Tips for making people cum?

[DaddyBare]

There's nothing more disappointing that when you are being fucked and it's obvious they are happy to unload inside you, but it's taking them too long and they give up without doing so. Any tips on how to physically help them to cum more quickly?

[Guest KptNLine]

Two things work for me for a "resiliant" Top.

1) Try a position that makes your hole a little tighter. If you're flat on your stomach, for example, it's more difficult to relax and your hole will more tightly grip a Top's cock. On your side works well too.

2) If you're in doggy or misionary, try using your hole to milk his cock. It's the reverse of what your body wants to do, but try relaxing as he pushes in and tensing up as he slides out.

Good luck getting that load!

[NLbear]

What KptNLine says. Milk his dick with your ass muscles. May be hard if it's a really thick one and you feel really stretched already. Some do not like it though and just want to plow as hard and deep as they can (love that too ;-). Try a few things and the reaction of the top tells you what he likes or not.

[rtpbbcub]

Depends on what "too long" is, and sometimes we forget that guys aren't machines that just just drop a load in 30 seconds or less. So let's assume, for instance, that you're moving into 15 minutes to 20minute territory as your average time to cum, as typical is 10 minutes +/-5. There's a host of things to consider. Age, environment, presentation, lubricant, and interaction to name a few common ones that I've run across that will slow an already slow to cum me into "probably not gonna happen" territory.

As a guy in his 30s, age isn't a strong issue for me, but as guys age, they need a little more stimulation and excitement to pop.

Environment can be a big one, yapping dogs, TV on non-porn, blaring radios, shitty neighborhoods, blaring sirens, screaming kids, strange smells, strong smells, hoarding, filth, excessive heat or humidity, proximity to others (neighbors, people I know, lurkers to the action, etc), anything that will make someone feel unsafe, uncomfortable, creeped out, paranoid, or like they are walking into a bad situation can all slow me down and keep me distracted. Not expecting white glove cleanliness in a well appointed room in a perfect house in a gated community, but I think we can all say we've had that experience where walking through the front door left you wanting a shower or to turn and run. I'd I feel like I'd have a better time and less need for a tetanus shot rolling around at the landfill, you're probably not getting my load. 

Presentation is another area where guys seem to think they can be slobs as well. I like bigger guys, we're not talking about just being overweight (though that can also be an issue for some tops, especially if you've lied significantly in your profile), but guys who's personal appearance and/or hygiene leaves a lot to be desired, who are so high they can't function or are spastic, are wearing frilly panties or thongs, those can all slow me down or send me running for the exit. 

And finally, interaction. This is where guys can do the most idiotic things that ruin a good lay. Some guys start from the beginning with "cum in me," and it's like they never let up on asking for the load, and it's like, "can you give me a fucking minute to get there without sounding like a kid in a toy store who won't take no for an answer? Conversely, there are the dead fish guys, completely corpse like with zero feedback whatsoever who miss all the cues that I need a little verbal or noise to get me over the top,the guys who are just non-resoinsive to things like "yeah, I'm getting close," "do you want my load," "you like that dick," etc. Then there are the guys who play 20 questions, similar to fucking while playing Jeopardy, they ask the most bizarre things that do nothing but make you stop and figure out what they just said because the question isn't remotely sexual or sexy time appropriate, or volunteer things like we're supposed to be debating shit on The View. Then there's the guy who "tries to help" a little too much. Yeah, offering a tighter hole may help some guys, but if you clamp down like a vice grip, you just slowed it down, not speeded it up. Also, if you've been fairly passive and suddenly go all take charge turbo power bottom, you're   going to fuck up my rhythm and make my cock fall out. 

Those are the common things I've seen bottoms do to fuck up a situation. But one more thing to consider, some guys just don't pump and dump efficiently. I, for one, am not a three pump chump, 5minute warrior, 10minute lay, or a 15minute marathon. On a good day, horny as fuck, three day load, good mesh of excellent conditions, am still going to take about 20minutes. Guys like me, well, relax, enjoy the ride, I warned you ahead of time this wasn't going to be quick, so don't keep asking "if I came yet" like some snot nosed brat on a road trip. 

[rtpbbcub]

And one more thing for interaction, focus on the guy in the room with you, not on getting the next guy. I get that guys want to be all Dawson Fifty Load Weekend, and you're trolling through hundreds of guys to make that happen, and that you may need to interact with them while I am fucking you, but they can wait a minute, you don't need to give them a response in 10seconds, and I shouldn't be ignored while you're cruising for more cock. 

[Guest GoodExercise]

When the bottom cums, the top cums.  

[tallslenderguy]

33 minutes ago, rtpbbcub said:

And one more thing for interaction, focus on the guy in the room with you, not on getting the next guy. I get that guys want to be all Dawson Fifty Load Weekend, and you're trolling through hundreds of guys to make that happen, and that you may need to interact with them while I am fucking you, but they can wait a minute, you don't need to give them a response in 10seconds, and I shouldn't be ignored while you're cruising for more cock. 

Thanks for your input (so to speak), on both your posts. On behalf of all bottoms, I apologize for any who would be so inconsiderate as to try and interact with someone else while getting fucked. That's totally insane to me, I cannot imagine doing something so stupid. I do want a tops cum, but equally important to me is I want his pleasure. Really, his cum to me is the token of his pleasure. It tells me he enjoyed the fuck, the experience of being with and inside me and that is what I crave more than anything, that experience where we connect at that level of intense desire for each other. This is why a fuck machine would never do it for me, it lacks the human components of desire, need for connection. I

do not want a mechanical fuck, and I don't want to be a flesh jacket. I want to be a warm human being who receives another warm human being inside of me.

[tallslenderguy]

Something I do is always try to get a sense of the top before we even hook. I am one of those guys who asks questions ahead of time when texting back and forth. I have learned to be careful with that, because a lot of flakes to that too. But for me, knowing what you like ahead of time means that when we hook it can be about the actual sex, we don't have to figure it out or discuss while in the process of fucking. 

If I have an ad or profile, I state clearly that I am a total bottom and sometimes state that I don't want my cock touched. This way guys who are more versatile and may be in the mood for cock and fuck don't even come on to me because I was clear. On the other hand, guys who just wanna fuck don't have to worry about that now, they know. I ask if they have fantasies or fetishes, then if I can, I try to accommodate. If they like porn, I have it playing. If they want lacey panties or boxers or jock, I have all those. 

I almost always host and my set up is really easy. I give very clear, step by step instructions on how to find me and get into my house. If a guys already nervous about walking into a strange house, or he cannot find the address because it's so dark out, that's going to detract from his lust. I try to enhance all those things by setting up the environment to make easy access and accommodate fetishes, desires, fantasies. 

[Fistulike666]

8 hours ago, NLbear said:

What KptNLine says. Milk his dick with your ass muscles. May be hard if it's a really thick one and you feel really stretched already. Some do not like it though and just want to plow as hard and deep as they can (love that too ;-). Try a few things and the reaction of the top tells you what he likes or not.

I really love having my dick milked by a hungry boy-ass.  It guarantees an extra creamy load which I then push right home balls deep before working it deeper by hand 

[Guest btchbyl]

let them fuck u from behind with ur thighs together tight. then tighten ur hole on their dicks as tight as u can get it. then let them ram ur ass as hard and fast as they can. have patience and let them do ur ass as long as they need. u will get the reward. sometimes i stay there on all 4s a long time and let them hammer away at my butt but i always get the load in my ass.

[rtpbbcub]

47 minutes ago, tallslenderguy said:

Thanks for your input (so to speak), on both your posts. On behalf of all bottoms, I apologize for any who would be so inconsiderate as to try and interact with someone else while getting fucked. That's totally insane to me, I cannot imagine doing something so stupid. I do want a tops cum, but equally important to me is I want his pleasure. Really, his cum to me is the token of his pleasure. It tells me he enjoyed the fuck, the experience of being with and inside me and that is what I crave more than anything, that experience where we connect at that level of intense desire for each other. This is why a fuck machine would never do it for me, it lacks the human components of desire, need for connection. I

do not want a mechanical fuck, and I don't want to be a flesh jacket. I want to be a warm human being who receives another warm human being inside of me.

On behalf of tops everywhere, thank you. I get that physically I'm not everyone's cup of tea so I may be having a vastly different experience than most, but you would not believe the value that someone who "gets it" has at this point. So, thank you for being out there and being a proactive and engaging bottom. From my experience, guys like you (the hope of meeting one at least) are the only thing keeping me from staying home and jerking one out. 

[topstud127]

Locking in and focusing on each other and the pleasure. Being distracted, pressure and expedition. and outside looking in are the main detriments to sex.

 

Great comments above. I'll add on, keep your legs and hands out the way. They shouldn't be a hinderance or resistance band to fight against.

[Guest]

For me as a bottom i enjoy being slapped, choked and having the top insulting me and telling me hes gonna fuck me as hard as my uncle did. That always makes me cum super fast.

 

[bbfarm]

I love what NLBear says about "pay attention and take cues from the top". My 'prime directive' is that everyone wants cum in the hole, so to help the top achieve that recognize he is commander and chief of making that happen. 

I love what rtpbbcub says about a demanding bottom. ANY imperative works against me.  "Harder"and "Fuck me harder" suck!  They show the bottom is trying to direct the action, which makes no sense if cum in the hole is the goal.   Saying that shows the bottom cares more about how it feels to him than to the top. And there is an inherent criticism  . . . what is my 7 1/2" mushroom-headed knob not enough? . . . at the LAST moment when a hard dicked top should be criticized.   

In fact for me, I  dont like a bottom talking at all.  I get in my head thinking about what I am doing . . . just the idea of it. . . . and the way my dick is feeling . . . and whether my cum is rising and my dick head swelling . . .all that hotness in my head taking me to the cum, and a bottom chattering away just distracts me.  So I'll say "shh" gently  or kiss a bottom when he opens his mouth. Or put my hand over it.  

Some guys might love dirty talk though, which is why his cues to you are ao important

I have to add too that while some guys do not like a completely passive, no feedback bottom, I am very NOT fond of overactors, emoters, hams, drama bottoms. If it feels good, yay.  But no need to push out a moan every stroke for my sake. Disingenuous writhing and screaming is a distraction!

Be real.  Be a supporting player, not the star.  

 

Edited May 22, 2017 by bbfarm
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[Guest Upstateguy518]

I've dealt with this issue with women and men. I can't just slam my cock into your hole repeatedly and cum, I just can't. The person I'm fucking has gotta do some work too - Tighten their hole, Switching positions, Use of the hands can be pretty important too. You can't just lay there and take it, That does nothing for me and won't make me cum.