Two of my worst hookups in one night

[chipygmalion80]

Phone calls help.  Weeds out shady folks real quick. 

I know -- voice is so old school.  But I've only had a couple crazy guys blow up my phone afterwards, so I block them.

For folks that cannot give out their real #, a throw-away phone could work.   I've been looking into these and some simple flip-phone styles are <$100 now.  Donate the phone to a shelter after -- after throwing away the SIM too.

[ejaculaTe]

18 hours ago, chipygmalion80 said:

Phone calls help.  Weeds out shady folks real quick. 

I know -- voice is so old school.  But I've only had a couple crazy guys blow up my phone afterwards, so I block them.

For folks that cannot give out their real #, a throw-away phone could work.   I've been looking into these and some simple flip-phone styles are <$100 now.  Donate the phone to a shelter after -- after throwing away the SIM too.

Because some of this technology stuff is a bit beyond me, what about getting a Google Voice number and using that? 

[Theo8]

and this is why I don't use apps-I'll stick to the ABS and the baths; lots safer 

 

[bbinbpark]

Sorry you had some bad experiences, I've definitely had my fair share.

If I read this right, the first hookup was after dark and the second even later? I find the later the night goes the worse it gets. I'm a 3rd shifter and sometimes don't start looking until after 8 PM because of my sleep schedule. Most of my bad experiences have been with the partiers that take more and more drugs and alcohol as the night progresses, sorry to those that applies to. I've found they get more and more active the later it gets. Because of this, I've learned not to meet new people after midnight, no matter how horny I am.

[BritishCumdump]

21 hours ago, bbinbpark said:

Sorry you had some bad experiences, I've definitely had my fair share.

If I read this right, the first hookup was after dark and the second even later? I find the later the night goes the worse it gets. I'm a 3rd shifter and sometimes don't start looking until after 8 PM because of my sleep schedule. Most of my bad experiences have been with the partiers that take more and more drugs and alcohol as the night progresses, sorry to those that applies to. I've found they get more and more active the later it gets. Because of this, I've learned not to meet new people after midnight, no matter how horny I am.

Yeah I think when people only want to hook up after 11pm or such it's cos they're horny but not committed to meeting OR they're on drugs. Early evening meetings are better for me as more time to get loads and more guys. 

[Ctgaydave]

I've certainly had a fair share of ghosts, fakes, and crazy guys. I once got a hotel room for a guy who supposedly had a big dick and a 5 day load. This almost homeless looking guy shows up, pulls out a 5" skinny thing, and takes about 7 strokes to cum. Then he says I should pay him because he fucked me. I'm like what?!? He's trying to hustle me? I might be a submissive sissy faggot who is chubby and likes to be used, but I'm also ex military and not easily intimidated irl. Once my demeanor changed he left.

[john54476]

Reading the post gave me thought about bad hook ups. They were off one of the apps which I don't recall any more. I sure remember the aftermath--they were both gave me a bj which were ok, both appeared to be normal guys, bathed no foul smells, clean clothes, groomed etc. The first one left me with a case of crabs and the second one gifted me lice. Took several rounds of treatment, a lot of discomfort/embarrasment and a ton of laundry, furniture cleaning, house cleaning, cleaning the car interiors etc.. Too bad like stds it's not always apparent when something isn't right.

It was expensive, time consuming and a pain in the ass--took 3 rounds to clear the lice. Any one else ever have a similar problem?

[Guest50]

4 hours ago, john54476 said:

Reading the post gave me thought about bad hook ups. They were off one of the apps which I don't recall any more. I sure remember the aftermath--they were both gave me a bj which were ok, both appeared to be normal guys, bathed no foul smells, clean clothes, groomed etc. The first one left me with a case of crabs and the second one gifted me lice. Took several rounds of treatment, a lot of discomfort/embarrasment and a ton of laundry, furniture cleaning, house cleaning, cleaning the car interiors etc.. Too bad like stds it's not always apparent when something isn't right.

It was expensive, time consuming and a pain in the ass--took 3 rounds to clear the lice. Any one else ever have a similar problem?

I didn't know you could get lice from someone giving you a bj...

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Guest50 said:

I didn't know you could get lice from someone giving you a bj...

Lice in sucker's hair jump onto your pubes. They are really tiny and hard to see. 

[LetsPOZBreed]

On 3/28/2022 at 1:40 AM, BritishCumdump said:

I just replied with "Nothing that was worth the trip". 

The shade...but I LOVE It!!!!

[LetsPOZBreed]

On 4/8/2022 at 7:56 AM, BritishCumdump said:

Yeah I think when people only want to hook up after 11pm or such it's cos they're horny but not committed to meeting OR they're on drugs. Early evening meetings are better for me as more time to get loads and more guys. 

I think this is where London itself helps me.  Past a certain point, it doesn't make sense from a transport perspective to even entertain arranging something for that evening.  I have two or three saunas and cruise bars within walking distance; if I wanted a late night of sex, I'd just go there instead...

[ejaculaTe]

On 3/28/2022 at 8:57 AM, piglooking4pigs said:

How many of us have thought at one (or ten) point, "Well, I've come this far, might as well get the load and leave" or "I put so much time into it, I might as well go through with it"? 

An example of the "sunk cost fallacy," our tendency to continue with something we’ve invested money, effort, or time into—even if the current costs outweigh the benefits. We end up making irrational decisions that are against our best interest — essentially digging ourselves into a deeper and deeper hole (no pun intended).

[ErosWired]

2 hours ago, ejaculaTe said:

An example of the "sunk cost fallacy," our tendency to continue with something we’ve invested money, effort, or time into—even if the current costs outweigh the benefits. We end up making irrational decisions that are against our best interest — essentially digging ourselves into a deeper and deeper hole (no pun intended).

That was a mighty high falutin’ way of saying ‘Throwing good money after bad.’

[BBVERSNV]

It happens to most of us, and we say never again, and then… again …

[gwmxyz]

Some of these I've mentioned before, but

- the guy who cums inside me then lectures me on how I mustn't do bb sex
- the guy who  continually messages me in my 45 minute taxi ride to meet him, then switches his phone off the minute I arrive
- the guy who thought me, my bf and our friend had cut his hands off (but somehow latched onto me as the least evil of the hand-cutting bastards)
- the guy who turns out to be quite seriously physically handicapped (actually had some sympathy - could see how it might be difficult for him otherwise)... and are we calling it the "sunk cost" fallacy?  (ie sucking him off as I was there even though I woudn't have met - putting it another way, he had correctly assessed my sluttiness and so his plan worked )
- the guy who said he' d been banned from the hotel for making a complaint; I was sympathetic until he explained his complaint was that there were people in the ceiling spying on him;
- the guy who sits there not doing anything transfixed by porn but who refuses to leave even when I pull the plug on the porn (thankfully in a hotel - left myself and made him the hotel staff's problem)
- the guy who only wanted to interrogate me about what other white bttm guys I knew (I tried to point out I really knew top guys; I didn't point out that I wouldn't him loose on any even if I did)
- the guy who didn't mention that I'd be doing the walk of shame in front of his mother when I left the room (thankfully not as bad as it could be, her English being about as good as my Cantonese)
- the guy who liked to give a running commentary on what he was doing and so made it clear his  tastes were more straight really (not a problem)  were of a Jeffrey Epstein variety (rather more of a problem) and wanted me to pretend that that is who I was (I big problem); I was crap when cast as Ophelia at my all boys school; my acting hasn't improved (in which role - obviously - I wasn't also being fucked when attempting that role).  
- the guy who messages me all day before our meet (for which I'd booked a hotel) then cums in 30 seconds;
- the guy who only wants to bite me - which ends up as bizarre negotiation "ok, one more bite then I get to suck for a bit" (like the previous comment says, I somehow thought it a good idea to meet him again - no surprises, he hadn't changed)
- the foursome which turned into two singing and playing Elton John songs on a piano missing one note (admittedly quite well - you hardly noticed the missing note) while me and the remaining guy tried to continue fucking in the next door room (even quite skilful "Candle In The Wind" wasn't really quite in the right mood).
(made up for a little by the fact they thought I was a hooker coz I agreed to come over immediately and with so few questions - the compliment all the better  for being unintended ) (London that one, anyone trying it in HK would get complaints about the noise).

Good thread though.  It cheers me up  - sometimes it feels like the fruitcakes are all here in HK.