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  1. Awesome story. Hot
  2. The people are awful. They deserve to go to Mormon Heaven
  3. 1 in 7 men are victims of domestic violence. 1 in 18 men become stalking victims. Stalking victims (1 in 6) are at greater risk of being murdered by their stalker. ErosWired is right. And I will add (I need this reminder as well) the person holding the personal ad owes us nothing.. Sure its inconvenient, sure we'd like to see the images before we invest our time in someone we just weren't gonna be interested in anyway. Sure we want to beat off later to the image if chats connect. If the world were made to order for our personal convenience, it would be exactly our way all the. The world would be our personal Burger King. Once again it comes down to consent and entitlement. No one owes us anythng. When people grant us their photos it is a privilege. No one has to consent to our requests for pics. Its okay for them to re-lock their pics. Its even okay them to block, remove or delete whole profile. We aren't entitled to images. We aren't entitled to share or take or sell images without permission. In Oregon its a misdeameaner to use someone's image or website info for any malicious goal. A separate charge You don't have to choose the person though either.
  4. So when we discuss things, what are we doing? We are sharing our viewpoints. Our views are based on our opinions. We use the quote functions on the boards to provide context for other readers to let them know who we are responding to in the discussion group. I believe the community standards, rules of engagement, and permissions are all owned by Powertop and he has hired moderators to implement those rules. I with respect, remind you that we don't have any say in what tool another user uses with the tools provided. Plus, your original post what just a few inches above the quoted text. Is that rational? Did you regret your first post? I feel the response was lacking in civility, out of proportion, and makes me question why you are taking a discussion that had been civil to this level. I hope you can use this experience when you calm down to re-examine why you felt such strong emotion or talk to a professional councilor who can help you look at those emotions and figure out where they are coming from. We are only here for a short time brother. Its not worth it. Rage does harm to the body when sustained.
  5. I think fetishizing black men by using the term BBC or Black Cock not only leads to harmful stereotyping in stories that often portray black men as violent or wanting to cause pain with their mythologized penises, but its objectifying. Not to mention its yet another way white men are commodifying black bodies. All you have to do is think outside yourselves to see that. Hopefully most of you weren't aware. Because if you were ... Have any of you noticed the trend on personals and hook up sites where many black men are more and more refusing to put there sexual roles and penis size/pics on profiles. They aren't doing that because things are okay. Its not just this story. Its the porn studios, video chats, and the level of racism, ageism and tokenism in the gay community in general. The results are pretty harmful. Its completey demoralizing for black bottoms who are often treated badly on dating and hook up sites. Puts a lot unearned rejection on black men with average to small genetalia. The black men who do have large penises often get relagated to being treated like objects or stable horses. The people, amazing individuals with their own unique personalities, experiences, gifts to offer are lost to the quest for giant dick. Its like straight society had the gold rush and gays have a dick rush. And I would like to thank the gentleman who shared the Asian American gay experience. It makes my skin crawl when a profile says "no Asians" I think the rejection even causes internalized shame in many Asian men. I introduced a Chinese American friend to my friend from Hong Kong. My Chinese American friend thought I was trying to hook them up. I wasn't. I just thought I was introducing my friends to each other. My Chinese American friend said "I don't do sticky rice." I was pretty shocked. Consent is the big issue. Another big issue is who is the beneficiary. I like a site called Black Men's Reign which is ran by and owned by a black man. If a BBC scenes are done by black owned studios, thats their choice, but I don't like white studios and white directors to deem it okay for themselves to exploit a population. I am not upset at the author. There are plenty of stories worse than that one on the site. This one hit a a nerve by being less subtle. I'm more upset at some of the tone death and automatically defiant and defensive comments by other white men on this thread. Its the standard reaction whites in America have to the victims of their both past and current commodification of minorty populations. Maybe its because the issues are so huge from Native Amercan genocide, slavery, segregation, Japanese Internment, Chinese exploitation by railroads, the villification of migrant farmworkers, and the absolute havoc the CIA has caused in South America and the Middle East, that its just easier for some white men to be triggered to rage (defense) instead of doing the hard work of making things equitable and healing old wounds. Rage in this case is an excuse not to acknowledge or address behaviors that have caused hurt. The LGBTQIA Community should maybe take a long hard look at their habit of putting so many labels on people that put them in boxes. And maybe we should acknowledge that black men are the experts in their own experience and we should put their well being above our jack off material. And as a slut who's had more men from different races and ethicities than the United Nations, I can tell you there are big penises and small penises in every group.
  6. I attended my first public sex parties at my friend Kevin's house in Pullman. There was always something piggy happening at his home. He had a buddy (Mark) that had just gotten out of prison. The guy was in his late 40s, very redneck, with a body that was naturally muscular from working outside all his life. His dilemma was being a married "straight" guy, but alsi missing his position as bitch in prison. Kevin organised a small group gangbang for Mark, and even though I am a submissive bottom I agreed to come top. I also drew first crack at his pig hole. It usually takes me forever to cum inside someone. His ass was my Goldilocks Zone. Not too tight. Not too loose. After sinking slowly inside of his chute until I bottomed out, I cut loose and railed him. He was laying on his stomach while I fucked him. He moaned, said it hurt, and beat his fist into the carpet. And after I pull out of his ass, my cum pools at the entrance of his home. It was so hot hearing and seeing my cum, used as lube, and sloshing in his hole. Grinding my DNA into his.
  7. If you are regularly missing your meds, you aren't going to get re-infected. You will allow your virus to adapt enough to become treatment resistant. Then they will switch your meds to a different medicine. Luckily they keep making strides in new medicines. If a patient routinely misses doses, they should let their care team know, so they use medicines like Tivicay that are more sturdy and aren't as easily overcome by resistance. Our concept of community health is more than a little inspired by the Book of Leviticus. Doctors, especially straight Doctors, are supposed to encourage you to not have piggy sex, There is a reason why the Catholic Church invests so much in Healthcare and hospitals. They can push their ideology thru their doctors. I had a doctor recently tell me to use condoms during oral sex. My main primary physicians have been gay men for the past two decades. Neither of them have told me to stop having piggy sex or to not sleep with an HIV+ man. The truth is statistically that most negative gay men who are sexually active will fuck HIV+ guys who haven't received their diagnosis yet. That means high viral loads. Truth be told. Sex is a crap shoot. All my positive friends in Chicago are proof positive that your worries are valid yet not necessary. The best thing you can do for your health is see a LGBTQ+ physician. We have health concerns and lives that are much different and need physicians who have experience or see past heteronormative Western Medicine.
  8. Very gracious response. Respect
  9. One of the hottest stories Ive read
  10. He sounds like my dream Master. Hot story.
  11. Sadly Man's Country is long gone. Stesmworks is a nice clean bathhouse. I'm sure they have theme night. Go to Leather6410 and if Eric is there he can give you the lowdown.
  12. One of the things effecting our bathhouses is the destruction of gay neighborhoods and communities by gentrification and a lack of passing down tradition from old gaurd to the new. The younger crowd are foregoing the tradition of the cruise for takeout Grindr, and gay assimililators are abandoning the safety of queer spaces on a fools journey to appease a heteronormaltive society that doesn't deserve the consideration. Another issue is that the pioneers of those businesses are dying and leaving their Gay Adult Themed Businesses to their straight children who have no idea the importance these adult halls of rebellion and liberation of our community. They sell them to corporate interests. They close them down piecemeal. Or worse yet like the Boystown Leather Store turned into an ABS for straight people. Straight people are increasingly infringing on traditionally gay spaces. Nothing against them, but can't they just be comfortable in the other 90% of everything they control? I don't want to fuck your wife. I will play a board game with her but nope. Adult Friend Finder and Doublist. If we want to save our landmarks, we need to form coops/coalitions that swoop in when an owner dies and buys it from the inheriters. That's how we save our play spaces. That and we need to set some healthy boundaries with straight world. Our cruising trails are probably gone. The art of the cruise is dying. And with the Ninth Circuit Court's recent ruling our parks and public spaces in Oregon are unsafe for cruising due to not only an increase in violent crime, but a rise in homeless populstion that camp in our parks that we cannot legally do anything about. Last year a cross dresser, nice person from Texas, was murdered in the park by my house. The police think the killer is a man who's been living in his car and flies into homophobic rages occasiobally. And some cruisers have been robbed on the paths. And its really unsafe for the homeless as well. My solution was to covert one of the buildings on my property into a play space with rim chair, full sling, half sling, rubber sheeted mattress, fuck bench, play pit, and fuck machine. Its great for medium sized get togethers. But I'm concerned about venues running out for things like Cum Union, Fist Fest, Bears Bath and Beyond, and Mare and Stallion Events. Chicago is one of the kinkiest cities, but the loss of venues is devestating. First we lost The Eagle through mismanagement, then Mandhandler (amazing backroom), then the iconic Bijou Theatre shuttered, and right before I moved they closed my beloved sleazy Man's Country. I first got there after the water maze had closed, the steamroom smelled of mildew, and you just accepted you were gonna be laying in someone else's come at some point. But the darkroom, the stage area, and the murals should have been preserved instead of becoming a hum drum Giordanos. And when Club Portland became yet another McMenamins Pub and Hotel the only solace I had was knowing how many men squirted in the hot tub, which still remains, and suburban familes soak in it. Rooster Rock State Park, Oregon is still awesome.
  13. Absolutely. I like "good hunting to you."
  14. Right now I have another project going on in my Play Space, so my exam table is on the riverside of my property. Two nights ago my friend fisted me in pretty clear view of any passers by. Thank goodness is was a dark night.
  15. I think this is absolutely correct advice. I mean, it should be obvious on some sites that hooking up is the prime objective, but its good to clearly state that in the profile, and then refer back to it as needed. I really liked how @BootmanLA used polite yet clear and concise language to let the responder know that its time to act or close out the the dialogue. I always like to add "Have a good night" to put an extra bit of polite finality to it.
  16. I love getting throat fucked. I love it when the top gets a bit rough and tries to make me gag or costs off my air supply in av dominate fashion.
  17. I read a lot of profiles on many different personals sites. As someone who has a marketing background, I have had some recurring thoughts about the pitfalls I see people make all the time. Hell. I've made some of these errors myself. In job interviews, the most important person you need to be pleasant to is the assistant or secretary to the interviewer. And in theatre you are always auditioning, meaning as long as you are in the theatre be nice and don't talk shit. Something similar occurs on personals sites. I don't know how many times I've been someone's type, but the way they abruptly, rudely, or insensitively dismiss whole groups of people turned me off. When I get that ping or message, I politely decline. This is for three reasons, two of which are red flags. 1. Cruelty isn't sexy. 2. (RF 1) Are they going to be dismissive like that to my friends/family? 3. (RF 2) This person lacks empathy and will probably turn on me at some point. Its a good practice to talk about what you are seeking and let people read between the lines about what you aren't seeking. For example.No fats. No fems. No old dudes. Instead say: I'm really atttacted to guys around my age give or take 5 years who are active with a swimmers physiqu, extra points if he's a tough guy with a great sense of humor. In the example above I am clearly stating what I desire in a way that doesn't spotlight certain groups. Everyone should feel welcome to seek love, a fuck, a friend, or to fuck a friend. I have been pleasantly surprised in my life to have found someone attractive in every male category. The problem with absolutes is that they will fuck you every time. "Between the ages of 20-30 only." And the next profile is the hottest 45- year- old you have ever seen. Don't be a Debbie Downer. Most sites have problems. Men looking for sex can be flaky. And yes, there are a ton of dick pic seekers and bots. However, you will never gain points by complaining about a site or its members. At best, it looks like sour grapea, and other users may take offense, think your a pessimist, or want sympathy. And you don't want the guys who pray on the sympathy profiles. You have 15 seconds to grab someone's attention. Use an attention grabbing headline. Be clear about what you are looking for, and tell the viewer about your positive qualities, and don't be afraid to say your attractive, sexy, experienced, or that you can out maneuver a Dyson vacuum. Don't put yourself down, say that you'll never find anyone, or highlight your age, weight or other attributes as undesirable. In job interviews, it's amazing how many people will do the interviewers job for them. Let the person viewing your profile decide for themselves whether you are "too something." Because, truth be told, everyone is has a range of people they are attracted to and those they are not attracted to. And that's okay. People are not always gonna find us attractive. Its okay. We don't find everyone attractive either. But to some people we are their idea of hot sexy cuddly fuckableness. When we look at personal ads, we need to know 1. are they attractive to me, 2. are we sexually compatible. 3. are they a crazy person who is going to disrupt my life. It should go without saying, but avoid terrifying profile images like clowns, serial killers, etc. Your profile picture should be clear and it should be you looking presentable. Clean clothes, not drunk, or asleep. Also if you write a novel at best people will think you're eccentric and quirky. Mostly it gives off the impression that you might be high maintenence, self centered, writing a manifesto, paranoid or trying too hard. Its not a resume. It's a snap shot about who you are as a potential date, fuck, or fwb. Last but not least, even though you should be recognizable from profile to profile, know your demographic and audience. Like on social. Pretty pictures go on Instagram, puppy pics go on Facebook, irate rants go on Twitter. Grindr is a meat market with a lot of closet cases, marrieds, etc. Its best to keep it meat and potatoes. Leave the punch fishing for asspig, relationship stuff to Scruff, bareback to BBRT, and heavy kink to Recon or NKP. Just some thoughts. Take as you will.
  18. I picked up an old medical exam table with stirrups and I love being fisted on my back on that.
  19. Interesting topic. While fisting and leather gear do seem to go together. It also lends itself to play parties and group sex. I was a member of MAFIA for a number of years in Chicago. Our home bar was Touche which was a leather bar for bears. Our parties were located under Leather64 Ten, a popular leather and fetish shop. The play space had a piss trough, several slings and safe fetish play was encouraged. The guys I play with usually have a secondary fetish like watersports, gear, bdsm, sounding, cbt, etc.
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