Cheating

[mblad99]

I think every relationship is different and human relationships are complex.  My wife found evidence of my interests in men a few years ago, asked if I was gay.  I told her honestly you lost sexual interest in me so if someone else wants to suck it. I go for it.  That ended the conversation.  More recently, I was horned up and moody and she could tell.  She just told me go out and get what you need.  I no longer feel getting off with a guy is cheating.  She has some knowledge and just closes to look the other way.  She also knows I still love her deeply and no one competes against her that way.  I thinks it's cheating if you are taking something away from the relationship and giving that something to another person.  She can careless about my cock, so that goes to someone else, my heart stays at home. 

[chipygmalion80]

On 10/18/2024 at 12:41 PM, mblad99 said:

I think every relationship is different and human relationships are complex.  My wife found evidence of my interests in men a few years ago, asked if I was gay.  I told her honestly you lost sexual interest in me so if someone else wants to suck it. I go for it.  That ended the conversation.  More recently, I was horned up and moody and she could tell.  She just told me go out and get what you need.  I no longer feel getting off with a guy is cheating.  She has some knowledge and just closes to look the other way.  She also knows I still love her deeply and no one competes against her that way.  I thinks it's cheating if you are taking something away from the relationship and giving that something to another person.  She can careless about my cock, so that goes to someone else, my heart stays at home. 

 

Yup, thx for sharing your wife's reaction.  And yes, sexuality is complex.

The numbskulls would benefit from a class in human sexuality at their local college.  I did and my eyes were floored at what I read.  It's not complicated.  Folks have always had sex.  It's just a bit more complex than black & white, and sexuality doesn't often fit into nice little boxes, despite what monogamists and Gold Car Gay types want the world to be. 

My hubby actively tells me to go out and get my dick sucked or fuck some ass.  I prefer to make love with him but we are 2 different libidos.  That doesn't change our long-term committments to each other.

Edited October 19 by chipygmalion80