Do you find out the names of guys you hook up with

[BB4fking]

I rarely know guys’ names when I get naked and fuck through online hookups (similarly with bathhouses or cruising but the focus here is meant to be guys you might knowingly hook up with again). If I do learn names it’s usually while chatting as we get dressed. By a name I mean a first name that a guy uses in hookups, possibly a pseudonym, not just a hookup app handle ie what a guy you’ve just fucked might answer if you asked ‘hey, what’s your name?’. I’d be interested whether others usually exchange names. Only in recent years have I tended  to seek out repeat hookups (my partner discouraged me making attachments when I fucked around) and I’ve now got a group of repeat buddies spread across several cities to call on but I don’t actually know all their names. I wondered about other guys’ experience. 

[bbzh]

I'll usually ask their name after we're done fucking if I am happy with the encounter. You didn't ask this, but it's worth noting that I won't give out my address unless the guy sends me a WhatsApp first. That way, I see his (WhatsApp) name - often his real name - and phone number. I figure if he's coming to my house where my full name is on my buzzer, then I want some record that we met in case things go left. The only truly anonymous fucking I do is bars, adult bookstores or bathhouses. I'd like to add that I never use WhatsApp to ask for a repeat. I'll usually revert back to the app where we first met in case the guy is in a relationship. 

[leatherpunk16]

I usually ask prior to the sex part. That way, if I want to call out their name during the sex, I have something to go to. Also helps me track them and I add them to my list of guys I've had sex with. If I had a good time, they get a star next to their name. And it helps to have the memory, especially if the hookup (or one soon after) results in the need to contact them and say "go get tested". One more bonus - I can keep an accurate record of how many men I've had over a lifetime.

[BB4fking]

4 hours ago, leatherpunk16 said:

I usually ask prior to the sex part. ...Also helps me track them and I add them to my list of guys I've had sex with. If I had a good time, they get a star next to their name. ...

I started wondering about recalling names when I set up an electronic record of hookups, including inserted partner details of dozens of guys I could assemble from apps, and realised that I knew guys who had bred me several times only by handles such as Thicccock 246.

[leatherpunk16]

23 minutes ago, BB4fking said:

I started wondering about recalling names when I set up an electronic record of hookups, including inserted partner details of dozens of guys I could assemble from apps, and realised that I knew guys who had bred me several times only by handles such as Thicccock 246.

At least that's something to go by, unlike putting down "that one guy from Scruff" or "unknown #235". With a sequential order, one can narrow the experience down to a specific window of time when something happened. Easier to shorten the list when the calls have to be made.

[Guest]

It all depends on the situation. Guys will usually offer their name and/or ask mine, but I don't generally ask. Sometimes they mention their name online, or it's in their email address, etc. 

When I was younger, I kept a list of all guys I had hooked up with, but once the list swelled to 30 or so, I started forgetting names.... and stopped caring. 

[fskn]

Sometimes I will offer my first name and ask the other guy's first name early in a Grindr chat. We've become accustomed to not being addressed by name, or to having our names used insincerely ("Mr. ... um ... Sm-ith, is that how you pronounce it? Thanks for shopping at Safeway," spoken by a distracted teenager at the checkout counter; "Dear Joe Smith, PBS depends on your generosity..." because the Web form didn't have fields for salutation and just last name; or "You're the birthday boy or girl," sung mechanically by the glockenspiel at Wall E. Weasel's in the Simpsons). If the guy wants to talk about topics other than sex, I'm happy to engage, and to begin seeing him as an individual.

On the other hand, I also appreciate guys who are direct about sex. There's no need to exchange names when a cute bottom 2,500 feet away opens with "Fuck me rn?" I might ask his name when my load is dripping out of his hole and he's getting up to leave, but anonymity can be hot in and of itself.

I confess that I've also had a few regulars over the years whose names I'd forgotten after the first or second encounter. When you only communicate that you're horny today and free at a certain time, and then you fuck or suck, and bolt, there really is no need. It's a paradox, but those ongoing, if casual, connections can run quite deep. Not having to talk much, and not needing to remember each other's names, reflects a level of familiarity built up over time.

[NastyRawBottom]

I generally avoid asking for names, and most of the time don’t even wanna know. I’d rather not know much about who’s dumping a load in me. It’s also cool cause I don’t have to say my name and the Top can call me “cumdump” “faggot” “slut” while he fucks me. 😋

Some guys do offer their name(whether real or not) and that’s fine with me. If we do exchange contact info and I’m unsure of their name I simply use their screen name or a detail about the encounter as the name  

There are some Tops that load me up regularly and I still have no idea what their name is. Shout out to those Tops!  lol  

 

[BB4fking]

53 minutes ago, fskn said:

Sometimes I will offer my first name and ask the other guy's first name early in a Grindr chat. ...

On the other hand, I also appreciate guys who are direct about sex. There's no need to exchange names when a cute bottom 2,500 feet away opens with "Fuck me rn?" I might ask his name when my load is dripping out of his hole and he's getting up to leave, but anonymity can be hot in and of itself.

I confess that I've also had a few regulars over the years whose names I'd forgotten after the first or second encounter. When you only communicate that you're horny today and free at a certain time, and then you fuck or suck, and bolt, there really is no need. It's a paradox, but those ongoing, if casual, connections can run quite deep. Not having to talk much, and not needing to remember each other's names, reflects a level of familiarity built up over time.

Yeah there are some real paradoxes such as hot anonymity and false intimacy of a name. There is a perversely significant connection when you know a guy’s face, voice, look of his cock or feel of his asshole, and yet long since forgotten his name if you ever knew it.

[MuscledHorse]

I enjoy hundreds of sex partners a year. A huge amount of them are at events that are group use settings or at sex clubs or resorts. I don't know their name and they usually don't know mine (some have seen my porn work). I am fine with not knowing. We are there to breed like animals in heat and move on to the next pleasure partner. All that matters is the sex induced waves of ecstasy an the grunts, snorts and animal noises we make while mating.

[BB4fking]

If you ask a guy’s name you naturally need to give your own.  You might be asked by the guy first. In either case you need to decide what name to give. To avoid forgetting my alias I use the same one each time. Only occasionally do I strike a minor problem such as where a hookup needs to ask for me at the front desk of a hotel. However, even where another real name is revealed, hookups don’t seem surprised as using a false name is almost expected.it might be different if one was seeking a LTR but I have one of those.

[parvenu]

I use an alias for an entirely fictitious person I created as part of a short story during a creative writing course at university. I went on to use this character when dealing weed on campus and now use him during hookups. 

[NWUSHorny]

I like casual no strings hookups, so names aren't desired.

[DarkroomTaker]

No, but I have a thing for guys called Steve, cannot explain it, but it gets me horny.

[valldelxeno]

I always get his name before meeting up, even if I don't know anything else about him. Even when it's really casual, just sex and nothing else, I still like to remember that I'm being fucked by a man, not just a flesh dildo.  

 

If someone refused to tell me his name I would find it a bit weird (I mean, he could just invent one) but I would still hook up with him. But it hasn't happened yet.