What’s the weirdest thing you’ve been rejected/denied a hookup for

[tallslenderguy]

20 minutes ago, norefusal said:

i seem to fall for the same scam over and over. 

a guy next door type posts that he's sick of the shallow and superficial gay community. he's looking for a true emotional and intellectual connection and about to give up hope. 

i ask if he'd like to meet and see if we hit if off. 

he replies basically: not you! i'm looking for a deep emotional and intellectual connection with a tall GL muscle jock DJ w a huge dick. 

🤣

Ah, damn. Well, i think that is sweetly romantic. Online scammers make me crazy. ❤️

[yoursinmine]

On 2/4/2026 at 12:32 PM, NWUSHorny said:

That's pretty common.

On the flip side, there are a lot of guys that don't seem to understand why they are being rejected by guys like me who are primarily looking to fuck or get fucked, just because they don't fuck or get fucked. I'm sure I've heard about thousands of ways to have the "best sex ever" without having to put a dick in a hole or in a lot of cases even touch each other's "icky dick," at PNW bathhouses, theaters, ABS, and other cruising spots.

I understand that now. I had a hell of a time finding someone who wanted to fuck me. Maybe it was the Virgin thing or something else personal. I don't know, but Im glad it's behind me. Sometimes I do miss sucking a man's soul out from his cock. Last year, my bf did set up a blow jobs only night. I thought that was sweet of him. 

[yoursinmine]

23 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

I'm starting to see a lot of profiles on the apps that state something along the lines of "not into just sucking, if you don't fuck we aren't a match" or "no sides", mostly when I travel. I will be putting it on my profiles next time I travel. I'm not sure you could get away with it here in the PNW, where indicating you want to fuck is pretty much forbidden, plus it doesn't help at the bathhouse or other cruising spots.

I don't envy @yoursinmine trying to lose his virginity in an area that is full of "sides", I lost mine almost 20 years before I discovered their were regions where cruising to fuck was uncommon and not really welcome. I manage to find, try to hookup and piss off a committed side at least a couple of times a month if I don't get some fucking when I'm traveling. A guy gets desperate.

 

23 hours ago, Spider54 said:

@NWUSHorny I don’t envy @yoursinmine either I couldn’t do it,

here there are a ton of sides but I’ve found a couple of reliable verse and tops that enjoy to full service. 

I'm more philosophical about it now. When I was desperate, I couldn't see beyond myself. Now I'm part of a very similar problem, I only bottom. That's my hang-up. Some are frustrated by that. It's amazing how being sexually satisfied clears one's mind 😂 

[Spider54]

54 minutes ago, yoursinmine said:

 

I'm more philosophical about it now. When I was desperate, I couldn't see beyond myself. Now I'm part of a very similar problem, I only bottom. That's my hang-up. Some are frustrated by that. It's amazing how being sexually satisfied clears one's mind 😂 

True haha

[Sfmike64]

7 hours ago, BruxoCub said:

I have too many, on this comment I'll highlight some racial rejections I've had.

I'm a bit racially ambiguous at times (as a mixed mutt), so depending on how I dress or style myself (i've had shorter hair, longer hair, been more tan or less), people often make assumptions on what I might be. Guys who think think I'm fully-Latino and have a Latino fetish have been turned off when I don't speak Spanish or have an accent.

When I was younger a lot of white dudes often hit on me thinking I was Asian and rejected me when we met in person or analyzed face pics online lol. They just saw a body and style I guess?

I've had guys hit on me in a club thinking I was middle eastern and fall off when I wasn't...

I've been able to play into race stuff, or just exist outside of it at times and it's fascinating most people can't shift in and out of passibility racially.

It used to be upsetting when I was younger but I realized it's not me - it's them.

Personally, I think you're from YouSexyMotherFuckeristan.

Edited Friday at 03:04 AM by Sfmike64

[Travlincat]

22 hours ago, hntnhole said:

This was years ago, but ..... at the tubs over in boystown, I was about to lay pipe when the bottom just got up and said - and this is a direct quote - "sorry, you just look too much like my brother", and walked away.  I was simply rendered speechless .... 

And no, I don't have any biological brothers.  

That should've been a turn-on! His loss I'm sure!

[badubydo]

I cannot prove it but I have been blocked on sniffies/grindr once I show my face bc I have a mustache/small beard. More often sniffies bc I shave my ass/hole/crotch so tops thinks I’m smooth all over when I’m not and I never stated I was. Oh well. 

[hntnhole]

19 hours ago, norefusal said:

i'm looking for a deep emotional and intellectual connection with a tall GL muscle jock DJ w a huge dick. 

Perfect example of just how shallow some guys can be.  I wonder that those types ever get any action at all .... 

[Masscumdump]

Funniest was I “wasn’t hot enough” for him to use the Gloryhole I had setup at the house. Ummm… I think you are missing the point using a Gloryhole lmfao.

honorable mention was another guy that needed to record a video from the door to the Gloryhole as proof to Make sure that I wasn’t going to murder him!? I had to ask “how’s the video going to stop me?”

[norefusal]

28 minutes ago, Masscumdump said:

Funniest was I “wasn’t hot enough” for him to use the Gloryhole I had setup at the house. Ummm… I think you are missing the point using a Gloryhole lmfao

yes! 🤣

the amount of guys who say they want to drop by for my door open ass up face down for anon hosting but need to see a face pic first. 

um... you just don't get it do you sweetie 😜

[Sfmike64]

8 hours ago, norefusal said:

um... you just don't get it do you sweetie 😜

"Unclear on the concept."

[TaKinGDeePanal]

My email address

[HotBBottom]

I was in full leather -- boots, jockstrap, harness, chaps, armband, and wrist and ankle restraints, with blindfold at the ready, and in his sling sucking his cock.

He kicked me out because I wouldn't bite his cock hard enough. I was only willing to nibble -- most guys hate any tooth action, and I didn't want to draw blood or hurt him, but it wasn't enough.

As others have said, it's all relative anyway. I found that I was pretty average in terms of my kink level when I lived in San Francisco. In Amsterdam or Berlin I'm downrright vanilla, and in Los Angeles I'm like the King of the Kink Freaks. (I personally know plenty of people in LA who are kinkier than I am, but in terms of the general mainstream energy there, I'm an outlier.)

[bareback-flipflop]

On 1/28/2026 at 3:39 PM, Spider54 said:

So this is for more or less stupid or unimportant reasons why you’ve been denied or rejected for a hookup. I’ve been denied because my teeth weren’t perfectly straight, I have a slight gap up top and a slight overlap on the bottom row. In consequential but it was weird and not a normal denial 

Sorry for laughing. It’s not addressed to you but that kind of stupid picky gay princesses and queens. I have a hot friend who was sent home once because his stomach wasn’t hundred percent flat and hard. He doesn’t have a belly at all anyway 🤣

[bareback-flipflop]

On 1/28/2026 at 6:10 PM, Olderkinkybiguy said:

I have been denied because of my weight and size. I had guys tell me I wasn’t big enough to be considered a bear; I didn’t have a big belly. I had other guys tell me I wasn’t lean enough for their liking.; I had a 42” waist. So when I was about 250lbs and 6’3” tall, I felt I didn’t fit most of the guy’s requirements. Now that I am under 200 lbs, I am sure some other reason will crop up. Such is life. 

I have a very handsome chubby little bro. Although he’s young (26), cute and looks like a Latino (which is exotic in the middle of Europe) he is denied many times, quite often because he’s not big (I mean fat) enough. I feel sorry for him because he lives 60 kms from Budapest and he must visit my city for having sex.