someone I know irl found me on this site...

[fskn]

My downstairs neighbor is gay and on Grindr. He is prone to deleting his account and then opening a new one when he gets horny (he seems to get the urge to get fucked about once a year), so one or the other of us has to re-block now and then.

It's awkward because each of us knows whom the other is, and we inevitably see one another around our small building. We even used to ride the same bus to work, pre-pandemic. He never says hello. We've spoken only once in the three years he's lived here; he came into the laundry room while I was doing laundry, so I introduced myself.

I've made friends with quite a few straight residents over the years. In this building as well as this town, it's customary to exchange greetings even with neighbors we don't know.

I don't find the guy attractive, but chatting now and then would be nice, especially while we are stuck at home and relatively isolated, due to the pandemic. Even without attraction, I would have been open to a pandemic fuckbuddy or cuddlebuddy situation. He's a bottom, I'm a top, and we would have made a proximate and pretty safe "social bubble".

It's an equal rights triumph that gay people can be as rude to gay people as straight people once were to gay people. Or maybe it's a generational difference, as I'm in my mid-40s and he's in his 30s. Still, I doubt that etiquette could have changed so quickly.

[Kayne]

On 1/17/2021 at 5:01 PM, BareLover073 said:

All 14 year old's are online and the average pubescent boy is hormone driven... so not a huge shock.

Depends on your local legislation if there are legal issues to consider. Where I love the legal age is 16.  But it can be somewhere between 14 en 18 around the world, sometimes different and a higher age of concept for gay sex.

Yeah, I get that. Still Recent US laws have made what is said on the internet mandore actionable. And Lord,,I know I wouldn't want to be caught up in that.

Understand I'm not ashamed of my status, kinks, desires, or actions. I choose to be in contact with men who show like-minded interests. Still, that is no for everyone and my privacy is important to me. 

[Guest]

You do know you can turn your location off on Grindr/Scruff don't ya?

I was watching a hot porn scene on PH last week and the guy who made it has lot's of comments on the bottom, and he responded to them all too.

Then the last comment read "You were in my 8th grade class" 

No response, LOL

[blkboibtm]

A female friend of mines bf, found me on a site....well we found each other.    We were talking online b4 we found out we knew each other,  he was heistant after finding out who i was.  manly because he thought I was gonna snitch, not cuz of fuckin another guy, he was already doing that.  We didn't do anything off the bat, we shit talked for a few weeks then after he figured I was being truthful he finally gave me the dyck.  He was pretty good, worth the wait backed up all the shit he talked.  We only fucked twice, it was hard to link up and he and his girl eventually relocated.  We still remain in contact, would def love to get up with him.

I think I few more people found me, but those never came of anything

[fskn]

3 hours ago, Muscledadbod said:

You do know you can turn your location off on Grindr/Scruff don't ya?

In case people don't realize, hiding your distance in Grindr does not prevent people from finding your exact location. A number of articles on the Web outline the risk inherent in geographically-based social apps. Even if you hide your distance, other people see profiles in order from nearest to farthest. A user intent on locating someone need only move around and watch the order of the profiles change. Scary stuff!

In Android and iOS, you can deny an app access to location data. In practice, that makes Grindr unusable, as the screen fills up with profiles from thousands of miles away.

In an encouraging development, the latest major release of iOS lets you turn off "Precise Location" for a given app. Turning this off means that Grindr gets only an approximate location. (It seems to be about half a mile away, but I don't know Apple's official spec.) Growlr or Scruff, I don't remember which, implemented similar behavior internally, years ago, to help protect users in countries where being gay, or engaging in gay sex, is against the law.

[ErosWired]

3 hours ago, fskn said:

In case people don't realize, hiding your distance in Grindr does not prevent people from finding your exact location.

Somehow them finding my exact location doesn’t seem to be the problem. The problem is their inability to actually arrive at my location because they can’t keep themselves from flaking. I’ve watched guys get within 100’ of my door and then *~poof~* they vanish.

 In the context of this thread, though, I don’t host where there would be anyone who would know me anyway, so that possibility isn’t something I ever think about.

[Piggyybttmm]

When I was in high school one of my friends found me on this old site called BGClive....wasn't really upset about it. We ended up hooking up a few times

[BREEDmeRAW]

On 1/18/2021 at 9:28 PM, Dick7un said:

What?.. that’s crazy and huge breech of privacy I never give names to public health anymore and follow up responsibly myself because I find them overly aggressive.

I had the health department contact me to say I may have been exposed and I respond, "Congratulations, yes I know because I have already been treated as everyone has and this completes the circle." They say fine and leave me alone. I will contact guys myself. No reason to give them information.

[bisexualguy1978]

I haven’t been ‘caught’ myself, but I did find 2 coworkers on the planetromeo app, I’m using most, and knew one of them quite well (apart from him being bisexual). I'm new to this site, so no experiences there (yet)

At first, I didn't know it was him until I noticed the same user was in close proximity on the app even when I was abroad on my duty trips (our company has a large volume of people travelling back and forth between The Netherlands & France). It took me quite some time before I had the nerve to contact him and take the initiative (large portion of our friends work within the same company as me).

One day I invited the guy for a meeting and made sure it was at a time I knew the building would be empty. I knew he would be in early and sure enough, he was online on the app within 25m. I walked to the toilets, and there he was in a stall. I sent him a message saying ‘wanna hook-up’ and send a dick-pick and a pick of my ass. I could even hear the message notification coming from his stall. I was peeing when I received a message back, saying ‘yes, I’m horny. I’ll be off from work in 30 minutes’ and sent a nice new picture of his hard cock (with toilet stall clearly visible in the background). This was getting too much for me and became horny to a point you start losing control of your rational thinking. I quickly took a picture of my already hard dick and send a message back, saying ‘I think your meeting will be over much sooner ;)’. I attached the picture and I figured he would realize I was in the same room.

I quickly walked to the meeting room and waited for him there, purposely not replying to his question ‘where are you? Do you work here?’ When I walked in he had red cheeks and visibly had a bulge in his pants. He looked at me with with a question of his face saying ‘you?’, and I just winked. I pressed sent on my app and send a picture i just took before he came in, with my face on it giving him a wink. His face was confused when he saw the message and clearly did not know what to do. I thought fuck it and I got up, walked over to him and grabbed his dick and started kissing him. We ended up as regular fuck-buddies to this day, and enjoy each other when we are abroad.

Long story, but I have to say this was one of my most exciting hook-ups. It’s thrilling to fuck at work, it gives an extra rush. Especially when you have cum leaking from your ass in a meeting (with the giver also there)

[PigBoyDallas]

That’s scary. That’s why I won’t show my face on apps and don’t give a lot of clues about me personally. Back in Craigslist days I knew buds who would scour the ads looking to bust guys they knew looking for gay sex...never was really sure what their endgame was. A few guys I’d chatted with on CL and Grindr turned out to be guys I knew and it was super awkward. Some I had no interest in sexually, one guy I couldn’t stand but we wound up doing a “hate fuck” thing for a while as he had a huge cock. There were a few where I didn’t want to ruin our friendship by fucking and part of me knew it might not be as hot as I fantasized about. I hooked up with a couple of those guys and soon realized it was a mistake...our friendships were never the same after that. I try and move things to Snapchat pretty quick to see if I know them already or not but that’s no guarantee either. NTM I’m pretty slutty and don’t like guys asking questions about how much I fuck around. Not really wanting to date, just wanna fuck.

[SpectreAgent]

I encountered two colleagues on BBRT. One (sadly now dead from MND) was fine and we joked about it. The other is perfectly polite but we NEVER talk about it 😂 I also encountered a colleague at the Basement sauna in Manchester. We played but, again, didn’t speak of it afterwards as he had a partner. We just exchanged knowing smirks in the canteen. He no longer works there. 

[BBArchangel]

Two people that I know from other sites have found me on here. Not really an issue as all three of us are bottoms, but I’m much more open about chems here. And from my years of tracing university I resolved never to post dick or ass pics. Even though I was openly gay to staff and classes, who needs the hassle of some student finding that?

[kinkysuBB]

It hasn't happened yet. It doesn't bother me generally speaking, because if someone finds me on here, well they're also a member of a gay barebacking website.

My only issue is that I post in the enhancements forum, so I don't want that linked to me IRL unless I'm sure the person seeing it is also into that. But as for someone knowing I enjoy hot bareback sex, I couldn't care less. Who doesn't, gay or straight?

[leatherpunk16]

I used to sing in a community choir. I really didn't know the people in that closely, but imagine my discomfiture when one of them ran into me at a bathhouse in Chicago. We did not play. It was awkward. 

In the mirror maze, I heard him tell someone else that he's half-black. I had to stop myself from asking "Which half?" because that's not very nice.

[kinkysuBB]

3 minutes ago, leatherpunk16 said:

I used to sing in a community choir. I really didn't know the people in that closely, but imagine my discomfiture when one of them ran into me at a bathhouse in Chicago. We did not play. It was awkward. 

In the mirror maze, I heard him tell someone else that he's half-black. I had to stop myself from asking "Which half?" because that's not very nice.

That's fairly normal when you live in a small city (1 million people, in my case). I've run into friends, other people's boyfriends, etc. at the local sauna/bathhouse. We just chatted. I met my best friend there once, and he decided it was high time he fucked me for the first time. Good times.