NEVER thank the bottom

[Guest BBBoyfromTN]

I dunno about the whole power dynamic and the rigid role bullshit as that does nothing for me personal, but different strokes for different folks. I'm not expecting or demanding thanks when I bottom..l just want the guy's seed inside me. I don't even have to get off. I'm there for his pleasure and release unless he wants to make sure I'm into it too and then I'll let him know. When I top I'll usually ask the guy if he likes it, wants my load inside him and other dirty talk. I wanna make sure it's all going down mutually...very generous and giving here. At the end I'll say something g overall about the sex like "that was fucking hot" or "fuck I needed that" which isn't specific to his role but to both of us. The awkwardness after sex fucking sucks...especially when it's anon all this week for me it's been nothing but anon. I'm just visiting so not gonna likely see them again. Some were bi or straight and didn't want to kiss so that's out. I just keep it light and breezy and if there's a chance in hooking up again put it on the table with a "that was fun...I'm cool for doing it again if u want. No hurt feelings if you don't." But post sex some guys just wanna jam...you have to respect that. 

[tallslenderguy]

18 hours ago, ChainedBoy said:

It’s taken me awhile trying to compose this topic. And I don’t think I’ve got it just right but here goes...

I absolutely HATE IT when a fucker, especially a random hookup fucker, thanks me after breeding my hole.

In my view, the fuckhole should do ALL the thanking; for the gift of the fuckers cock, his fuck, and his seed...not to mention his time and attention. The top thanking the bottom seems entirely inappropriate...and for me (who really gets off on the power dynamic) it has the effect of emasculating the fuckers ABSOLUTE RIGHT to use me for HIS pleasure.

While I would just assume you take your pleasure and go (or better yet degrade me for being the cumrag I am) I understand that there is an odd expectation of some small talk after sex.  If you must speak to me at all, say something to the effect that you enjoyed yourself...or say it was hot. But NEVER thank me for being the recipient of your sexual attentions.

Interesting topic ChainedBoy.  i appreciate that you qualify "In my view" and "for me," in other words, this is a personal preference, not something you are asserting is a universal rule.  i think i sorta feel ya though i am not the same.  i am grateful to every Man who shares His cock, and anything that comes out of it, with me. But my gratitude multiplies exponentially when He has sex with my mind and emotions along with my body

 i love being used for pleasure by a certain type of Dom Top. i am attracted to affectionate Dom's, bullies repel me. i've seen a certain type of D/s dynamic (not saying this is you, idk) where the Dom is looking for an "empty headed plaything" (to me, the Dom looking for that type of sub is equally "empty headed.")  Which is not a judgment, i believe most (if not all) of our sexual disposition is emotionally determined, that we're driven by our feelings, not reason. But, i think our minds can really enhance sex.  my brain wants to be fully engaged in sex and i love a Dom who has/wants to use His brain with sex.  

To me, the Dom who says "thank you," i.e., expresses gratitude to and for His sub, is not less of a Dom, but a more fully engaged Dom.  When i say gratitude is an "acknowledgement of reality," i feel that one who cannot express gratitude is not fully in touch with reality.  To me, gratitude is an expression of strength (not weakness) and also an expression of being at peace with who one is.  i feel it's one of the things that divides real D/s interaction from role play.  i see D/s as more of a Yin/Yang dynamic, that it is a symbiotic relationship.  In its simplest form, i see it as Proton/electron (and neutron versatiles!! lol). i see us as opposites that attract and form a bond.  To me, gratitude (from anyone) is an acknowledgment of reality, the reality of our need and dependence on one another; that neither Dom or sub can function without their opposite.  When i say gratitude is an "acknowledgement of reality,"  my feel is that one who cannot express gratitude is not in touch with reality and venturing into role play. Again, that is not meant to be a judgement, it's just something i feel to my core. 

Which is not to say that notion of superior and inferior cannot play in, but i'm not sure that those terms fit what i am trying to express by their use.  For instance, i have been mind fucked by a few Doms where it involved awkward and  even humiliated feelings on my part, but the affection of the Dom fucking me made it a mind blowing bonding experience.  We were both grateful for the other.  

i cannot count the number of guys identifying themselves as "Dom" who have approached me and have failed to subdue me because there was no substance in evidence.  They wanted me to submit to the idea of D/s, the label "Dom" they were using, but they were not evidently Dom.  The most amazing Dom i have ever been with never even used the term "Dom," He just was.  He was hugely affectionate and full of praise for me, and had me doing things i have never done before with everything the was in me. He had me literally adoring Him within hours of meeting Him, He thoroughly used me, and i thoroughly submitted because He knew how to evoke the deepest submission in me. 

 

[Guest Dickmagnet]

A good fuck is worth thanking in my book does not matter if it is the top or the bttm. Maybe you have underlying issues that you cannot handle a compliment. either way is good.

[Essencetakesloads]

But it's so much hotter when the guy thanks me and tells me how great my hole was. 

[phukhole]

I have my moods when I'm just a receptacle and want nothing more than to feel the load being shot into me and a groan of pleasure from the top(s) alerting me that my role has been done well.  I usually try to convey that mood to the top by being verbal and explaining with "this is your hole, Daddy" and "fucking use that hole" and "use my hole to get off"  which is usually enough to let the top know I expect him to USE me and treat me accordingly.  BUT.... if a top, like @FelchingPisserwere to take a moment and tell me what was great, then I'll take that info and double down on it every time I get fucked from now on,  That's how I get better. I have a few regulars that use me when convenient and I aim to make my hole irresistible to them. I like to think my efforts are rewarded with more cum and more frequent repeats.  If a top were to just say "thank you" I would then correct him and say "No, thank YOU, SIR! I'm glad you liked it. Please cum again!"  It may not be part of the I'm-just-a-cumdump scene, but I'm not going to let it diminish the fact that my hole is leaking his load!  

[rawsatyr]

Yeah guys need to use their creativity to get the most 'bang from the buck'. I find the cliche ''alpha-vs-faggot' rather tripe and boring. Personally I think guys who can only function with humiliation and dominating others follow in the foot-steps of their archaic (sub-conscious) role models, 'issues' somewhere in the 'master/slave' and 'patriarch/beaten wife' area.... As a 'sexual omnivore, at times it might be fun to just be 'used by some arrogant jerk' who gets his rocks off in your hole and heads out the door; his mind already on the next second-best thing...

BUT, I find porn with too many predictable lines like 'yeah suck my dick faggot' and all that one-dimensional malarkey pretty dull. I'd let the lame dude bragging 'yeah you like that big dick' like a method actor 'finish his job' and take his nut and keep it to full absorption like any other. I might relish the fact I got bred by a jerk with a one-tracked mind and no real sexual imagination. But I'd hardly line up for another round the next time he pops up on BBRT!

As a former 'safe-sex, mostly-just-top' serial monogamist, I pride myself in my COMPLETE immersion and CONVERSION into the RAW PROMISCUOUS sub-culture; being competitive and eager to have more than two or three in the room. Total players, visitors, anon and positive rattle my cage the most! The 'danger factor' ! I'm eager to put on a 'good show' for every buck according to what subtle clues he gives me. Some guys totally get off on me being an 'aggressive BOTTOM', impaling myself on their rugged over-sized cocks with no artificial lubrication, balls-deep  without flinching and riding the stranger's jizzing tool until his eyes roll back in his head for the umpteenth time. Personally, when topping a bottom I never cared much for guys who lay their like a flat omelette or if they make wailing sounds like girls or queens make or that 'daddy' role play... not for me... although my man is young enough to be my son.

I'm kinda tuned on by the thought of the bros in the bareback culture dropping hints to each other of how kinky, verbal, playful and aggressive you are as a cum-dumpster... seems to work pretty good. I noticed how several who are my Facebook friends and suddenly THEIR friends hitting on me, TO THE POINT, and not mincing many words to discuss 'BREEDING' on family-tame Facebook in private chats.

A good barebacker, whether top or bottom best be a bold and forward fucker and let 'underground-word-of-mouth' bring more bros to your yard and give me a good YELP review! 

 

[1111bb2222]

On 3/17/2018 at 2:46 PM, ChainedBoy said:

It’s taken me awhile trying to compose this topic. And I don’t think I’ve got it just right but here goes...

I absolutely HATE IT when a fucker, especially a random hookup fucker, thanks me after breeding my hole.

In my view, the fuckhole should do ALL the thanking; for the gift of the fuckers cock, his fuck, and his seed...not to mention his time and attention. The top thanking the bottom seems entirely inappropriate...and for me (who really gets off on the power dynamic) it has the effect of emasculating the fuckers ABSOLUTE RIGHT to use me for HIS pleasure.

While I would just assume you take your pleasure and go (or better yet degrade me for being the cumrag I am) I understand that there is an odd expectation of some small talk after sex.  If you must speak to me at all, say something to the effect that you enjoyed yourself...or say it was hot. But NEVER thank me for being the recipient of your sexual attentions.

I would agree. Thanking the top for his seed and cleaning his cock after submitting is the fuckhole role. 

[beanna]

its the bottoms duty to ensure the top is fully satisfied and as such it is relatively simple as a bottom to make judgement as to whether the top has been duly pleasured, once the top satisfied he has the sole right to withdraw and go 

[marktulley2000]

After being fucked or swallowing a load, I like to hear a compliment. One guy said, "damn, you suck cock very well" which put a smile on my face.

In fact, when viewing anonymous porn, I always find it hot when the top or guy getting sucked thanks the guy at the end for getting him off.  :-).