Versatility: a turn-on or a turn-off?

[eurotopnyc]

Curious about how others feel about this. I know that for many guys versatility is a turn-on, and it certainly makes for more variety of configurations. However, for whatever reason, versatility is a turn-off for me. I'm really turned on by total bottoms, and when I chat with someone online I always find myself making sure that both of us expect a situation with purely opposite roles. I don't even care if the bottom boy gets hard or cum, as long as he totally and unambiguously loves getting fucked and I see that in his face with every stroke. I'm not into pain or sadism or anything like that - I just want hungry slut bottoms who love cock and dare show it.

Which brings me to my question: Am I atypical in feeling this way? Are you more turned on by versatility or by contrasts? Interested in hearing from both sides.

[Bear4Breeding]

Some guys like Versatility some like one roll or another, depends on the guy I would expect as well as the mood at the moment.

For me there was a time when I liked a versatile man, only because I enjoyed fucking as much as I enjoyed getting fucked. Right now at this exact moment in my life I just want to get fucked. I don't care if I cum or not just as long as the top enjoys my hole and leaves a hot load in my gut. I enjoy a good fuck, if I enjoy the fuck and the top cums I am a happy pig.

[bbplayfulcat]

Variety is my true spice.Being versatile means,I never leave unsatisfied,plus,I'm welcome at more parties becauseI can do it all.If they need a hot bottom,I'm ready ,If they need to get topped,ready also.Too me,if you're not versatile it gets pretty one-sided.I believe everyone should leave with a smile.

[BottomBiCork]

I think this is very much a case of horses for courses. I am a total submissive bottom, and tend to prefer total tops like the OP. I completely agree with hungtopnyc on the point about completely opposite roles. I like submitting to a guy who demands to be the guy giving the cock all the time. I have no interest in topping at all. Just the way I'm made. If a guy claims to be top and then starts asking if I'd ever consider fucking him or taking the dominant role, that is a total turn-off for me. That said, I won't turn down a fuck just because the guy is vers. As long as he understands my declared interest, and doesn't try to "convert" me, it's all gravy.

[Deaner]

I don't care if a guy is 50/50, 80/20 or 99/1 on his own time. But if I'm looking for a top, I want him to be all top for my play date with him. If I'm looking for a bottom, he'd better be able to pretend he doesn't even HAVE a cock for the next couple hours.

Versatility isn't a bad thing. I do it too. But my brain isn't able to flip roles in the middle of a play date. Pick a side and stick to it until we're done with each other.

[NCPOZTOP]

I don't mind if a guy considers himself versatile, as long as he knows that I'm not. Its been my experience that most vers guys though are 95 percent bottom, and just leave open the option.

[Belfast-Bottom]

I prefer Tops who are 100% ( or at least 90%) Top. I'm attracted to masculinity and the man who only takes the MALE role in sex is more masculine in my eyes. I don't turn down versatile guys - as long as they only Top in sessions with me. I can't be bothered with a Top who wants to change roles in a session or pressure me into topping him.

Bearing in mind that there are so few gay Tops around ( maybe 1 in 8 gay guys? ) my view is that most versatiles are basically bottoms who are just trying to get more sex. I know there are SOME true versatiles.

[bttmboy4daddy]

When I first came out and started making gay friends, I heard a joke about how "Versatile" just means "I'm a bottom who can't suck a cock properly". In my experience (and from what I've heard from my top friends), it's a pretty accurate statement.

I am a bottom, on my profiles I make it clear I am a bottom, and if a guy says he is interested in topping me (or having me suck his cock) I expect him to take on the top role during our encounter. I have had several vers guys swear up and down they are just interested in topping me, that they understood I am a total bottom; then they come over, we get naked, and suddenly it's "Wow your cock is so big! Can I blow you? Will you fuck me? Please? I wanna try sitting on that big cock! I know I said I was a top but I have a thing for uncut guys. Your cock is really big, you should at least try topping this once!" and so on. It's infuriating and I have kicked guys out of my apartment for pulling that crap.

It's like ordering a steak and having the waitress try to serve you a salad instead, then pretending she doesn't understand why you're suddenly telling the manager she needs to be fired. Pisses me off. I refuse to play with guys if their profile says anything other than "Top" or "Prefer to Top", because I got so fucking tired of all the supposedly "100% Versatile" guys refusing to do anything but bottom.

[Bttm2go]

Even though I can either top or bottom--I lean more bottom, when having sex I want one role or the other. When I am a bottom, I'm a total bottom. I don't even think of my dick or touch it. I only get off after the top is completely done. Just the reverse when I top. That bottom bitch better not even think of touching his dick or he'll get slapped. I guess I like guys in their role. Now if the top wants to play with my dick, that's his choice. Whatever will make him happy.

[Guest slobbvers]

Well, guess I'm a rarity. Am a true versatile. Had a fuck buddy who would fuck me and cum in me. Then I'd fuck him and breed his ass. Plus, I'm an excellent cocksucker.

[pozfuck]

Versatile is good. The older I get the more I like to be fucked and well bred, but I do like to return the favour as well. After a good breeding session I get so fuckin horny I just have to flip over and deposit a load myself. That's why us gay guys are so much better at sex than the straights - we know it from both sides... Let's fucking spread the seed!

[Whitebutt]

I´m a total bottom when it comes to fucking, but I still love to get my dick sucked. Just don´t expect me to fuck you. It´s not gonna happen.

[hungry_hole]

I don't care if a guy is 50/50, 80/20 or 99/1 on his own time. But if I'm looking for a top, I want him to be all top for my play date with him. If I'm looking for a bottom, he'd better be able to pretend he doesn't even HAVE a cock for the next couple hours.

Versatility isn't a bad thing. I do it too. But my brain isn't able to flip roles in the middle of a play date. Pick a side and stick to it until we're done with each other.

Deaner's words ring true to me. It also highlights the teu versatile types (1) Flip-flop versatile and (2) Serial versatile.

I define myself as a total bottom and in reality I am because I don't really enjoy getting sucked or fucking a hole. And don't care if the guy who fucks me or whom I'm sucking is top, bottom or versatile. I like being the top during the sexual interaction.

As many bottoms, when feeling very horny or in particular scenes, I could see myself "being serial versatile". If for example, I saw a hot young slut getting his hole bred, I may feel tempted to play the "top role" just because I'm too horny. For some reason, I feel this would definitely happen if I were poz. It would turn me on to play the top role. But for some strange reason, I have to admit that it's strange, I could not flip-flop with anyone.

[tin]

I'm pretty versatile. I enjoy both top & bottom roles when fooling around - but depending on the situation I can either be a total top, total bottom - or enjoy a good flip partway through depending on what the chemistry is like.

I've noticed in relationships I tend to be more top-oriented, but when I'm playing outside of it I tend to be more of a bottom - but that isn't set in stone.

Sex is fun, and limiting myself to 100% one role or the other for the rest of my life seems silly - although sticking to one or the other depending on the encounter can be fun.

[BBBttmPete]

I'm a total top and I prefer fucking total bottoms, but wouldn't say no to a hot vers guy. Total bottoms are so sexy though :-)