Cheating

[mblad99]

I think every relationship is different and human relationships are complex.  My wife found evidence of my interests in men a few years ago, asked if I was gay.  I told her honestly you lost sexual interest in me so if someone else wants to suck it. I go for it.  That ended the conversation.  More recently, I was horned up and moody and she could tell.  She just told me go out and get what you need.  I no longer feel getting off with a guy is cheating.  She has some knowledge and just closes to look the other way.  She also knows I still love her deeply and no one competes against her that way.  I thinks it's cheating if you are taking something away from the relationship and giving that something to another person.  She can careless about my cock, so that goes to someone else, my heart stays at home. 

[chipygmalion80]

On 10/18/2024 at 12:41 PM, mblad99 said:

I think every relationship is different and human relationships are complex.  My wife found evidence of my interests in men a few years ago, asked if I was gay.  I told her honestly you lost sexual interest in me so if someone else wants to suck it. I go for it.  That ended the conversation.  More recently, I was horned up and moody and she could tell.  She just told me go out and get what you need.  I no longer feel getting off with a guy is cheating.  She has some knowledge and just closes to look the other way.  She also knows I still love her deeply and no one competes against her that way.  I thinks it's cheating if you are taking something away from the relationship and giving that something to another person.  She can careless about my cock, so that goes to someone else, my heart stays at home. 

 

Yup, thx for sharing your wife's reaction.  And yes, sexuality is complex.

The numbskulls would benefit from a class in human sexuality at their local college.  I did and my eyes were floored at what I read.  It's not complicated.  Folks have always had sex.  It's just a bit more complex than black & white, and sexuality doesn't often fit into nice little boxes, despite what monogamists and Gold Car Gay types want the world to be. 

My hubby actively tells me to go out and get my dick sucked or fuck some ass.  I prefer to make love with him but we are 2 different libidos.  That doesn't change our long-term committments to each other.

Edited October 19 by chipygmalion80

[poztwinksrhot]

I've been with my other half for over 25 years.  I cheated on him only once, for one evening, somewhere in the first five years of that span.  Since that time, have I dropped loads thinking about doing it again?  Sure.  I've just never tried to make it happen.  Mostly because I don't think it would end well if I were found out.  Could there be a second time?  Unlikely at this point, but never say never.

Do I look down on others if they cheat?  Nope.  You do you.  You know your situation and your risks, and what you're willing to give up, or live with, if you're found out.   There are some hot fiction stories on here with cheating twinks as a theme, and I get off reading them, as well as real-life accounts of the same.  So while I don't cheat (other than the one time), I don't judge others if they do.  If anything, it gets me boned.

I admire couples who have open relationships and are able to make them work.  That isn't cheating, but you have to be able to separate love from sex.  If both parties can do that, then they can enjoy sex wherever they can find it.  I'd be up for that, but my other half gets way too jealous for it to be an option.  It would end poorly.

Edited Tuesday at 08:08 AM by poztwinksrhot

[RawSlutAms]

I am non-monogamous. I enjoy fucking lots of guys and don't pretend otherwise with the men who fuck me.
The men who I have been in relationships need to understand this. 
 

[PozBearWI]

I've been somewhat out of the play scene for about a year since I seroconverted.  But we were at a group sex party and my mate encouraged me to join the fun while he waited for our late comer (frustrating, there is often the one guy who doesn't give a crap that someone is waiting to check him in before they themselves can join the party).  I did exactly that and really enjoyed a few hours of playtime. 

His comment at the end was "it was nice to see you play again".