Reverse Viagra

[tupolino]

Hello

not sure if I'm the only one with this kind of experience. When I get fucked I'm always rock hard and even with poppers it takes quite some time to see an effect that my dick softens. (and I also usually don't like to sniff that much of it)
Generally I would prefer to stay like soft if I'm bottoming, just for the sake to focus on my butt only. 
Is there anything like a "reverse viagra" just to make sure I don't have this constant hard-on when getting breeded?

[ErosWired]

If poppers don’t limp you, I don’t know what will. Maybe have a photo of your grandmother you could look at? A recording of any female cam performer on LiveJasmin having an orgasm? The risk, or course, is shutting down your libido, not just your cock.

Since you say you don’t like to sniff much of poppers, and since it sounds like you’re asking for something in terms of a substance or pharmaceutical, it strikes me that this could simply be a problem of proper dosage. While I find that (contrary to many Tops’ claims) poppers kill erections in virtually everybody, the amount of exposure required to reach deflation can vary between individuals. You may be more tolerant, and may require more.

Or you can have a pic of Roseanne Barr handy in your wallet. Same thing.

[tupolino]

1 hour ago, ErosWired said:

Maybe have a photo of your grandmother you could look at?

Hahaha, oh no! I was afraid of getting such a recommendation. 😄 

1 hour ago, ErosWired said:

it sounds like you’re asking for something in terms of a substance or pharmaceutical, it strikes me that this could simply be a problem of proper dosage.

Well, ideally it would be a pill or something, indeed. I've tried a cream already containing lidocain which numbs the skin, but that helps more to prevent cumming too early or at all. The dick itself just stays hard. 
Not sure what dosage of poppers is assumed to be a "proper" one in general? If I take poppers then maybe 2-3 times while getting a breeding. Each time inhaling deep, breathing out, inhaling a second time and hold it for 10 seconds or so. Probably the third time there might be some effect, but not everytime. But as I like to get bred fast and just leave afterwards, I usually don't get there at all. Plus some tops don't like it if I take poppers at all.
It would be just hot, to stay soft, while being super horny at the same time.
The stubborn dick also made my tries to wear a cage almost impossible, because putting it on got me so hard already, that it just didn't work anymore. 

[aplomber29]

Try a chastity cage

[evilqueerpig]

Old joke...."What's the antidote to viagra"  "Linda Tripp!"

[ErosWired]

6 minutes ago, evilqueerpig said:

Old joke...."What's the antidote to viagra"  "Linda Tripp!"

Or Lorena Bobbitt

[austin_submale]

I've read the Propecia (the anti-baldness drug) can cause inability to get erections.  But it's effects may be more permanent than you'd want.  I've also heard it can cause sometimes permanent shrinkage.

 

[ErosWired]

26 minutes ago, tupolino said:

Not sure what dosage of poppers is assumed to be a "proper" one in general?

There isn’t a “proper” dosage, as sniffing poppers is an “improper” use of the substance. And the effect varies somewhat per individual and depending on how habituated the person has become to using them. In addition, the big inconsistency is the potency of any given bottle due to the high volatility of the active gaseous compounds being emitted - if the bottle has been left open too long, you could sniff it for ten straight minutes and not feel the effect. In order to test whether poppers are actually a solution to your issue, try it with a bottle you unseal immediately before you start.

Bear in mind that poppers wear off quickly. I find that the cock-limping effect endures rather longer than the euphoric effects, but it’s not going to hold you for half an hour on a single go; you would likely have to keep the poppers coming to maintain it.

But all this begs the question of why you’re getting rock-hard while being bred to begin with. Erection isn’t a purely autonomic physical reaction - it requires a mental component to activate. It may be possible for you to do some work to identify what psychologically triggers you to feel aroused that way while bottoming, and learn to subdue or redirect those thoughts so that they don’t result in erection. This is actually the real reason behind my tongue-in-cheek references to looking at unsexy images; they steer your mind away from taking the thought path that normally leads to a hardon. You might be able to achieve what you want without a pill. In fact, I’m sure you can. There are many, many of us on this site who never get hard for a moment when taking cock. It’s not that we aren’t aroused by it - we may even orgasm repeatedly - it’s just that we’ve conditioned ourselves to turn the sexual fulcrum of our mind and body to a point other than our penis.

[Bruce999]

Ma Kettle will kill every hard in a NY second. 

[Cumfilledbottomboi]

1 hour ago, Sissyslut said:

Try a chastity cage

Absolutely this. 

[Pampix]

Mainly it is all in the mind, habit and training. I suppose taht you are younger guy with a high sexdrive. With getting older (more then 30) and a lot of anal stimulation you should get your ass reprogrammed as your main sexual organ and you will be able to be fucked without having an erection. In fact you should never stimulate your cock when you are riding or using a dildo so that you do not make the link between ass and cock. For most men, as for me you loose your erection when you get strong stimulation in your ass. This is what I do when I wear my chastity cage and get morningwood and it hurts. I push then one of my bigger butplugs in my ass and I loose my erection right away to loose the pain.

[NWUSHorny]

From the perspective of someone who is not a total bottom, I would question why you want to use chemical means to prevent your bodies natural reaction to sexual stimuli? I mean your mind and equipment is responding the way it was genetically programed to work, is it really medically advisable to try to overcome that reaction. You don't have to top if you don't want to, if fact there are a lot of men who consider themselves gay that get a hard on in a sexual situation that don't top or bottom, as well as a lot of men who do top who view a bottom with a rock hard boner as sign they are doing a good job and are doing something wrong if you don't have one. Why fight your bodies natural reaction, when in a way that in the long run it may do more harm than good to both your physical and mental health?

[ErosWired]

5 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

From the perspective of someone who is not a total bottom, I would question why you want to use chemical means to prevent your bodies natural reaction to sexual stimuli? I mean your mind and equipment is responding the way it was genetically programed to work, is it really medically advisable to try to overcome that reaction. You don't have to top if you don't want to, if fact there are a lot of men who consider themselves gay that get a hard on in a sexual situation that don't top or bottom, as well as a lot of men who do top who view a bottom with a rock hard boner as sign they are doing a good job and are doing something wrong if you don't have one. Why fight your bodies natural reaction, when in a way that in the long run it may do more harm than good to both your physical and mental health?

Okay, let’s walk this back a little.

 What are you trying to achieve with this line of questioning? The OP has asked a straight-up question, how to keep his cock soft during fucking. He didn’t ask anyone to try to talk him out of doing it.

You’re warning the guy, with zero scientific support (because there isn’t any) that he’s going to damage his mental health if he doesn’t embrace his boner? You’ve made it abundantly clear in another thread that you don’t understand men who seek to avoid cock stimulation, but telling a guy he’s going to hurt himself if he doesn’t use his cock is about as useful as telling a guy he’ll go blind if he masturbates.

Why fight his body’s natural reaction? Because he doesn’t like it. It’s not complicated. That’s all the reason he needs. He’s not asking for radical measures, he’s asking essentially for the most basic reliable method to use when the occasion arises. He’s not trying to shrink his cock off.

Why would a man fight the natural function? I really don’t much like ejaculatory orgasm because I find it an unpleasantly violent sensation with a nasty after-feel, and trying to make myself enjoy it hasn’t been good for my mental health. I do much better without it, and would be ecstatic if I were told that my body would never again inconvenience me with the need to deal with that particular function.

 I can’t speak to the OP’s personal reasons for wanting to experience his own sexuality in a way that best fulfills him, but neither I nor you need to understand them - that is decidedly his prerogative.  Suggesting to him, without basis, that his desire is not only wrong, but unnatural and potentially harmful, is not the prerogative of anyone else.

[onlyraw]

14 hours ago, Sissyslut said:

Try a chastity cage

 

12 hours ago, Cumfilledbottomboi said:

Absolutely this. 

Keep the faith,

I know it can be done as years ago I hooked up with a bottom who stayed soft the whole time (which was kind of a bummer for me as, as I have mentioned before, partly ego, partly my insecurities I like it when my bottom gets hard) but he had had a master that trained him not to get hard - so that he could put all his focus on the Master’s cock

so I know it can be done 

so unless you can find a master who knows the trick to it - I agree with Sissyslut and Cumfilledbottomboi - start with chastity- the smallest cage you can fit into- and that at least will stop you from getting hard while you wear the cage and maybe (?) after awhile you will not need the cage ? 
 

you could also maybe try hypnosis (if you are open to that and can find a good kinky hypnotherapist that you trust)

there used to be this very hot gay hypno site (dragon something) that was for bottoms but they did a redesign and I lost track of it

( they also had these great very sexy hypno work out tapes - now if I can just figure how to move them from my iPod to my phone maybe I could get back in shape)

anyway - good luck

[1stimebare]

At the risk of offending someone, I find it hard(pardon the pun) to believe any man doesn't enjoy a hardon.  But then I am not a total bottom.  Nor do I want to be.  Tho I am certainly not a total top either.  And don't want to be.