Looking for advice from dominants on how to serve effectively

[Chuckybb]

I am a subservient passive bottom who is looking for advice and tips on how to serve dominant tops.  If you are a dominant top, please tell me how I can serve you.  I will serve you in any way that you want.  My goal is to satisfy you and ultimately be your (or who else you seem necessary) bareback load taker.  

[VanCumDump]

It's easy. It isn't about you or what you like. Take whatever the Dom wants and the way He wants it. 😈

[barefucker44]

The point is not to offer suggestions or advice or complain.  Do as the dom top says period.  You will be rewarded with his seed.   It may not be the way you want it, but us tops dont care.  You will get our seed when we are ready.

[ChiBBottom4TopMen]

Submitting to a top fully with the reward of him unloading and being fully satisfied. 

[Willing]

7 hours ago, ChiBBottom4TopMen said:

Submitting to a top fully with the reward of him unloading and being fully satisfied. 

Yes😵

[Willing]

On 2/23/2024 at 10:38 PM, barefucker44 said:

The point is not to offer suggestions or advice or complain.  Do as the dom top says period.  You will be rewarded with his seed.   It may not be the way you want it, but us tops dont care.  You will get our seed when we are ready.

Yes sir😵

[Willing]

On 2/23/2024 at 1:10 PM, VanCumDump said:

It's easy. It isn't about you or what you like. Take whatever the Dom wants and the way He wants it. 😈

Yes sir 😵

[Evilpozbreeder]

Agree with others here.  To be more specific though, for a beginner:  get in shape; practice being a good boot licker, tops, bottoms, soles, welts; practice sucking, licking, worshipping cock, down to the root, wet and nasty; learn to rim your man's ass; always swallow cum (no spitting out) or take loads in your ass unless otherwise instructed; be verbal, if your top wishes, take his cues what that sounds like; expect to be verbally degraded, slapped, spanked, tits worked hard; clean out before a session unless raunch is desired; assume you will drink at least beer piss; be able to take a hard fuck; listen whether your top likes his nips, ass or other body parts played with; call your dom sir or boss, as he demands; be prepared to light your top's cigars or cigarettes if instructed; more generally, listen to instructions given by your top  as scene begins, and follow them.  These are a few examples of what I expect as a bare minimum from a beginner sub.  The key point is that you must focus on giving pleasure to your man, not what you want him to do to you.  Generally I prefer older muscled subs who are much more experienced and into receiving pain and edge play, and getting very dark, with no safe words.  Although I have a weakness for hot college age bottoms looking for their first...raw cock, smoke, snort, slam, poz load, blood slam, whipping....

[norefusal]

know what u want and try to commit to it. all guys like rough sex and anyone can be a cumdump. the question is do you want more and are you really willing to be mindfucked as well as merely fucked. 

often the dom will groom you. test you and see how far u are willing to go. play w you for hours on end like a cat w a mouse, edge u. how willing are you to be broken in? to be completely dominated, no questioned asked? 

[hntnhole]

On 2/22/2024 at 5:48 PM, Chuckybb said:

I am a subservient passive bottom who is looking for advice and tips on how to serve dominant tops

I would suggest that you refine your "search" parameters a bit.  

1.  Are you interested in the Leather/Bd/Sm life at all?  It seems you might be interested in becoming your Top's cumdump (at his discretion, of course), but there isn't much information about you to digest.  

2.  It's great that you've realized your calling to service.  There are many gradations of that life, however - and for accurate (or even semi-accurate) responses, we'd need to know a bit more about where you see yourself on that scale.  

If you're able, other than the rather broad scope of "service", can you define the parameters somewhat?  That would be helpful to those who want to offer sound advice.  In any case, congrats on knowing yourself, knowing where your life is leading, and taking proactive steps to fulfill your needs.  

[lucaboy]

I'm going to serve my first man next week, he even bought me a chastity cage. Some good advice here, I'll listen to him and do what he tells me to do subserviently  

[piglooking4pigs]

You might also want to consider asking other sub service bottoms for advice.  Many of us have already been trained and serviced doms and can provide some insights about how best to service a top. 

As someone who served an alpha top for close to two years, I can say that one of the main attributes of being a good sub bottom is letting go of your sense of self, your sense of agency, and free will. While a good dom will set boundaries, there should only be a few and anything inside those boundaries is fair game. You have to understand that you don't have preferences.  You cannot express preferences about things you will or won't do or how you like to do things.  You have to understand that when servicing a dom, it's not a negotiation; it's obedience.  You have to understand that you're not an agent of yourself, but an object of service to be used as and when the top wants.

You also have to let go of any sense of "masculinity".  Most subs are fully shaved and many are caged.  Your penis has no role. I was caged because my alpha top did not even want to see my penis.  To him, it is a clit, my hole is a pussy.  My instructions were to always be shaved, caged, and plugged.  Whenever I came to his place, I was to strip down immediately without waiting to be told.  This is done on purpose; there is only one man when you are around your dom and that is Him.

You have to get comfortable with doing things that are in your best interest, but you might not be aware of how those things are slowly and quietly changing and shaping your mindset -- your view of Him and of yourself.  You have to get comfortable with being told to sleep on the floor while he plays with another sub in the bed.  You're rendered meaningless.  Some other sub is getting the dick that you thought was yours, feeling jealous while listening to all those moans, wondering whether this new sub is going to push you out of your connection with your dom. 

As you're lying on the floor, wondering whether the dom has found a new toy and your time with him is over, you hear one word "cleanup" and you immediately understand that you're being told to clean them both up after their fuck.  You climb onto the bed and see your dom's now soft dick wet with ass juice and cum and start to clean it up.  Then your dom tells the other fag, "stick your ass up, it's going to clean you".  You turn to the fag and rim and felch him clean.

You have to get comfortable being told that the only way that you can piss is outside, on all 4's, with one leg raised.  You're wondering what happens when it rains outside, and he has already anticipated that and tells you you can go inside on a pee pad, but still on all 4's with one leg raised -- like a lowly animal.

You train to be a urinal so that whenever your dom needs to piss, he does not have to be inconvenienced with needing to get up and go to the bathroom.  He can use your mouth right there.

You have to get comfortable taking the trash to the curb fully naked, for anyone around to see.

Thought you'd like to know....

[partying.hard]

58 minutes ago, piglooking4pigs said:

You might also want to consider asking other sub service bottoms for advice.  Many of us have already been trained and serviced doms and can provide some insights about how best to service a top. 

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Thought you'd like to know....

That was a very erotic description

[hntnhole]

4 hours ago, lucaboy said:

I'm going to serve my first man next week

I'm taking a different tack than some of the above responses.  I lived the LeatherLife for decades back in Chicago, member of CHC, the local Leather org's, etc.  

Since you're inexperienced, lucaboy, you might want to communicate that to your Top, if you already haven't.  You don't mention how - well, "heavy" - the prospective scene will be, but it is something you should 1) know about in advance, and 2) address in the required negotiation.  

Some men believe that a submissive should be nothing but that.  An experienced sub of many years could offer that kind of service, since he's already well experienced.  I get the impression that you're not that experienced, so here are a few thoughts that are generally accepted within the confines of the Bd/Sm/Leather life: 

There should always be a prior negotiation of the limits for the proposed Bondage scene.  Sadly, there are irresponsible jerks out there, and it's entirely acceptable that you take the steps to properly protect yourself.  I will add that ANY responsible Top will not only understand, but be impressed by your proactively bringing the issue before the prospective scene, and during the "negotiation".  This process will allow each guy to become somewhat familiar with the other, and allow each man to ascertain whether or not the other guy a responsible man or not.  The negotiation should contain mention of hard limits, those limits that are negotiable, and areas of interest to you both.  The negotiation should take place some time well before the scene.  Just because some man presents himself as an experienced B/d Top doesn't make it so.  

Presenting yourself as nothing but a mindless piece of meat is asking to be treated as such, and will hardly prove productive,  That's simply asking for trouble.  I hope with all my heart your first encounter will be productive, and you're not disappointed or worse, damaged in some way.  If there are any other issues you'd like addressed, you may message me. I'm only interested in your well-being.  It's a tremendously rewarding life, when it's lived within respected, negotiated borders*.  

Good luck !!!

*(which borders can always be re-negotiated, and the T/b relationship matures comfortably).