Cheating

[Cumslutbottomm]

thanks everyone. this post was not meant to ruffle any feathers at all. i love my partner and there’s no doubt about that. I appreciate those that took the time to give insight and advice in my time of conflicting feelings of lust and physical attraction. these replies helped me realize a few things. 

[120DaysofSodom]

Ive always cheated on my boyfriends, always thought it was the hottest thing ever, and never felt bad about any of it 🙂

[London1281955]

I usually cheat if travel for work- I assume any bf does the same as only had sleazy boyfriends.

[bottomboib]

15 hours ago, 120DaysofSodom said:

Ive always cheated on my boyfriends, always thought it was the hottest thing ever, and never felt bad about any of it 🙂

I am 100000% with you. I've let it consume me and I adore it. I cannot stop. I feel amazing about it every time I do it. 

[Iker80]

I'm horny and impulsive, and there's a lot of hot guys in the world, and some of them think the same about me. Sooner or later we find each other. The more I try to be good and monogamous the more horny I get and the more I'm checking out guys. And you know where it's mutual. It's not that I have any turn on for cheating, it just happens, and the release after being so horny for something with another guy is intense. I rationalise it to myself later, because it was just 100% a fun release with another guy who needed it too, that it's ok because we're both guys and nobody is going to get pregnant or expect it to turn in to some kind of romance, but it's still cheating.

But temptation happens. Imagine you've been monogamous for 6 months and then a really hot guy is cruising you,  he's exactly your type. I don't feel like I'm choosing, it just happens. We kiss, we stroke each others dicks, things happen.

It's best to have a partner who understands, but society isn't accepting about guys who like doing it with other men. Loads of us out there, but nobody really talks about it. There's a lot of great guys who would be an awesome bf or husband to someone, but they aren't good with monogamy. One of the guys I know is an amazing bf to his partner, he loves her and takes great care of her (she's very ill), but he has hookups with guys sometimes.

Currently I'm single and that's a good thing at the moment, but I'd like to be in a relationship one day that accepts monogamy isn't suitable for me. I'm not sure that will happen though.

Edited October 21, 2023 by Iker80

[leakyhole]

6 hours ago, Iker80 said:

I'm horny and impulsive, and there's a lot of hot guys in the world, and some of them think the same about me. Sooner or later we find each other. The more I try to be good and monogamous the more horny I get and the more I'm checking out guys. And you know where it's mutual. It's not that I have any turn on for cheating, it just happens, and the release after being so horny for something with another guy is intense. I rationalise it to myself later, because it was just 100% a fun release with another guy who needed it too, that it's ok because we're both guys and nobody is going to get pregnant or expect it to turn in to some kind of romance, but it's still cheating.

But temptation happens. Imagine you've been monogamous for 6 months and then a really hot guy is cruising you,  he's exactly your type. I don't feel like I'm choosing, it just happens. We kiss, we stroke each others dicks, things happen.

It's best to have a partner who understands, but society isn't accepting about guys who like doing it with other men. Loads of us out there, but nobody really talks about it. There's a lot of great guys who would be an awesome bf or husband to someone, but they aren't good with monogamy. One of the guys I know is an amazing bf to his partner, he loves her and takes great care of her (she's very ill), but he has hookups with guys sometimes.

Currently I'm single and that's a good thing at the moment, but I'd like to be in a relationship one day that accepts monogamy isn't suitable for me. I'm not sure that will happen though.

You described it pretty well...how can one jsut resist all those sexy guys around? 😄

[hntnhole]

7 hours ago, Iker80 said:

Currently I'm single and that's a good thing at the moment

Yes, I agree.  But who says your Lusts simply must be kept a secret?

Here's the deal:  When you no longer want to be single, you should definitely tell the man you're considering (for a deeper, longer-term relationship) the magnificent truth, and before any commitments are made.  Tell him that you anticipate having sex with other men (maybe not how many), and that you don't see that as incompatible with your ability to love and cherish him alone.  Sex and love go hand-in ..... (well, more like Cock in Hole for our kind), with human relationships of any depths, and I suggest if you settle down, it's with a man with a similar sexual drive.  It worked for me for over 30 years;  Honesty can work for every other guy too. 

Pretending that "outside" sex is able to be covered up is simply silly.  They always figure it out, so far better to settle down with a guy that's just as big a raw sexpig as you are.  That way each of you gets enough of what you both need, plus you can even share tricks, go out for sex together, if that suits.  You won't have the burden of trying to remember what excuse you used, when you used it, on and on.  Honesty enriches the soul: dishonesty rots it.  

By all means get into a long-term relationship with a man that shares your sexual wantonness.  But please do it being completely upfront about your sexual needs.  It'll be all the hotter for both of you.  

[120DaysofSodom]

On 10/20/2023 at 7:08 PM, bottomboib said:

I am 100000% with you. I've let it consume me and I adore it. I cannot stop. I feel amazing about it every time I do it. 

Me too. I take loads everywhere I can get them. Used to love taking it in the stairwell and the basement of the old apartment building I lived in with my ex when he was asleep. Every night I was out there my brains fucked out like a whore.

[hntnhole]

On 10/18/2023 at 10:35 PM, Cumslutbottomm said:

any tips for having the best of both worlds

How about starting at the beginning:  In a sexual context, the word "cheating" means that one partner in a relationship a) promises, affirms, whatever, that he will remain "faithful" to the other partner, but b) doesn't follow through on that promise, knowing that he'll have sex with other men, and is therefore "cheating" on his partner.  

The best way to alleviate this issue, is for both participants in the relationship to remove that "promise", knowing they'll have sex with other men.  They can promise to love each other, take care of each other, share everything (or not), all kinds of issues that relationships need to be founded upon.  

If a guy has "promised" not to cheat, thinking that his would-be "partner" will never know, he's not only damaging the relationship needlessly, he's demeaning himself with the lie.  

Why go through that whole mess in the first place?  When each guy promises only what he knows he'll carry through on, a great relationship can be built.  When false promises are made in the first place, why even bother with the lies?  Be buddies, be friends, and be honest.  Just be *real* first with one's self, and then with the other guy.  

[Traviscraymer]

On 10/21/2023 at 6:51 AM, Iker80 said:

I'm horny and impulsive, and there's a lot of hot guys in the world, and some of them think the same about me. Sooner or later we find each other. The more I try to be good and monogamous the more horny I get and the more I'm checking out guys. And you know where it's mutual. It's not that I have any turn on for cheating, it just happens, and the release after being so horny for something with another guy is intense. I rationalise it to myself later, because it was just 100% a fun release with another guy who needed it too, that it's ok because we're both guys and nobody is going to get pregnant or expect it to turn in to some kind of romance, but it's still cheating.

But temptation happens. Imagine you've been monogamous for 6 months and then a really hot guy is cruising you,  he's exactly your type. I don't feel like I'm choosing, it just happens. We kiss, we stroke each others dicks, things happen.

It's best to have a partner who understands, but society isn't accepting about guys who like doing it with other men. Loads of us out there, but nobody really talks about it. There's a lot of great guys who would be an awesome bf or husband to someone, but they aren't good with monogamy. One of the guys I know is an amazing bf to his partner, he loves her and takes great care of her (she's very ill), but he has hookups with guys sometimes.

Currently I'm single and that's a good thing at the moment, but I'd like to be in a relationship one day that accepts monogamy isn't suitable for me. I'm not sure that will happen though.

 

agree.  Hard for me to keep a relationship.

[PozTalkAuthor]

I had mainly 3 life phases: one where monogamy was considered "a must", "the way society wants me to be", and the result was I dated one guy who was drugged and another who was a serial cheater and this relationship gave me HIV. 

No, I don't think I was the cause of it all; if one prefers a different kind of life there's nothing I can do about it! Worst thing you can do in a love affair, is to have the "mission" of changing your partner's behaviour. The frog remains a frog, and the scorpion... stings!!! 

Second phase where I said "open, or nothing". My latest ex who made me think he loved me but then he used me, well, no, in the end we used each other. Cheating? I don't consider it such, when one watches Twitter with a particular fetish, without my consent. Virtual is not cheat IMHO. 

And third phase, current one, I'm happily monogamous with my current partner. 

In summer we tried to involve one close friend sexually but we both simply felt uncomfortable so, we have taken a step backwards: if and when it happens, it happens. Nothing forced. 

I admit, I feel opening the couple might make our sex more adventurous, but it's not an urge. And we always confront on this subject whenever we read stories here. 

Yes, we watch porn and read sexual stories, together with listening to podcasts of interests. We're not that classical family "watch a sitcom then to bed"! 

[120DaysofSodom]

16 hours ago, Traviscraymer said:

 

agree.  Hard for me to keep a relationship.

I can sustain one for many years, but it either needs to be open, or there will be a lot of infidelity and I wont apologize for it.

[Godliath]

7 minutes ago, 120DaysofSodom said:

I can sustain one for many years, but it either needs to be open, or there will be a lot of infidelity and I wont apologize for it.

Ever cuck your bf?

[partying.hard]

16 minutes ago, 120DaysofSodom said:

I can sustain one for many years, but it either needs to be open, or there will be a lot of infidelity and I wont apologize for it.

I respect that

[hntnhole]

17 hours ago, PozTalkAuthor said:

We're not that classical family "watch a sitcom then to bed"!

Thank Whatever ...... 😉