How long did it take from the moment you started liking men to when you felt brave to have sex?

[Searchingforit]

Interesting conversation!

I was nieve about sexual relationships when I was 12. Yeah i had started masterbating a year earlier under the sheets at Boarding School but as to attractions - had never really crossed my mind although I did reach accross and give the guy in the next bed a hand job occasionally.

My interest arose when I was assaulted by a prefect in his study one night. Gave him a hand job until.he said what about the other way. Didn't have a clue but was soon sucking cock! When he had gone another senior came into the study and we got it on. No anal but he played with me while I played and blew him. It was awesome - loved the connection. We got it in several times after that.

Being the 70s homosexuality as it was called then was not acceptable in fact it was illegal. So I was pushed down the heterosexual path. Played with a few other guys my age at school but upon leaving felt the need to conform.

In the back if my mind those early encounters remained and over the years I have had jnfrequent hook-ups but due to my early life have been bound by convention.

As to today, I acknowledge I am bisexual but in all honesty I am more likely gay. Now in my mid 60s I wish I had had the sexual freedom young people now enjoy because I think my life would have taken a completely different path.

I fèel I have missed my true self.

[Bokkierob]

On 8/14/2024 at 5:34 PM, Sharp-edge said:

Well I'm so jealous of that (in a positive way). I got fucked by a stranger when I was 18. I met him at an app, got into his car later that night, he fucked me in a beach. I asked him to use a condom, the condom broke (or he broke it) none of us cared. He said in time I will be able to control my asshole and open it at will.

That’s hot that he seeded your ass on your first time being fucked. I bet he enjoyed loading your virgin asshole. 

[tallslenderguy]

26.

For me, it was not a question of "bravery" but had  exhausted my ability to suppress my need/desire. my first sexual attraction to a boy was at age 7. He showed me an enema nozzle and was excited, explaining to me where it went. i already had a crush on Him, but at 7 neither of us had a clue. As soon as i got home though, i fantasized about Him and put our enema nozzle in my ass.  i grew up religious though, and conditioned against being gay, so i resisted sex with guys, got married to a woman at 21, tried to be straight, all the while knowing i am attracted to guys. 

ironically, my first time was when i was spending the weekend on a missionary hospital ship in port, helping do repairs. They roomed me with one of the missionary crew members, and late that night when we were in the dark and pretending to be asleep. He was masturbating. It was so dark, i couldn't see, but i could hear the sex sounds, so i made some sexy sounds back. It seems we made those sounds for hours, never saying a word. i finally got up and wen the 4 or 5 feet to His bunk, and He wordlessly offered me His cock.  i sucked it with a lifetime of repressed desire and need, and He came quickly. my first taste of semen,  swallowed every drop with no thought of spitting it out. He rolled over without a word and went to sleep. The next morning when i got up, He was gone... and i was in love lol.

After that, there was no stopping me. i still was religious for many years and still tried to be straight, de-gay myself... didn't work, but finally processed through it all and came to a place of peaceful self acceptance. But it was never fear of guys or having sex with them, it was fear from my religious conditioning that i was somehow violating 'god's' rules. 

[hntnhole]

I was one of those sloooow learners.  

I knew I didn't like girls very much (all the giggly, silly behavior, etc) and I hung around mostly with guys.  It was in high school that I first figured out what the word "fag" meant, and I surely didn't want to be associated with that.  I can be patient though, and I knew I was going away to school in a few months, so it wasn't all that tough.  

When I got to undergrad though, it didn't take long at all.  Pledged a frat (professional music), and said "yeah I will" to the first guy that approached me.  For a while, I had "window dressing" on the side, (mostly because her grandfather had given her his '62 Coupe de Ville with a 390 in it), and shortly I brought one of the 2 cars I already had (that my folks never knew about) to school.  She was a nice girl, but - she just wasn't a guy - so that was it.  A few years later, the "grapevine" reported she'd gotten married, divorced, and on the hunt for #2. 

I'm glad I never actually did anything ... 

[nate88]

I knew I liked boys since I was very young. I started fooling around with a friend when we were 9 - it was nice but I remember wanting to be with an older boy or man, I somehow knew what we were doing was just "playing" and there was more to it. I didn't get that chance until I was 15 though.

[leakyhole]

I liked men since around 11 and wanted to have sex with some every since. I had to wait till 16 though...I would try it way sooner.

[versamarried]

This is a difficult one for me to answer, maybe because I am bisexual. I never really entered into the world of sex with men from the point of being attracted to men directly. I still do not necessarily engage with tops because I am attracted to them in looks or personality but I also do not just view men as objects to pleasure me. Prior to my first experience I would use toys on myself when I could to reach the level of high I needed when I masturbated and would only sometimes imagine it being a real cock. After being sex starved for close to a year and finding porn and websites like this that I finally decided I would try sex with a man and found it was erotically fun. It was probably not until several years of hookups that I did finally find myself admitting that I do like men and women and that is okay. In brief then for me it was more the reverse. I loved the sex with men  before I found myself being attracted to them beyond that.

Edited September 18 by versamarried

[bareback-flipflop]

My journey was very weird. 
I was in Italy with my best friend after the matura (high school final exams), 18 years old. Somehow we mad a vow not to jerk off during the journey. I breached it of course but not because of the several sexy girls around us. We were in a camping with our small tent. If it wouldn’t have been enough to see the hundreds of hot guys on the beach, we had to use a common place for taking a shower. Everybody was taking a shower in front of each other.  We helped each other with the sun lotion. Furthermore, he was afraid of ticks, so I was asked to check his body parts he couldn’t see. For example his ass cheeks. It’s needless to say I was continuously horny and jerked off a lot. 
The problem was that I considered myself as a straight. Until then, I jerked off by females. At least I guessed. I remember that we were on a bus to San Marino and my brain was continuously ticking on this. Why I was jerking off thinking the men from the beach, from the shower place and especially my friend’s bubble butts. And then it knocked my brain’s door: hey you stupid, you are gay. What was surprising, I didn’t protest about it. Even I didn’t hesitate. It was simple and clear.  My eyes opened. 
And many things won their real sense.  I didn’t jerk off to the speedo catalog because I was jealous of the model’s body (I was not an athletic, under 16 rather fat guy). When I was in the church with my family around 8 and there was an older 10-12 years old guy who I liked and when I told it to my family they replied that I surely meant he was sympathetic. But I felt that I liked him as a boy. Especially his face. 
 

In the evening, we were sitting in front of the tent and he asked me why I was so silent. I told him, I breached our vow and jerked off many time. He said: who cares. I replied that I was thinking the males and him around us. He was surprised and asked why was that. And then the very first time in my life said it loudly: because I am gay. And I started to be scared because of his possible reaction. 
He was surprised but say that’s interesting and he was happy and proud of me and having a real gay friend. It happened 30 years ago and I can’t be thankful enough for having such a friend and him for being so supportive. Be aware, it happened between two Hungarian teenagers in 1994. They were very different times. 
(Therefore, I was one of the few people who supported him when he left his wife and his three children to be with a new woman. It’s a difficult story and doesn’t belong to this site.)

So, in the nineties, being gay wasn’t easy and I was surrounded by nice girls at the university. This environment pressed me to behave like a straight. I had girlfriends, my virginity was given to a three years older woman (she was 22). I tried to have girlfriends and have sex with them but something was wrong. Then I identified myself as bisexual and thought I would have girlfriends and sex also with boys. 
I took my then girlfriend to the dormitory after a not too pleasant day. We couldn’t have sex, and I was horny. 
And then I decided to head to the most popular gay bar. I met a bit older guy there in the dance floor. We connected it in his apartment. I remember the moment when I got a cock into my mouth. I clearly felt that this was what I always waited for and felt like being at home. 
I was so eager to the gay experience that we didn’t stop there. When he asked what I wanted for the first time, I sad everything. And I fucked him, and he fucked me. 
 

Since then I started to play on both sides but always felt that the gay sit is the real one. I met my first boyfriend in December 1999. Before it I read an article about the love of Boyzone Band member Stephen Gately and Caught in the Act member Eloy de Jong. Then I understood  I need more. Not only sex but everything with males. And since then I have never been having sex with females and thinking on them in sexual terms. 

My last only-gay 25 years is also a big journey of a shy,  low self-confidence boy engaged with safe sex to a real extroverted bareback poz lover pig who proudly identify myself as now.

In this, this site has a crucial role, what for I can’t be grateful.

 

[bareback-flipflop]

* I read this again and I realised that I had to correct the last sentence (but hopefully everyone could understand it):

In this, this site has a crucial role, what for I can’t be grateful enough .