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Two thoughts i can remember years ago hearing the line that “there is a difference between being alone and being lonely” Also …. If you are worried that you keep your friends on the phone for too long… maybe set a timer for 1 hour and then you can pretend to see the tine and gracefully end the call ….2 points
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"So my biggest worry" seems the "quote" doo-dad is taking the afternoon off ..... One easy way to clear that air is to simply ask them if they have time to talk now. If they don't maybe they'll call you back when they do. I wouldn't worry about it - everyone gets busy sometimes. Are you doing any of the Bach Inventions yet?2 points
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Good on you Philip for not just going with the name brand. Nothing wrong with Yamaha; but a good reputation shouldn't be our only choice. Some decades ago now I bought my first Hyundai. Hyundai's entry into the US with the relatively crappy Excel didn't give them the best start. But they were obviously working to change that with one hell of a warranty. My first one covered anything for the first 100,000 miles. And almost nothing went wrong. Everything felt like it was in the right place. and even though inexpensive, had a lot of features only the high priced entries had. I've never regretted that. It wasn't a Toyota, but I didn't give up anything either... Save that a few coworkers gave me grief that I bought a sh!tmobile. In the end.... Balance. Hmm, it is just one of those things we'll always do, kinda like breathing. Some days that is a bit more challenging, somedays it feels like there is no log to fall off of. Every day is a practice. 🙂 I submit that you're already having the time of your life...2 points
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Phil, sounds like great personal progress. Your dad's advice resonates with me; perhaps because I am more in line with your dad's age than yours. We humans are great at fretting things we have little control over. And sometimes we go overboard on the less urgent interests and fail to take care of the basics. Here in the US I know we elected a clown as POTUS. But I can't spend every day protesting. I won't the the other self care stuff done; which includes things I do which cares for my community and neighbors. All of us lives somewhere. The geography around us is our community. To the degree we participate in making our employer successful should lead to our own success. And when it doesn't then clearly we have the wrong employer for us. But the idea applies to the rest. Neighborhoods form mostly because different talents come together and create a more comfortable place for all. At least those are to me the elements of wherever we live. We keep our house up because we like a kept up house. And we have the time to make that so. Not everyone else does. When we have spare time, do we use some of that to help someone else? When we think "life is hard", sometimes it is helpful to reflect on those "if not for this or that, life would be worse".2 points
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I often have attended NA and SA meetings to corrupt individuals and hook up.2 points
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Nice. Yes I am a fan of phone calls in our text mad world.1 point
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Your teacher and you.... Clearly you're learning. As we learn our brains reveals questions. When we ask, we're exploring it; taking it in. So the teachers role is to answer your questions on what you're teaching yourself, and to provide observational feedback from a more informed POV. We've all seen some people who seem to expect knowledge to just be dumped in somehow. You seem to be engaging in the moment. It made a huge difference for me when I did that. Not that we don't look ahead, just that we try to avoid getting stuck there. Crap, is it time to quote Professor Higgins? "By jove, I think he's got it!!!". 🙂1 point
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Thank you for your beautiful reply @PozBearWI Always love hearing from you and your insights. Thank you for being part of this journey with me 🙂1 point
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Driving choice... Do we take the toll road which saves us time? Or the scenic way? Isn't that kind of the basic ongoing life choice we make, pretty much all the time? On one hand, easily answered by "what do I need right now?". But also answered by "what will do me the most good?". I'll toss in something becoming more common here in the US. How much does home delivery cost? While I can drive; pretty much unless I'm buying fresh foods, having it delivered makes some sense. Again though, it comes down to balancing time and money. But I've noticed there are a lot of pantry items I get that I have delivered, because often when I go to a local store they are out of stock. It makes more sense for me then to go to whomever has it vs the close place.... Dating... Most don't lead to "the lifelong relationship". But some can lead to enduring friendships. In fact, friendships in general for me seem to fall into proximity camps. Over time I find myself less in touch with those whose proximity is further. So as my adult life evolved, job changes, relocations, change of primary partnership... So also did my circle of friends. Sibling relationships have also changed as they moved off to the coasts while I remained in the midwest.1 point
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"It’s just using sounds like “Na” and “La” ........ (apparently the "quote" doo-dad is taking the day off ......) Try replacing a voiced consonant with a percussive one, like Ta or Ka. It's easier to get your throat muscles to "remember" something exact, rather than something inexact. There's a reason some singers form the particularly bad habit of "scooping" to the correct pitch. That might be ok for B-grade Hollywood movies, but - - - Once the throat muscles get accustomed to "knowing" that position, see if the switcheroo to voiced consonants gets easier.1 point
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Sounds like you've achieved a period of peace. Taking in the pleasure and experience of living today, without a side trip of worry or deep concern. That truly wouldn't describe every day for most of us; but something we can strive for. More importantly perhaps, that we recognize the many reasons for being grateful.1 point
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It seems the essential question, will, for example Survivors of the holocaust, or Veterans of one of our many wars be remembered? And to that end, will they be remembered authentically or through a distorted lens?1 point
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Sounds like a great evolution Phil. One less from your older friend (being a senior myself), practise not performing around others and like with her, just be your authentic self. Lovely how your thinking progressed from "I like this person, let me buy him flowers" to "who would benefit from flowers that last?". And when the tasks which bring us pleasure bring others pleasure too (and often that's the case) that is a big step towards social progress. We are, after all, connected.1 point
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Absolutely. You summed it up very, very well!1 point
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What an amazing story! Definitely liked how the reconnection brought things full circle and he gave you an introduction to something you'd enjoy. Thanks for sharing!1 point
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Not everyone. But at least every other meeting I’d score.1 point
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This entry in the blog is as hoT as it was the first time I read it all those years ago…1 point
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Thank you for your insight about truthful living with the HIV virus. And please don't forget that cats supposedly have 9 lives too!1 point
