working with are normally on autopilot but you can learn to control them but I'm not sure if anybody can actually tell you how.

 

Some things are defiantly not advised though.

 

Don't use desensitising or numbing lubes as you can get hurt and never know it.

Don't use any chemical enhancements as you can find yourself going too far and getting seriously hurt.

Be clean inside as nobody wants to pull out and find corn on the cobb.

[Ddawg]

One thing I tell people is to focus I relaxing and to breath. Bottoming can be intense. Intensity can be interpreted as pain or other negative sensations. The body and mind's natural impulses are to tighten up. Tightening up increases pressure and pain.

On the other hand, not everyone is built to be a bottom. A couple total tops I have known gave it the 'college try', and while they were able to take cock without problems, they simply didn't enjoy it. And in my book, a total top is a beautiful thing!

[Bttm2go]

Using dildos and butt plugs several times a week will help you to open up. Start with a small size and then move on the the next size up as your hole opens. Poppers can also help. When I started out, I would do one long session, about two hours, a week and quicker sessions a few days a week in the shower. I found the warm water relaxed me. The more you practice, the easier it will be.

[Guest ff-whole]

I can only add one thing to all these wisdom all above guys already wrote...

 

Feeling slutty is also helping to being slutty and relaxing...

So get your mind into it as well...

Watch a lot of slutty and dirty porn and fantasize you being there taking all that dick and cum...

Then get out there and do it in real. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....

[fuckrogerbb]

I agree with what has been suggested, but I would like to add it really helps if you find a fuck buddy top who understands what you are going through and will go very slow and easy with you. Most tops seem to think they can just ram their big cock up there and pound away. You have to overcome the fear factor so you need some success with average or small cocks. Always be very empty and clean and use the dildoes before you are ready to get really fucked. Relax and breathe! Before you know it you will be a cumdump begging for cock and cum from anyone!

[newbimale]

Thanks for all the helpful advice gents.

I currently have a few plugs and dildos. The largest plug I have is a glass plug the size of the doc Johnson "large" buttplug. I have no trouble slipping that in my hole and leaving it there for an hour or more- even have slept with it in a couple times.

I couldn't agree more that feeling slutty really helps me. There's nothing sexier for me than my body being used to bring pleasure to another man. I absolutely love to be fucked- I just need to learn how to stick with it and get past the pain so I can feel his cock shooting a load inside me.

[NLbear]

I don't get cock all the time like others here so many times it feels like a "first time". Just open your hole and push when the cockhead goes in (like you need to take a dump going to the toilet) and relax. Once it is in it feels incredible and you can feel the rest of his cock slide in.

 

Nice butt btw :-)

[newbimale]

Another thing that was glossed over a bit in the responses- pain.

What's normal? The "burning" sensation I get sometimes is so abrupt and intense that I can't go forward with riding that beautiful cock that's been offered to me.

[highlife]

I don't get fucked often and find that I am always tight when getting fucked.

[PhilUrass]

Best advise I got when I used to bottom - make sure you douche thoroughly and then as your fuckhole is being penetrated, whether a dildo, cucumber or cock, push on your hole muscles as if you're trying to take a dump. As you've already douched, no need to worry about actually shititng anything out. This relaxes the sphincter muscles and well make entry a lot easier.

A lot of it is about getting relaxed...find a top who is willing to take his time - eating your ass out, then opening your hole up with a finger, then two, then three. And use plenty of lube. I always let tight-assed bottoms know they're in control and that it's at their speed, let them sit down on my dick or back on to it, taking it in as their own pace, until they're ready to hand over the reins to me.

[drscorpio]

What kind of lube are you using? You really need something very slick until you learn how to relax.

[newbimale]

What kind of lube are you using? You really need something very slick until you learn how to relax.

For times when latex isn't involved I've used Wet Platinum. I'm still searching for a good waterbased lube. Any suggestions?