What did you learn at Bathhouses?

[Tiboer]

I was a late bloomer, with my first gay sexual experience being sucked off at an adult bookstore booth when I was 17.  Then, I kept going back, of course.  It was at the bookstore that I read about the existence of bathhouses.  
 

I headed for the nearest bathhouse and I’ve been hooked ever since.  They are safe places tomorrow have sex with a variety of men, which is why it’s sad to see them dying.  Younger generations who rely on apps have no idea how much more fun bathhouses can be.

 

I stayed in the closet a while, so bathhouses were my only sexual outlet.  I learned so much watching and experiencing.  
 

It the first place I fucked someone, got my ass eaten out, tried poppers, fisted guys, dildoed guys, had group sessions, learned to enjoy bottoming, glory hole sucking, had my ass played with (expertly  by my college English professor—but he didn’t recognize me).  I’d also gotten the chance to watch so many guys having sex—fun and educational!
 

My motto has always been that I would try anything sexually twice to see if I liked it, and bathhouses help me try many.

 

What did you first try or see at a bathhouse?

 

 

[Westlonlad]

They were my gateway to Poppers and sucking cock. I remember spending a night in Chariots Waterloo (London) when I missed the last train home after a gig and didn't want to wait in the cold for the first train of the morning (at least a good 4 hours) . I was so drunk and bought two bottles of poppers, laid down in the room that had the small screens and was more or less molested all night (which I totally loved, btw). 

Had guys feeling me up (inside and out). I hadn't been fucked at that point and surprised nobody tried...it's not like I could've put up much of a fight.

Great times.

[hntnhole]

One of the things I learned was, we're a group of men with widely-varying interests.  Not every guy is a total bottom, not every guy is a total Top, there's a wide array of inclinations available to us, and assumptions are simply inappropriate.  Thus, my reliance on a "negotiation", however brief, to make sure each guy gets everything he wants and nothing he doesn't.

Every guy usually enjoys at least one of the "basics" - fucking or sucking - and a brief "I like X, but I love Y" exchange can always make sex hot, as well as avoid regrettable mistakes.  Or, just start in with one act, and if he responds well, keep at it.  At the tubs, there are always plenty of other guys if one turns out to be not quite what you're there for.  

[Tiboer]

I learned that I was attracted to a variety of types.  It’s served me well throughout my sexual life.  I can find something, even one thing, very attractive in almost everyone.

[GuelphGuy72]

I learnt how to relax and enjoy sex with men.  They have given me a safe place to explore my sexuality and try new experiences.

1 hour ago, Tiboer said:

I stayed in the closet a while, so bathhouses were my only sexual outlet.  I learned so much watching and experiencing.  

This was the same for me.

It really is unfortunate the number of bathhouses that have disappeared over the last decade.  Toronto only has three now plus a new club called Anvil.

@Westlonladit is unfortunate that all the Chariots locations have closed.  Between 2009 and 2012 I travelled to the UK a few times a year for work.  I was still in my bathhouse newbie phase and not really comfortable doing much but did spend an afternoon on one of my trips at Vauxhall exploring the place.
 

 

[NWUSHorny]

I learned that I waited too long, I knew I had very few inhibitions about sticking my dick in another guys ass or letting another guy stick their dick in my ass., but had never been able to find so many willing partners in such a short time. I fucked and was fucked literally in less than 10 minutes of setting foot in a bathhouse for the 1st time.

[1Exhibitionist]

I learned to embrace the fact I enjoy sucking cocks and swallowing cum.  The bathhouse was my first time sucking cock without flavored condoms, first time swallowing cum, first time sucking multiple cocks and swallowing cum from different men during a visit.  Also, my first dark room experience.  I still have several first time experiences I’m looking forward to fulfilling at the bathhouse.

[Pozguyinchi]

I have spent so much time in Bath houses over the years. I really enjoy them. I like how there is something for everyone there. I have learned a lot. Men need an outlet like this to breed freely. After converting it was the easiest place to meet men that were also Poz. 

[PozBearWI]

I would have loved to have spent more time in bath houses.  I've been in a few; but have lived far away from most, and the nearby ones I enjoyed have closed.  I feel as though I still have to disclose, even though the options to avoid infection are pretty readily available.  

[FelchingPisser]

18 hours ago, Tiboer said:

I learned that I was attracted to a variety of types.  It’s served me well throughout my sexual life.  I can find something, even one thing, very attractive in almost everyone.

I learned this at the bathhouse, too.  We are so lucky that we don't have just one 'type' of man to whom we are attracted.  

[Nclchub]

I learned that I really enjoy when other people see me getting fucked or sucking cock. Was in a corridor with a guy and he had me get on my knees right there. That unlocked something for me.

I also learned that I'm attracted to pretty much every body type.

[Loveitraw]

They seem to be getting fewer and further between in the UK, but when the one local to me was open I not only found out how much I enjoy being watched I also figured out pretty quickly that preconceptions need to be left at the door. Some of the best Tops I had were the most unassuming guys.

Going in there expecting a porno scene every time is just a fast track to disappointment. I learned to relax, enjoy the slow moments along with the more frenetic nights when they happened.

And lastly that variety is indeed the spice.

[Leathersub]

First thing I learned and still true, boots stay on

second was to enjoy all body types, every Man needs some service

Third was to hose out

[Justaholeff]

Read my profile...I learned that my ultimate turn on is men being sexual and being primal...

[ffabbian]

I was 16 the first time I went to a bathhouse. It was above a gay bookstore  where I bought my first poppers, porn videos on vhs, magazines, fetish wear and sex toys.  

I learnt that it was a safe space to do as much or as little as I wanted. No games, if interested great, if not noone seemed  offended.

Compared to clubs and bars there is little if any judgement and I  never feel sexually pigeon holed. Apart from obvious at what happens in bathhouses I've also formed friendships and regular  fuck buddies. I've even had 2 long term boyfriends that I met at a bathhouse.