Public Signs of Interest

[BlackDude]

Since I have no “gaydar” other than the obvious, what are some signs a man may be interested in you.

One subtle sign I think I missed was the second head nod. Sometimes when you make eye contact with another gentleman in person you both were nod had acknowledge. Well this hot guy did it to me. Then looked back, and did it again. I didn’t think anything of it until I was out in the car leaving and I’m like that I missed a good opportunity?

What do you think? What are some other signs subtle or not?

[HVLpoz88]

Interestingly, had a weird situation at a conference today - a colleague, who I’ve only ever communicated with via email/Teams, was standing on their own in the break out area so I sidled over with my coffee to make small talk.

I asked how his new role was going, and he went all coy and sheepish on me, even looking at his feet.

I thought it odd, and we carried on our idle chit chat before heading back for the second part of the day.

As the day wore on I kept noticing him looking at me, then hastily looking away when I made eye contact.

At lunch, another colleague (who is also gay) stated very boldly, “I think you’re in with [Name], he seems besotted with you”.

Clearly my gaydar is broken as I’d interpreted his behaviour as me making him uncomfortable rather than aroused 😆

[NBBTTM]

This is a great topic, one I would greatly appreciate more from others on, as I seem to have absolutely no sense of when a guy might be interested in me...

[partying.hard]

3 hours ago, HVLpoz88 said:

Interestingly, had a weird situation at a conference today - a colleague, who I’ve only ever communicated with via email/Teams, was standing on their own in the break out area so I sidled over with my coffee to make small talk.

I asked how his new role was going, and he went all coy and sheepish on me, even looking at his feet.

I thought it odd, and we carried on our idle chit chat before heading back for the second part of the day.

As the day wore on I kept noticing him looking at me, then hastily looking away when I made eye contact.

At lunch, another colleague (who is also gay) stated very boldly, “I think you’re in with [Name], he seems besotted with you”.

Clearly my gaydar is broken as I’d interpreted his behaviour as me making him uncomfortable rather than aroused 😆

Get him into bed … and don’t mention your surprise!

[Erik62]

3 hours ago, NBBTTM said:

This is a great topic, one I would greatly appreciate more from others on, as I seem to have absolutely no sense of when a guy might be interested in me...

Getting to the point. Use the "I'm watching you" finger sign & a quick finger, "follow me". Happened to me at my cousin's wedding reception. He was very cute but, one of the Groomsmen 🫢 so I just had a few more drinks & went home with brides parents, at 0230 😢😢, LoL😂. 

[YourNoLimitsBottom]

I have no gaydar when dealing with someone with no physical contact, a guy would have to pin me to a wall and kiss me before that lightbulb went off. But I have had some guys communicate interest during handshakes. A prolonged grip and extra squeeze while making eye contact, and I have learned to lightly  drag a finger across his palm when pulling my hand away. But again, with no gaydar a guy basically needs to ask "wanna fuck?" before I catch on.

[Erik62]

1 hour ago, YourNoLimitsBottom said:

I have no gaydar when dealing with someone with no physical contact, a guy would have to pin me to a wall and kiss me before that lightbulb went off. But I have had some guys communicate interest during handshakes. A prolonged grip and extra squeeze while making eye contact, and I have learned to lightly  drag a finger across his palm when pulling my hand away. But again, with no gaydar a guy basically needs to ask "wanna fuck?" before I catch on.

I simply don't know what to say 🙄🤔. I can't laugh as it may offend but, somehow I get the feeling that you are not being starved of man sex. I'm not often caught speechless but, you've really left me fumbling for words 🤭🤭🤣🤣🤣. Just keep at it. 

[cockfun69]

12 hours ago, HVLpoz88 said:

Interestingly, had a weird situation at a conference today - a colleague, who I’ve only ever communicated with via email/Teams, was standing on their own in the break out area so I sidled over with my coffee to make small talk.

I asked how his new role was going, and he went all coy and sheepish on me, even looking at his feet.

I thought it odd, and we carried on our idle chit chat before heading back for the second part of the day.

As the day wore on I kept noticing him looking at me, then hastily looking away when I made eye contact.

At lunch, another colleague (who is also gay) stated very boldly, “I think you’re in with [Name], he seems besotted with you”.

Clearly my gaydar is broken as I’d interpreted his behaviour as me making him uncomfortable rather than aroused 😆

Usually a bad idea to let work slide into the sheets though

[HVLpoz88]

10 hours ago, cockfun69 said:

Usually a bad idea to let work slide into the sheets though

I make it a habit to never poke anyone on the payroll! 

[Shotsfired]

On 11/27/2024 at 10:33 AM, BlackDude said:

Since I have no “gaydar” other than the obvious, what are some signs a man may be interested in you.

One subtle sign I think I missed was the second head nod. Sometimes when you make eye contact with another gentleman in person you both were nod had acknowledge. Well this hot guy did it to me. Then looked back, and did it again. I didn’t think anything of it until I was out in the car leaving and I’m like that I missed a good opportunity?

What do you think? What are some other signs subtle or not?

Its happened to me more times than I can count

[hntnhole]

On 11/27/2024 at 8:57 PM, YourNoLimitsBottom said:

But again, with no gaydar a guy basically needs to ask "wanna fuck?" before I catch on.

I'm in the same damn boat - even after all these years of doing-the-dirty in all kinds of places.  If a guy has skin-tight pants with all his stuff clearly outlined, it's probably a good bet, but  I've probably missed out on a ton of hot sex because of my lack of one shred of "gaydar". 

The only thing that saves me, is going to the in-your-face fuckjoints where every guy is obviously there for the same purpose.  

[NWUSHorny]

Usually a combination of eye contact and subtle rubbing and staring at certain body areas, followed by a nod or some kind of indication to follow. I'm kind of out of practice, since I rarely get any signals or get my interest in mine returned where I live now, but still seem to make it work when I travel. I was lured to an out of the way airport washroom where I traded blowjobs with an airport worker yesterday.

[shinelover]

I'm horrible at this! I'm extremely good at reading other people's micro expressions and moods, but the one thing I can't ever seem to pick up on is when someone is interested in me. It's been like that my whole life.

[Tanbbottom]

11 hours ago, shinelover said:

I'm horrible at this! I'm extremely good at reading other people's micro expressions and moods, but the one thing I can't ever seem to pick up on is when someone is interested in me. It's been like that my whole life.

I'm with you. Extremely good at reading people until it comes to cruising  ... the opportunities I've missed  ... only realizing in hindsight  ... and I'm sure even more that haven't even registered!

[shinelover]

3 hours ago, Tanbbottom said:

I'm with you. Extremely good at reading people until it comes to cruising  ... the opportunities I've missed  ... only realizing in hindsight  ... and I'm sure even more that haven't even registered!

Exactly! I've had friends point out to me that someone has been cruising me and I just acted 'normal' and they must have assumed I wasn't interested. It's very frustrating.