Complicated Random hook ups.

[freshxtop5]

Has anyone else had issues with random hook ups on BBRT, Grindr, Sinffies, ect.? Like people make hooking up for a random fuck more complicated then it needs to be or they just don't respond at all. I don't know maybe it's just me. It's just sex lol. 

[ErosWired]

It’s not just you. Anymore I’m not sure whether to call them hookup apps or cockblocking apps. But of course it’s not the apps, but the people using them that are making things difficult. I used to think that men would gladly fuck given an opportunity - now I think that men who want to actually have intercourse may be a minority.

[freshxtop5]

Yeah and at least in the pass people wound tell you they are not interested. Now it's just don't respond to your message lol

[Davidc]

Old fashioned cruising areas and saunas are great , multiple opportunities and a better chance of finding a pre loaded ass 

[tallslenderguy]

57 minutes ago, Davidc said:

Old fashioned cruising areas and saunas are great , multiple opportunities and a better chance of finding a pre loaded ass 

Agreed. In my experience, net hook ups worked better in the early days of internet connecting for sex. But i think online hookup culture has changed over time. Going way back to AOL chat rooms? i had some really awesome hook up sex, and "ghosting" was not even part of the vocabulary.  Even with CL, i got a lot of great walk in breed and go with that before Aunt Pearl got them shut down. 

Meanwhile, if you can find them, actual causing spots still remain the gold standard for me. Online involves to many steps, planning, travel, etc.. Put horny guys in the same location and sex is going to happen.  Put horny guys in a location that is known for sex happening, and it's gonna happen with abandon lol. 

[Aixactif]

I find the whole back-and-forth in the apps a complete turnoff. Even if I am interested at the beginning I am over it by the time we make plans. I mostly use MachoBB in Europe and it is OK but not as many users as Grinder etc.

[freshxtop5]

50 minutes ago, Aixactif said:

I find the whole back-and-forth in the apps a complete turnoff. Even if I am interested at the beginning I am over it by the time we make plans. I mostly use MachoBB in Europe and it is OK but not as many users as Grinder etc.

I think the worst part is going through the trouble to clean out if I am going to get fucked only to have the guy ghost you or just cancel at the time they had set up to meet. I even asked him the day before if that time was still going for us. Then the day of all he said was I have been out all day and just got home then just logged out of sniffies. 

[hntnhole]

There's something to be said in favor of living someplace where guys are always fucking each other 24/7.  Not every guy can just pull up roots and move to a city full of raw pigs, but when you can, it's worth considering.  Sure, there are always trade-off's - it only depends on what's most important to each individual guy. 

Easy to say, I know ... it's a lot more difficult to decide.  So far, I'm pleased with my decision. 

[LetsPOZBreed]

I've had overcomplicated situations before apps were even a thing.  I don't think this is something new; however, I do feel that it's gotten worse over time.

I've come to assume that any guy chatting with me with the idea of hooking up "tonight" is mid-wank.  The more detailed he gets with what we're allegedly going to do with one another, the closer I assume he's getting to busting his wad.  These days, I refrain from over-scripting an encounter on the apps.  Sure, we can negotiate any role playing, but I prefer that negotiation to happen face-to-face before we start playing.  That being said, I'm not going to have a guy negotiate a role-play scene with me for more than just a couple minutes.  

 

[norefusal]

22 minutes ago, LetsPOZBreed said:

I've had overcomplicated situations before apps were even a thing.  I don't think this is something new; however, I do feel that it's gotten worse over time.

I've come to assume that any guy chatting with me with the idea of hooking up "tonight" is mid-wank.  The more detailed he gets with what we're allegedly going to do with one another, the closer I assume he's getting to busting his wad.  These days, I refrain from over-scripting an encounter on the apps.  Sure, we can negotiate any role playing, but I prefer that negotiation to happen face-to-face before we start playing.  That being said, I'm not going to have a guy negotiate a role-play scene with me for more than just a couple minutes.  

 

same. 

one thing i have notice a prevalence these days is anti-depressant side-effect ED. not that's its = to people being jerks or misbehaving, but it def lends to the frustrations that cruising isn't workin out. cruising is kinda cool tho as it shows very quickly which guys were raised right and which guys were raised by wolves in a barn 😜

[BootmanLA]

19 hours ago, freshxtop5 said:

Yeah and at least in the pass people wound tell you they are not interested. Now it's just don't respond to your message lol

Broadly speaking, I agree with you. But here's the thing: I get messages on the apps from people 5,000 miles away. I get messages from guys who describe themselves as "sissy bottom looking for rough Top Daddy" even though my own profile says I'm a bottom - not versatile, a bottom. I get messages from people whose first question is "where are you from?" even though every profile I create lists my city and state. I get messages from people who open with "Looking for tonight?" even though my profiles always state "I plan ahead for sex, almost never looking for "right now".

I don't respond to those idiots. If they can't bother to read a fucking profile and UNDERSTAND the words before sending me a message they've forfeited any claim to a polite response declining what they're offering, so to speak.

It's a mystery to me how people that stupid don't drown looking up at the rain wondering where all that water is coming from.

[NWUSHorny]

Yes, and unfortunately the areas it is the biggest problem are the very same areas where the locals complicate in person hookups. The hookup apps merely magnify the worst idiosyncracies for a given location.

[barefucker44]

It is tough sometimes to hookup.  When I go out of town on road trips I always look for a local fuck.  You have to hit up several guys just to find one who is ready and actually willing to meet up.  Once I found a top on another bareback site who came by my hotel just to tell me he needed to put his condom on.  I let him fuck me but tried to no avail to get him to take his condom off.  I was horny so I kept lookin.  About two hours later I found a btm who came by.  I bred the hell out of him.  Sometimes I dont get lucky, but sometimes I do.  It is a numbers game sometime.

[Mvillebottom]

1 hour ago, barefucker44 said:

It is tough sometimes to hookup.  When I go out of town on road trips I always look for a local fuck.  You have to hit up several guys just to find one who is ready and actually willing to meet up.  Once I found a top on another bareback site who came by my hotel just to tell me he needed to put his condom on.  I let him fuck me but tried to no avail to get him to take his condom off.  I was horny so I kept lookin.  About two hours later I found a btm who came by.  I bred the hell out of him.  Sometimes I dont get lucky, but sometimes I do.  It is a numbers game sometime.

Barefucker44,  If you're ever in indiana around bloomington or kndianapolis on business you coukd definitdly breed the hell out of my ass  👹

[T-Girl-Cumdumpster]

yes, thats one of the reasons i became such a bathhouse cumdumpster and porntheatre whore. i knew i could just go in and find horny men looking to use a whore like me to get themselves off. no bs, no games, no pretending to wanna date me or have any interest in me as a person at all. just sliding up into my guts and blowing loads in some trashy whore that just got bred by an unknown number of complete strangers. guys on hookup sites have a million questions, half of them are just jerking off and a number of the others pussy out. some days its good and i can make a number of pump n dump pit stops but in a porntheatre or bathhouse i can just srip naked and get used and everyone there knows i’m a fucktoy and will be super easy to fuck.